He was terrified and angry......

He was surrounded by a group of stout men. Pen, fun, and www.biquge.info

But he's still a kid.

He felt like he was protecting the most important person in his life, but he couldn't see where she was, and he seemed to have only a vague impression.

The men shouted at him, and he struggled to resist, but he could only run away.

The group of men chased after him.

He climbed over a fence and was about to slide off the trunk of a tree next to it, but fell from the broken branch on which he stepped on......

J woke up from his sleep.

Strangely: he didn't break out in a cold sweat because of the fear in his dreams.

Instead, there is a hearty pleasure.

This is an example of a dream from a sleep profile.

In reality, the dream of the whole is much more complex and confusing.

If you want to analyze this dream in a logical way, the workload is large.

Because dreams are made up of many fragments of memory.

And these pieces don't have to happen at the same time, in the same place.

First of all, we must analyze the details one by one, and then connect these pieces according to the dynamics of time and place.

in order to be able to come up with a more complete and satisfactory answer.

But even such a tedious analysis may not necessarily be recognized by the dreamer.

Or, the dreamer agrees with your interpretation of the dream's meaning, but not from the heart.

It may be out of gratitude for how hard you have taken the trouble to help him, or a kind of dependence, which can't bear to deny you.

It is more likely that the dreamer himself will not be able to tell whether what you are saying is true or not.

This is quite normal and reasonable.

If you know the meaning of the dream in the dream, there is no need for the interpreter to intervene.

But if you only use the answers you have come up with your own analysis to mechanically instill in him, it will have little effect.

Because it is difficult to resonate with him, it cannot arouse his instinctive memory.

How?

It's better to put aside those cumbersome logical analyses for the time being, and just start with the dreamer's feelings after waking up.

In this way, the problem is much simpler and clearer.

From the information, it is easy to know that the feeling after J wakes up is a hearty pleasure.

So what does this feeling really mean?

Or what does it mean? What is the connection to J's personality and personality?

First of all, J has to judge himself, what kind of feeling does this feeling after waking up from a dream resemble what kind of feeling he remembers?

This is something that most dreamers have never thought of.

They may think: a dream is a dream, and even if there are joys and sorrows in the dream and after waking up, it is normal. Because dreams are too illusory and unreal; There's no need to dig deeper; After that, you may forget about it.

However, this feeling after waking up from a dream is not a visitor from outside the world, nor does it arise out of thin air.

Rather, it is the dreamer's once real memory, only to be blinded by the hustle and bustle of reality, slowly forgotten, existing in the depths of the subconscious.

During sleep, the conscious censorship mechanism is weakened and the subconscious begins to be revealed.

Therefore, in dreams, you can find memories that match the feelings you feel after waking up from the dream.

But is this necessary?

This is probably the question that most people have.

Most people have emotions and feelings when they dream to a greater or lesser extent, and they continue to live after waking up from the dream, and they do not affect their lives because they do not understand the original form of these feelings.

If every dream has to be recalled and find out the archetype, isn't life too tiring and energy-consuming? There's so much to do in life.

Of course, it's normal to think so.

However, the human psyche is always trying to maintain a balance.

Haven't the general public been confused and pondered when they encounter setbacks and blows?

When you lose something important, don't you regret it?

At these times, he couldn't do anything else.

Then why not take some time to understand your dreams in advance and find your original memory.

When the memory of the source is found, people's autonomy and independence will be enhanced, and they will not be easily weakened by blows.

Human suffering is often self-lost, and it is too much influenced by external factors.

If you agree with this view, you may be willing to spend a little time doing something that seems boring - finding memories that match how you feel when you wake up.

However, if this is to be done, the dream interpreter will be powerless for the time being.

It is up to the dreamer to find it himself.

Because memories belong only to each individual, the dream interpreter cannot be most truly known, and is only a staff officer.

I don't know if this kind of work of associating dreams with memories is difficult.

The results should be individualized.

According to J's recollection in the example above, he found the answer with unexpected speed.

And that is -- the feeling of waking up from this dream is the same feeling he had when he defended his mother as a child.

It's a long-lost and familiar feeling.

He can even recall some brief episodes of his childhood relatively clearly: at that time, an adult joked with him, "Who is your mother with...... and he angrily grabbed the corner of the adult's clothes, and did not feel a trace of fear.

If you have a basic understanding of the content of the first volume, you can know that this is a primitive courage to defend mother's love.

It is precisely because of this courage that people have the courage to defend their instinctive and unconditional happiness - maternal love.

If this primitive courage is accidentally forgotten, human happiness can only depend on external proof and recognition.

As mentioned in the previous volume, a group of people suddenly broke into S's house, and he felt a festive environment at first, and he was not nervous, but then suddenly turned to fear, feeling that those people were in danger of his mother.

Therefore, it can be understood in this way: from ignorance to fear, there must have been an accident in the process.

And when the accident happened, S's instinctive resistance was accidentally suppressed, and he invisibly compromised with those people.

It's like a person who is supposed to reflexively want to defeat his opponent.

But because of an accident, I invisibly compromised with that person.

The faith he held on to was invisibly shaken, turning to the man he was meant to defeat.

If that person says before the fight that he is not his mother's biological son, after the belief is compromised to the opponent, he absorbs this questioning.

Later on, it will take constant proof to gain the sense of security and love that his mother has bestowed upon him.

And not in the very beginning, the kind of unconditional belief.

So, in his sleep, he relived his desire to defeat the opponents who had violated him and his mother, rather than compromise with them.

This is the most primitive "heroism".

Every boy aspires to be a hero who protects his mother.

And mothers also have this desire to be protected.

It's like a woman full of maternal love, who deliberately makes painful gestures in front of her children, and pretends to cry.

to seek the comfort of the child.

On the surface it is a kind of amusement.

In fact, it is the subconscious mother-child connection.

So, if a clever person is good at using this "heroism" psychology to promote his work.

It will definitely arouse the emotions of countless boys and even men.

That's beautiful.

However, people may forget that "heroism" is instinctive, innate, and does not need to be exaggerated by the outside world.

Otherwise, it will be a cover for inferiority and compromise.

Once the passion dies for a short time, it can be very frustrating.

Because his "courage" has no one to prove it.

Going back to the above example, you may have a doubt: why is J fearful when he fights against those men in his dreams, but when he returns to reality, he becomes hearty?

The reason is this: he expressed his desire in his dreams, did not retreat and compromise prematurely, and bravely confronted those men who were many times stronger than him. And in that courageous childhood, it was also a carefree time.

So, he experienced the innocent and unconditional happiness of his childhood, not the happiness of adulthood that depended on stimulation and flattery.

This is why some people with mental illness always think that they have reminisced far enough, but they are still the memories of parental discord.

So he blamed his parents' emotional shadow for causing his mental illness, which is irreparable.

In fact, they don't remember far enough away.

It should be recalled that when I defended my mother unconditionally.

It can also be seen that no matter how strong the opponent is, as long as he fights bravely, the result will always be much better than compromising and seeking peace for a while. (To be continued.) )