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Qi Ping hugged Youyou, patiently explaining some things to his baby daughter; Isn't it the same thing to educate children, there will always be some unexpected things that will appear, and there will always be a lot of problems to solve. Pen ~ fun ~ pavilion www.biquge.info as a parent at this time, then you really need to be patient, because it is impossible to avoid these troubles in the process of children's growth.

"Why do you want a cute bunny? I don't think you're doing it because you like bunnies, or because you need a bunny. It's because you saw that your friend had a rabbit, so you want it too. ”

Qi Ping had a headache, and the baby daughter took Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai to school, and naturally got unanimous applause; But soon, the baby daughter was thinking about it again.

"But Emma has it, and I want it too!"

The little girl said confidently, what others have, Yoyo thinks she should have too.

Qi Ping slapped the little girl's ass funny, which is why he is patiently explaining to the little girl now; It seems that there is really no problem with a pet rabbit, the family has money and someone to take care of, and even the carrots and fresh pasture in the forest farm are sufficient, and a rabbit is no problem at all; However, this really can't be the case.

"Yoyo, you can't blindly compare with people, it's a comparison, it's not good. If you think about it, you can be friends with Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai, and we have King Kong and Pooh in our family. But other children can't be friends with them, they can only envy you. And you can eat a lot of good things, you can wear beautiful clothes, these are yours, and the other children don't have it. ”

The little girl blinked her big eyes and seemed to be listening carefully, but Qi Ping knew her baby daughter very well, and the little girl was listening carefully. It's just obvious that the little girl hasn't been persuaded for the time being; She must still be thinking about getting a cute white rabbit now.

For Yoyo, this matter does not seem to be very difficult; Because the little girl is one of the most favored objects at home, she can usually make a lot of requests. Mom and Dad, grandparents will meet her requirements. So now, there is no need to worry about a little expectation of a white rabbit, it will definitely be obtained.

"Let's put it this way, you can't want it just because someone else has a white rabbit. Otherwise, there is a little friend who wants to take Pooh away. So are you reluctant to give up? ”

Seeing that the baby daughter is still looking 'obsessed', Qi Ping simply took out a big killer move; the child is still young, and the truth is to understand a little, but it is difficult to understand the more profound. Therefore, it is best to let the little girl know more about this matter. This kind of intuitive feeling can make the little girl understand some things.

"But other children don't have that much meat, and they don't have a forest farm. Pooh couldn't go, Pooh loved to run around the woods and play games. And Pooh likes me the most, he can't like a suffocating child. ”

Yoyo was proud, Pooh wouldn't like the other children, Pooh would have been playing games with her in the woods.

"Suppose, if other children have a lot of beef, and a lot of land. You should know that not only our family has a lot of land, but in fact, other children's families will also have a lot of land. ”

My brain hurts. It's really these little ones who are too difficult to educate; If you want to say that the child is at fault, it will not be. But children are so young, it's really hard for them to figure out some profound truths and stuff, so it's even harder to explain.

Seeing that the baby daughter seemed to be in deep thought, Qi Ping hurriedly struck while the iron was hot.

"You can't want to get all the good stuff, you need to see what you need right now, you have to understand if you can take care of them. The most important thing is to look at your abilities, you can't make your own choices about getting a white rabbit right now, you need to be a little older before you can make a decision. Most importantly, Dad doesn't want to see you compare yourself to others. You're just the lovely Yoyo. ”

The little girl pouted, feeling aggrieved that she didn't get a cute white rabbit; But the little girl has no way to do it now, and her father just won't buy her a white rabbit. It seems that even if she goes to her grandparents, she won't be able to agree to her now.

As for asking my mother to give her opinion. The little girl didn't even think about this possibility; Mom and Dad are in the same group, and they must have made the same choice. So if you want to get a cute little white rabbit, you have completely lost the possibility for the time being.

Now don't think about the possibility of the White Rabbit, the little girl decisively chose to go out and play games; Although the little girl wanted to get a cute white rabbit, she seemed to understand something under her father's patient explanation.

Some things, some toys can be owned, but some toys may not necessarily be needed.

This thing. It's better to listen to Dad, although Yoyo wants a cute white rabbit very much, but Yoyo has always been an obedient good child, so she won't make noise. The most important thing is that the little girl is obvious, it is true that she wants a white rabbit, but she may not necessarily need this white rabbit to be happy, she still has a lot of playmates.

"Wow, dear, I'm so proud of you. It looks like you've finally understood something that isn't meeting every need of your kids that matters. They're still young, and their ** is endless. So you need to let the children know some cruel things, such as that Daddy is not omnipotent, Daddy will not grant all their requests. ”

Kate smiled, she was very satisfied with the way Qi Ping had handled the matter; The most important thing is that this scheming guy has pushed all the troubles on Qi Ping, so the villain character who rejects his baby daughter still goes to Qi Ping to do it. And she will play the role of a good mother to her baby daughter, and she will comfort and explain to her baby daughter later.

"Of course I know I'm doing a great job, I've always been the best. But dear, I feel like we need some role reversal. Xiaoyao wants the Decepticons and you don't agree, but the result is that I refuse; Lele wants to get a set of little trains, Thomas is me going to be a bad guy, and now Yoyo wants a rabbit or I don't agree. Come to think of it, I take up the vast majority of the opportunity to be a bad guy, and that's not fair. ”

Qi Ping really feels unfair, although such things will not affect his status in the minds of the children, but he has always played the role of 'strict father', which may make the children hold grudges, which may affect the image of the father in the minds of the children. That's not good. Qi Ping felt a little worried.

"Haha, that's what Dad is supposed to do. You need to make children understand the cruelty and reality of the world, and not everything is meant to make them happy and satisfied. It's part of educating your child and it's something you should do. Believe me. As we have agreed before, this is part of your educational responsibilities. ”

Kate ran away decisively, this thing is really not easy to do, and it will always make the children unhappy; Even if the kids are just angry for a moment or something, Kate can still run. This matter is still for Qi Ping to do. If Qi Ping doesn't do well, then she will go out again; In the end, Qi Ping is just a puppet pushed out by Kate, a puppet to be a bad guy.

is really wronged, but Qi Ping also knows the importance of this matter; To educate children, we also need to make them understand that many things cannot be done according to children's wishes. More importantly, it is necessary to keep the children from having more comparisons, which is certainly not beneficial.

You can say that there are positive and negative comparisons, you can say that this is part of vanity, this is part of jealousy; But this really needs to be channeled a little bit more. Because such things are not handled well. It is easy to cause some bad things, at least it will make the children have more psychological burden in the process of growing up, etc.

If you want to talk about the positivity of the comparison heart, it is nothing more than a positive positive comparison, which is a legitimate competition driven by rational consciousness, which can often trigger positive competition of individuals and generate the motivation to overcome difficulties. That's a good thing indeed, it seems to be part of the competition, and it's certainly pretty good.

But Yoyo's comparison just now is not like this at all, so Qi Ping will chat with his baby daughter very seriously, because he knows that his baby daughter just wants to show off. That's vanity.

In fact, more comparison can sometimes have a negative impact, which refers to those negative comparisons accompanied by emotional psychological disorders, which will cause individuals to fall into a blind corner of thinking, resulting in huge mental pressure and extreme self-affirmation or denial. The biggest problem with negative comparison is the lack of rational analysis of oneself and the surrounding environment. It's just that blindly indulging in comparisons and can't extricate yourself, which is very bad for others and yourself.

This world is so real and realistic, many times the things you have seem ordinary to everyone, and what others have may be extravagant expectations for you. Then at this time, it will definitely be no good to compare and be jealous.

When there is little difference between individuals and the external conditions are basically the same, it is easy to develop jealousy. This is a psychological tendency to exclude or destroy the superiority of others. This kind of comparison also makes me very tired and makes my psychology unbalanced.

And sometimes it's simply unrealistic for people to compare themselves with others, because they don't pay attention to their actual situation; In this way, when you compare, you just compare your own shortcomings with the advantages of others, and wait for your weaknesses to confront the strengths of others, then the results are naturally conceivable. Under the premise of no principle, comparing without moderation is more comfortable, richer, and more generous, it will definitely lead to psychological imbalance and become more and more dissatisfied.

Therefore, comparing with others is the behavior of cowards, and comparing with oneself is the real hero. Therefore, if you focus on your body and mind, your life will definitely be more happy and satisfying.

So Yoyo just seems to want a white rabbit, but it's clear that this time she's just being stimulated by the little girl named Emma. In fact, the little girl may not like the white rabbit, she just thinks that others have it and she doesn't, so she wants a white rabbit, which is compared with the little girl named Emma.

This is certainly not an undesirable thing, and there is no benefit to such comparisons; It is true that a white rabbit is a small thing, but in educating children, shouldn't it be a small thing? Therefore, when it is time to be ruthless, you still need to be ruthless, because such an attitude is truly responsible for the child; Qi Ping spoils children, but not without principles.

Now I promised to buy a white rabbit for Yoyo, and it was not difficult, not at all; But now Yoyo has fulfilled her little wish, maybe next time she sees other children with beautiful dresses and cute toys...... The comparisons with others, which are endless; Moreover, in the small comparisons again and again, it will also 'cultivate' the psychology of liking comparison, which is not good.

The old Qi family is rich, billionaires, and even if this can really be bought with money, it will definitely not be difficult for their family to buy it. However, there must be people who are richer than the old Qi family, and some people's wealth figures are too much ahead compared to the old Qi family; If it seems that the value of the more proud person is not as good as that of others, it will be so psychologically unbalanced.

So sometimes you really can't blindly compare and compare, so it's really easy to only see the excellent side of others. Comparing one's own shortcomings with the advantages of others, isn't this purely looking for one's own guilt, isn't this obviously trying to block oneself?

So it's better to be smarter, and sometimes it's good to have a competitive mentality; But once it becomes the psychology of comparison, it must be paid attention to. Because this kind of comparison is not good for yourself, and it will also make the people around you feel pressure.

Then, it is very good to look at your current advantages and see your current happiness; Sometimes you really need to be content and happy, so that you will not only make yourself happier, but also make yourself a more personable person. You can't break your own way of life because of something else's things, and you can't fight completely because of someone else's things, otherwise it's really easy to get more trouble.

Qi Ping felt that he was doing a very good job, although it was just a small thing, but he was willing to do such a small thing; The most important thing is because Qi Ping understands very well that there is no such thing as a trivial matter when it comes to educating children. He is willing to contribute more to these small things, so as to ensure that the child's education and character are better.

Small things, a lot of big things are slowly reflected from small things. (To be continued.) )