For the purposes of the above example,

If we want to know more about the roots of his compulsion, we need to understand why he is so sympathetic to his mother in such an extreme. Pen ~ fun ~ pavilion www.biquge.info

In real life, a man is afraid to see a woman's tears for nothing more than sympathy for her.

For the tears of a woman who is not sympathetic or even hateful, a man will not be too unbearable.

The focus went one step further - why the boy was so sympathetic to his mother.

I try not to use technical jargon, but just to explain it in terms of everyday life logic.

A man's excessive sympathy for women and the weak can be described as "the kindness of a woman" in the eyes of ordinary people. They will even accompany the woman to tears of sadness.

This can also be called "feminine".

Since it is "feminine", he lacks the masculinity and tenacity that a man should have.

Focus Advancement - The absence of masculinity, the increase of femininity, is the cause of his compulsion.

Here can be described in a visual and intuitive way:

If asked, what are the basic elements of a person's personality?

Maybe the range is a bit too big to answer.

So, from a strict biological point of view: what are the basic elements of a person's body (including brain information)?

It is not difficult to answer: it is composed of the mother's X and the father's X and Y chromosomes.

Then, a person's personality is nothing more than the combination of the two personalities of the father and the mother.

It can also be described as one yang and one yin.

For boys, a healthy and balanced personality should be roughly in the middle of the two parents, with a preference for fatherhood. But he is also a "mother-lover".

Perhaps you will know at first glance that this is an obvious contradiction. How can you be biased towards your father and love your mother?

This will be explained in more detail later, and this is unifying rather than contradictory.

Now it can only be said that boys' "mother-lovers" are a universal and basic trait, and they are not necessarily related to the personality bias towards their fathers.

If a boy's personality is not biased towards paternity, but closer to the middle point of his parents. Then in real life, his character will show a kind of gentleness and weakness.

If you are a little more inclined to mothers, it is "feminine". This can only be regarded as a perversion, not a real pathology.

If you are more partial to the mother, you will become pathologically dependent.

In this way, the personality begins to become unbalanced. If the personality that is already in the balance of the pair is too biased towards one side, the other party will naturally put pressure on him.

The boy leans too much towards his mother, and the masculinity of the father puts pressure on him.

Because he has deviated from his father's personality, he will naturally strongly resist the pressure of his father's personality.

In this way, a pair of strongly antagonistic forces are naturally formed. -- This is the form of compulsion.

Readers may wonder, how could they contact their father when they were forced by their grandfather?

It's going to be a tortuous process. From the above example, it is not difficult to see that the mental journey of patients with obsessive-compulsive disorder is always tortuous.

This twist and turn is this: his father was hot-tempered, and when he was angry, he scolded him and his mother: Why don't you die!? This kind of angry scolding even involves the mother's mother's family.

At that time, his personality was already too inclined to his mother and dependent on her. Naturally, he strongly resisted his father's angry scolding.

Now that his grandfather has passed away, it seems to have verified his father's angry scolding, which made him even more sensitive to this kind of scolding subconsciously.

In a word: due to his lack of paternal personality, he thinks that he must not scold like his father, and naturally strongly rejects his father's irritability and fierceness. However, the more he rejects it, the easier it is for him to entangle this kind of scolding, unable to transfer it, and gradually evolve this scolding and struggle into his own struggle.

The answer to this can be found in daily life, "those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black".

How this evolves will be described later.

What is certain is that when he was healthy, his personality did not deviate, and he was as masculine as his father, daring to shout and scold at what he was dissatisfied with, regardless of who the other party was. At that time, there will naturally be no fierce confrontation, and there will be no coercion.

Therefore, this fading of once familiar memories gives birth to a kind of déjà vu but strange and terrible memory - an inexplicable urge to curse. Naturally there is a repulsive and resistive effect.

It's like saying to yourself, "How did I become so shameless and irritable? ”

In fact, it was the fading of paternal memories that made him doubt and resist.

Analyzing this, it seems that we have approached the root of obsessiveness - personality deviation. There are two types of personality deviations: boys are biased towards their mothers, and girls are biased towards their fathers.

But even if we fully understand the "personality deviation", it is not enough.

Because there is another important question that needs to be answered - why does the personality favor the mother and turn away from the father for no reason?

Just like the law of inertia, an object remains stationary and motions without the action of an external force.

The same should be true of the human psyche. Without the impetus of external forces, personality will not be unbalanced for no reason.

This is the only way to explain why some people are healthy all their lives, while others are induced by casual hints.

Because some people do not experience the driving effect of external forces, they maintain a healthy inertia of their minds.

External forces are accidental, and not everyone will experience the same external force event.

Therefore, after experiencing the impetus of accidental external forces, the personality may be unbalanced, and no longer continue the healthy psychological track.

The "problem of external forces" will be used as part of the third phase of analysis.

I can now only describe my general understanding of the process and causes of mental illness in a brief catalogue - symptoms → suggestive → regressive satisfaction→ personality deviations → unresolved......

Before elaborating on all the processes that develop mental illness, a few more examples will be given in order to demonstrate the common nature of the causes of obsessive-compulsive compulsions.

There is a gentle and modest man, L, whose obsessive-compulsive symptoms manifest as "obsessive-compulsive aggressive thinking".

The more people he likes, the more he has this tendency to attack.

This made him feel very bitter and remorseful, and he strongly resisted these offensive thoughts.

It is not difficult to imagine how unsettling it must be for a gentle and kind person to have such inexplicable sinful thoughts.

But, as is characteristic of OCD, the more resistant, the stronger it becomes. Forcibly not resisting, a strong sense of guilt made him miserable.

This guilt is long-lasting and does not go away with the temporary disappearance of the obsessive-compulsive symptoms.

According to psychoanalytic theory, any impulse has a cause and a reason.

However, on the face of it, there is no source for this attack on a loved one.

The theory of "going with the flow" is also not reasonably explained.

It would not be surprising if everyone had some weird thinking, and it would have little impact on normal people's lives.

This is obviously far-fetched.

It is true that ordinary people do have weird thoughts, but they always express them in an unconscious joke or briskness.

Forcing the patient is unable to do so. Because that weird thinking is so intense and clear to them.

What they have lost is the outpouring of the unconscious.

This cannot be done simply by imitation.

It is still necessary to get into the specific analysis.

From the foregoing, it can be seen that the patient's obsessive thoughts must be closely related to his desires. So, let's deduce the desire behind the "forced attack".

When people are conscious, they tend to suppress a lot of unreasonable instinctive impulses.

Naturally, the instinctive desires of the heart cannot be revealed.

Therefore, psychoanalysis advocates "free association". By putting the patient in a state of conscious relaxation, the instinctive desires of the subconscious will manifest themselves.

Sure enough, when he was fading into a haze, several scattered phrases suddenly popped out of his mouth:

Police, arrests, judges, trials.

What does this mean?

In the eyes of the average person, these phrases are really unrelated to his symptoms.

Those who are a little more meticulous may be able to see some clues.

Could it be that his desire was to attack someone and then the police would catch him and have him tried by a judge?

In this way, the attacking mind and the fragmented phrases can be connected together with logical relationships.

But if you think about it further, it doesn't hold water.

Because man's instinct is to seek pleasure. Who would take pleasure in being sentenced?

The only possibility is that the sentence will satisfy one of his wishes.

What is this desire?

Or still to connect with his love for girls.

Why is it that the more girls they love, the more they want to attack?

Does this confirm the saying "from love to hate"?

Pursue a beloved girl, if you can't love it, most people are just lost, and then look for a new love.

But there are also people who love to the extreme and have a strong desire to possess, and they will hate from love. If you can't love, you hate, and even destroy.

This situation should not be rare in reality.

But what really leads to hurtful events from love and hate is the pathological extroverted personality.

What is to be discussed here is the pathological introverted personality, that is, the compulsive-aggressive personality.

This kind of personality may not really make an aggressive move, but is tormented by this kind of uncontrollable and unprovoked aggressive thinking, and is afraid to do so.

Going back to the example above, if you ask L: What good will it do you to judge you?

How would he reply?

Thinking of the previous example, it should not be difficult for the reader to surmise that this must be another roundabout wish of L; It is a kind of "regressive satisfaction".

But how exactly is it circuitous.

Listen to what he himself has to say.

"If a judge comes to judge me, a lot of people will come and pay attention to me," L said. Because I was a college student with a kind character, I would become a prisoner. There must be a reason for this! The reason is that she doesn't love me, but loves those evil boys; I hate it! It caused a big change in my temperament. If people knew this, they would have sympathized with me and condemned the girl who had no vision. ”

I see! That's what he did think - to hurt a girl to get public attention and criticize that girl. I even thought that the girl blamed herself for his depravity and chose to love him again.

It was only because he later forgot this memory that led to his compulsion.

It feels so strange and terrifying to think aggressively.

This process of changing from good to bad is not a whim or groundless, but because the girl used to like bad boys.

Causing L to switch roles for the purpose of stimulating the girl, just to send a message to the girl he loves: "Don't you like bad bad?" Now I'm the bad guy. Are you happy? In this way, the girl introspected and fantasized about loving him.

The "bad guy" that the girl loves is a kind of external suggestion that inspires him to "regress and gratify".

In this way, the seemingly absurd obsessive thinking is actually just a message of pursuit of love.

And this way is not uncommon even among normal people.

Use attacks or self-depravity to attract crowds, and then say, "You are the fault of what I have become." If it weren't for loving you, I wouldn't have become so depraved. ”

In order to win everyone's sympathy and understanding, the girl's self-blame and repentance.

So as to satisfy his pursuit of love in disguise.

The only difference between a healthy person and a healthy person is that a person with OCD chooses to forget this sinful memory, and when it reappears again, it will inevitably feel a little strange to him, which will lead to compulsion.

Why do we forget sin and become infected with sinful thoughts?

People who know a little about psychology may say that it is because the anger has not been released and is suppressed.

When the time comes, it will erupt and something like that.

Admittedly, there's nothing wrong with that.

But it's still superficial. Patients may also know to release, but just don't dare and don't want to. Because he has concerns.

It is necessary to analyze psychodynamically how this forgetting leads to compulsion. Let him be completely convinced that all his concerns can find answers and endings here, so that he can truly accept the forgotten memories and cure the disease.

This dynamic structure will be elaborated in the final section.

At this point, it should not be difficult for the meticulous reader to see from the above examples: the manifestation of obsessive-compulsive disorder is often a roundabout, regressive wish satisfaction; Rather than positive, enterprising desire to be satisfied.