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There is nothing wrong with that.

It is the driving force for people to pursue a happy and beautiful life.

But if mental illness is caused by these, that's a different story.

Someone said: "If you give a person with a hidden mental illness a little hope, it is enough to make him anxious to the point of whiteness." ”

It's a bit of an exaggeration, but there's some truth to it.

Because, people with mental illness have accumulated too much "indifference".

As soon as reality gives him a little good hope, these "indifferent things" will immediately tear off the false cloak and pour out like a flood of desires.

If not properly channeled, these sudden instinctive desires will be concentrated on one point and cannot be broken through, which will make him unable to bear it.

I have no intention of doing anything else.

Rather than simply emphasizing the harm that this ** brings to them, it is better to say that this is really a great attraction for them and cannot be realized immediately; I can't let it flow carefully.

That's what hurts them the most.

Sometimes, they are overwhelmed by the backlog of this instinctive impulse, and the subconscious mind can only suppress this great impulse brought about by a little hope.

And the consequences of repression may revert to depression.

These are fundamentally two extremes.

So, there are many teachings that teach people to let go of perfection.

However, it is not easy to implement.

Because there is no way to teach people how to break through that barrier and let the pent-up desires flow for a long time.

It can only be the indoctrination of some big truths.

And to really break through, you must understand what kind of instinctive happiness is hidden behind this **.

Only his own instinct can replace perfection.

Because only instinct is strong enough, and it does not need the support of other thoughts.

As mentioned earlier, if a man is thirsty for a woman, it is extremely painful.

It's because he has a subtle compromise with the man who likes this woman.

You have to love this woman like that man.

In the same way, some people are eager to cater to their leaders and bosses at work, and when they are pandered to and recognized by them, they are extremely happy; If they don't meet their demands, they are extremely painful and anxious.

It's also a hidden compromise.

Coming back to the above, it's the same.

The inability to bear ** is a subtle compromise with his people.

And this subtle compromise is hardly effective in simple words; It is necessary to go through a deep and detailed analysis to be able to discover the root cause.

If you remember the example of "S boy went to school with his mother".

You may remember a scene where S was teased by a teacher and followed him to a laboratory, and then was startled by a white light in the experiment.

From then on, he had subtle compromises with his teachers, especially science teachers, which led to extreme repression of instinct when going to school. I don't even dare to ask for the toilet in class; It can only be solved on the spot.

If there is a hint from a natural science report that he may have some kind of physical defect for which there is currently no cure.

Whether or not this defect is certain, he will first fall into despair and cannot extricate himself.

And forget the instinctive resistance of the science people who were not very compromised.

In this scene, the most overlooked is the first teacher's teasing, and the focus is on S boy being frightened by the white light.

This kind of teasing is a kind of **.

That's where the roots of ** come from.

Behind this root is the close physical and mental connection between S and his mother.

That is, to re-remember the importance of motherhood and downplay the importance of the outside world.

It is only when I go back to this that I think of the existence of my mother.

It's hard to put into words.

It can only be described with a slightly approximate metaphor.

It's like an adult in ** a child: "Come with me to XX to play, there are a lot of delicious and fun ......"

And the child said seriously: "No~ I want to be with my mother." ”

There is a boy who gets cheap pleasure by catering to others. (S man is specifically referred to here)

It is always difficult to overcome the humility of following other people's preferences.

For fear of upsetting others, he is walking on thin ice for this.

One day, by chance, he was with his mother and had dinner with his boss or boss.

When introverted mothers have to "keep their voices down" to cater to them and pretend to be extroverts for the sake of their sons' future; The boy suddenly felt a long-lost sense of dignity and independence.

The usual pandering and compromise to superiors suddenly disappeared.

This is going back to the example of the S man.

The occasion evoked memories of his distant "incidents" at home, when his mother was threatened by the outside world and his instincts were unexpectedly thwarted, resulting in having to compromise with the outside world prematurely; Thus forming the most primitive diseased roots.

And the "breathing" of mother and child is the same.

Therefore, his mother's compromise with the outside world evoked his instinct of resistance, which he could not use normally at that time.

The root cause of the disease was excluded, and a normal and healthy psychology was obtained.

……

Behind the ** is the child's curiosity and exploration of the outside world in the "embrace" of the mother; Instead of ignoring the process and his mother's "companionship", he was eager to get rid of the innocence given to him by his mother, and pursued the result of that **.

This curiosity and exploration is not general.

It's on the way S to accompany his mother to school.,The hazy curiosity before being frightened by the white light.。

This kind of psychological pressure and obstacles caused by over-pandering and compromising others will be reflected in some details that are easily overlooked in daily life.

Another example: the S man mentioned above, when talking to people, he often involuntarily moves closer to the other person.

Especially when a superior or other important person speaks to him, or is just a greeting; There seemed to be a mysterious gravitational pull at him; He would unconsciously move closer to them and say humble words of pandering.

The initial archetypes of this behavior are: S's behavior and psychology before and after being frightened by white light.

Before he was frightened, he kept a certain distance from the experimental teacher, which was a normal sense of curiosity.

In a very unexpected incident, he was teased by someone, and as he walked to the laboratory, he approached the experimental device and was startled by the white light; This leads to a series of complex psychological symptoms later on. - This is the initial cause; It is also the root cause of the disease.

This kind of tease can be understood as a kind of **.

In other words, only by going back to this place can we find that the memory he kept before he was frightened by the white light was the healthy psychology of curiosity and exploration, the normal sense of distance between him and others, and the natural state of being physically and mentally connected with his mother; Instead of separating from his mother physically and mentally in the future, he is eager to cater to the pathological psychology of others.

Therefore, people with mental illness are a kind of "amnesia".

Many people say disdainfully: "How can you lose your memory?" In this way, psychological patients do not even recognize their relatives and friends, but the truth is that this is not the case at all. ”

However, this "amnesia" is not the obvious "amnesia".

In the above example, S's "amnesia" is forgetting the hazy curiosity before being frightened by the white light.

This curiosity cannot be obtained by describing in words, but only by memories.

Therefore, when a person is exposed to the outside world, his symptoms of "amnesia" will appear - he does not know how to deal with this **.

If you accept **, you are likely to make mistakes or even commit crimes; If you give up ** and hold on to the defects, your heart will be very lost.

He forgot that only the curiosity of the past can replace this **.

Because it is innate, it will not be influenced by the outside world; Driven by curiosity, I will not give up exploration and pursuit, resulting in inner loss.

If you are only inspired by the outside world to explore, instead of remembering the curiosity of the source, then the education of the outside world will only be a kind of **.

……

With so many examples, some people will have a kind of doubt - this can only represent the psychological trajectory of the S man, could it be that other people will be so coincidentally like S, who were frightened at school? Causes mental illness?

Those who have this kind of doubt may not have seriously thought about it.

It only takes a little more detail to understand the importance of "contingency" that I have always emphasized.

Since it is accidental, of course, not everyone necessarily has to experience it.

So, everyone has their own "accidents".

I am just one example.

It is intended to state this logical analysis.