He dreamed that he was rising into the air and walking in the air. Pen "Fun" Pavilion www.biquge.info

Rivers, fields, rocks, bumpy roads...... None of them could stop him in his tracks.

Occasionally, he fell back to the ground, then jumped up again and continued to fly.

It's such a feeling!

There are no obstacles.

After waking up: he felt even more wonderful.

It seems that a long-cherished dream has come true.

This is almost impossible to achieve in real life.

Probably most people have dreamed of this kind of flight.

Maybe you've all experienced that kind of flowing feeling.

Basis: Dreams are the expression of wishes.

One conclusion can be drawn: flying is a universal dream of mankind.

However, not all flights are pleasant.

For people with fear of heights, flying at high altitudes is not only not a pleasure, but also a pain.

What is surprising is that many of the people who dream of flying are afraid of heights.

There is a mysterious contradiction in this.

But as long as you are careful, you can find that the flight in the dream is not a high-altitude flight, but a low-altitude flight that can be self-regulated.

So, he felt exhilaration, not fear.

According to some dream interpretation sources, this flying dream expresses a desire to remove obstacles and reach the goal.

Admittedly, this interpretation is also reasonable.

Just like the feeling of ignoring obstacles and moving forward in a dream, many people also desire to overcome all obstacles in real life and achieve their goals quickly.

However, if we only stop at this level of explanation, it will not be helpful from the perspective of eliminating the negative psychology of patients and ordinary people.

Because this desire is all too common, too common; It's also too difficult to achieve.

After all, reality can't help you remove all obstacles like dreams.

Based on the analysis in the previous volume, you should be able to understand that almost all grand ideals are unintended obstacles caused by a small instinctive desire.

If you only start from the ideal to solve the problem, you will encounter a variety of problems:

If you stick to your ideals, the reality is too cruel, and you may be hit and depressed;

If you give up your ideals, you are tantamount to giving up your own happiness, which is also undesirable;

The most common is to lower the ideal goal, compromise with reality, and even hold a kind of camouflage psychology of "can't eat grapes and say grapes are sour". As you can imagine, this is not a very happy thing.

If understood: "Almost all grand ideals are unintended obstacles arising from a small instinctual desire." This meaning.

The problem will be solved.

Because since it is a small instinctive wish, it must not be difficult to achieve, and there is no need to give up and compromise at all.

But the difficulty is: how do you connect big ideals with small instinctive desires?

I thought: no amount of explanation can compare to the judgment of the dreamer himself.

Because the explanation is reluctant, it is comforting or didactic, and even has the flavor of imposition.

This brings us back to what we said earlier: chasing memories that match what you feel in your dream or after waking up.

This kind of ...... in rivers, fields Which fragment of the memory will be similar to the feeling of flying?

I believe it will not be difficult for you to give an answer.

If I were to answer, I would not hesitate to say, "It seems that this is only felt in childhood!" ”

It's hard to imagine an adult running like a child running happily between fields and rivers.

The pressure of real life has made too many people forget this kind of joy of mountains and rivers.

Even if you take a luxury bus to go sightseeing, you are just passing by, and you are not at one with nature.

Some people like strange rocky mountains; Some people like the magnificent sea; Some people like the vast grasslands.

These environments tend to make people feel uplifted and stimulated.

However, children are different.

They love the natural surroundings and have no conditions.

It's just an instinctive liking.

It's like when you see a small child crouching on the ground playing with ants.

It may feel boring.

Or feel too far away from yourself.

But in the eyes of children: it's a small world full of fun.

It is this kind of happiness that is not subject to harsh conditions that makes children's lives carefree.

Happiness can easily arise at all times and in every place.

And many adults are different.

Because of the pressures of real life, they have no sense of these free landscapes and rivers that nature has bestowed.

It is necessary to seek some intense urban or fantasy stimulation to activate the numb mind.

However, the innocence of their hearts has not really been extinguished.

It can be embodied in dreams.

It can be seen that the feeling of flying dream is the feeling of experiencing the unconditional happiness of nature.

Perhaps, some adults will scoff at this kind of happiness: "Do we want to run around like children?" It's so naïve! ”

If you think about it that way, there's nothing wrong with that.

It's just that they focus on the form of happiness and ignore the inside.

Those who are optimistic and cheerful adults are happier than the average adult.

It is because of the strong adaptability of the environment that happiness can be generated in almost every environment.

The environment referred to here is more focused on the natural environment than the human environment.

In fact, the reason why people have so much pain, tension and confusion in social communication is because they pay too much attention to the human environment and ignore the natural environment at that time.

This concern for the natural environment stems from the unconditional happiness I received as a child in the mountains and rivers.

If a person feels depressed and bored with an environment that is too familiar (such as hometown), it is because he has "compromised" and "familiarized" himself with the people in his hometown. The initial curiosity about them should be maintained, so that the surrounding environment will reawaken his curiosity and exploration, so that he will not feel bored and want to escape.

The understanding of the dream of flying seems to be the result of this.

However, this is not yet satisfactory.

Because although the joy of mountains and rivers has been found, the joy of "flying" has no memory to match.

To understand the joy of "flying", it is better to first understand another dream, "Hanging Dream".

As far as I know, this dream is also a relatively common dream, and many people have had it.

In dreams, the dreamer feels extremely helpless, frightened, and empty.

After waking up from a dream, there is a sense of steadiness.

In the chapter "Dirt and Fear" in the last volume, I explained that people with fear of heights are a hollow feeling caused by not inhaling deeply, causing the abdomen not to expand properly.

But fear of heights is a subconscious desire of theirs: first feel the fear of the heights, the inhalation is interrupted, and the abdomen contracts; In the process of returning to the ground, the inhalation begins, and the abdomen swells; After landing, exhale and contract your abdomen.

The whole process is a process of breathing -- an instinctive pleasure.

The reason why the suspension is treated is both a fear and a desire.

It is because the dreamer's mind has become sick; Or although it is not pathological, the personality has become pathological.

Therefore, you can only feel the instinctive pleasure of breathing with the help of the two extremes of high and low.

So, their subconscious instinctive mechanism will invisibly treat this pathology - balancing high-altitude hanging dreams with low-altitude flying dreams.

Specifically, the fluidity of low-altitude flight means that the dreamer is trying to make his breathing smooth and continuous.

Finally, by associating the "thrill of flying" with the "joy of mountains and rivers", we can draw a conclusion: only when a person breathes smoothly and gently can he calm down and experience the natural happiness of the grass and trees around him.

The implication is that ordinary people's emotions will not always fluctuate; The state of patients with mental illness after recovery remains stable and continuous.

If everyone's memory can be pushed further, when you breathe freely in childhood, it is the time to sweep away all obstacles and move forward bravely; It's like flying in a dream.

At that time, I didn't know the danger.

Since it is a river in front of you, in the eyes of children, it is also unimpeded.

This kind of exaggeration of one's own abilities is naïve, but it is all derived from the courage and courage of adults.

It is because of this courage to ignore obstacles that people with mental illness are overly suppressed.

To manifest it in a dream is to sweep obstacles and fly freely. (To be continued.) )