In terms of "regressive satisfaction", let's take another typical example. Pen? Interesting? Pavilion wWw. ｂiquge。 ｉｎfo

Another introverted and inferior man, M., often has an urge to force himself to hurt. When he sees a knife, he will inexplicably use the knife to hurt himself; Looking down from a high vantage point, he would worry that he would jump for no reason.

If I say: "The etiology of the above obsessive-compulsive cases stems from" degenerative gratification. ”

You may still agree.

However, if the compulsion in this case is also due to "regressive satisfaction", everyone may be confused.

Could it be that he wanted to use self-harm to attract the attention and reflection of others, and to satisfy his demands in a roundabout way?

It seems reasonable, but there must be a source. Just like L in the example above, use the imagination of hurting others to attract attention.

But his method of compulsive attack is not groundless, but stems from the girl he loves, and likes bad boys. Causing him to switch roles, imagining himself as a bad guy attacking others.

This is also the case.

Therefore, I would like to give some factors that induce his compulsive thoughts of self-harm, and then let you analyze them.

M man knows a young and beautiful girl Z.

Woman Z belongs to the kind of girl who is very emotional and impulsive, and she once committed an act of self-harm for the sake of a man she loves.

It was also at this time that M-man appeared in Z's life like a hero, trying his best to comfort her and dissuade her from self-harm; Woman Z gradually began to rely on him.

This comfort is not only out of sympathy, but also out of his deep love for Woman Z. (Before that, Woman Z didn't have any feelings for him)

It was because of this that he developed the compulsion to self-harm.

Good! Now that the precipitating factor of compulsion has been identified, the next step is to analyze why it is a kind of "regressive gratification"?

Based on the experience of previous cases, self-harm must satisfy one of one's desires.

What is the wish?

Compulsion is to love and hate one thing, which causes strong entanglement and stalemate.

In this case, the M man would have liked the hurtful behavior, but resisted it fiercely.

Let's start with his love for hurt.

The average person might scoff at this when they hear this.

How could anyone like to hurt themselves? If so, it must be something wrong with one nerve that makes it so weird.

However, don't rush to refute it just yet.

Love for hurt is not so self-evident and straightforward.

Rather, it should be a roundabout fulfillment of a normal wish.

If you say, Z girl is a sunny and optimistic girl.

Then for M, who is introverted and inferior, he must not have a chance to get close to Z. It's impossible to talk about the expression of love for Z.

Only when Woman Z is hurt by love and then self-harms herself, can M "be ordered to be in danger" to comfort Z; Then gradually let Z feel his love for her in order to gain Z's favor.

It can be seen that Z's self-harm behavior is a treasure for M. How can you not love?

Of course, his consciousness will try to suppress this bad subconscious impulse.

People are always receptive to the things they love.

M gradually accepted self-harm as a part of himself.

However, this acceptance is not a complete acceptance, and self-harm is only a tool to help M realize his love for Z after all.

Man's pleasure-seeking instinct cannot allow such harm to be accepted.

Therefore, M is particularly resistant to this urge to harm himself.

Thus forming this pair of fierce confrontation - obsessive-compulsive disorder.

His fear of knives and heights is just a result of the dangerous actions that the girl once made.

This cuteness, the roundabout pursuit of love, is the real cause of this compulsion.

There is another example. Similar to the above example, but the object of fear of "harm" is not oneself, but the people one cares about - such as mothers and lovers. It can be called "paranoia".

He is also an introverted man with low self-esteem, who is always infinitely exaggerated and extremely nervous after a relative or lover is threatened by the outside world.

At this point, general comfort was useless, and he was always extremely worried that something would happen to them, and he could not eliminate the nervousness.

Even more powerless to divert attention until they are informed that they are safe.

This extreme worry is also aimed at the lover's cheating.

Without understanding their subconscious contradictions, one cannot expect to resolve that tension.

Don't think that this tension is very normal, just go with the flow.

If it's really normal, they can naturally go with the flow.

I would like to say that this extreme fear also stems from a kind of regressive satisfaction - only by imagining the people who are threatening their relatives and loved ones as vicious can we generate the power of anger against them.

And you can't dare to argue and compete with the other party when the level of good or bad is average.

The extreme worry about cheating on my lover is that I want to find fresh love, and I have to assume that my lover cheats first, so that I have the motivation and reason to pursue my own lust.

Incredible, maybe?

But this is the subconscious contradiction that is not easy to understand.

Under his strong sense of morality, he actually chatted with other girls, and he felt guilty!

But the deep impulse for other women in my heart has become very strong.

As Sigmund Freud once mentioned an example: an old woman is always delusional about her husband cheating. Even when she saw her husband communicating with a woman in normal manners, she would be extremely suspicious.

No one's comfort or persuasion could dispel her suspicions.

Only one feeling can dispel this doubt of hers---- which is extremely secret, the indecent love for the officer's son-in-law.

Maybe you have questions, even if you know the reason?

Do you want to advocate everyone to be brave enough to cheat?

The answer, of course, is no.

The human quest for love is continuous and does not end with marriage.

But some people can defuse it with innocuous meat jokes. There are other normal ways and so on...... This will be elaborated on later in the "Period of Human Desire".

When the time comes, you will understand that most of the instinctive pleasure is secretly concentrated in the contraction and expansion of the secret places of the abdomen and buttocks, which is commonly known as "the pleasure of breathing".

From another intuitive point of view: extreme fear of serious harm to loved ones is closely related to one's own "schadenfreude" state of mind.

This is a psychological defense mechanism in psychology called "projection".

It means projecting one's own pain onto someone else and gaining a sense of relief.

For example, someone sees someone in a car accident, illness, conflict......

The excitement will be felt inside.

It seems that these misfortunes that have happened to others are a spice for the dull life; Or it's a way to divert attention from other people's bad about you.

Once these misfortunes are likely to happen to oneself or one's relatives or lovers, he will gain a sense of reciprocal fear (common for people who are afraid of rabies and AIDS)

Of course, there is no need to condemn such people.

Because they are unfortunate in their own right.

Being too compromising in your daily life (it could be a strict boss or boss...... You can only use the great misfortune of others to reduce your own misery and emptiness.

Even more insidious: the compromise of the listener to the narrator.

It was the narrator who helped him "divert" the "tension and pain".

Otherwise, he could be rebuked by the "stern man".

The narrator diverts the bad attention from the "stern man" to him.

In later analyses, the narrator takes on the role of dispelling or suppressing the "defiant instincts" (rebellions against the stern people he fears) of the mentally ill person.

It's like an honest man being bullied by a murderer, and someone happens to intercede for him. This angle is essentially the same as the previous one. said earlier: He can only imagine the person who violated his mother as extremely fierce, so that he can have enough anger to resist. The latter: he can only bring out his own joy and happiness by magnifying the pain of the outside world exceedingly. How similar is this to the psychology of ordinary people who "have more than the bottom"! Therefore, there is no essential difference between people with mental illness and ordinary people, but the amount of negative emotions is different.

At this point, I think it is necessary for everyone to clear their minds so as not to cause confusion.

From the above examples, it is not difficult to see that for men, the formation mechanism of psychological disorders is: accidental trauma of childhood, personality deviation, increased maternal femininity, loss of paternal masculinity, loss of confidence and courage, regressive satisfaction, susceptibility to undesirable hints, all kinds of strange dark thoughts, depression and compulsion.

The steps of the analysis, on the other hand, follow a backward approach.

Therefore, we should start with the analysis of complex symptoms and deconstruct them into the "regressive fulfillment" of wishes.

All of the above examples are typical of "regressive gratification".

There are also many symptoms, all of which are the consequences of "regressive gratification".

For example: forced hand washing, door closing, ...... inspection

These symptoms can be understood as the patient repeatedly washes hands, closes doors, checks, and ...... These excessively good habits are the key means.

As in the example above, M uses Z's self-harm as a way to approach him.

Closing doors, washing hands, and checking can also be understood as key ways to get close to the patient's love.

In other words, the patient's former love may be someone who has a habit of cleanliness and is meticulous.

If you want to get her love, you can only be equally meticulous; and did not dare to criticize her for being too meticulous.

If a person loses self-confidence, he can only try his best to find the shortcomings and dark side of the other person, and fall in love with her shortcomings and dark side.

Instead of loving her while criticizing her shortcomings.

And a confident person, if he loves someone, he is still able to criticize her shortcomings without thinking that he will not be denied her love because of this.

Therefore, this is also a kind of "regressive satisfaction".

You can only use the dark side that others don't understand as a bargaining chip to win the love of the other person. If the dark side of the other party is small, he will also try to find it.

He can only compete with others at the cost of satisfying the other party's darkness.

This is why the coercive person, after receiving a little bad suggestion, is very likely to exaggerate and become strongly entangled.

At this point of analysis, it is not difficult to see that all kinds of inexplicable complex diseases are derived from the "regressive satisfaction" of wishes.