Chapter 11 Dialectic
Qi Shunmin was the closest to Feng Guoying. She was stunned by Feng Guoying's words for a long time before questioning again: "Sister Feng, I heard you right, right?" You're so old, why are you still giving birth to a 'second child'? ”
Feng Guoying is eight years older than Qi Shunmin's age. However, her face looks extremely vicissitudes, as if she is two generations from Qi Shunmin. Her position is closest to Qi Shunmin, and she is usually better with Qi Shunmin.
At this time, she ignored the eyes of other teachers, and just faced Qi Shunmin and said: "Xiaomin, we want a child now, not that we hope that he will support us in the future, but as long as we can send it to the end, it is enough." Since my son left home for the entrance examination, he has rarely come back to accompany me and my family. Now he is working in the field and has a family. However, he had not been back for four or five years. Can you understand our feelings as old people? I urged him to come back every time I was on Chinese New Year, but he just wouldn't come back. Every year the Chinese New Year is spent at his father-in-law's house. Alas, we have fed this son for nothing. Therefore, before we become empty nesters, we must have another child with us, so that my family can be a little angry. We want children now just for a spiritual sustenance that can fill my family with a warm love. ”
Qi Shunmin stared at the big blank eyes, hesitated for a while, and then continued: "Sister Feng, you have to think twice." You're not too young. The risk of having children now is simply too great. Besides, although your son hasn't been back for several years, it doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't care about you. I'm not going to say good, if you get sick or something happens, your son will definitely be in front of you. But you're all right now, and he certainly doesn't need to worry about you. ”
Feng Guoying smiled bitterly: "The children we raised, if they only appear when we are in the saddest and most painful time, it is simply a sadness. We want to share the happiness with our children, not let them share our pain. If we could see our son as you say, I'd rather never see him in my life!" ”
Qi Shunmin was stunned in his heart, and felt that what Feng Guoying said made sense. Yes, if you can only get the favor of the next generation in the most difficult time, then I really hope that you will not get such favor.
Qi Shunmin thought about this, and had a new understanding of having a second child - as long as the child can accompany him through a process of life!
At this time, Hao Xiaoyan, who was running the train with her mouth full, suddenly gave a thumbs up: "Teacher Feng spoke incisively. If you really have a second child, I will support you! ”
Feng Guoying didn't pay attention to her, and when she had nothing to say to Qi Shunmin next to her, she buried herself in preparing for class.
Hao Xiaoyan saw that Qi Shunmin and Feng Guoying were no longer compatible with their own stubble, so she instigated the 34-year-old Li Yanqing and 37-year-old Ye Chengcheng next to her: "Hey, Mr. Li, Mr. Ye, since Mr. Feng is a 'high life' like him, he wants to have a second child." So the two of you are so age-appropriate, haven't you considered having a second child? ”
Li Yanqing first shook his head and said, "I can't do it." My daughter has just entered junior high school this year, and her studies are gradually becoming nervous, and I have to help her with homework every day, where can I still have the energy to have a second child? Besides, my family's unit has gone out of business. He has become a laid-off worker, if he doesn't have a stable income, how can he feed our second child? ”
Ye Chengcheng immediately echoed: "That's it." It's too expensive to raise a child in the city now, and it's really hard for a salaryman like us to support it. My mother-in-law also called my husband last night because my first child was a girl, and asked him to persuade me to have a second child. I'm not going to do it. At that time, I clearly told my husband that if my in-laws had to hold their grandson, it was okay, but there was one condition - my in-laws would pay my family a subsidy of 2,000 yuan a month. As a result, my husband suddenly lost his temper with me. As for how he confesses to his mother, then I don't care. ”
Qi Shunmin couldn't help but ask, "Teacher Ye, you are really good." It's up to you to decide whether you have children or not, so why do you want to blackmail your in-laws? ”
Ye Chengcheng hurriedly defended: "I'm not trying to blackmail them. It's just an excuse for yourself. I'm letting my in-laws know that raising a child to adulthood is an astronomical amount of money. ”
Li Yanqing deeply agreed: "Teacher Ye is right. We're raising a child now, and we're still financially struggling. How can you have so much energy and financial resources to have a second child now? I now understand that the state encourages us to have two children in the city, which is to stimulate us to consume more and stimulate economic growth. Therefore, we can't be hot-headed and think twice before acting. ”
Qi Shunmin felt that what they said made sense, and couldn't help but look back at Teacher Feng Guoying.
Feng Guoying happened to meet her gaze at this time, and read some content from her concerned gaze.
"Teacher Xiaomin, are you busy now?" Feng Guoying asked suddenly.
Qi Shunmin shook his head: "I'm not busy." Is there something wrong with you? ”
Feng Guoying immediately stood up: "I think the atmosphere in our room is too dull. Can you accompany me to the playground for some fresh air? ”
Qi Shunmin usually befriended her, and guessed from her expression that she had something to say to herself, so she nodded: "Okay." ”
The two of them ignored Hao Xiaoyan and continued to tease around the room, and walked out of the office together.
Hao Xiaoyan watched them leave, and said to the other two teachers mysteriously, "What do you guess they are doing when they go out?" ”
Li Yanqing shook his head: "How do we know what happened to them?" ”
Hao Xiaoyan smiled mysteriously: "If my analysis is correct, Teacher Feng must want to ask Teacher Qi to accompany her to the hospital to take off the ring." ”
Ye Chengcheng was stunned: "Could it be that Teacher Feng really wants to have a second child?" She's just crazy! ”
Hao Xiaoyan smiled indifferently: "Don't talk about others like this." Everyone has their own aspirations. In fact, having a second child still has great benefits. ”
Li Yanqing's eyes turned white: "Since it's good, why don't you have a second child?" ”
Hao Xiaoyan snorted in her nostrils: "I have made it clear - I want to fully enjoy my youth and not let myself live too tired!" ”
Besides, after Feng Guoying led Qi Shunmin out, he really asked her to accompany him to the hospital to take off the ring.
At this time, the two of them strolled around the campus. On this rectangular playground, the first thing that catches your eye is a flagpole with a bright five-star red flag fluttering on it. On the left and right sides of the national flag are flower ponds, which are planted with green holly and willow trees, and from a distance, the willow trees look like guards.
Qi Shunmin walked side by side with her in the green playground, and cautiously persuaded: "Sister Feng, you have to think about it, it's not easy to have a second child." Their analysis just now makes sense. ”
Feng Guoying smiled indifferently: "Xiaomin, do you think that having a second child now will cause a lot of pressure?" ”
Qi Shunmin nodded affirmatively: "For you, there is also a risk issue. It's not often that a woman your age has a baby. Therefore, you can't make a hasty decision to have a second child just because you are angry with your son. ”
Feng Guoying replied very calmly: "My husband and I have been discussing for half a night last night, and we have already thought clearly about the stakes of having a second child. He and I are both approaching old age, and we should have coaxed our grandson. However, we never saw our son's children. We don't want to let the rest of our lives be boring. So, just find something to do for yourself. If we take advantage of our old age to raise a talent who is useful to the country, this can be regarded as our last shine. Even if the child is ordinary, as long as he is with us when we are most lonely. Then our life can be regarded as adding a touch of brilliance. ”
Qi Shunmin didn't need to be reminded: "But you really want to give birth to a second child, although it adds some joy to your family, but raising a child is a very hard thing." Moreover, there will be a lot of pressure on the economic side. Do you really want to put all your pension money on your future children? ”
Feng Guoying looked unimpressed: "Xiaomin, do you think that you have to spend like that to raise a child?" In fact, if you choose to be 'poor', it may be more helpful for your child's growth. So, we don't spoil children. Since childhood, he has cultivated a hard and simple style. ”
Qi Shunmin couldn't help but smile bitterly: "However, the children in the countryside are now pampered and extravagant. If your child lives too simply, won't he feel inferior to other children of the same age? ”
Feng Guoying pondered for a while before speaking again: "Xiaomin, have you heard the phrase 'the children of the poor are in charge early'? ”
"Hmm. I came out of a poor man's house. Qi Shunmin nodded.
Feng Guoying sighed: "It's not just you, even I grew up in a family that can't meet the needs of food and clothing. But did we feel like we were living a miserable life at that time? ”
Qi Shunmin was stunned for a moment, and then said: "But at that time, the children of every family were almost the same. But that's no longer the case. Today's children are particular about comparison. ”
Feng Guoying smiled indifferently again: "Will the children who are raised in sugar water feel happy now?" ”
Qi Shunmin shook his head: "Where do today's children understand this?" ”
Feng Guoying groaned: "Yes, in fact, no matter what kind of environment everyone lives in, they live in a mood. Few of today's children live like we did in those days. My husband and I have already discussed the burden of raising children. If we are in financial difficulties, we will simply take advantage of the more difficult conditions to sharpen our children. Haven't you heard of it? Are there individual children who are forced to take on the responsibility of the family from an early age because of the misfortune that has befallen their parents? I don't think my children are like them. ”
Qi Shun sighed sensitively: "Yes." Some children who are suffering from accidents happen to their parents, and they either die or become disabled. The environment forced them to take on the burden of taking care of the family too early..."
Feng Guoying immediately said: "But I think that children with such an experience will gradually become very strong." They have the courage to face all kinds of difficulties. When such a child grows up, he must be a person who lives a very successful life. ”
Qi Shunmin couldn't help but think: "Yes, if you grow up in adversity, it will often create a child with hard-working quality and perseverance. ”
Feng Guoying's eyes lit up: "Xiaomin, you spoke well." If I had another child, I would not have left him a good legacy. But I have the confidence to give him a spirit of self-improvement! ”
Qi Shunmin was suddenly infected and nodded: "Sister Feng, I have no objection to you having a second child." This afternoon is a holiday, and I happened to accompany you to the hospital to get the ring removed. ”