He dreamed that he was drinking tea in a place with his leather bag next to him. Pen × fun × Pavilion www. ｂｉｑｕｇｅ。 ｉｎｆｏ

There seems to be something important inside.

Suddenly, some people gathered around him, sat in the seat next to him, and felt like they were about to steal his purse.

But he was inexplicably sluggish, and when he got up to leave, he repeatedly checked the contents of his purse, and seemed to notice that something important was missing from it......

When he woke up, he felt very happy.

Thankfully, this didn't happen in reality.

This dream is very similar to the previous "dream of the exam".

It's all about what is important to you as life.

So, for the interpretation of this dream, I will not repeat the previous work.

Instead, I started with another detail that is easily overlooked—the anxiety in the dream, and the happiness after waking up.

Such a sense of disparity.

Similarly, many people have had some painful dreams, but the feeling after waking up from the dream is different.

Some people perpetuate the pain and sorrow in their dreams, while others feel extremely happy.

If you look closely, you will find that this sense of disparity between happiness and pain has been described in the previous psychological analysis.

In fact, it is a typical kind of "regressive satisfaction".

Just like a boy, he always thinks that the harmony of his parents is happy, and their conflict is pain.

Another boy who goes to school as a pain and takes vacation as a pleasure.

These are all "regressive satisfaction".

It is the most important superficial cause of psychological symptoms.

Because their personality has been attached to outsiders, happiness can only be controlled by them.

Therefore, small hints from the outside world can easily induce their emotions to fluctuate and form a psychological symptom.

Since the mechanism of "regressive gratification" has been elaborated above, why do we need to do this through dream interpretation?

There is the problem of "the dynamics of dreams", which is the problem of "natural growth" mentioned above.

In layman's terms, the "regressive satisfaction" of this dream is higher than the level of "regressive satisfaction" mentioned in the previous psychological analysis, and it is getting closer and closer to "normal satisfaction".

It is extremely difficult to detect if you don't look closely.

So why is this dream of a higher level?

The detail that determines the level of this is that he is slow in his dreams.

As mentioned earlier, a person is afraid of losing something or a person, but he is slow to protect it (her) well; It's because of his subconscious innate self-confidence that he doesn't worry about this thing or the person leaving him.

Just like a person treats a mother, there is no doubt that the mother is the most important.

So, no matter how far a person goes, he will not worry that his mother will leave him.

It's an unconditional confidence.

But if a confidence is conditional, he becomes afraid of losing.

For example, if you borrow something from someone else, you will be afraid of losing it. Because it was conditionally lent to you by someone else, not given to you for free.

Further, if something that was originally unconditional becomes conditioned by external stimuli, he will be afraid of losing.

It's like a parent's love.

Therefore, the only way out is to return this love to unconditional.

And to do so, it is necessary to restore the memory of his unconditional happiness and self-confidence.

The above dream contains "unconditional self-confidence" - slow action.

Therefore, the level and value of this dream is higher than the "regressive satisfaction" as previously understood.

In fact, it is also a natural growth process.

Because after waking up from the dream, the dreamer also vaguely understands this meaning, so his satisfaction is even greater than the previous "regressive satisfaction".

In fact, this kind of "regressive satisfaction" is in the same vein as the "sense of gap" in the hearts of people who are afraid of heights. In fact, it is still a matter of "breathing".

Because when you have this kind of dream, it is often when your nose is blocked and you snore.

After waking up from the dream, the nose breathes smoothly and the mood improves.

There is another detail worth noting - he repeatedly checks the contents of his bag in his dreams.

In reality, this is a symptom of a "compulsive test".

The general view of "forced inspections" is that it is incomprehensible.

What they think is such a trivial matter, that someone should inspect it so strictly?

People with OCD themselves are disgusted by the fact that they are wasting their precious time by repeatedly checking them like this.

The psychiatrist's advice is generally to encourage them to believe that they have done it perfectly and that they don't need to be demanding.

However, people tend to overlook the plausibility of this obsessive-compulsive symptom.

Before: a seemingly trivial thing, but behind it is hidden a crucial matter.

Just like for an ordinary person, the mother is the most important person for the child.

However, he felt insignificant about the temporary separation of mother and son.

Because he had no reason to believe that the distinction could be serious.

If this unconditional confidence is turned into conditional by external stimuli, he will naturally see it as crucial.

So express this importance by checking it repeatedly.

If he listens to the outside world and takes the matter as insignificant, he will choose to avoid inspection.

The result of escaping is to ignore the mother's love and security.

Nature will not be happy.

Of course, double-checking is not the norm.

Encourage them to believe that this has been done perfectly, that it does not need to be repeated, and that it is right.

But it's better to let them believe for themselves, rather than relying on outside incentives.

This brings us back to the "breathing" issue mentioned earlier.

The compulsion of the inspector is ostensibly checking something over and over again, but never paying attention.

Because his breathing is in a psychogenic disorder.

Without inhaling deeply, the pupils cannot contract.

Only by "breathing" and concentrating one's attention can one thing really be done at once without fail.

This is the meaning of "Gap Dream".

It can also be seen that true happiness is not so easy to find.

Not only people with mental illness, but also many ordinary people are indulging in this "pleasure of gaping".

However, the degree is milder than that of patients with mental illness.

Therefore, the rhetoric of "imitating the happiness of others and making you happy yourself" is not very good.

But people often like to be comforted by this.

For example, normal people will have times of sadness, you have to look at the point and don't pay too much attention to it.

Can it be said that this statement is wrong?

The same cannot be said, sometimes the reality is.

But what if it's true? It doesn't seem to be reconciled.

In fact, it doesn't matter if it's right or wrong.

There is only one thing - if you rely too much on this comfort, you will lose your own judgment and greatly limit your motivation to create happiness.

Behind the "pleasure of the gap", or "regressive satisfaction", there is a kind of memory that is easily forgotten - not being overly dependent on others; innate; The ability of the self to create happiness. (To be continued.) )