If you use Song Dandan-style language, Mr. Zhu Zhi was "quite depressed" during this time, can he not be depressed when he is seriously ill? What's more, it's so heavy. In fact www.biquge.info not only Mr. Zhu Zhi, I saw a survey on the Internet today that seventy percent of Chinese people feel unhappy. I don't know where this data came from, but if you look at Mr. Zhu's friends, this data is still quite conservative.

Reminiscent of CCTV's interview "Are you happy", it makes people feel a lot of emotion. What is happiness? It's hard to put into words. Here are two stories first: the first story is about two people sitting in the courtyard chatting, imagining the happy life of the emperor. One person said, "The emperor must have eaten pork stewed vermicelli every day." Another said, "What's that?" I think he can eat two big fat chickens every day! "In the second story, two drunkards lie on the ground after drinking and think about what a happy life is. One person said, "If I had two catties of rice wine to drink every day, it would be too happy." The other scoffed and said, "If you want to drink, turn on the faucet, and all that comes out of it is rice wine, then you will be happy!" ”

We don't have to laugh at them for being so superficial and low-level about happiness, but how much do we understand happiness? Maybe we won't ask for "pork stewed vermicelli" or "drink two catties of rice wine", we will want to live in a spacious house, have a brand-name car, and have extra money to travel around the world, which can be considered happiness. Some people also think that it is happiness to have two or three wives, and some people think that it is happiness to live to be 100 years old, with a virtuous wife and filial piety, and a full house of children and grandchildren; Some people also think that if you can become a big official, you can see the response of your subordinates, and you can have what kind of pomp and circumstance you want, then it is called happiness. However, how different are these wishes from pork stewed vermicelli?

Sometimes, we all know what kind of happiness we need and what kind of happiness is. Ancient philosophers said, "Blessed is to see the mountains." We didn't look at the mountains one day, but do you feel happy? He also said, "A leisurely heart is a blessing." But in this complex world, can you be idle? He also said that "doing good deeds is blessed", "if there are often small unsatisfactory things in life, it is a blessing", "those who are not stubborn are blessed", and "pure reading is blessed". But how much can you know about such happiness? Can you get him?

In fact, the feeling of happiness varies from person to person, no one has a different understanding of happiness, and there are things that you think are a kind of annoyance, but in the eyes of some people, they are the source of happiness. Zhuangzi said to Hui Shi, "How happy the fish is swimming in the water." Hui Shi said, "You are not a fish, how do you know that it is happy?" Zhuangzi retorted: "You are not me, how do you know that I don't know the happiness of fish?" "That's sour, to the point.

Whether a person is happy or not, only he knows. Mr. Zhu has a colleague who has earned millions in his 30s, but he has never invited everyone to a meal or a drink. Everyone said, what is the point of living for people like them? If he doesn't even have a friend, what happiness will there be, how can his wife not feel miserable when facing such a person every day? It's really "You're not a fish, how do you know it's not happy?" "It seems to me that if he has a few friends, he has to go out for drinks and dinners, and he spends his money, he will not be happy! We often see some revolutionary articles in the newspapers, saying that some corrupt officials are afraid day and night because they are greedy for more money, so they conclude that those people will not be happy (advise everyone not to be greedy), in fact, it is just your own thoughts and despicable wishes, if you don't give him greed for a day, he will not be happy! Let's take another very shallow example, for example, listening to Mr. Jay Chou's songs, I will be so painful that my internal organs will burn, my liver and gallbladder will be broken, and I want to die in front of the noise; And my daughter Yingzi felt very happy, shaking her head, extremely intoxicated, and indescribably happy.

How can we be happy? Lisa Inn Plant of the United States believes that happiness comes from "simple life", success and wealth are only external glory, and true happiness comes from discovering true and unique self-expression and maintaining peace of mind. This is quite similar to what Buddhists say that "the greatest happiness in life is to let go". In the beginning, Mr. Zhu admired this simple truth, believing it to be the greatest discovery of all time. But it turned out later that what she defined as "a simple life" was actually "a leisurely life" that "don't worry about money." This is really nonsense, Mr. Zhu is sad all day long because he has no money, and he feels very unhappy!

After 11 years of research, Professor Michael Algiers, Honorary Senior Lecturer in Happiness at the University of Oxford, has come to a conclusion that people who watch TV soap operas are happier than those who don't (no wonder Mrs. Zhu and her daughter are still laughing while watching the long soap operas that are as long as the night when Mr. Zhu is still worrying about where tomorrow's firewood, rice, oil and salt will come from). In addition, he found that satisfaction and happiness do not increase with income, and that high-income people feel good rather than happy because they have the money at their disposal to shop. The things that bring joy and happiness the most are often worthless, such as some old photos, souvenirs, and some old giveaways; One of the most important guarantees of happiness, especially for men, is a stable marriage; Whereas extroverts are the happiest people because they get a lot of joy and happiness from working with people.

There is a joke: a man said: I never knew what happiness was, until one day, I got married...... But it's too late! Alain of France said that a man feels unfortunate when he has nothing to build or destroy. Therefore, many men are keen on all kinds of activities. So, there is some happiness that we don't feel when we are in it, and when it passes, we regret it. Writer Qian Haiyan said: Happiness is a button that falls under the sofa, you concentrate on looking for it, you can't find it no matter how you look for it, and when you forget it, it rolls out by itself. There is some happiness, in fact, it is very simple, he is in every detail of your daily life, to see if you can find it, grasp its fleeting figure.

This sentence really spoke to Mr. Zhu's heart. Mr. Zhu was suffering from stone disease and was dying of pain on the hospital bed, and the nurse stretched out her gentle little hand and gave a fierce needle. Ten minutes later, Mr. Zhu's pain immediately subsided, and he was all over his body, and then smoked a cigarette in the corridor, and I felt very happy. Mr. Zhu went to borrow a sum of money from others, and it was expected that the membership fee would be a lot of tongues, but I didn't expect that as soon as he said it, the other party immediately counted out a large stack of banknotes and stuffed them into your hands, at this time, I also felt very happy. If I could walk, I would be very happy.

Everyone has a different view of happiness, today I saw an article on the Internet that said that happiness is to run a small shop with your lover, bask in the sun, climb mountains, do a little environmental protection work, and manage your own small yard and life with your heart. My friend, who used to be the editor-in-chief of a magazine, said that if he could find a place where flowers and birds were singing and the water was beautiful and green, he could build a few grass houses, plant a few bushes of moon and season as hedges, plant a few rows of green bamboos as walls, a lotus pond in front of the door, a few weeping willows, and learn that he was two or three people, under the breeze in front of the door, drinking freely, reading a few good books under the light at night, writing a few pages of text, and practicing a few calligraphy, it would be a happy event in the world. This kind of happiness is beyond the imagination of mortals like us.

Don't imagine what happiness is (Rousseau said that contemplative people are fallen animals), I only know that being able to walk is happiness. In fact, happiness is everywhere, and it often comes quietly. Take Mr. Zhu Zhi as an example, it's very simple, now that Mr. Zhu Zhi has finished writing a masterpiece, if all my friends come to cheer and say that Mr. Zhu Ji's article and Mr. Zhu Ji's literary talent are unprecedented, I will feel very happy; If there is a beautiful little girl who reads Mr. Zhu Zhi's masterpiece, praises it greatly, and gladly shows her love, what a happiness it will be! (Don't let Mrs. Zhu see this, otherwise, I'm afraid it's not happiness, but hard work!) ）