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As a woman's family, the big red sedan chair went out, but if it wasn't a married daughter, it was like water spilled out, and it would never go back.

On the third day, when the new aunts and grandmothers returned to the door of Chenguang, the female family had to invite their relatives and set up a banquet to entertain the newlyweds.

It's just that the whole wedding procedure is not really finished, and there is still a procedure to go after that.

According to the local customs of Lianxi, three or five days before the wedding of my aunt and grandmother, my mother's family will send someone to visit me with a "full moon plate".

And the gifts given have a special meaning.

For example, the steamed bun that means thriving, the Dingsheng cake that means development and promotion, the deep-rooted pork leg with hooves, the longan chestnut jujube that means the early birth of a noble son, and the peanut that means prosperity and multiplication......

It is used to set off the atmosphere at the same time, but also used to pray for blessings, ask for a mouthful, and ask for good luck.

to show the mother's family's concern for their daughter, as well as the importance of this family business.

Then the in-laws will send the gifts to the neighbors of the village, and then give the in-laws a return gift, so that the whole wedding, which takes a long time, can be regarded as a successful completion. Between in-laws, they can also start visiting each other.

It's just that for the bride, returning to the door in three dynasties is equivalent to saying goodbye to the perhaps carefree boudoir life in the past, and it also means that from now on, the bride will start to settle down in the morning and dusk, be a writer, and quickly adapt to the life of being a wife and a daughter-in-law after marriage.

This is a hurdle for all brides in the world.

Three days into the kitchen, wash your hands and make soup. If you don't know how to eat your aunt, you will send your sister-in-law to taste it first.

That's exactly what I'm talking about.

And fennel didn't adapt very well in the first place.

It's not that the sister-in-law and brother-in-law at home are not easy to deal with.

Like Li Qi, the two little brothers and sisters of the Li family are also very cheerful and lively, especially the sister-in-law and Lilac, although they have only met a few times, they play very well, and they can climb trees together......

It's not because of her mother-in-law, Mrs. Li, who is old-fashioned and how harsh she is.

Or she needs her bride aunt, not leaving for a moment, or her aunt is cold and dressed, and her aunt is hungry and eats first, or she is sad, and she is happy, and she scolds and comes forward, and she also comes forward to fight, and she doesn't argue much, and she accompanies Feng with a smile.

In fact, Mrs. Li's temperament is quite similar to Du's, hearty and bright, although she looks quite spicy, but she has always been gentle and considerate to her husband, and she has always been caring for her children.

It's not a difficult mother-in-law to deal with.

What's more, Fennel, the eldest daughter-in-law, is very fond of her, and she values it wholeheartedly, so she naturally feels that she is close to her and takes care of her very much.

Only fennel grew up in a big family like the Qin family, where three generations lived together in the same house and five rooms, Rao has always been quiet, and he is the most introverted among the sisters, and he is used to the bustle of his younger brothers and sisters coming and going.

Brothers and sisters, especially Sichuan pepper is not used to fennel, the first few nights Rao is accompanied by cloves, bay leaves, and almost all night to dawn with his eyes open, and has long been accustomed to getting up every night to fold the quilt for Sichuan pepper fennel and how can it adapt.

Although it is too late for the new daughter-in-law to adapt to the new environment, the house is empty, and the heart is inevitably empty.

Fortunately, if you can classify your mother-in-law, Mrs. Li's mother-in-law, who has a personality type, although Fennel has only heard of it before and has never seen it in person, because she is not only literate and literate, especially because of the small learning environment, she is also quite good at learning and applying, and she can understand it at one point, but she has not bothered to figure it out, and she has already won Mrs. Li's favor by mistake.

However, in the eyes of Fennel, it was a mistake, but in the case of Mrs. Lee, it was entirely due to her foresight.

I am quite complacent about my own vision.

After all, Mrs. Li values fennel so much, and she wants to marry this family wholeheartedly, because she has taken a fancy to the intelligence of the Qin family.

As early as in the previous daily interactions, Mrs. Li already felt that dealing with the Qin family was a very comfortable thing. This is a marriage, and it is even more proper, without the slightest accusation of anger.

It's not just the answer to that sentence, dealing with smart people is worry-free.

I'm eager to try.

So on the fifth day of the wedding, a banquet was set up, and after the banquet was held by the Qin family, Mrs. Li couldn't wait to start pointing out fennel.

Start by familiarizing yourself with the social connections at home.

I put together a box of lists, and a basket of prayers came over to show Fennel.

handed her twenty or thirty lists in different categories, and told her one by one who this family was, and whose in-laws that family it was, and how much they had any dealings with their own family, and how much more festivals this family had with that family...... As well as how to move around in the daily life of the good family, how to socialize during the New Year's holidays, and how to talk and act in front of the Shangguan family, and then there is a banquet in the Shangjia family, Mrs. Li handed three or four lists to fennel in one go: "These families, don't be rude." Then he handed her five or six more sheets: "These few, let's just feel free, when the time comes, you can go if you want, if you don't want to go, it's the same if you send your mothers to go......"

Along the way, fennel didn't realize much at the time.

It's just that since Mrs. Li taught her in such detail, she had to use twelve points of mind to learn.

solemnly took the list one by one, and seriously promised it, just like a book.

What's more, when comparing the anecdotes that her grandmother and mother told her with the elders when she was in her mother's house, telling her some of the past, and looking at the same thing from different angles, Fennel really felt that she had never been as clear as she is now, and she was not bored.

And fennel's temperament and habits developed since childhood are here, although Mrs. Li only said that she should be familiar with it and get in touch with it slowly, and did not ask her to write down the 1510 people on the list immediately, but since she took the list back at the request of Mrs. Li, she treated it as a serious homework, and she had to memorize it when she was free.

It's also because of my young age, I've been memorizing books for more than ten years, and I've already had my own tricks for memorizing books, which is as natural as eating and drinking.

On the basis of Mrs. Li's estrangement and proximity according to her relatives, and according to the Shinong industry and commerce, supplemented by guilds, places of origin, etc., it was only a few days of hard work to memorize the intricate relationships here.

After she was newly married, Mrs. Li began to take her out for entertainment, and when she officially appeared in the official business circle of Chongtang, she had hills and valleys in her heart, and naturally they corresponded one by one, which came in handy.

Only then did she understand Mrs. Lee's true intentions.

I also realized more clearly that when I was preparing to get married before, the elders told me thousands of times that the family responsibilities that I need to bear as an eldest daughter-in-law include......

And Mrs. Li is overjoyed, compared to the things that can be done well by lifting tea and rice, scratching her back, she needs an IKEA room, a daughter-in-law who is skilled in human affection to tidy up the family and pass on the lineage.

Although Fennel speaks and acts lightly, it is exactly different from her fiery temperament, but not only is her mother's family capable and famous, but the girl herself is also extremely smart and capable, not to mention her good health and knowledge, she can also make her son fall in love...... With so many benefits stacked together, and giving her a few snowy grandchildren, she has nothing else to ask for.

Compared with the gradual improvement of fennel, Zuo's married life has been like a fish in water from the beginning.

Although she did not dare to be humble and cautious, calm and dignified from beginning to end, the ease of her heart still made Zuo happy from the bottom of her heart.

In addition to worrying about her mother's family as always, her life can be said to be more worry-free than when she was not out of the cabinet.

You don't have to practice the cooking skills of female celebrities to quietly please the uncle and plan for marriage; You don't have to find a way to maintain food and clothing, so as not to be ridiculed by your sisters; You don't have to bother to make friends with the maid mothers in each room, so that you don't let your family become blind in the clan......

Not everyone can really have a carefree boudoir life like the eldest sister and sister-in-law in the family.

But God still treats her well, although the days before were really hard. In the days to come, as long as she is wholeheartedly and does not deceive the dark room, she will be able to maintain such a worry-free relationship with her own efforts.

But Brother Lobby looked at Zuo's who was jumping in his heart, and thought that she was even led by her sisters to climb the castle wall and look into the distance, and even eat a piece of mint cake he bought, she could be happy all day, but she was a little sad in her heart.

Because at the same time, he also saw her caution when she climbed the fortress wall, and also saw that she had wine and food, gentlemen's food, mint cakes, and filial piety to her elders......

In fact, long before the discussion of relatives, he knew that the future Yue family, the four rooms of the Zuo family would not have a good time in the clan.

I learned it from the head of the plan.

Their brothers intersected, and after the head of the plan heard about Mrs. Fang's marriage for him, he was still a little uneasy, so he went to inquire for him.

Not to mention the situation of the Zuo family, as the head of the plan said, thirty years in Hedong and thirty years in Hexi, the world has changed, this is the case, there are few families in this world that can last for a long time.

As for the four rooms of the Zuo family, the head of the house is thin and has no way out, so he can only watch the family business being swallowed up by other houses. But the name of the left family is here, which is another aspect. The people who come and go to the family are all high-ranking families in Lianxi City, people are courteous, and those who are happy and funeral are not very small in people like them, let alone the huge name of the Zuo family. You can imagine how these days are going.

However, although the head of the plan had no way to inquire about the situation in the boudoir, he also made it clear to him and told him: "Forgive me for being disrespectful, fortunately, my cousin's children have never followed his celebrity and gentlemanly style......"

But he didn't hesitate much about it.

As he said before, he believes in the vision of his parents and family. is not only the mother and aunt, but also the sisters all say that Zuo's is good, so naturally there is no bad reason.

Who wouldn't want to marry a virtuous wife!

It's just that as early as when they were discussing marriage, his father and mother did discuss with him, saying that after he got married, he would move to live in a small courtyard in Lianxi City with the Zuo family.

It's not that they have been separated from each other, but I hope that they will live alone for a while. As for the living expenses, it will be subsidized by the family.

He was indeed against it.

He understands his grandmother's intentions.

Although they all said that when they renovated the house and divided the family and property, they had already discussed it with their uncles, and the five brothers would never be separated in this life. Therefore, the old house will be returned to the public school, and not a single brick can be divided. As for these little characters, they will go wherever they fall in love in the future, they are too lazy to care, and they can't care about so many ......

can say a thousand things and ten thousand, but they are still worried that they have wronged the Zuo family, and they also think that if they are not disturbed by many trivial matters at home, the relationship between their husband and wife may be more intimate.

In the end, it's still for them.

But just like he explained to Zuo before, he also has his considerations.

After all, the grandfathers and grandmothers in the family are all old, although the parents and elders are still in the prime of life, but the younger brothers and sisters are still young.

What's more, he is still the eldest son and grandson, and the burden of the family is his responsibility.

I hope Zuo can understand.

Fortunately, Zuo can indeed understand.

He wrote back and told him that it should be so.

After all, she can't rest assured that her parents and siblings at home are at ease.

What is not announced is that although before this, she was really worried about her family affairs, but until the family affairs were close at hand, she did not understand the dilemma of being a daughter-in-law.

And Brother Lobby received Zuo's reply, and he breathed a sigh of relief.

He also comforted Yao's and told him: "The girl who grew up in the courtyard of such a deep house has grown up as much as she has been since she was a child, and the situation of our family will not be more complicated than that of the Zuo family, and my mother doesn't have to worry about her not being able to adapt to our family's ......life."

This was what he said in his heart at the time, according to what he knew at the head of the plan and his own understanding, his own family could not have as many deceitful people as the Zuo family.

But now that I think about it, I feel a little sorry for Zuo's in my heart.

I took a long breath in my heart, and suddenly my heart moved, and an idea popped up in Brother Lobby's mind.

But he didn't even say anything, but first sent a letter to the head of the plan who got married only half a month earlier than him, and then went to discuss with his parents and elders, got the approval of the elders, and received a positive reply from the head of the plan, and then came to ask Zuo: "Do you want to go out for a walk with me?" ”