"Uncle Professor, what you said is so deep that I really can't turn around for a while. [Ran^Text^Library] []" Xiaobei couldn't help but be amazed, and honestly said, "I've never thought about such a question before. ”

"It doesn't matter if you don't understand, slowly you will think about such a question, after all, integrity can be more important than life, which is difficult for you to understand. Just like Jin Ke, Prince Dan Yi shed tears to say goodbye by the water, 'The wind is sluggish and the water is cold, and the strong man will never return once he is gone', didn't Prince Dan think that Jin Ke would disappear after passing Yishui? knew that even if he killed King Qin, there would be no possibility of survival, but Jin Ke still went without hesitation and used his life to fulfill his promise. and Tian Wu, in order to take revenge, Jin Ke sacrificed his head in a few words, he never thought about what if Jin Ke didn't go? That's the power of commitment, which can weigh more than life. Qi Tianxiang smoked a cigarette and thought about it: "This tortures modern people, what is happiness." Isn't torture happiness all over the street asking about the happiness of the old lady who bakes sweet potatoes? Isn't it asking about the happiness of migrant workers who have no food and clothing? It's a real torture of the heart. The quality of life is the category of material life, happiness is a spiritual thing, two unrelated affairs, put together and compare, and under the premise of the premise, to distinguish a high and low. Nowadays, there is a trend that it seems that all things can be objectified, emotions can be objectified, emotions can be objectified, and even sexual pleasure can be objectified, and all related things at the spiritual level can be quantified by material or money, so happiness can naturally be done, but can the same objectification measure the difference between happiness between the rich and the poor? Flowers are blooming, beautiful flowers are blooming proudly in the sun, whether it is in the wild suburbs, or in the urban flower garden, the fragrance of flowers and the beauty of flowers bring emotional changes to people who look at flowers, bringing happiness feelings, but how to measure the happiness index brought by flowers, and how to measure the happiness index and the area where the flowers are located? Happiness is different for everyone, the feelings are different, and the experience is of course different. Children and adults, rich and poor, big cities and small cities, cities and villages, the happiness of the same thing is different, just as a piece of clothing is different for people of different classes, different ages, and different genders. Happiness is a very self-contained thing, there is no standard, no evaluation system, and no need for unity. But the needs of the group are standard to follow, and they can also produce happy feelings, Lei Feng and Wang Jinxi's happiness feelings are the same, the spiritual experience should be realized by the spirit, an honor, an encouragement, and even a praise, you can feel satisfaction and happiness, because the sense of collective belonging and the feeling of being the master of the house dominate the experience of happiness, and happiness is also breeding and spreading in the process of pride and dedication. When public ownership gradually fades out of the social form, the ideology at the national level tends to be reconciled, especially the privatization is legitimized from the political form, the material gradually becomes the standard for measuring everything, and material desire replaces the spirit to dominate social life and social order, there are more and more legal terms and interpretations, the praise and encouragement of the spiritual level are replaced by the economy, the mainstream values of society are not giving but taking, and the main body of social life is not creating but enjoying, and then evolves into pleasure. Compared with the previous state socialism, today's group non-belonging state, as well as the chaos of social order and moral system, selfishness and self-preservation have the same annotation, material and money have become the standard of measurement, and there is a phenomenon of quality of life and happiness index contradictory, there is the torture of happiness, and there is a farce of finding happiness in time. In fact, happiness is a very self-contained thing, you can ask your heart, happy or not as long as you feel psychologically, since the social form is no longer in the public interest, what you can do is to abandon the pursuit of material desires, so that the heart is free in nature, so that looking at the face of the flower, you will bloom like a flower, and happiness will also nourish the soul and nourish the mood. Qi Tianxiang said, aggravated his tone and said: "Actually, happiness is very simple, in your words, it is, 'cats eat fish, dogs gnaw bones, Ultraman defeats little monsters', simple and real, with my feeling: childhood ignorance, I don't know the difficulties of the elders to make a living, but I am quite firm about my life diary, and the next night in the face of my mother's busy and hard work, it is difficult to speak." On the morning of my birthday, when I opened my misty eyes, I was surprised to see two warm red eggs lying quietly next to the pillow, and I couldn't help but be surprised; In the era of scarcity of materials, it was rumored that the factory distributed hairtail fish, and rushed to the canteen compound, but saw a sea of people. In desperation, he suddenly saw the second child next door beckoning in front of the team, and it was logical to add a stopper, and he couldn't help cheering; In the morning self-study class, I have to collect yesterday's homework, and in the face of the upcoming reprimand, suspension of class, or calling parents, I not only regret but also have nothing to do. was worried about himself, and suddenly heard that the representative of the class asked for leave due to illness, and couldn't help but secretly rejoice; Catch the train, reload the taxi for a long distance, the time is urgent, but the traffic light is unhurried, the time is passing by minute by second, but the station is still out of reach. I was thinking about how to spend the night in this foreign land, and the news of the delay of the train came from the station radio, and I couldn't help but celebrate; Lonely in a foreign land, I have the intention to call my wife to live for a while, but after a few years of marriage, the old husband and wife, and the wife has a job, it is really difficult to speak. When I was hopeless, my wife called, the unit was on vacation, and I wanted to stay for a few days, and I couldn't help but feel nervous; When I met a wine field, I didn't think about drinking recently, and my body was sick, but there was no reason not to drink in the wine field, and it was the wine of my friends' progress. Thinking about how to advance and retreat, the main family announced that he was ill and drank to defecate, and he couldn't help but celebrate. This is simple happiness, and it is also happiness that can be transformed. Looking at Xiaobei's adoring eyes, Qi Tianxiang said with a smile: "In fact, happiness and happiness can be exchanged for each other, you are like a few migrant workers downstairs in my house, a bottle of liquor, a plate of pig's head meat, a plate of boiled peanuts, and a few baked cakes; Coming directly from where I worked, my clothes were covered in mortar and mud. Drinking wine, chatting, sometimes foul-mouthed, sometimes arguing, and sometimes laughing happily, the laughter was rough and presumptuous. The day's work is certainly not easy, but it is clearly not visible on their bodies and faces, but only the concentration of eating meat and drinking, as well as the presumptuousness of foul mouth and happy laughter. They are not without troubles, not without unhappy things, daily work, income, family life, the continuation of days, all of which may make them unhappy and unable to laugh, but in the face of old friends, in the face of wine and meat, all this ceases to exist with laughter. This is the happiness of the people, this is the happiness of the ordinary. The soaring housing prices, the strengthening of gold, and the speculation of agricultural products by floating capital, these are beyond their control, and they have nothing to do with them. Their life is simple and easy, the days of the morning bell and the dusk drum bring them to face calmly, they don't want to moan in the bitterness, and they don't want to be anesthetized in the imagination, getting rich overnight or getting promoted is something they don't want to do, it's too far away and unrealistic, and they don't want to have less extravagant hopes, less desires, as long as they live a peaceful and peaceful life, as long as they often have wine and meat to satisfy their cravings, and have friends to chat, such days are enough. This is the concept of life and happiness of ordinary people living in all corners of the city, who may not belong to this city, but whose life and happiness originate from this city and thus enrich this city. There are many such people in this city, next to the hot pot in winter, in front of the barbecue stall in summer, simple eating, simple consumption, and simple gathering, but the mood can be released, the body and mind can be relaxed, and the happiness is condensed and diffused little by little. Simple, slowing down a little, may not change anything, but it makes happiness nurture the body and mind in peace. The collective unconscious may not be able to sum up any philosophy, and they cannot provide any high-sounding reasons and basis for such gatherings, but to be content with calm, to be content with the ordinary, to be happy for themselves and others at the right time, and at the same time to calm their own physical and mental impetuousness, this is the great wisdom, this is the true meaning of life. Happiness is sometimes simple, and happiness is sometimes as simple as that. ”

"What you said is that sometimes the party of colleagues in the unit is not happy, but between classmates and friends, even if it is a hot and sour noodle or a rice noodle, they can be happy all night, haha laughing like a fool." Xiaobei recalled with feeling, "Actually, happiness is still very simple. ”

"Maybe it's because society puts too much pressure on you, or maybe you think about this society too much." Qi Tianxiang still said slowly: "Just like what you talk about every day, the ideal is very plump, and the reality is very skinny, although I don't like this kind of cynical statement, but I don't deny that it is very true." If I were to say, it should be: reality is very real, ideals are beautiful, and without ideal beauty, reality will no longer be real. To give a simple example, just like "Journey to the West", whether it is TV or novels, they all embody a beautiful idealism, justice defeats evil, and a good result will be ushered in after hardship. It should be like this, and it must be like this, but if you look at it backwards, it will be a different feeling. If you send Tang monks and apprentices from the west to the east of the Tang Dynasty to preach the scriptures, along the way to subdue demons and subdue demons, but found that they all have a background and background, so the sand monk reluctantly returned to the quicksand river, Zhu Bajie disappointed into Gao Laozhuang, only Sun Wukong as always guarded the master, accepting the supervision and restraint of Guanyin Bodhisattva. If he was afraid that Sun Wukong would steal the limelight from Tang Seng, he designed a frame with the Jade Emperor and pressed Wukong to the foot of the Five Elements Mountain. Tang Seng returned to the Eastern Tang Dynasty and became a royal brother, enjoying glory and wealth for the rest of his life. Five hundred years later, Sun Wukong turned out of the Five Elements Mountain, made a big fuss in the Heavenly Palace, and finally became disheartened, threw the golden hoop stick into the East China Sea, became the Dinghai Divine Needle, went to seek advice from the Bodhi Ancestor, and finally came to enlightenment, so he returned to Huaguo Mountain, lived happily with the monkeys, made all kinds of cows, ghosts, snakes and gods happy, and finally turned into a stone on the mountain. In this way, it seems that it is more real, and it shows that the perception of reality slowly makes people mature.

"Wow, you're amazing." Xiaobei exclaimed in surprise, "I'll tell my close friends about this paragraph when I go back, and it will shock them." ”

"It's not a great thing, it just shows the unity of ideal and reality, no matter how you look at it, it's still a complete book, but the order of reading is different, and the feelings you get are different, but no matter how you look at it, you should understand that the ideal is the stars in the sky, and the reality is the road under your feet, no matter how tenacious the will to chase the stars is, you must also walk every step of the way in a down-to-earth manner." Qi Tianxiang said meaningfully.

"Listen to what you say, I will find a partner to marry tomorrow, no matter what happens in the future, first grasp the beauty of reality." As if she had made up her mind, Xiaobei clenched her fists and swung it vigorously a few times.

"What kind of sheep are you looking for, is the sheep in love with the wolf? Or does the wolf fall in love with the sheep? ”

"What wolf, sheep?" Xiaobei asked in confusion, suddenly realized, and hummed softly, 'The wolf is in love with the sheep, the madness of love', and asked puzzledly: "Is there any difference?" ”

"The moonlit and starry night sky reflected the endless wilderness, and in the silence and emptiness of the mountains, a majestic wolf marched silently, its keen and deep eyes patrolling around vigilantly, and its gaze looking back from time to time was full of tenderness and tranquility. As far as the eye can see, there is a snow-white and beautiful lamb, closely following the footsteps of the wolf, with a serene demeanor, a sweet and satisfied look, constituting a simple but warm picture, confused in this vast wilderness......" Qi Tianxiang looked at Xiaobei, pretending to chant deeply: "Or, the spring afternoon sun is soft and warm, like an invisible big hand gently caressing the small tree standing quietly, and the silent flowing river, as well as a wolf and a sheep nestled by the river, The wolf's gaze stayed on the little lamb's face for a long time, with infinite love in the tenderness, and the little lamb closed his eyes happily in the wolf's arms, enjoying the love in the wolf's eyes, and the gentle murmuring was also the joy of happiness, letting time pass quietly...... "Looking at Xiaobei's almost obsessive eyes, Qi Tianxiang continued: "Shouldn't it start like this?" This is not a scene from a novel, nor a reproduction of a mythological story, but the most wonderful, enviable and memorable picture that may appear in speculation. I really don't know how to develop further down, and this love that transcends the classification of species (we humans call it class) should not be fixed in this beautiful and warm moment in any way. The wolf, after a nervous look, finally brought the lamb into its cave hidden under the ridge, and diligently lifted the lamb into a seat paved with thick hay, and busily served a sumptuous dinner of hares and foxes, which had been carefully prepared for a long time, and graciously handed it to the lamb, who had been tired after a long walk. In the attention of the wolf's warm gaze, the lamb took the hand of the hare and gnawed a little shyly......" Qi Tianxiang then repeated, "Or, the warmth of the sun gradually dissipated, the lamb reluctantly broke free from the warm embrace of the wolf, slowly walked to the grass not far away, carefully selected the fresh grass, carefully took it to the wolf's face, and handed it over with tenderness, the wolf took the grass that still faintly exuded the smell of the lamb's body, put it in his mouth and chewed sweetly ......", Qi Tianxiang said: "So what about down?" What will be the result? Isn't it ridiculous? The sheep falls in love with the wolf, maybe it is the wolf's wildness and divine martial arts that fascinate it, or maybe the wolf's rhetoric makes it intoxicated, but can it bear the wolf's lonely way of survival? Can the wolf's meat-eating nature be satisfied? Can it adapt to the bloody competition and fighting between wolves and other similar species? The lamb who is willing to change itself for love can give up its inherent living environment, say goodbye to its parents and even the same kind of people who love it, and willingly wander with the wolf, but how can it adapt to the life of the wolf, and how to prepare a sumptuous dinner for the beloved husband as a good wife and mother, and the end can only be - the lamb of the same kind who sacrifices the living environment and love can only sacrifice himself tragically for love - become a husband with a hearty dinner. The laws of nature are cruel and ruthless, just like our human class, curiosity can be an ignorant impulse, but the practice after impulsiveness has to pay a tragic and even human price, and this is also irregular, no experience to learn from. It is hypocrisy for a wolf to fall in love with a sheep, and ignorance for a sheep to fall in love with a wolf, and the tragedy or farce it causes cannot be truly borne by the sheep or the wolf. When a sheep falls in love with a wolf, it may not be terrible, and the painful lesson can become a bloody teaching material to warn latecomers, at least it can really make all sheep more vigilant, but when all sheep fall in love with wolves, it will become a disaster, for sheep, and for other species. It's terrible for a sheep to fall in love with a wolf, but it's even more terrible that it's not just the sheep or the wolf that is sad when the natural world is prevalent or pervasive, or when it's intentional to induce this kind of universal love across species. When a wolf falls in love with a sheep, it is the beginning of a tragedy, both for the wolf and for the sheep. There is no romance, no warmth, and no lingering love, just blood and violence, death and cannibalization. When a wolf falls in love with a sheep, it is a catastrophe for the sheep. No matter how docile and beautiful the sheep is, or whether it is a strong and strong sheep, the end is nothing but death. And for wolves, it is also a cruel mileage, to face the abandonment of wolves, to endure the torture of loneliness, and of course, to face the test of the flock. A lone wolf leaves the wolf pack, leaves the environment in which it lives and grows, and wanders around the sheep for a long time, in order to get close to the sheep it loves, it has to put on the prepared sheepskin, which leads to the death of one or more innocent sheep, and disguises its cruel nature, especially to cover its fierce and ugly face, pretending to be weak, to please or get close to the lamb it loves in its heart, and can be more obedient to bring beautiful flowers and grass, and can run happily around the beloved lamb. Caper. But its wolf nature is immutable, and no matter how much it sacrifices for love, its meat-eating nature does not change, and the result of its camouflage or patience is that it will be hungrier and more ferocious to the other members of the flock. Because of the presence of wolves, the sheep will be inexplicably uneasy, and their numbers will decrease, which will of course arouse the shepherd's alarm, and the result will naturally be that the wolves will either be hunted or flee far away. And the lamb or lambs it loves have either already wrapped itself in its belly, or are about to wrap it in its belly. Will there be other endings? Will there be a beautiful story of a wolf falling in love with a sheep? Or will there be exceptions? Two butterflies can dance and fly together; Rats can also fall in love with rice without stealing oil; "Cinderella" and "Red Shoes" are just stories in fairy tales, and they are kind and beautiful; The ugly duckling can become a swan because it is a swan in the first place, and a wild duck, no matter how beautiful it is, will never become a swan. It is a blessing of kindness to believe that an ugly duckling can turn into a swan, it is naïve to believe that a wolf will fall in love with a sheep and thus change his nature, but to preach that a wolf is in love with a sheep is ignorance, even intentional misleading and murder. Hybrid rice can become material food, but hybrid love is still not believed. ”

Qi Tianxiang said so much in one breath, he also felt tired, picked up the teacup and took a sip of water, lit a cigarette and smoked, and looked at Xiaobei gently, "Or, let's talk about something realistic, when the boss becomes a husband, when that moment is determined in the form of law, when the process of temptation or pursuit and so on is settled, what will come down?" The black chicken becomes a phoenix, no matter what it was before, and no matter what it was before, it goes without saying that the reality of the husband and wife is expensive, the appreciation of the original stock listing and circulation, and the attachment of the clear price tag, can not wait for the day. The positive meaning is visible and molded, and there seems to be many more invisible, envy, jealousy, or disdain in the eyes, truth and hypocrisy, sincerity and politeness, and the waiting moment has also been abrupt. It's just that there is less romance in the past, there is no sweetness of dreaming, employment has become nothing, care and pampering are only in the continuation of the days, and freedom has faded away. Whether it's a canary or a treasure in your hand, the glitz has returned to reality, and you have entered the cage and your heart into the small port. But the boss is still the boss, and the husband is also the husband, but the boss is no longer his own boss, and his heart is not a shadowless that has changed.

Let's talk about when the husband becomes the boss, the change at this moment may be instantaneous, maybe a long time, but once this happens, what will come down? The home suddenly became bigger, and in addition to the changes in the environment, there was also the emptiness of fewer people. My husband is a lot busy, so busy that he has no time to rest, no time to talk, and even that one is too busy to be interested. Firewood, rice, oil and salt have no worries, household households don't have to calculate from time to time, nagging has no goals, and I feel that there is no topic and feeling to speak. My husband is just my own, it seems to be a lot farther away, but the boss is really around, sometimes he is like a boss all the time, and the warmth of home is faint. Sometimes it feels like flying a kite, the line is still in your hand, but there seems to be no induction from afar, and you can only watch the flight from afar. The boss is still the boss, but the husband doesn't seem to be that husband either. ”

Xiaobei's eyes widened, and she looked at Qi Tianxiang in amazement, in addition to admiration, she was puzzled, "Uncle Professor, how did you come up with all this, why have you never heard of it?" ”

"Isn't there time today? Small talk reminds me of this. Qi Tianxiang smiled and said, "Do you still want to hear it?" ”

"I miss it so much." Xiaobei happily said loudly: "What are you talking about?" ”