This is also what I said earlier: psychoanalysts are not exactly the same as parents. Pen "Fun" Pavilion www.biquge.info

Herein lies the subtle difference – a hazy sense of security.

One is innate; of the parents of the recipient; No explanation is required; The magical power to resist all sadness and bad suggestion.

It is true that the logical analysis of the psychoanalyst can also help the patient to sort out all the confusion of the mind.

Patients are also fascinated by this rigorous logic.

It's not about boasting, it's just how the patient really feels.

It is precisely because of this strong fascination and dependence on this rigorous and wonderful logic that the patient has never been able to let go of those psychoanalytic theories.

As soon as confusion arises in the mind, it is necessary to move out of the theory of mind.

After the analysis is smooth, I get unprecedented happiness and relief.

If it is not sorted out for a while, it will cause anxiety and anxiety.

He also understands that sooner or later he will have to break away from the psychoanalyst and return to his nature.

So if he can't do it for the time being, he will be very annoyed and impatient.

In fact, he just needs to understand one thing: a hazy sense of security and a rigorous and beautiful logic can also make him healthy and happy.

This is the initial tipping point between health and sickness.

But the hazy sense of security is more valuable, meaningful, and unassailable.

Because that's innate, it doesn't need to be explained.

So, he just needs to remember and enjoy the feeling without the need for a specific form.

When he is confused, it is enough to remember that this hazy feeling can solve his confusion.

It doesn't take much logic and reason.

The psychoanalyst is actually a fusion of the mother and the reminder.

As a result, the patient is able to experience unprecedented joy and relief from the psychoanalyst - this is a sense of maternal security.

But for the time being, we cannot depart from this logical explanation, and we must ask for a reason for everything--this is the reminder who initially transformed his unconscious, unreasoned security for his mother into a conscious, reasoned, and secure one.

Although he has an ineffable instinctive energy that can eliminate all symptoms.

However, he is still obsessed with the power of logic to eliminate the symptoms.

Which is the essence, it is not difficult to see.

It's an unconscious sense of maternal security.

So, just remember the feeling and the "breath".

Because of this, some people, after they have basically been cured, are particularly eager to become psychoanalysts and solve problems for others.

It seems that he is about to present this rigorous and wonderful logic to others in order to show his own power. I'm afraid that others won't see it when it's late.

Just like some people are anxious to achieve fame, eager to express themselves, afraid of being buried, afraid of being misunderstood.

This is also reasonable.

The underlying line is that he is no longer afraid to present his "mother" to outsiders.

This was to be especially resisted before.

It's just that this kind of presentation is too intentional and anxious, and not casual enough.

Because he hasn't finally reached the point where he believes only in unconscious sensations.

I accidentally forgot that "breathing" is the existence of my mother, and I don't need to rush to present it at all, and I will present it in front of others every moment.

It is true that patients who have been analyzed for the first time often feel this "breathing" weakness. They think that the thrill of "breathing" is not as strong as those good dreams and honors.

This is also normal.

Because they haven't gotten back to that point – security in every moment is the greatest happiness.

Because you feel safe, you don't have to rush to make those tempting dreams come true.

Because you are not impatient, you will find that every grass and tree around you may contain happiness.

This sense of security is what comes with breathing.

It is precisely because of the physiological connection of this "breathing" that if the child's mind is restored to health and happiness, it will invisibly affect the parents and make them change accordingly.

In the later volume of "Psychology and Body", you will learn that the body of parents and children also have a certain degree of similarity.

When a child with a hidden mental illness or sentimentality sees his parents' rickety, weak, and aging bodies, he will inexplicably blame himself, and even cause despair and depression.

It seems that parents are about to "live and die" with themselves.

This feeling is almost inconsolable, and it also causes a more or less sadness among the general public.

One can only look for stimulation or anesthesia to divert this sadness.

Even people who are "heartless and lungless" seem to be able to accept their parents' aging naturally and easily.

However, they invisibly transfer this "pain" to others.

Therefore, in reality, people who are "heartless and lungless" always have to "hurt" others to a greater or lesser extent.

It should be rare for you to see someone who can easily face the aging of their parents, but also remain calm, friendly and kind.

Of course, people who are particularly mentally healthy can still do it.

From the perspective of "physical and mental integration": the physical illness of patients with mental illness, such as gray hair, weakness, dizziness, headache...... It should be "absorbing" or "imitating" the physical symptoms of the parents, and the subconscious wants to bear this for them.

But if he doesn't understand this, he can only add to the pain.

Knowing this, he can know that his own health will definitely bring the health of his parents.

Especially a boy who is physically and mentally weak, in the face of his father's aging, his subconscious will think that he has absorbed his father's pain, and no longer has to bear the burden of his father's punishment and the torture of his conscience, he is already worthy of his father, and he no longer has to compromise and compromise with his father in order to protect his motherhood.

This may seem mysterious, but it has to be said that some of people's physical symptoms sometimes stem from psychological sadness and depression.

Therefore, it is not "mysterious" to cure certain physical diseases by relying only on the mind.

Therefore, when a boy with a hidden psychological disorder understands this psychological mechanism, he can overcome the sadness of his father's aging with the courage and masculinity of "moving forward bravely and not afraid of death", and fearlessly pursue the happiness he deserves.

It seems that his masculinity and courage can also bring vitality to his father......

And this kind of masculinity and courage actually stems from his father's memory of his "courage training".

This memory of "courage training" just replaced his guilt for his father's aging.

I beg your pardon for such a tedious analysis.

But precisely because people understand so little about the nature of psychological symptoms, they can only stay in the same interpretation.

will ironclad think that he cannot overcome some pain of the soul.

Obscure analysis may cause you to feel dizzy for a while, but it may be more durable to alleviate and disappear the symptoms.

Back to the topic.

Even if you can't completely return to the unconscious for the time being, there is no way to prevent it.

For the time being, he also needs to obtain a conscious, logical sense of security from the psychoanalyst, and he has to acknowledge this security.

Because he is still only using logical thinking to realize the importance of this sense of intrinsic security and the hidden happiness.

But it is not enough to fully and truly enjoy the ease and pleasure that comes with this sense of intrinsic security.

Sooner or later, there will always be a return to the unconscious.

The denial of this sense of security, although it excludes the influence of psychoanalysts (reminders), also denies the natural sense of security that his mother has given him.

This may also explain why some people are repulsive to Freud's theory of the sexual period.

The reason is that it is not precise enough to be rigorously proven by science.

But for the "patient", and indeed for all people, the most important thing is the hazy, unconscious feeling, which is deliberately proven to be irrelevant.

It can also be understood in this way: the mother gives the child an innate sense of security and happiness. It is the only and highest happiness in the world.

This sense of security and joy is subconscious and self-evident.

But once it becomes conscious, the highest sense of security and happiness becomes dogmatic, logical, and tightly ordered.

Because consciousness is mostly the result of education from the outside world.

As a result, logic becomes extremely happy and fulfilling, making it impossible for the patient to let go.

Therefore, it is necessary to return the sense of security and happiness that originally belonged to the subconscious mind to the subconscious, and to make the obscure symptoms of the subconscious conscious conscious.

This is the integration of the subconscious and the conscious.