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What is the purpose of speaking?

There is a kind of person, you ask her what she had for lunch, and she replied that you are annoyed, I went to the cafeteria elevator today, a bunch of people slipped and fell over there, and let people cut in line, and as a result, when the aunt who cooked gave me braised pork, her hands kept shaking, and a spoonful was three slices in my bowl, and then there was no seat, mainly because I had a quarrel with my aunt, and the kung fu had already been occupied by someone at that time...... There are many such people, who do not consider grasping the other party's point and talking nonsense with their own peculiar thinking, I can only guess in good faith that such people are very warm and friendly and eager to talk.

Speaking must first be relevant to the topic, the more relevant it is to what the other party said in front of you, the better, this is the most basic eloquence, and it is also applicable when chatting, but it is just a matter of degree. For example, if you don't believe me about your beautiful experience of traveling to Thailand and soaking in the beach, and then I say that I used to play in a casino in the United States, maybe you will think that my experience is more interesting, but it must not be as comfortable as me asking "And then? What else did you play?" Taking a step back, I said that sunbathing on the beach in the United States is also a bit better than the previous one.

There are stories, there are dry goods. If you have a goal but no content, it means that you know that it is very important to capture Jingzhou but you don't have a soldier in hand, so what's the use of having a goal? You can only read more books, study more, and communicate more with people. Then others talk to you about tourism, you have something to talk about, others talk to you about military affairs, you have something to talk about, others talk to you about history, you still have something to talk about. As for wanting the other party to accept your point of view, it is even more necessary to convince people with reason, outwit people, and have only a lot more knowledge reserves.

As I said at the beginning, eloquence is the ability to guide a conversation to an end. A well-spoken person will always take the initiative in the conversation, leading the whole conversation, and they will not speak in large circles, but will let every sentence closely revolve around his goal. Just like martial arts, or like the "Eastern Evil" five voids and one reality, unpredictable, or like Qiao Feng is extremely fierce, killing in seconds with one palm. In other words, every word he says has his meaning, whether it is foreshadowing or turning, or euphemistic retreat, or hitting the point, without a word of nonsense. If you want the other party to worship you, you can talk about what he doesn't understand under the topics he is interested in; if you want the other party to be happy, let him talk about his proud experience; if you want to scare the other party, you can find the pain points and weaknesses of the other party......

I've seen many people who know their purpose very well before they speak, but they don't know where they are going, and they are even led by the other party. This situation is more common in employees to leaders, licking dogs to goddesses, students to teachers, and scholars to robbers......

Logic refers to the laws and rules of thinking, and clear logic in conversation undoubtedly means that we can use language to express our thinking in a regular and regular manner.

Many people will have the problem of rapid heartbeat and excessive speed of speech when expressing themselves in public, which will weaken the speaker's aura from the perspective of the audience and appear not calm and steady enough. So how do you adjust it?

It is nothing more than to increase the opportunities for stage experience, allowing the body and mind to gradually adapt to the environment of public expression.

One treatment in medicine and psychology is desensitization. It is to gradually expose the patient to the allergen to achieve desensitization. Peanut allergy is exposed to a little bit every day according to the dose, and the dose is gradually increased to allow the body to slowly adapt. It's the same with speeches, speaking faster than usual, and many times because the experience of suddenly exposing yourself to everyone is too little. Take the initiative to find speaking opportunities, such as speech clubs, school clubs, company conventions, family gatherings, etc...

Improve the perception of one's own verbal expression.

Do you know how many words you can say per minute? Do you know whether your normal speed of speech is fast or slow for others? Do you know how many words you say per minute, and you are comfortable with yourself and your audience?

If you want to train your speed of speech and look calm on stage, you need to improve your knowledge of your own language expression.

You weren't born to struggle, you weren't born to be fearful, you weren't born to live that life with few moments of joy.

You should be laughing and full of joy, you should feel good about yourself, because you are priceless, you were born destined to win, you were born to be happy...... My dear friend, you were born to have a wonderful life!

People who don't know how to speak without structure, in fact, don't know what they're going to say until they get up, don't know what they're talking about when they talk about it, and don't know what they've just said when they sit down. The lack of structure can make it difficult for you to grasp your main body before you speak, and even when you look back after you have spoken, it will be difficult to find your main line.

A thing can only be itself. This means that the real world we live in is rich and colorful, it is made up of countless individuals, and each individual is unique. A thing can only be itself, not anything else. Like: an apple is an apple, a banana is a banana, it can't be a watermelon, or dragon fruit.

There must be a clear "yes" or "no" in the judgment of anything under certain conditions, and there is no intermediate state. Meaning, a thing, it either exists or does not exist, there is no intermediate state. For example: there is a book on the coffee table, and this sentence is either true or false, and there is no other possibility. Of course, you will say that there are many "changing" things, such as: if you study every day, then you are not changing to become you, but to change to become a more knowledgeable you.

Everything has a repeating reason for its existence. This cause can also be referred to as the principle of cause and effect. What it embodies is that the existence of all things in the universe has a sufficient basis. This implies that nothing in the universe can explain itself, and that nothing is the cause of its own existence (if a thing is the cause of its own existence, it means that it exists before itself, which is obviously absurd).

At the same moment, something cannot be both so and not so in the same aspect. That is, if X is X, then at the same moment, it cannot be non-X. For example, if you were born in Beijing, then you can't be born in Shanghai. These two propositions cannot be held at the same time.

In the same way, if you are born in a secret realm, you cannot be born on earth, but Wang Jian really feels how similar the other party is to himself.

Maybe there is a dialect problem with the language, but the more he talks with the upper echelons of the secret realm like Bai San, the more he feels that this is the case, and the two of them can indeed communicate.

This communicative meaning is that the Chinese people do not need to explain the thoughts of the Chinese people to the White Emperor Secret Realm people, and the Secret Realm people do not need to explain the thoughts of the Secret Realm people to the Chinese people, and the Chinese people can easily understand what the Secret Realm people say, whether it is good, bad, bright, dark, or even the deepest, the most difficult to say to outsiders.

It's so peculiar.

Although separated by two thousand years, it is conceivable that when there is occasional communication between the two sides, the secret realm is something about the outside, and it can even be said that it is transparent.

Of course, Wang Jian was very curious that in the Three Kingdoms era, Liu Bei died in this White Emperor City, did Liu Bei communicate with the people in the White Emperor City at that time?

That's where it gets interesting.

What kind of person is Liu Bei?

In Wang Jian's view, this is a person who is not afraid of failure, a terrible person.

His background is too low, his foundation is not solid, but he can be defeated and fought repeatedly, Liu Bei in his impression should be the head of the wandering army who defected to several princes more than Lu Bu, but if you look at his resume, you will find that there is a terrible thing called tenacity!

Liu Bei's preliminary preparations to become a prince were the most difficult among the heroes, the Yellow Turban Rebellion broke out, and the twenty-four-year-old Liu Bei made meritorious contributions in the battle to suppress the uprising, participated in the battle to suppress Zhang Chun's rebellion, and was awarded the title of county lieutenant of Anxi County for his military merits, the first one.

Later, the imperial court had an order: if people who became officials because of military merits, they must be selected and eliminated, and the county governor wanted to dismiss Liu Bei, Liu Bei knew the news, and went to the post station where the governor stayed to ask to see, and the governor said that he refused to see Liu Bei, Liu Bei held a grudge, tied up the governor and whipped him two hundred times, and Guan Yu and Zhang Fei abandoned the official and fled.

It is for the first fall.

Next, he begged his grandfather to tell his grandmother, and he changed places to be a county lieutenant with his military exploits.

If you compare, Cao Cao, the third generation of officials, and Sun Jian, who is praised by some people, are simply more popular than others.

Doesn't it look like a little person who has no identity background and is not as lucky as Sun Jian, who also dares to fight, struggling?

The general He Jin sent Biqiu Yi to Danyang to recruit troops, and Liu Bei also joined on the way, and when he arrived in Xiapi, he fought with the thieves and made meritorious contributions, and was appointed as the Cheng of Xiami County (or promoted a little), and soon resigned. Later, he served as Gao Tang Lieutenant, Gao Tang Ling and other positions, the third one.

Soon Gaotang County was broken by thieves and broke the third fall, Liu Bei went to Bengong Sun Zhan, and was listed as Sima of other departments (I have struggled for so many years and finally been able to drink coffee with Sun Jian, hey, what about Sun Jianren?In the fourth year of Zhongping (187 years), Changsha people rebelled, proclaimed themselves generals, gathered more than 10,000 people, and besieged the city. The imperial court appointed Sun Jian as the Taishou of Changsha).

In the second year of the first peace (191), Liu Bei and Qingzhou Thorn Shi Tian Kai fought against Jizhou Mu Yuan Shao, Liu Bei was promoted to the county order of Pingyuan County because of the establishment of meritorious service for many times, and then led the Pingyuan State Minister, the fourth.

At this time, he was nominally on the same level as Cao Cao, although one was defeated in Dongjun by Poison, Bai Huan, Zhenggu, Yu Fuluo, etc., Yuan Shao expressed himself as the Taishou of Dongjun.

One was instigated by the assassins to assassinate Liu Bei because Liu Ping, a county citizen, did not obey Liu Bei's governance, but at this time Liu Bei was finally able to say to Cao Cao, the county guard who had been standing still for seven years: "I have been fighting for so many years and can finally drink coffee with Cao Cao." ”

However, although Liu Bei's state minister is equivalent to the county guard, this level is basically the last local position obtained by the princes, and then the central position they generally seal is not easy to compare, no wonder Liu Bei replied in surprise back then: "Beihai Prime Minister Kong Rong actually knows that there is Liu Bei in the world!"

From 184 to 191, Liu Bei finally stepped onto the stage of history, and there were already ups and downs in the middle, and the general biography could end at this time.

In the second year of Xingping (195), Tao Qian was seriously ill and said to Bei Zhu: "If it is not Liu Bei, Xuzhou cannot be stable." After Tao Qian's death, Lu Zhu led the people of Xuzhou to welcome Liu Bei as a taishou, but Liu Bei did not dare to accept it. Under the repeated persuasion of Chen Deng and Kong Rong, Liu Bei led Xuzhou.

In the first year of Jian'an (196), Cao Cao and Liu Bei were the generals of Zhendong and the Marquis of Yicheng. Yuan Shu led a large army to attack Xuzhou, Liu Bei attacked, and the two armies held each other in Xuyi and Huaiyin. At this time, Lü Bu attacked Xiapi and captured Liu Bei's wife. Liu Bei returned to the army, the army was scattered halfway, and the remaining army was collected to take Guangling in the east, which was defeated by Yuan Shu, and turned to Haixi, which was extremely difficult, and he had to engage in the East China Sea Elk Zhu to help the army with family wealth. So he begged Lü Bu for peace, Lü Bu returned Liu Bei's wife to him, and Liu Bei returned to Xiaopei. Barely counted together, it is Liu Bei's fourth fall.

After 11 years of accumulation of ups and downs, I am afraid that only heroes can continue to walk.

Next, Liu Bei again raised an army of more than 10,000 people, and Lü Bu led the army to attack Xiaopei.

Liu Bei was defeated, fell fifth, and went to Xu Capital to defect to Cao Cao.

Cao Cao gave Liu Bei soldiers and horses grain and grass, and asked Liu Bei to be the pastor of Yuzhou. Sixth.

Subsequently, Liu Bei was called "Liu Yuzhou".

Later, Lü Bu sent Gao Shun and Zhang Liao to attack Liu Bei, and although Cao Cao sent Xiahoudun to help, he was defeated.

Peicheng was finally breached, Liu Bei's wife was taken captive again, Liu Bei fled alone, and fell sixth.

Liu Bei met Cao Cao in the border of the Liang State, so he joined forces with Cao Cao to attack Lü Bu, and after Lü Bu surrendered, Liu Bei strongly persuaded Cao Cao to kill Lü Bu.

Later, Liu Bei and Cao Cao returned to Xudu and were named General Zuo.

The cavalry general Dong received the edict of Emperor Xian of the Han Dynasty, but Liu Bei did not dare to join at first. After Cao Cao and Liu Bei "boiled wine and talked about heroes", Cao Cao said to Liu Bei: "Today's heroes (Yuan Shu of the Fourth World and the Third Duke was smeared as soon as he was defeated, and the defeat of the straw shoes has been six ups and six), it is you and me." ”

Liu Bei was frightened, his chopsticks fell, and he knew that Cao Cao could not tolerate himself, so he conspired with Dong Cheng and others. At that time, Cao Cao sent Liu Bei and Zhu Ling to attack Yuan Shu together, Yuan Shu died of illness on the way, and then Liu Bei marched to Xiapi, killed Xuzhou Assassin Shi Chexuan, left Guan Yu to guard Xiapi, exercised the duties of Taishou, and returned to Xiaopei by himself.

Changfeng and the counties of the East China Sea were mostly from Liu Bei, and Liu Bei had tens of thousands of soldiers and horses, so Yuan Shao fought against Cao Cao in the north.

Cao Cao sent Shi Peiguo, Liu Dai, and Zhonglang to attack Fufeng Wang Zhong, but was repelled by Liu Bei, which was the seventh case.

The edict of the cloth belt occurred. Cao Cao personally went east to conquer Liu Bei, Liu Bei was defeated, Guan Yu was captured, and the seventh fell.

Liu Bei fled to Qingzhou, Qingzhou assassinated Yuan Tan, Liu Bei once recommended him as Maocai, led the army to meet Liu Bei, Liu Bei followed Yuan Tan to the plain, sent someone to tell Yuan Shao, Yuan Shao left Yecheng 200 miles to meet Liu Bei, stayed for more than a month, Liu Bei's scattered soldiers also slowly gathered here.

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