At this point, the patient is only faced with the problem of active choice:

Is it the intention to restore male masculinity and abandon dependence on motherhood?

Or continue to maintain dependence on motherhood. Pen, fun, and www.biquge.info

If the former is chosen, the depression and hopelessness described in the above example will occur.

If you choose the latter, the disease will not change at all, and it will continue to be compulsive.

Therefore, a middle ground must be found to unify this pair of contradictions.

Perhaps, it is easy for most people to find this middle way - not to go to extremes, but also to rely on the mother and the masculinity of the father.

This is true, but it is too general.

Don't expect patients to do it.

The patient's inner contradictions and impulses are far greater than those of ordinary people, and they cannot be solved by a few simple philosophical words.

Wanting him to love his mother and not reject his father is indeed the ideal way to recover.

However, it is still only at the level of consciousness.

Since the patient is sick, it must no longer be a problem at the conscious level, and must be solved with a deeper subconscious.

What does it mean to solve it with a deeper subconscious?

For readers with strong logical reasoning ability, it should not be difficult to see that the answer to this middle route can be found in the example of 100 points mentioned in the previous example.

The only way to balance the desire to score 100 without being anxious and suffering from the blow is to unconditionally believe that you can score 100.

Only by unconditionally believing that people will not stick to the exam, freely divert their interest and attention, and not be nervous and anxious; At the same time, if the exam is frustrated and hit, that "unexpected surprise" can alleviate a lot of pain.

This "unexpected surprise" is the instinct of the subconscious.

Only this instinct is the true middle balance route. There is no need to persuade with consciousness reluctantly; Instinct will naturally use "ignorance" unintentionally to reduce the pain after failure, as well as the heart that demands perfection.

In life, if you pay close attention, you should be able to see that people who have experienced "accidents and surprises" will unconsciously reduce their pursuit of perfection, instead of reluctantly convincing themselves with consciousness.

Reluctantly using superficial truth to convince yourself, and constantly forcibly hinting that you don't pursue too high people, it is difficult to guarantee that you can really let go of your perfection next time.

The same is true when it comes to diseases. It is a strong desire of patients to overcome the masculinity of the father and maintain the femininity of the mother.

In layman's terms: they seem to have a "spiritual cleanliness" and are not used to the vulgar and masculine behavior of men; And like the femininity and goodness of women.

So, I want to achieve a balance of mental personality.

They should have unconditional confidence that they will be able to overcome the fierce fatherhood. This diverts attention and avoids the anxiety and tension that arises when there is a fierce confrontation with fatherhood.

If you fail, the "surprise and surprise" generated by the subconscious instinct will naturally cancel out part of the pain and reduce this "spiritual cleanliness".

If you only use the truth of consciousness to preach, let him let go of perfection, it will be difficult to have an effect.

Because he can't really accept the truth, he just feels warm to those who are concerned about his illness; The one who imparts the truth becomes the diversion of his dependence; He must continue to fight for the protection of his teacher, and repeat the cycle.

As mentioned earlier, the patient clearly understands that over-maintenance of the person who cares most about the most (especially the mother's mother's motherhood) can lead to personality imbalance, paternal pressure, and ultimately compulsion.

But when he gave up defending and accepting fatherhood, it led to separation from motherhood and induced depression.

The reason is that his acceptance is too mechanical, and there is still an element of suggestion.

For example, someone once loved a girl so much that they couldn't live in pain; Later, after being enlightened, I finally knew that I had lost my manhood, was too compromised, and had too little self-confidence; If the manhood is restored, the ability to pursue girls will become very powerful.

Although the truth is very correct, everyone is often prone to the illusion that he thinks he has taught him courage; But in fact, it denied his courage as a man from another angle.

Because if he really has the courage and fighting spirit of a man, does he still need to be taught by others?

As a young man, and now he is being taught as a teacher on the high, what position do you place in him?

Therefore, the patient is often especially grateful to those who "taught" him courage, and even compromised.

The reason is that he does not remember the kind of manly courage he was born with, and he is only hinted at.

It's like a patient discovers a lot of brand new ideas after analysis.

I couldn't let go of it before, tangled, scared, and angry......

Now it's all changed.

The vast majority of people would think that he has really changed, but it turns out that it is not.

Because every time he realizes a new idea, he may sigh in his heart: "Ah! It turns out that what XXX said at that time was right. I was arguing about it all the time, and I couldn't put it down!"

This seems to be perfectly normal, but for the patient, he will compromise with that XXX extremely secretly.

Believe that the concept of being correct comes from XXX, not from oneself.

Extreme compromise is equivalent to regressive satisfaction.

It is conceivable that mental illness will not leave him yet.

He should say, "What if you're right?" Wouldn't I say it myself?"

But to reach this psychological height, he must recover his own memory.

Revert to the fact that he did initially make such a correct judgment on his own.

Therefore, his acceptance of fatherhood is still a formality, and he does not really enjoy the pleasure brought by male masculinity.

It can be seen that only the "subconscious instinct" belongs to oneself.

And the best way for instinct to manifest is to lower your guard and trust unconditionally.