He inexplicably dreamed of a boss he knew, who was in charge of hundreds of people, and he seemed very imposing. Pen @ fun @ pavilion wWw. ｂｉｑUｇE。 ｉｎｆｏ

On the surface, this is a dream that is not in line with his wishes.

It's also a dream with no logic.

Because most people will think: whether others are majestic or not, what does it have to do with themselves?

He didn't have a very deep friendship with that boss, he didn't have much at stake, and he didn't even work for him.

Even if it has a little relationship, who would fantasize about other people's ideals?

At most, it's just fantasizing about your dreams coming true.

Many people may have had some dreams that are unruly and unthinkable.

It is also a kind of inexplicable, slowly forgotten.

But for a mentally ill person who is already confused, having such a chaotic dream may be a kind of aggravation.

They may feel more elusive about their symptoms and will not be able to regain their previous clear thinking.

However, as long as the logic in the previous psychological analysis is understood, any chaotic dream is traceable.

Perhaps, some people will think that this is a kind of nitpicking.

Dreams are already confusing, is it necessary to explain them like this?

This is very normal, and deliberately paying attention will affect the mood.

This may be what most people think, but people with mental illness may not think so.

It's like a weird mind, which ordinary people usually reveal as a joke.

But people with mental illness can't do that, because the weirdness is beyond the ordinary.

And the outpouring of such jokes may not be very healthy.

As mentioned in the previous chapter: normal people have times of sadness, so people with mental illness should not pay too much attention to their unhappiness.

There is no right or wrong way to say this.

But if you always rely on this comfort, then one's growth and happiness will be greatly limited.

Because he has lost his independent judgment and relies on external cues.

If he has the heart to pursue more happiness, then there is no need to compare himself with others too much, and he does not need to refer to others.

It should be assumed that he was indeed very happy and healthier than the average person.

Therefore, the explanation of the chaotic dream is still necessary.

In the case of this chaotic dream, you have no way of discovering the dreamer's instinctive desires and joys.

But it can't be said that this is a weird mind created out of thin air by a dreamer.

This is non-existent.

Because there are too many twists and turns in the middle of the two things that seem to be unrelated, but they are still inevitably related.

The connection was that he had been in a relationship with this boss for a while because of a business relationship. The strength of this boss is not strong, just a small boss. However, he is a person with a withdrawn personality and a particularly low self-esteem. I always feel that I have to please others and compromise with others in order to fulfill my own desires.

Because there was a small business that needed to be discussed with the boss at that time, but he was not confident enough, he always raised the status of the boss too high; Everything depends on his face.

Therefore, he imagined that if this boss was a big boss with assets of more than 100 million yuan and hundreds of employees, he would be very happy and satisfied; Will be happy to do this business with him.

It's not realistic, but it's a compliment; Say something flattering; He felt more secure.

If you win the favor of the boss, you may be able to negotiate the deal.

At this point, the meaning of this chaotic dream should be self-evident.

It can also be seen that if a person's "regressive satisfaction" is too strong; Too low self-esteem; Too compromised; He would go through many twists and turns to fulfill his wishes.

These twists and turns are not bizarre, and many people have had flattering thoughts and actions.

It's just a matter of degree.

It can be seen that if a person compromises too much with the outside world, he will even take the dream of an almost stranger as his ideal.

It is not difficult to explain why some people have some strange and absurd thoughts in their heads.

It feels illogical and irrelevant to me.

In fact, it was forgotten by him, an excessive compromise.

Speaking of this, I can't help but think of some common phenomena in society.

In social interactions, people tend to reject those who are introverted and reticent.

Even their eyes have a kind of evasion, or secrecy.

They may think that they have a grudge against others in their hearts, or that they are too arrogant, unapproachable, and have a sense of distance, and are difficult to approach......

They even think that they have hatred and opinions with themselves......

As a result, those who withdraw from their personality and have low self-esteem will feel very guilty and blame themselves, and think that their silence is a sin.

I had to force a smile and communicate with them insincerely.

However, few people really understand these introverts.

Are they really that unkind? Is the bitterness deep?

Not necessarily.

Based on your contact with them, you may find that they are so kind, that they have no grudge against people, and they have no opinions.

It's just that I don't want to talk.

I just want to keep my mind at peace.

It's just because they've lost the memory of "communicating and laughing from the heart."

The psychological mechanism is gradually pursuing this instinctive memory, which leads to a slight weakening of the connection with the outside world.

If he reproaches himself for his silence, because outsiders do not understand; will interrupt the search for this memory; Instead, it becomes extremely unnatural; It makes people look as if they have hatred in their hearts.

And those who are very healthy in mind, they don't care so much.

Regardless of whether he is silent and introverted or not, it is natural to communicate with him.

It also turns out that they are not so impersonal, but they are happy to communicate with people.

Of course, the above is just a casual expression.

People with introverts or low self-esteem should not be too evaluated by unexpected people; Don't complain about outsiders' incomprehension either.

People who run away from introverts are not very healthy inside.

Just follow your instincts.

Pursue the memories of your virginity.

Laugh when you want to laugh, say what you want.

Eat when it's time to eat, sleep when it's time to sleep, and play when you want to......

In this way, it is natural not to merge other people's ideas because of compromise, and make your own ideas very strange and unnatural.

Sometimes forcing a smile in front of outsiders is not a humorous acquisition, but more like a "it doesn't matter".

But don't take this kind of freewheeling as naïve.

Because a person who lacks virginity is not qualified to talk about childishness.

And don't think that this kind of freewheeling is simply going with the flow.

Because without understanding all the complex psychological structures, it can be really naïve to force yourself to do what you want.

And don't think of doing what you want as doing what you want, because the human instinct is simply to have fun, and there is no intention of destroying it.

This may require you to use your own memory to realize that the explanation of words is not very appropriate. (To be continued.) )