Male and female loyalty. Pen × fun × Pavilion www. ｂｉｑｕｇｅ。 ｉｎｆｏ

This topic seems to be a constant one.

If it is said that in real love, men and women ** is a common phenomenon, perhaps it is a bit exaggerated; But it's not uncommon.

Most of the breakdowns of marriages seem to come from this.

People always seem to cherish the "things" that belong to them, and they are haunted by the "things" that belong to others. This is especially true for men.

Therefore, people often attribute this phenomenon to men's natural "flower heart".

It is true that "flower heart" is not innate.

Sigmund Freud once described in his "**Psychology": Some flowery men will have a soft spot for water-based flowers; And for loyal women, it feels boring.

Based on the psychological exploration of these men, he found that most of these men had mother** incidents in their childhood.

Faced with this situation, some people can boldly resist the intervention of that third party.

And some, for some special reasons, are relatively forbearing.

If you have a good understanding of the "transformation of love and darkness" mentioned earlier,

It is strange to conclude that the personality of a boy who is relatively forbearant can unwittingly shift to the personality of a "third person".

Combined with the "flower heart" and "**" of the "third party", he has become a person with a heart of flowers.

In another sense, the "third party" is the "aggressor" in the family of the S man mentioned above

If the more such an "aggressor", the more his personality will be transferred.

It is conceivable that the "flower heart" is beyond the ordinary level.

When it comes back to married life, these men often can't hold back on women who belong to others, and feel bored with their own wives.

If you can't get it, you will be more attractive to other women, and more and more degraded to your own wife.

If you take a closer look at the case of the "aggressor" who broke into the house of Man S mentioned above.

Everyone should be able to understand that S's instinctive resistance at that time was unexpectedly hindered, which led to the destruction of his love for his mother, and subconsciously, invisibly compromised and transferred to those "aggressors".

This mechanism is actually not difficult to understand.

It's like a person who was originally very brave, but because of an accident, his natural courage was hindered.

So there was a compromise with the person who violated his mother.

As if begging for mercy, "Please don't hurt my mother, we are so pitiful......"

This kind of compromise seems normal in everyday life, when the weak meet the strong.

But the patient's degree of compromise is far beyond ordinary people, and this compromise is the most primitive compromise for him.

So, it was originally with deep love for my mother and the courage to protect her.

The result turned into a compromise.

Personality is invisibly biased in favor of the "aggressor" rather than against the "aggressor".

When the personality is biased towards them, the words and deeds of the "aggressor" will deeply affect him.

If the "aggressor" is ** and flowery, S will become the same as them.

But his heart was not born, but the result of compromise.

It's like those people are surrounded by beautiful women, and because S has compromised with them, he has to imitate them and conquer many women to be able to match them.

Therefore, if S is infatuated with someone else's woman later in life, it is not innately so, it is just a tortuous compromise.

This is the transformation relationship between "attack" and "sexuality" in Freud's theory.

Here, it is more appropriate to use "counterattack".

More generally, men's anger and courage are interchangeable with their pathological desire for women's "sex".

is like a certain psychologically handicapped person, at the moment when he sees a sexy beauty, he is horny and extremely uncomfortable, and suddenly thinks of watching "Saint Seiya".

Especially the woman you are obsessed with throws into the arms of others.

Therefore, he only needs to trace back to the memory of those who had the courage to resist all those who "violated his mother", and was later accidentally blocked.

There will be an inner courage and masculinity, and there will be no more compromise with many women, and love will be returned, and it will no longer be scattered.