I never thought my part-time job would be so painful.

There is an incident in my part-time job that I remember vividly.

The reason for the incident was that one night the workshop supervisor asked for a drink. At that time, I was tired from the workshop, my eyes were as blurry as a dead fish, and I would be happy if I could convert the wine money into a living allowance, but drinking? Well, I didn't want to do anything at all but sleep. But after thinking about it, the boss asks for a drink, can't you not go? Usually I dare not speak out because I can see through the heart, liver, spleen, lungs, and xu of these hypocrites because of my high vision, so that I pretend to be deaf and dumb all day long; Now the boss please drink and don't go? That's a face that doesn't give the leader, plus an introverted and unsociable appearance.

Then I had to bite the bullet and drag my haggard body to the bright and bright field to force a smile.

But I still think wrong, the key is not to give face to the boss, the key is that I, as the lowest intern in the company, was caught in the first wave.

"Come to Ke Guoquan, you are the youngest here, you don't want to toast the general manager!" The leader of my group said with a stern face as a teacher.

"Oh, toast, yes, no problem, I'll go toast the boss now." My eyes bulged at first, and I said angrily in my heart, "Respect for TMD's wine, I worked hard every day to use my thin arms and legs to carry eighteen hours of work on the wheels of a car, and I didn't see you helping me so enthusiastically at that time?" Now you're instigating me to use this scrawny body to toast and be so active? But after turning his eyes in the sockets, he is not a good man who does not eat the loss in front of him, this team leader is my direct administrator, what does he want you to do, after you go back, put on a small shoe for you, it is more terrible than a toast.

"Hmm! With so many leaders here, do you want to respect one? After I finished the toast and returned to my seat before I sat down, the master said with a stiff face, which means that you don't know how to be a person at this time, how will you be a person in the company in the future?

I glanced at everyone present, miserable, there are more than 100 people in a company, and I have the lowest status, which is to estimate the meaning of the whole person.

I was thinking about countermeasures, thinking to myself, if the boss, manager, supervisor, master, and senior brother, everyone toasted, then I wouldn't have to walk out of this restaurant alive today.

"Ke Guoquan, you are so bad at being a man, it's not that I said you, your boss, manager, supervisor, master, senior brother, you don't toast, will you be a man? How can a person like you get mixed up in society! ”

Just when I was thinking, suddenly a middle-aged fat woman who had drunk some wine shouted loudly with an unpleasant Hunan accent, so loud that the entire hotel floor heard it, and it was cold.

"Master, I'm afraid that I don't drink well, so I'll toast you with a glass of wine before I get drunk!" I saw that it was difficult to ride a tiger, so I had to stand up and drink first as respect.

I know these things, it's just a newcomer and a new pork, they want face, but if I respect each of them and drink this kind of thing that everyone is tortured, why bother? So I first respect this old man who has a bit of a reputation, although he has not taught me the task things, of course, he hopes that everyone will have their own people, why bother to embarrass their own people, I will drink first for respect, and everyone doesn't have to do so many things.

"New people and new pork" is a bad habit in the workplace, some people say that if you are a newcomer, you should suffer a loss for everything, and it is a blessing to suffer a loss.

This sentence: "new people new pork" is originally Cantonese slang. Pork is meant to be eaten, and "newcomers" are bullied by "old people". In the workplace, as long as you are a "newcomer", you have to be like a new daughter-in-law, doing what the "mother-in-law" is unwilling to do, and being angry with the "mother-in-law". Only when you are promoted to "mother-in-law" can you get rid of the shame of the year.

Most Cantonese people think that "mother-in-law" has survived from "daughter-in-law", and take "newcomers" as "pork" as a matter of course, but when you are still a "newcomer", don't you feel indignant and aggrieved? If the work experience is insufficient, it is fine, and the "old man" bullying the "newcomer" is often some non-business chores, such as pouring tea and water, cleaning and so on.

From the perspective of the "old man", if I don't drink this cup, then it will be "impolite", "ignorant", "can't get along with others", "individualism is inflated", and so on.

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When I drank this glass, I already had a noticeable fever in my throat. Holding back a glance, I saw a little smile on the face of the old man in front of me, although it was a treacherous smile, I just thought that I would continue to encourage myself to finish this seat, the old man is not embarrassed, the management is too lazy to pay attention to you ant-like storage zài, but you don't have the best sense of saving zài, otherwise they themselves will have to drink a few more glasses, they still have to save energy to fight those old ghosts, if they can't suppress their bull ghosts and snake gods on this occasion, their executive positions are also afraid that they will not sit steadily, they will be despised, and lose their prestige.

Who knows, at this time, the old man suddenly pressed his eyes on my cup and said, "You are not satisfied with this glass of wine, do you have such a toast?" Come and fill it up for your junior brother! And your rules are not right, after drinking this cup, go to the manager, there is a deputy manager after the manager, don't come back after the disrespect! ”

I was enthusiastic, and I was poured a plate of cold water on my head on the spot! Psychologically scolded: "The old fox dares to pit me!" This cup is obviously overflowing in your hand! "But what can I say? Can I say Master, you are wrong, this cup is full? The corners of my mouth twitched in anger, and at this moment, the only little respect I had for this person was gone, this is the workplace, there is no emotion at all, especially when you are in a group of people with a low level of education, their struggle for power and profit is completely penetrating into the bones, completely happy and angry.

I wanted to go crazy on the spot, a small company and a small manager, professionally oppressing the following people to do what they don't want to do, are you proud?

I had forgotten how I walked out of the restaurant that night, and I vaguely remember that the last glass was poured into that old face......

"Whoever comes to my table to toast must first pass Ke Guoquan's glass! He's the wine representative at our table!" I was first named by the cunning old man, and then launched as a shield.

"Come on, it's not going to be so soon? You toast Master, and Master toasts you with a cup!" This is the hateful group leader.

"Team leader, your cup is not satisfied!" I was confused.

"Then fill it up!" This person's point type fell into the stone shape of the well, and I broke it and had changed his face and filled the cup.

"Well, the team leader just said, 'Drink first for respect', you come to toast, you drink first!" I was so angry that I didn't give face to this person in front of me at all.

"Goo!" This man turned pale, swallowed the bitter water, and glared at me.

I smiled and put my glass to my lips, and was already lying down about halfway through it.

Because I didn't even finish the leader's toast, from that day on, I had an extra nickname: Don't drink toast!

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This event reinforced my entrepreneurial philosophy of creating a different company culture: treating employees as business partners, not slaves. That's why it's impossible for me to do 'what a daughter-in-law has been doing for many years'. Because if we're not the same in the first place, why should I follow your ass?

Interns want to improve their skills through internships, but it would be a mistake to think that internships are only about skills, and other than that, they are all floating clouds.

Just because the workplace is like a river and lake, being in it, you need not only IQ, but more importantly, emotional intelligence. Studies have shown that IQ, represented by skills, plays only 20% of an individual's success, and the other 80% depends on the social environment, opportunities and emotional intelligence.

Few jobs can be done alone, and the experience of countless professionals has proven that being a person is more important than doing things in the workplace.

But the experience of countless entrepreneurial pioneers has proved that doing things is much better than being people. Because people who can do things must have their character, it is not easy to shake their will to do things, so that they can overcome public opinion and succeed; And those who can't do things can be harmonious and smooth in interpersonal relationships, which is their survival skill of attaching themselves to the strong, not their skill of becoming strong.

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(To be continued...... ）