Chapter 24 Marriage is not all about love
"Regarding the concept of family, I would like to say that under Chinese culture, we cannot just live our own lives after marriage like we do abroad. Pen ~ fun ~ Pavilion www.biquge.info parents, we must consider. I'm not just talking about giving money, I'm talking about filial piety. Hayama took a sip of coffee.
"Is filial piety in moderation? What if parents don't do it right? Li Xiaoli remembered her parents. Li Zhuang's big slap is still one of the standard configurations of nightmares.
"Whether parents are doing right or not, measured by our eyes, is not necessarily objective, after all, everyone bears the imprint of his time. My parents, for example, are patriarchal, and this notion cannot be changed. ”
"Oh? If in the future your wife gives birth to a girl, will your parents be angry? ”
"Yes. will also force him to give birth to a son, and he will not give a good face. ”
"And what are you going to do if that happens?"
"Frankly, I don't know. It depends on my wife's personality traits to determine how I and her as a marital body will face this situation together. ”
The two were silent for a while, and Hayama concluded: "Marriage pursues a stable relationship, unlike love, which is full of variables. A family can only survive if it has a stable relationship, otherwise there is a great possibility of disintegration. ”
Li Xiaoli was a little unhappy, she blurted out: "What about love?" Where did you put your love? Isn't love important? ”
Seeing her anxious look, Ye Shan smiled: "Love is just a prelude to the beginning, an opportunity for us to be together and get to know each other, but it is not enough to support everything." ”
After saying this, Ye Shan regained the image of a docile and temperamental man on a date, his hands were also opened, and he spread his hands: "Look, I told you everything." Now it's your turn. ”
Li Xiaoli suddenly didn't know what to say, she always thought that it was a natural thing for two people to be together because of love, but today Ye Shan came out like this, and she felt that marriage was indeed a multi-dimensional measurement, based on rational considerations.
She was silent for a moment, and said frankly: "Hayama, what you said today, I really never considered it. Now I kind of understand what you mean by scaring me. I'm grateful that you're so candid. I need to go back and think about what my concept is about these three dimensions that you are talking about. ”
Hayama shrugged: "So, I hesitated for a long time and didn't dare to say it." I'm glad you're thinking about this rationally, and by the way, I also suggest you think about what your ideal marriage looks like, the more specific the better. ”
Li Xiaoli had insomnia at night. She tossed and turned, desperate to find someone to discuss, and after thinking about it, she messaged Kate. The next day, Sunday, the two of them were drinking, eating and chatting, Li Xiaoli told the whole thing, and finally asked Kate: "Deng Chunyan, what do you say I should do?" ”
Kate also frowned: "What this person said makes sense, it makes sense, but why does it make me feel so awkward?" ”
Li Xiaoli also frowned: "Yes, I also feel this way, rational and ruthless." Is the truth so harsh? ”
After talking for a long time, there was no result. Li Xiaoli didn't give up, and directly called her master Qian Duoduo to ask for a meeting. It is said that Li Xiaoli has not seen Qian Duoduo for a long time, and the two sometimes chat a few words on QQ. If you have a lot of money, you are gone, the tea will be cold, there is no big deal, and that's it.