As mentioned earlier, this 5% is related to "accidental reminders". www.biquge.info But it doesn't mean that the 5% is an "accidental reminder".

Let's take a closer look at the 5% of memory.

This must be analyzed from the perspective of "psychodynamics".

Mental problems can be translated into a physics-like way to find the 5% accurately.

Again, in the example above: someone R communicates well with people in the workplace, and he can accept general negative comments. But one day, a boss suddenly said to him, "R is a good person, and he can accept criticism with humility in some flaws." It's ......"

It is...... The comments omitted later are something that R can't deal with, so he can only choose to escape.

For example, he will think that it is...... Later, he will say that he is not manly and a bit of a sissy.

His preconceived notions are the result of "accidental reminders", which shows that in the distant past, this kind of negative evaluation was awakened by accidental reminders, which made it difficult for him to accept, so he could only choose to escape.

However, after a while, but the compulsion of self-criticism was formed, and the compulsion to criticize oneself as a sissy was formed.

Why do you get negative reviews when you run away from them?

This is not difficult to explain.

If a basin of dirty water is thrown at you, you close your eyes and run away because you are afraid, and you end up getting dirty with the dirty water.

If you open your eyes to avoid or block at that time, you won't get dirty.

Here's a more vivid example.

Or go back to the kind man who couldn't be courted in front of him.

He was originally resistant to bad men and kept his goodness.

But because the girl he loved liked bad men, he became more and more powerless to resist bad, and finally invisibly chose to give up resistance, and naturally contracted the vice of "bad".

As the saying goes, "sail against the current, if you don't advance, you will retreat".

From a psychodynamic point of view, it is what Freud called the innate confrontation between the "instinct to love" and the "instinct to destroy (death)".

In order to stop the insatiable satisfaction of human desires, the "destructive instinct" is always opposed to the "love instinct". In order to keep oneself sane and realistic, and not to ask for reality infinitely for desires.

But if we give up the pursuit of "love" too early, the balance will naturally be destroyed, and the "destructive instinct" will swallow up "love" in an instant, such as losing resistance and flooding, so that "love" and "destruction" will be mixed together.

It is not difficult to explain why compulsive thoughts sometimes have such strong impulses when they are obviously sinful and destructive. It's because there's "love" in it.

I have to quote the metaphor of splashing dirty water.

Because I was afraid to face it at that time, I didn't dare to face the "bad", but instead I was unaware of the sin of "bad".

Being infected with "bad" does not form "obsessive-compulsive disorder", because there is no object to fight against for the time being; It's just a "depressive" state that doesn't matter.

It is only when a kind girl falls in love with him, triggering the "kindness" he once had, that the "compulsion" strikes.

What do you mean by that?

It is because "bad" meets "good" that a fierce confrontation will be formed!

Before he met the "good", he was only infected with the "bad" state, and did not form a confrontation.

Just like the example of splashing dirty water in the above example, because I am afraid of dirty water, I close my eyes and run away, and as a result, I will naturally get dirty. But he subconsciously deliberately denied that he was dirty, as if he didn't know that he was dirty.

Only wait until someone clean appears to him and stimulates his memory of being "clean".

The inner "dirty" and "clean" will form a fierce conflict, leading to compulsion.

And then the "dirty" thing is extended to "death".

For example, a person wants to overcome a powerful opponent or a disease that threatens their life.

If you are like facing dirty water, choose to escape. Then you should be able to conclude that he is infected with "death". -- That's where depression comes from.

It is also in the same vein as the "indifferent" state mentioned above.

Therefore, depressed patients are especially afraid of hearing negative words from their loved ones, which will directly lead to his depression, which is due to this reason.

Because, in the person he loves, it can reflect the escape mechanism between his inner "lust" and "death" instinct.

This is a deeper and more comprehensive mechanism for the formation of "obsessive-compulsive" and "depression" than the above.

Knowing this, I believe that most readers and even psychiatrists will know at a glance the answer to the cure for "depression" and "compulsion".

That is to encourage patients to be brave and face the dark side. This is the only way to complete healing.

If I think about it that way, I feel very reasonable and powerful, and it goes without saying.

However, I would still take it with a grain of salt.

Some people may question: is there anything wrong with something that is already very clear? I can't believe it!

What I would say is that "deep psychoanalysis" is different from general psychological comfort and therapy.

Rigorous to the point of being almost harsh.

And I also believe that only such unassailable harshness can fundamentally and qualitatively lead to a fundamental cure for patients without the possibility of recurrence.

So what exactly is this harshness?

That is: this escape mechanism of the patient is close to physiological.

Only the transformation and deconstruction from the psychological to the close to the physiological is a qualitative change.

So the physiology is that the patient should have had a history of syncope.

This is also a bold speculation I have made.

His choice to escape in the face of dirty water should not be completely his subjective will, but a kind of physiological syncope, which makes him lose the ability to face the "dirty water".

If it is only a subjective will, then his mental health can only rely on the teachings of others.

It is also possible to explain the headache and dizziness that patients sometimes experience inexplicably in a physiological sense.

At this point, everyone should understand why the "regressive satisfaction" that seems to have been clarified for a long time can still be analyzed until now.

It turns out that it is a very difficult task to go from psychological analysis to physiology.

As for continuing the discussion of the "experience of syncope", it can only be done until all theoretical analysis is translated into the patient's real life experience, so that he can fully return to normal life.

What is now to be discussed is another crucial issue.

Perhaps it is the huge doubts or even defects that most patients have at the end.

That is, some patients may say, "That's right! You're quite right. I have thoroughly understood the symptoms, I am no longer confused and confused, and I will definitely be able to follow this way in the face of pain in my life, full of confidence and courage. However, what happened has already happened. Because of this disease, I have lost more than ordinary people. No matter how hard you try, you can only solve the pain of the past, and in any case, you can't reach the level of a normal person; There will always be a gap with real life. ”

If there is such a thought, it is undoubtedly frustrating and normal.

"Loss" is also an "iron" fact that will not be regained by analysis; Unless you guide him before he becomes ill; But this is clearly not possible.

But what I want to say is, "You haven't lost anything, and the things you think you've lost have always been with you." ”

So what is it exactly? The only answer is symptomatic. There is a very vivid example of this: the symptom is the part of himself that he has lost. Some patients feel like they are about to get rid of their symptoms after an in-depth analysis. But what is surprising is that they suddenly feel nostalgic for those symptoms, and they are very reluctant. It is as if those symptoms are very intimate to them, and if they are asked to give up, they will feel that the road ahead is unfamiliar, and they will naturally be very lost. Therefore, the true face of the symptoms must be restored in order to explain this strange phenomenon.

This requires a different perspective on the "psychodynamic structure" in order to fully understand: why is the symptom the "lost" part of the self?