Everyone has ideals. Pen? Interesting? Pavilion wWw. ｂiquge。 ｉｎfo

Enjoying the process of striving for ideals is a kind of motivation.

It is a kind of inertia to only enjoy the good results brought by ideals.

Perhaps, many people want to become billionaires, or celebrities echoed by billions of people.

There is nothing wrong with that.

However, some people just desire that outcome, rather than enjoying the process of pursuing wealth.

If you want to have wealth, you no longer need to work, and your life is stable and stable, and there is no risk.

Admittedly, this is also human nature.

A sense of security is the most primitive human instinct.

But people may forget that there is another instinct – creativity.

If you lose this instinct, the sense of security is very unstable, no matter how much wealth you have.

Only by having both of these instincts can we truly achieve joy and happiness.

Every insanely inflated ideal is triggered by a tiny emotion and then dramatically expanded.

Even if you have a big dream of becoming a billionaire at the moment.

It could also just be a hint push from your relatives and friends.

They may often talk in front of you: how much is XXX worth a car, how many suites have you bought......

In order to prove your abilities in front of them, you can only fantasize about surpassing XXX.

On a deeper level, you want to prove yourself in front of relatives and friends, and the subtext is actually to prove your parents.

Because everything about you is inherited from your parents.

When your abilities are proven, your parents will be respected.

But in fact, one of the most natural thoughts is that parents don't need too much reverence from outsiders.

Because they are just forming a family with you, maintaining the most simple feelings with each other, and they don't need to take too much responsibility for the outside world.

Unless your parents have been threatened and violated by the outside world, and you have not used your natural courage to protect them.

And your natural courage is not used normally, or you may be unexpectedly influenced by some outsiders who sympathize with you, so that you enjoy being pitied by them and forget your own courage.

As a result, there is a vague emotional entanglement between parents and outsiders.

Therefore, a large part of your and your parents' sense of security can only be swayed by the hints of outsiders.

Your ideals are nothing more than an expression of your desire to protect your parents in order to cater to the ideas of outsiders.

Another example is that in daily life, people often show indifference to some things.

On the road, I saw a person who was injured and fell to the ground and needed help, and I didn't want to pay attention, I was afraid of being blackmailed.

Then there may be some hints: if I help him, people will say that I am too stupid; When the time comes, being blackmailed will cause parents to worry......

In fact, their fears are not unfounded.

It may be true that there have been many examples of "helping others and being hurt".

But this kind of fact is transmitted and implied by the outside world, not by self-experience.

Therefore, it is not possible to form a true judgment of the self.

Another example: people often encounter some price fraud in their daily lives, or forced to buy and sell...... of uncivilized behavior.

I often rejoice that I have only lost a few dozen dollars, but I beg for peace and quiet.

They may think that the most important thing in today's society is to make money, and it is completely unnecessary to claim justice for an unknown passer-by or dozens of dollars; Or rather, it's completely outdated; As long as it doesn't interfere with the work that is about to be done.

But the opposite is true.

If you understand the previous chapters of "Dirt and Fear", you may be able to see whether a person's grand ideals will be realized; whether a person will be happy or not; It may be decided by a passer-by, or a few dozen dollars for a trivial matter.

Because the most powerful subconscious instinct of man is the instinctive courage to protect his mother.

The grand ideals were nothing more than a veil of failure to protect his mother as a child.

In childhood, it may be a trivial matter for a child, which causes outsiders to threaten and violate his mother.

What the withdrawn adult thinks is a trivial thing is precisely the one that causes great fluctuations in his heart and even deformation in his childhood.

Only by restoring this natural courage to protect his mother can he maintain the original sense of security and love that his mother has given him.

Get the truest and most persistent happiness.

There is no room for a moment of escape.

With this instinctive courage, we will have the most autonomy when choosing our ideals, the most motivated when we pursue our ideals, and the easiest to succeed.

Therefore, seemingly prosaic little things are more meaningful than the grand and illusory ideals.

On the other hand, if you are an upright person, you are indignant at the retreat of others in the face of ugliness, and even fall into despair of society.

It doesn't have to be.

People who seek peace for a while because they retreat will invisibly detach themselves from the most original courage to pursue happiness, and sometimes fall into inexplicable depression and depression.

His natural pleasure-seeking instinct will force him to face and overcome ugliness.