Are you awake?"

When Xuanyuan Mingyue just woke up, he was still in a trance, and this should be the cab that rarely comes.

She was just about to stand up, but suddenly felt that something was wrong with her body, and when she looked down, she was actually locked in the seat, and it was a very tight dead button.

Seeing Wang Jian's back, he was first overjoyed, and then immediately said angrily: "Hey, don't untie it for me yet." ”

Wang Jian was busy, but he only turned around occasionally and said, "How can you untie it, you be careful, you are about to set off later, don't touch it!"

Xuanyuan Mingyue continued to be angry and said: "What are you doing, didn't you see that my whole body is so slimy, I want to ......"

She is the eldest lady's temper, and at this time, she really regards Wang Jian as her "own person", so naturally she will not hide her disguise, but she is very harmonious.

But Wang Jian ignored it.

Then, a man walked in from the outside.

"Brother, it's all ready. ”

"You!Three fat people, why are you!" Xuanyuan Mingyue was anxious at first, and then felt that something was wrong.

It is true that the three fat men are just ignorant, but since Wang Jian is out of trouble, why don't he control him?

"Okay, three fat man, you see you're tired, go back and rest, well, when you wake up again, we'll be in the new world. ”

The three fat men left happily.

Wang Jian turned his head and looked at Xuanyuan Mingyue.

At first, Xuanyuan Mingyue was puzzled and confused, and then began to get angry.

Anger is useless, but grievances shed tears.

"I gave you everything, but you ......"

"The most unreliable part of this plan is that as long as you are not nervous, you should know that if you want to make a wax figure, if it is a clear and quiet standing wax figure, then it is impossible to use a living person, a living person, even the most determined person, in the face of the so-called solution, I am afraid that it will go with the flow and curl up on the ground, which will eventually lead to the failure of wax figure production, you see, this is impossible. ”

Indeed, human beings can suffer, and it is not subject to human will.

"Why are you like this. ”

"I have to go back as soon as possible, home over there, hope over there, what's going to happen over there, I don't know. ”

"I'm going to take you back!"

Xuanyuan Mingyue let out a hoarse cry.

"I'm sorry, I have to buy time. ”

"I'm going to give you a baby. ”

"I'm sorry. ”

Wang Jian turned his head and began his own operation.

"Actually, I used one of the instruments here to probe the other side and found that there was no one there, but there were a large number of magic circles, and full of energy, who would do this, your country?"

"Humph!"

"So I can only guess for myself, maintaining such a magic circle consumes a lot, but if it is maintained, the big family will still burn up, so I tend to be a big family, maintaining such a magic circle that leads to the outside world at any time, and smuggling back and forth at any time, which is also a good way to make a fortune." ”

"Brute!

"I'm not a pig, okay, let me analyze why there is no one guarding here, because of the human heart, because as long as someone is stationed for a long time, there must be movement, shifts, supplies, you can be careful once or twice, a thousand times where to hide it! So I guess that in the surrounding critical places, prepare to arm, but the specific teleportation point is not known, in order to ensure safety. ”

"Woo woo ......"

Wang Jian's eyes gradually dimmed, but he didn't look at the girl who had suffered enough, and said, "Okay, I love you, but I also have my own responsibilities." ”

Love is an act of remedial for defects, and love is made when the Tao is ruined, which is similar to when we can't think about things clearly, so we love. Love is not necessarily positively related to the importance of the other person, similar to when you are in a place with abundant sunlight and water, you will not deliberately express your love for sunlight and water, we will not be moved by a sip of water, nor will we cheer for the sun rising, but only thirst and can't, or a few days of continuous rain and affect the mood, our mood will have subtle changes, there is a kind of hope to care, cherish and experience the sensitivity of happiness, in a state of scarcity, we will "love" the sun and water more. In the same way, we can easily find that people who often talk about love and love, or put love and love in the first element, are often some groups with less resources. In reality, love abounds as a means and tool of compensation after lack of resources.

So at this time, in the name of love, human beings are actually looking forward to a kind of return on investment, that is, hoping to redistribute resources through the slogan of love and this means. At this time, love is more similar to a beautification of the redistribution of resources to guide others, this bag, I sell 100 fast, I tell this bag a story how many years ago when Her Majesty the Queen was suffering and hid Her Royal Highness the prince to avoid vendetta, my bag, that is sold for tens of thousands of reservations.

Of course, resource redistribution is not necessarily about money, vanity, reproductive rights, and the satisfaction of the desire for control, but rather a human need for resources. At this time, if the various needs are not met and the redistribution is not achieved, it is easy for love to hate each other. Some people will even say that I hate you because I loved you, but in fact, it is more likely that after the redistribution method fails, people will be more or less angry about what they have given and what they have not received.

Speaking here, answer the question, so whether this kind of relationship is love or not, I think first of all, we have to admit that most Hongchen men and women are unlikely to be as free and easy as Zhuangzi, redistributing resources in the name of feelings, everyone more or less wants to have a little, if the resources are extremely rich, what is yours is yours, mine is mine, each of us will no longer be vulnerable, no longer need the time of others, comfort and material incentives, then I believe that the relationship between men and women will indeed not be bothered by so many people - But at the moment we are not, and we can't be sure whether that self-sufficient, strong creature is certainly more interesting to life than the weak, chaotic humans of today. Therefore, it is not a particularly shameful thing to love because of selfishness.

Second, it is important to understand the nature of the redistribution of resources in love, and it is not a matter of reason to allocate the resources of others. We can admit that we are weak, but we cannot let ourselves be a weakling, or even threaten others with the fact that we are weak. Therefore, when loving, people should still pursue a kind of rationality, which is to be considerate of each other's natural beings, and try to position the relationship as the sharing of good things and happy times, rather than expecting to rely on love to defeat their weakness, or defeat their loneliness, weakness and loneliness are human characteristics, no matter how many resources, it is difficult to defeat them, and they can only live in peace with them.

Love is only a part of the time when we live peacefully with them, we manage ourselves, pay appropriately, occasionally vulnerable, have the courage to admit mistakes and correct, and be prepared for the possibility of friction between people forever, this is enough, we should not give love higher wrong requirements, let alone lover higher wrong requirements. I still have this point of view, true love is a kind of indescribable emotion similar to art, and excellent works of art, there is a moment of inspiration, there is also a long-term skill exercise, and can withstand the test of time, these elements are indispensable, and love is more complicated than creating a work of art is that love must be a kind of cooperation, whether one person and another person can have the honor to reach this state, this, is really a coffin final question.

Love is an ability that needs to be learned, and the vast majority of people don't realize that love is an ability that needs to be learned. Therefore, he believes that true love (referring to "love" in a broad sense, including friendship, family affection, narrow love, etc.) is very rare in the Western world today, and in fact, the same is true in China today.

The most fundamental reason is that the vast majority of people do not learn the ability to love others. Without the ability to learn to love others, the love between people is immature, so many tragedies will occur between people because of love, and hate because of love is one of them. The signs of immaturity are as follows:

A person who has not reached the heights of self-feeling, which is based on the creative use of his own strength, tends to "deify" his loved one. He alienated himself from his power and reflected it on those he loved, whom he worshipped as the source of all love, light, and blessings. In the process, man loses the consciousness of his own power, loses himself in the beloved, instead of finding himself"

Immature, childish love is: I love you because I need you. And mature love is: I need you because I love you". In the final analysis, immature love makes people lose themselves in love, and people either parasitize on others or become hosts to others, while mature love allows people to find themselves in it and maintain their independence.

And because of love and hatred, it is because you have done something for the other party, expecting to get some corresponding things from the other party, and the other party has not fulfilled your own wishes, which reflects people's self-interest in love. Fromm said, "The egoistic one does not love himself too much, but he does not love himself too much." The lack of love and care for oneself indicates a lack of vitality in the person's heart and can make him feel empty and disappointed. When necessary, this unfortunate and timid person will make up for his lost happiness by various other satisfactions. He seems to care deeply about himself, but in fact he is only trying to cover up and supplement his lack of love by caring for himself. And the mature love of those who have the ability to love is a kind of giving that is almost unrequited.

"Creative people (people who have the ability to love) have a completely different understanding of "giving". They believe that "giving" is the highest expression of strength, and it is precisely through "giving" that I experience my strength, my abundance, my "vitality". Experiencing the sublimation of life force fills me with joy. I felt alive and happy. "Giving" brings more pleasure than "getting", not because "giving" is a sacrifice, but because "giving" shows my life force. Fromm said, "A person who truly possesses the capacity to love, a part of his life to give to others." But this does not necessarily mean that he must give his life for others, but that he should give something that has vitality in his heart to others. He should share with others his joys, his interests, his understanding, his knowledge, his humor, his sorrows—in short, everything that has life in him. Through his giving, he enriches others, and at the same time, while he improves his own sense of life, he also improves the sense of life of others. He doesn't give for the sake of getting, but through his giving, it is inevitable that something vital will be evoked in the other person. Thus his giving also includes making the recipient a giver as well, and both parties will be filled with happiness because they have awakened a certain vitality in their hearts.

"To give this kind of mature love, as mentioned above, there are also four elements: care, responsibility, respect, and awareness (which will not be discussed here)"

This kind of mature love comes from mature people. "This mature person can eventually reach the height where he is both his own mother and his own father. He developed the conscience of a mother and the conscience of a father. The mother's conscience said to him: "None of your sins, any sins, will make you lose my love and my blessings for your life and your blessings" but the father's conscience said: "If you do wrong, you will have to bear the consequences, and above all you must change yourself so that you can receive my love." "The mature man detaches himself from the outward image of his father and mother, but builds them up inwardly. He built his mother's conscience on his own capacity to love, and his father's conscience on his own intellect and judgment. And to have the ability to truly love, "one has to have a dominant creative tendency." The person who holds this attitude overcomes his dependence. Narcissism and the demands of exploiting others, and can find trust in the power of one's own humanity and the courage to achieve one's goals. If these characteristics are lacking, people are afraid to give themselves, that is, they are afraid to love. In addition, he recognizes that "all of us are equal." The differences in talent, intelligence and knowledge between people are negligible compared to the common nucleus. To understand the core of this common human being, it is necessary to understand the person deeply, not just at the surface. If I only see the surface of a person, then all I see is the difference that separates me from him.

The reason why we don't have this ability to love is, on the one hand, that we think that love is just a heart-warming feeling that arises by chance, and we don't realize that love is an art that can and must be learned. On the premise that love is only an accidental feeling, on the one hand, most people think that love (love in the broad sense) is first and foremost a question of whether they are loved by others, not whether they are capable of love. On the other hand, people think that the problem of love is a question of objects, not of ability.