Sigmund Freud once said, "Don't get to know women, because women are crazy." Pen ~ Fun ~ Pavilion www.biquge.info"

Another said: a woman's heart, a needle under the sea.

It can be seen that a woman's mind is very difficult to understand.

In fact, it is.

They sometimes show a shocking sense of unprincipledness.

For example, when they see a very ordinary-looking man, they may exclaim, "Wow! So handsome! ”

Sometimes they are very close to almost every man they know, and unwittingly think that she is only in love with themselves; And complacent.

Sometimes they are emotionally changeable, maybe one second they are still close to you, and the next second they are cold to you.

When rejecting other people's confessions of love, they will even guide them as instructors on how to choose a girl and how to pursue love.

The calm attitude is incredible.

The reasons for their rejection of love cannot be described in words, no matter how rich, handsome, good or educated you are......

With just one feeling she had, it would have all been dusted.

And it's a feeling that even they can't describe.

It is this indescribable feeling that makes many men crazy and tossing and turning.

and even sank and depressed because of this.

Men are much simpler, sometimes only pursuing a kind of beauty, sometimes a kind of sexiness, sometimes a kind of gentleness, sometimes a kind of cultural literacy......

Even specific to height, weight, facial features......

Compared with a woman's view of love, it is more intuitive and does not give people a vague feeling.

Sometimes, a man obviously pursues a girl with a vision of love, but unexpectedly gets an inexplicable reply: recognize him as a brother.

It seems that in their concept, family affection can replace love.

Or rather, a kind of compensation.

A kind of transfer, but also a kind of escape.

Completely contrary to the purpose of men.

They can be very hazy at times and always maintain a lukewarm relationship with you.

No matter how hard you try, you can't impress them.

It doesn't help to make people so restless that they scratch their hearts and lungs.

They sometimes have an unusually peculiar aesthetic, and they prefer bad men.

It didn't matter how fierce the man was to them.

Men who are not good-looking may be more favored by them.

It's not about the connotation, sometimes it's just the first glance.

Sometimes they clearly say that they don't pay attention to appearance, but only to the heart.

But the first time I see you, it already determines the success or failure of love.

The so-called inner understanding has been in vain.

All of the above may be far from describing the complexity of women.

In a sense: women's unpredictability in love has directly led to the sinking and depravity of some men.

It can even induce mental illness.

But if you carefully understand the content of the previous psychological analysis, you should be able to come to a conclusion: there is no need to know too much about women at all.

The most important person in life is only the mother.

Love is just an unexpected product of the kind of curiosity and exploration that we insist on on the deep love between mother and child.

And not preconceived.

In another sense: the attitude towards love is the same as the attitude towards the mother.

First of all, you must unconditionally believe that your mother will always be connected to your heart.

In other words, it is necessary to believe unconditionally that you will have love.

Then there is the joy, anger and sorrow of the mother.

This is the "Anima and the Animus" mentioned earlier

In the beginning, the mother must give the child the feeling of safety and wonder.

It is only necessary to preserve this memory.

Later, the mother's grief and pain will be overcome or overcome on the basis of this memory.

The reason why psychological pain is difficult to overcome is often that the safest and most beautiful original memories are suppressed at first, and too much is too prematurely compromised to the person who makes him miserable; Form self-punishment.

It's not simply an inability to defeat the other.

Therefore, it is often said that man's greatest enemy is himself.

But people often turn this phrase into a compromise in disguise.

It's like saying to outsiders: "It's not that I can't beat you, you're nothing." I just can't get past myself. ”

In fact, it is still an expression of a kind of defense against the opponent in the heart.

As if hinting at his own power, exhorting the other party not to violate himself.

Instead of strolling around and letting the outside world change, keep your heart strong and calm.

So, women don't have to understand.

As mentioned earlier, the S man is particularly afraid of people in science or medicine, if they say, "You have a psychological problem because you have a physical genetic defect." ”

Whether or not he checked it was enough to make him despair.

They forget their most instinctive instinct – the desire to regain their mental health.

As long as there is this desire, it can be affirmed that the previous psychological foundation must be fine.

The current despair is only the result of being unexpectedly frightened by the science teacher, which led to excessive compromise and obedience to them.

It has nothing to do with the exploration of the natural sciences.

Without in-depth analysis, there is no way to find out.

will only dwell on where his physical defects are.

The same is true for women.

Failure in love is not necessarily not about not understanding women, but forgetting that you used to be the most confident and didn't need to know others too well at all.

If you have to understand women.

It can only be understood from their subconscious, not the literal meaning of their words.

For example, a woman's unprincipled praise of a man's appearance is a subconscious creative expression.

It comes from what it says at the beginning: "The repressed are often satisfied".

What is unquestionable or unconditional is often pressed into the heart by complete satisfaction.

Therefore, what is manifested in consciousness is often the opposite meaning.

It's like if someone deliberately emphasizes that "the earth is round"

Someone may say something surprising: "The earth is not round"

It is also because of the latent nature of this unconditional fact that it is difficult for people to remember.

It's like when people recall those carefree days in their childhood, they can't always remember it.

And the happiness that is conditionally obtained, such as rewards, will be remembered vividly.

The former is unconditional, and the latter is conditional, like a conditioned reflex.

Therefore, the amazing words of a woman at some time are just an unintentional expression.

In addition, a woman's changeable personality comes from her own psychological structure.

In terms of pure gender, the boy is a mother and father, so he shows the courage to confront men and presents a kind of masculinity;

And the girl is in love with her father and mother, so she shows the courage to confront women and will be more gentle than men.

The boy's love mother has a certain relationship with his flesh and blood separated from his mother's body.

However, problems arise.

Because the girl is also separated from the mother's body, the girl should also hide a vague mother-love complex.

In this way, the girl not only loves her father, but also hides a subtle mother-love complex.

That's where women complicate.

In The Tale of the Maiden Dura, Sigmund Freud saw and revealed this complexity.

Of course, there is also a female factor in men.

But the two sides of a woman are stronger than a man.

So, in reality, it is easy for a girl to receive a feminine man who is more androgynous; However, no matter how feminine a man is, it is difficult to accept a masculine girl.

Therefore, when dealing with female patients with mental illness, we can copy all the contents of the previous psychological descriptions of men in psychoanalysis, dreams and memories, and psychology and body; And just convert the male mother-lover into a female father-lover.

However, don't forget that part of the female psyche that is deeply hidden in the mother-love complex. (To be continued.) )