Take off your shoes, although it is a little cold, but the temperature here is not cold, and it is not slippery.

Walking step by step, observing, there is something wrong.

Xuanyuan Mingyue was panicked in her heart.

What exactly happened, she didn't have an idea yet.

Did Wang Jian find a way to leave here, but he still lacked time, so he was secretly tinkering with these and hiding her, so he naturally planned to run away by himself, it must be like this.

However, have you ever beaten this villain, although she received very comprehensive training before accepting the mission, most of it was still basic training to pretend to be an earthling.

In other words, among Xuanyuan Mingyue's skill points, the points are the least for combat effectiveness.

This is like a diplomatic envoy, in an enemy country, life and death completely depend on the ideas of others, at this time, any individual combat ability is insignificant.

On the contrary, it is good at dancing with long sleeves, making more friends, and you can go for a long time.

However, for Xuanyuan Mingyue, she also has her own emotions.

A girl, a girl who is a nobleman, accepted the mission and went to a foreign land to carry out a mission, and with the support of intelligence, she could smoothly sneak into Huaguo, blend into the earth, and obtain that very important treasure.

But now, because of this bad guy, he is forced to live in a foreign land, how can I say that?

Moreover, he has been using all kinds of methods lately, but he has already made the girl's heart fail, yes, it is gradually almost falling, and he is even imagining that if this guy asks to enter his room to "rest", it will be like Dad going in and out of those maids' rooms at will.

But this kind of fall, just when she found out that Wang Jian was probably deceiving herself, had been transferred to anger and hatred.

It is irrational for a woman to hate.

Well.

People need to be in awe. A person who is self-willed is to act recklessly, without scruples, and lawlessly to satisfy his own desires and goals. How comfortable to do. Generally is a person's character, habits. It is the thinking and behavior in interpersonal communication, dealing with people. There are more women, more children. Most of them are because of family education, and parents are used to it. Sometimes, with naivety, childishness manifests itself. After entering adulthood, if you are still willful, it will be troublesome. If you get married, it will affect the happiness of your marriage. work, affect the relationship with colleagues. Socialize, lower the feelings of friends. Reverence is required. After a person becomes a social person, he must accept the constraints and constraints of society, and the law is the red line, and morality is the bottom line. Otherwise, you may be punished by law for being willful, and the cost will be heavy. Parents and husbands may not be able to manage it. People need to fear the law, heaven and earth, and parents. So the perception needs to change. There is a need for an equal relationship. People are equal and respectful in their interactions, which is a mature, healthy relationship. Willfulness can only be childlike. It is impossible for others to be centered on you and meet all your needs. Otherwise, you will be alone. Learn to empathize and compare your heart with your heart. Self-restraint is required. Nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory, and people's desires cannot be satisfied endlessly. People need to learn to maximize the satisfaction of desires within the limits of the law and morality. Knowing that it is impossible, not restraining one's desires, and not restraining one's behavior, the final price is very high. In fact, a kind of restraint of desire is also a kind of happiness. Eat less and taste more, that's the truth.

There is a saying that "if you don't do it, you won't die", and similarly, there is such a kind of person, they always stop in the relationship, as long as the relationship develops well, they will come up with all kinds of reasons to die and mess up. If you are too close, you will be rejected, and if you are too far away, you will be thirsty. In fact, no matter the distance, it is because of fear and insecurity. When entering an intimate relationship, the "gap" left in childhood, the subconscious will expose this "gap" by showing the other person's heart, and the "little baby" in us will be resurrected. She wants you to help her fill the "gap", but it can't be filled by bottomless pampering and pampering. What many girls want is to be like a big man, not necessarily strong, but a kind of tolerance, but not what you think of as such a pampering, but a principled "habit".

No matter who you fall in love with or what kind of relationship you fall into, set a bottom line for yourself and let her know this bottom line. Of course, everyone has a different concept, and the bottom line is different, as long as you feel that you can. In short, there must be a bottom line when falling in love, and with a bottom line, there is inner self-protection, at least let her know that you have forbidden areas and intolerances.

The so-called struggle for sovereignty is to compete for the most suitable way of life and the most favorable living conditions for oneself during this period, such as who cooks at home, who does hygiene, where to go on a date, what movies to watch, what to eat, etc. People like to choose the most suitable and comfortable environment for themselves to survive, that is, they can lie down, they don't like to sit, they can sit, they don't like to stand, they can stand, they don't like to walk (don't take anything like sports, that's because you want to go to fitness or health with a purpose, if you don't need to exercise, you can keep fit, I believe no one will choose sports). Therefore, if during this period, if you are too accommodating to the other party, become bottomless, or even form a habit, you will be eroded by the other party step by step, that is, he will become more and more inclined to his comfortable lifestyle and ignore your feelings. The reason is, you won't mind anyway, it's always been like this, and you won't care about me, you can tolerate me, that's why I say that women who love are spoiled by men, and the same willful men are also raised by women. Kindness and sensibility is a virtue, and it is also a woman's plus, but you can't have no bottom line, when you become no bottom line, others will also erode you without a bottom line, don't think about whether your conscience will hurt, if there are really so many people who know how to reflect, there will be no spoiling out of unfilial piety. Love, friendship, and family affection are all like this, nothing can be excessive, too strong, and too weak, so the way of balance between the golden mean is not unreasonable.

Establish a center of gravity for your own life. We often have large emotional ups and downs, most likely because we are stimulated by the surrounding environment, and emotions themselves have a lasting effect. For example, during the day, when you have some friction with your colleagues in the company, you feel uncomfortable, and you have anger, grievances and other emotions, and when you go home at night, this emotion still stays on you, making you unable to concentrate when eating, watching TV, or even playing games, and from time to time you will think of the grievances you suffered during the day, as if you can no longer get out of this vortex. At the end of the day, it's because you take "friction with your colleagues" too seriously. You expect the approval of your colleague, so his rejection of you is a word of criticism for you, you are afraid that you will not get along well in the future, so you are afraid of arguing with him, and you are afraid that you will suffer a loss, so you spare no effort in quarreling with him. As long as you care very much, you can't really control your emotions, and forcibly suppressing them takes a lot of effort. But things in life are prioritized, and not everything is worth paying attention to. How can we alleviate this sense of concern? It is to establish a "center of gravity" for our current life. For a child, if he knows that he can go to the arcade to play for an hour after school, then this hour of Elysium every day is the focus of his life, and his mindset at school will change. For example, if you have a conflict with other classmates before, you may get more and more noisy, so that the two of them will have a fight at a place after school. The reason for the quarrel is that he does not want to be wronged and does not want to lose face, and he fights because he cannot calm his emotions without fighting. And the truth is that after a fight, it will not be good, and it may be even more aggrieved because of its own injury. If he has his own focus (go to play for an hour after school), when there is a small conflict with his classmates, he will feel that it is not a big deal, but playing after school is a big thing, and he will be relatively rational and calm. Because what he is thinking about at the moment is how to spend less energy and cost to settle this matter, without affecting his own great cause, instead of being more serious in every small thing and fighting for life and death. If you think about it this way, if the offense of a classmate is not malicious, he will at most feel a little annoyed and will not be angry, and if the offense of a classmate is malicious and irreversible, he will also take a more effective way to fight back and retaliate, rather than fighting everywhere because of emotions. The adult world is actually no different from this perspective. We can find the most important things in our lives, whether it is goals or pleasures, and make it the focus of our current life, and look forward to it anytime and anywhere, so that we can reduce our concern about all kinds of trivial things in life. We don't get overly hurt by unimportant things, and most of our emotional problems are naturally solved. We will use our sensibility to take care of what we like in our hearts, and use our rationality to defend against things that we hate in the outside world.

The biggest common denominator of empty emotions, and the reason why they lack positivity, is that they are detached from reality, are not based on real events or objective facts, and are often long-term and difficult to regulate. Among them, the two most typical are a sense of hopelessness and a sense of worthlessness. As the name suggests, hopelessness is an emotion that is tinged with a strong sense of despair, which is not based on a specific situation or a specific period, but involves negative expectations about the future as a whole. The reason why people are able and willing to make an effort to change our lives is because of the belief that "our actions produce specific results, and grasping the connections between them will allow me to achieve goals through my actions in the future." But if that belief is undermined, we lose control and have the expectation that no matter how hard we try, it's useless. 2. Sense of worthlessnessA sense of worthlessness is a self-frustrating emotion that comes from endless self-criticism, believing that the existence of the self has no meaning or value. People who are troubled by this kind of emotion may be unable to see and recognize their own value, and they can't help but chase after wealth, power, fame, and other universally recognized external things. However, even if they have this, their hearts are still empty, and these worldly definitions of "value" alone cannot fill this sense of selflessness. I don't know if the subject is related to these two emotions when he is depressed, if you find yourself suffering from a sense of hopelessness and worthlessness for a long time, you need to be vigilant and seek some professional help from the school's psychological counseling room. Of course, going to the counseling room is not a negative thing, everyone may encounter troubles, and chatting with a professional teacher can better understand their real situation. Sadness or anxiety also has a positive meaning, and most negative emotions have their value in existence, except for empty emotions that should be alert. If it is not empty emotions that bother the subject, then the subject is likely to have both feelings of sadness or anxiety.

Grief: It is a distress signal, allowing us to make a deep connection with othersA person who reveals his grief when he is suffering is essentially sending a signal for help - I am sad now, and I hope to be able to have your company, understanding and support. As the saying goes, we see the truth in adversity, and in fact, sharing sorrow is indeed more powerful than sharing happiness to deepen our connection with others. In addition to this, sadness in the face of adversity is actually beneficial to us. A study in Berkeley, California, said that brain changes caused by a state of grief can make a person's memory more profound and their ability to gather information stronger. This is because "happiness" is a sign of familiarity and security, and we unconsciously put our minds at ease and do not pay attention to details, while sadness is the opposite. Therefore, grief allows us to gain something in difficult situations, so that we can better deal with problems, get out of grief, and become a bridge that we must pass to return to the baseline of happiness. Anxiety: The universal currency of emotions, prompting us to pay attention to potential problemsAnxiety is often a "make-up" emotion, some describe anxiety as "a universal currency", thinking that it is the exchange of all emotions. The reason why it's hard to figure out what's behind anxiety is that it's the most intolerable and task-oriented of all negative emotions – and we want to relieve it right away. Thus, this immediate, but only temporary, anxiety-relieving action can prevent us from confronting our true emotions. Anxiety is profound. If you are repeatedly anxious about the same thing, or unexplained anxiety, then anxiety is a reminder that you still have unfulfilled wishes or unsolved problems, and the first step to truly overcome anxiety is to understand what is behind the anxiety. I often want to cry because I am anxious about something, whether I feel that I need someone who cares more about me. If you are aware of the root of these emotions, it is easier to control and change. How to deal with negative emotions and make positive changes?