In the blink of an eye (2013), my daughter is 18 years old and an adult, and now that I think about it, it seems as if you have grown up all of a sudden. Pen? Interesting? Pavilion wWw. ｂiquge。 As the saying goes, the eighteenth year of the female college has changed, and she has become a little strange to me. Back then, when you were only two or three years old, when your father came home from work, you still couldn't speak, so you kindly took out your slippers for me to wear; But when it's time to go to kindergarten, when you come home and shout for you to get a pair of slippers, you start to say confidently: the teacher said that you will do your own things! Now, if you want to wake you up from those soap operas, you're going to have to pick up a tweeter. However, what you give me comfort is that I am just like my father, I am very good at reading, and I went to Nanning No. 2 Middle School. My son is also very good, and he is more proficient in computers than I am in his 10s.

In the old days, I read an article about "holding someone else's wife on my knees", which was about the father's feelings about his daughter. Indeed, the father's feelings for his daughter are very complicated, because after all, she will become someone else's wife in the future, and she will leave the family and become a member of someone else's family. Therefore, when you are growing up, I think it is necessary to educate you well, so that the man who marries you in the future will feel that it is worth the money, and he will feel that it is a skill to be able to marry Zhu Zhi's daughter, which is a very honorable thing. I know that you have begun to grow up, you have your own thinking, you have begun to slowly form your own personality, and you have a different understanding of many things compared to your father (you can quote scriptures and quarrel with your father). But I think there are at least a few things that you have to take seriously when you're growing up.

First of all, you have to have a healthy body. Only when you are healthy, everything has a foundation, there is an old saying "health is the greatest wealth", my father also heard about it when he was young, but he didn't pay attention to it, smoking, drinking, and life has no rhythm, so now that he is seriously ill, he has more than enough energy to do what he wants to do. Moreover, the unhealthy body also brings great economic pressure to the family, the onset of the disease will cost hundreds of thousands of oceans, so much money can do a lot of things, you have also seen, every day, the father who is close to paralysis has to stuff a large handful of pills into his mouth, like eating fried soybeans, thinking about it will feel terrifying.

The second is that you must be versatile, in the future, I believe that you, as the daughter of Zhu Zhi, will definitely be admitted to a good university and can find a good job, it is far from enough for you to simply have a skill, you have to study hard and become an all-rounder, "art is not oppressive", and you will be more competitive in society with one more craft. Unlike my father, who now has no longevity, and can't do anything except write a few articles, but articles are not rice, not vegetables, they are necessary, and in society, people who can write articles are really Ganges sand numbers! If you lose your job from the newspaper, it may be difficult to find another job. I just hate that when I was studying, I couldn't learn the skills well, or I could raise chickens and stall stalls, and I could always feed myself, feed the whole family, and train you to become adults.

The third is patience. The reason why I ask you like this is that I think your generation is too self-conscious, always centered on self-performance, you have to own the TV, and you will not be happy if people change the channel; Others have better test scores than you, and you are not happy; You want something, and if you can't get it, you can't get stuffy and lose your temper. Once, I went with you to answer the bus, you just wanted to sit in a seat, but a woman pushed you away fiercely, of course you will feel wronged, very unhappy, but a society is like this, there will always be a lot of things, it doesn't matter whether you like it or not, that's what happened. In the future, you will encounter a lot of such things, studying, working, falling in love, etc., if you think that it is not in line with your wishes, you are depressed, you are angry, it will only be harmful to yourself. If my father encounters so many unpleasant things at work, if they all feel depressed, angry, and bring their dissatisfaction home, then there will be no joy in this family. So, for many things, you have to be patient and learn to treat everything with a normal heart, then you will feel happy, and that is the real life.

There is a deeper meaning to patience, which is to withstand setbacks. On the road of life, setbacks can be said to abound, and some are even big setbacks that need to be faced by themselves. In the past few decades, my father has experienced hardships that you can't imagine, so whenever I tell you "we used to ......", you are a little impatient, in fact, you are very happy now, at least in life, you have no worries. When you are frustrated, if you can't solve it by all means, then don't think about it too much, let it go for a while and look back at it, you will feel that it is not so important, so difficult. Think more about the good aspects, so that your life will not be so hard.

Fourth, don't get into any vices. You have to learn to distinguish what you can learn and what you can't, such as drug use and gambling. Don't **** friends, be sincere to your friends, don't be like your father, slippery, sometimes three sides and two knives, so there are few friends, these are some bad habits (of course, there are many people like this in this world). If you can find a good technical job, I hope you don't get involved in officialdom, because it changes human nature a lot, and sometimes it becomes unrecognized. In this world of temptation, be discerning about what to do and what not to do. It's forgivable to indulge once in a while, but in moderation so as not to hurt your body and your future.

Fifth, learn to be tolerant, one is to be tolerant of others, others have their own thoughts, have their own environment, maybe do something that you don't like, but you don't blame others for their actions, as long as it doesn't hurt you much. Instead, they should be tolerant of themselves and forgive their mistakes, and in their lives, they will inevitably take such a wrong step and do something wrong. If you can realize it in hindsight, then don't blame yourself too much. Don't blame yourself, don't blame others, including Dad, Dad didn't help you create a good background, unlike some officials, who can make your life path smooth sailing, but don't complain, we have tried our best.

It's easy to tell, but it's hard to do, and your parents are old (especially your mother, who dares to talk about me, and if you say it, it's an hour), you will nag a little more, and I hope you don't get impatient and learn to listen carefully. Sometimes your father will beat you, maybe you are really wrong, maybe your father is in a bad mood, please forgive me. If, in a few years' time, you read this article and think you're right, I think I've achieved my goal.

Taiwanese writer Lung Ying-tai's "To My Son Andre" said: You will meet many people in the future that you do not appreciate or approve of, and you must work with them. This person could be your boss, colleague, or subordinate, and this person could be the mayor or a national leader. You have to decide every time: whether to split and fight with him, or to compromise and accept. Is it worth the struggle? Compromise, peace of mind? It is very difficult to find a way between faith and reality. You'll have to find out for yourself. Feng Lun's words to his daughter. He said that 95% of a mediocre life is still 5% of an extraordinary life. Mediocre life: live a life, beg for a living, work hard, continue the social order from generation to generation according to the values of the majority, and complete the reproduction of the race. 5% of people are challenging fate and creating the future, this kind of person is destined to drift for a lifetime, but no matter success or failure, they have their own brilliance.

I think it makes a lot of sense.