At this point in the analysis, it seems that there is no longer any reason to go deeper. Pen × fun × Pavilion www. ｂｉｑｕｇｅ。 ｉｎｆｏ

Nor do I see any unknown factors that could give the disease a reason to continue.

As long as this "unconditional self-confidence" is restored, the patient will not over-assert motherhood and antagonize fatherhood due to lack of self-confidence, so that the personality will gradually take advantage of the balance; This also makes the "degenerative satisfaction" lose its foundation, and without "regressive satisfaction", the disease naturally ceases to exist.

However, this is only the ideal state. In the end, psychoanalysis must return to the patient's practical life experience.

Because the patient has been experiencing mental illness for several years, more than a decade, or even longer. He will feel that during all these years of illness, he has lost many of the things that a healthy person should have.

Even if he feels that he has now woken up and sorted out the complex pathology, he can control his personality, deviate from the pathology, and take advantage of his health; But for him, what was lost has been lost and can never be recovered.

And things have changed, the current life is far from the past, and after analyzing the causes of the past, you can no longer be confused. But the realities of life have escalated and are more difficult to cope with than in the past, requiring a more sound personality.

It seems that the recovery of psychological personality can only cope with the diseases of the past, and in the face of a new life, the sound personality is unstable and unstable, and there is no confidence.

They may even exclaim, "If only the cause had been analyzed earlier!" Don't waste so much precious time! ”

Although I am now sick, I am unable to cope with the new situation.

It always seems to be a beat slower than others, unable to connect with reality.

They may even want to indulge in a previous illness, at least without that sense of disparity.

For example, a "wild man" who lives alone is 50 years different from the concept of life in 2000. Through psychological analysis, the savage was raised from the concept of 1950 to 60, 70, 80, 90, 95. Life is getting normal.

However, he still feels that there is a distance from reality, a distance of 5 years.

If he is forced to live for 2000 years, he will have a sense of vacancy for 5 years.

Don't underestimate the feeling of vacancy in the past five years, which is enough to make him want to go back to 1995, or even earlier.

At least back then, there won't be a five-year gap.

Another example: if you climb a ladder to 20 meters, it is considered successful. A person was afraid of heights, and after various means, he was stuffed with stuffing under his feet to dispel his fear, so that he climbed to 15 meters. But in the last 5 meters, there was no more stuff to stuff, and if he was forced to climb to 20 meters, he would still be afraid and would have to retreat to 15 meters. Even want to go back to the ground.

To put it more appropriately: a person who has lost himself is highly susceptible to bad cues from the outside world. Hearing the bad evaluation of him from the outside world, he felt seriously uncomfortable.

When the positive struggle cannot work, and others still deny him, he will choose to "regress and be satisfied", and simply become the kind of person who is described by the outside world as having a bad side of him.

In this way, he pretends to be "indifferent", provokes others to introspect, and then satisfies his desire for praise in a roundabout way.

Step by step, psychoanalysis restored him from "regressive satisfaction" to "normal satisfaction".

From "indifferent" to "so-called"; For the sake of your own wishes, go for it normally. will not give up the pursuit of beauty because of negative comments from the outside world.

This is an objective turnaround.

But when the most critical moment comes, he wants to go back to "it doesn't matter."

What is the most critical moment?

That's when the person who used to criticize him praised him. He had no idea how to deal with it and seemed to have lost this memory. A huge sense of vacancy and insecurity is formed, and one can only revert back to the familiar state of "it doesn't matter".

Specifically, his personality has recovered, he is able to face up to criticism from the outside world and continue to pursue the good side of himself.

But he couldn't accept going further – the same person who had criticized him praised him in turn.

In a nutshell: he went from pretending to ignore criticism to confronting it squarely, but he couldn't get to the point of facing up to praise.

In other words: he felt too guilty to bear that kind of praise. In fact, he deliberately avoided a negative evaluation of his "fly in the ointment" by others, and prematurely "accepted what he saw", intoxicated with the satisfaction of self-limitation.

That is to say, the happiness he has restored still feels like it is a charity from others.

Therefore, if another kind of satisfaction is imposed on him, he will naturally not be able to bear it.

On a deeper level, he has regained the ability and memory to enjoy pleasure, but not the ability and memory to create it.

So he must strictly protect the existing happy results.

What he firmly believes: answering with witty words in front of people, skillfully dissolving embarrassment, seems so wonderful. It seems that his happy personality has been fully restored. But what he doesn't realize is that it's still a compromised, passive pleasure.

Because his so-called punch lines are produced on the premise of catering to others, rather than creatively expressing his own opinions.

So, when his enjoyment is saturated, his memory is suspended, and a blank space is created; You can't move forward.

The role of this "creative joy" will be detailed later.

Going back to the psychological issue, the same is true. Although after in-depth analysis, the patient has come out of most of the shadows, but for him, he is only limited to the past, back to the reality, and the patient always feels that it is still a beat behind reality. Never able to keep up with reality.

For example, he used to be afraid of falling in love and being rejected, so meeting a girl who was in love with each other was like grabbing a life-saving grass and was eager to get married and have children.

After his psychological personality gradually became healthy, he finally realized that he was too lacking in self-confidence in the past and how blind his idea of marriage was. But the reality is that I am already going to get married.

This inevitably creates a disconnect and a gap. The understanding of illness can certainly restore self-confidence, but blindness has been forged and is difficult to change. After the disease is eliminated, the self-confidence is restored, and you can go to love bravely, but it is not enough to be a husband and a father.

This gap should not be underestimated, and it will make him want to return to a state of lack of confidence. At least then can the contradiction and gap between self-confidence recovery and blind marriage be eliminated.

This seems to indicate that psychoanalysis can only analyze 95% of his causes and restore 95% of his health.

If people with strong insight and logical skills can also draw a conclusion: the patient's unconditional trust in his parents is not enough, and may only be a little different.

But even this little bit of distrust cannot be unconditional in the true sense of the word. It is not possible to fully restore the patient's health. Conditions are provided for the recurrence of the disease.

Some people may ask: even healthy people will inevitably be unconfident, and isn't that kind of unconditional confidence too harsh for patients? It's simply impossible!

But be assured: even if the patient's unconditional self-confidence is restored to 100%, it is just a step into the ranks of the average healthy person. This is an order of magnitude problem.

Then the next question should be to figure out: what point of causative factors that are different from real experience should be filled?

What is that little causative factor that affects the whole body?