Networking is no longer a simple way of life to a certain extent, and in the process of continuous development of the times, networking has a wider meaning, and it has become a training method for growth and maturity. The more people like to make friends, the wider their paths, the faster they will grow, and the higher their maturity.

When Hu Xueyan was very young, due to his poor family, he could only work as a partner in other people's stores. Although he is a buddy, Hu Xueyan's status is also very good, and he is a very respected figure.

Hu Xueyan is a person who likes to make friends. By chance, Hu Xueyan met a descendant of an official eunuch named Wang Youling. Originally, people in two circles and two cultural backgrounds could not have a common language, but Hu Xueyan felt that he was very close to Wang Youling. Through an in-depth conversation with Wang Youling, Hu Xueyan felt more and more that Wang Youling was by no means an idle person. Hu Xueyan admires Wang Youling very much and is willing to do his best to help him.

At that time, although Wang Youling had the opportunity to be an official, he did not have the cost of entering Beijing. Hu Xueyan was in danger of being imprisoned, and gave Wang Youling the 500 taels of silver he got back from his accounts, and asked him to go to the capital to be an official. Wang Youling has an official job, but Hu Xueyan lost his job because of this and ate "door plate rice". After Wang Youling found out, he deeply felt Hu Xueyan's kindness, and the two became brothers in life and death. Wang Youling is an official master, Hu Xueyan is still just a small person, in his own circle, he is a very comfortable person. Of course, Hu Xueyan is not willing to be a small person for the rest of his life, he has lofty ambitions. And Wang Youling also intended to give Hu Xueyan a chance, because he found that this young man's cleverness could always help him.

When the new official took office, Wang Youling's biggest problem was the transportation of Zhejiang grain to Beijing. Before he went to work. There has already been a second-grade senior who committed suicide because of the delay in Caomi. Hu Xueyan designed a strategy for his friends to "replace rice with commercial rice to ensure the transportation of Zhejiang grain to Beijing". To ensure that the task is completed. Hu Xueyan also went to Shanghai in person, regardless of the danger. Enter the Cao Gang and become friends with the leader of the Cao Gang with your ingenuity. In this way, Wang Youling was able to successfully complete the task, and after that, Wang Youling's official reputation was greatly boosted, and he was soon promoted to the prefect of Huzhou.

But Hu Xueyan did not rely on Wang Youling's power, he was a person who was good at making friends, and after business, he met many high-ranking officials and dignitaries. This also laid a good foundation for his later family business.

It is not easy to enter the circle of big shots, because for big shots, the special status makes the people he befriends seem to have impure purposes, which will make him very disgusted and impatient. This is why many small people are reluctant to make friends with big people. It's not as comfortable associating with the big people as it is with the small people around you. Hu Xueyan's cleverness lies in the fact that he puts his efforts in the period before the big man develops. At this time, the interaction can go smoothly.

Investing in connections is a difficult thing, and without discernment, it is difficult to find out who will make a career in the future. For growth. It is necessary for us to reach out to people who are already big people at the moment. We need to dare to step out of our comfort zone and look for big people who can motivate us. Wang Youling is not Hu Xueyan's only friend, he also has many friends who are big names with a much higher status than him, just because Hu Xueyan is unwilling to position himself as a small person. He doesn't want to be comfortable in the circle of little people.

Some high-minded people believe that the little people befriending the big people are just sycophants, bowing their eyebrows and bending their waists, and the so-called powerful people. Doesn't it all have to be a slave type to do it? Actually, this is a misconception. Whether it's the interaction of small people with people. or the interaction of big people with people, the nature is the same. It's all a need. When you become the little person that the big man needs, then is it necessary for you to lower your eyebrows and bend your waist?

Life is a kind of torture and self-liberation. We have to accept a lot of things that our hearts can't accept, and the purpose is nothing more than to make our lives better. As for the distinction between big people and small people, it is just people's sense of status that is at work. The little people and the big people were originally a kind of dignified communication, but because of the existence of these subconscious things, this form of communication was endowed with a lot of gray colors. In fact, if you think about it, it's just an excuse for being lazy that you don't want to break through. Because it is not only difficult for people living in small people to enter the circle of big people, but it is also not easy for people living in the circle of big people to enter the circle of small people.

Lu Xun once sighed: Has anyone fallen into trouble from a well-off family? Between the lines, all that is revealed is sadness and pain. When encountering accidents, people usually say that the world is hot and cold, but in fact, in terms of psychology and sociology, people in different circles naturally have a strong sense of rejection from each other because of their different lifestyles and different understandings of the meaning of life. People not only reject strange circles, but also strange people, for outsiders who suddenly enter their own circle, people also need a stage of adaptation, if the person is completely in the same way as another circle, then this adaptation will take more time. It's hard to define this kind of indifference in terms of the bleakness of the world. At the end of the day, it's just a jealousy of a strange circle, or a defense against strangers.

That's why it's so hard to step out of your comfort zone. But no matter how difficult it is for a small person to jump out of a small circle and enter a big circle, it is not as difficult as a person living in a big circle to jump out of the circle of big people and rebuild his own circle. As far as individuals are concerned, Wan Baobao is not a big man in the strict sense, but she lives in a big circle. Her original way of life, for outsiders, except for pampering, probably wouldn't think of any other words.

Even in the sense of Lu Xun's so-called hot and cold world, it is still so difficult to fall into trouble from a well-off family, and from the circle of respected big people to the circle of civilians who are not treated well, the gap during that period can be imagined. The civilian circle in the United States will not buy the accounts of the big Chinese figures. But it is precisely because of this that the breakthrough of the granddaughter of a certain big man is more meaningful, and her life is more luxurious. Back in 2001, the famous American best-selling author Spencer? Johnson, in his book "Who Moved My Cheese", has already made the point that everyone should give themselves a sense of crisis. Because life is always changing, and change means crisis. Don't think that the current comfort is a pleasure, enjoy it for a while. You'll become a fool, a fool, and you'll end up with nothing.

There's a famous Hollywood saying, "It's not about what you know." It's about who you know. "There is a turning point in life, it depends on whether you can meet the noble people in your life. The person you know is Bole. Then you are Maxima; If the people you know are mediocre, then you are a colt, and your own potential is not important in some way.

In fact, everyone is a treasure to be developed, but some people are more developed in their lives, while others are less, so there are different life situations. It's like the same piece of tinplate, in the hands of a scrap collector, just a piece of broken copper and iron; In the hands of a blacksmith. It could be an iron nail, a chain of chains; In the hands of an artist, it will be an industrial product; In the eyes of a financier, it is a wishful thinking rod, and it can become whatever it wants. Don't think it's an exaggeration, connections can determine people's fate. When a miracle falls from heaven, people's fate will change immediately. It's like entering the peach blossom paradise by chance, and in an instant, it suddenly opens up, and there is a different world. There is another kind of life. Of course, we can't live by chance, we can't wait for the rabbit, we need to have a pair of keen eyes. to discover your nobles; It takes a pair of industrious pairs, hands to show their uniqueness to every possible nobleman; You need an active brain to open up your own life, give yourself a different definition of life, and bring warmth, stability and happiness to the people around you. Of course, we need to know who we are. To become something, you must have goals and ideals. But that's not all, we need to know. Who can change our destiny.

In short, we must correct our understanding and attitude towards the network, make good connections, expand the network, learn the skills of the network, win more opportunities for ourselves, and provide a more reliable guarantee for the future. If you don't want to be a "little person" for the rest of your life, then you change your environment and try to get into the big circle, then your whole life may be quickly improved.

Even if the big guy can't give you substantial help, knowing him can change your destiny.

When he was in college, he studied economics, and his grades were not top-notch, and he even wanted to give up this course at one point.

Once, when the professor was explaining "Microeconomics", he was in a daze and did not listen, and suddenly saw the name of a person in the book - Professor Bobber, who was a well-known professor in the academic world. On a whim, he wanted to meet with Professor Bobber, even if it was just a few words.

By chance, he got the professor's address. He immediately wrote to him, though he had no hope of replying. To his surprise, the professor actually wrote him a reply! Especially at the end of the letter, the professor said something that made his blood boil: "A young man with such enthusiasm as you will definitely become a great economist in the future!" ”

He suddenly saw hope and a clear goal, that is, to study abroad and pursue a doctorate after graduation with excellent grades. I want to be able to study economics with this professor. Under the guidance of this ideal, the always boring economics textbooks were full of temptation for him, and he began to study hard, using his spare time to find a large amount of information, verify and think. No one knew that it was nothing more than a letter from a great professor that made him so transformed.

The emperor lives up to his wishes. With his sweat and hard work, he finally got the admission letter from Norton Business School in the United States. A few years later, he was hired to teach at the school because of his outstanding performance. During his time at school, he performed well and published papers in many journals, making him famous.

Fate went exactly in his own predetermined direction, and soon he became colleagues with Professor Bobber. But when he approached Professor Bobber with the letter, he was terrified and said, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I was talking nonsense!" ”

It turned out that the professor's prophecy was nothing but a lie!

After the initial disappointment passed, he sincerely thanked the professor, without the influence of the professor, I am afraid he would not be able to achieve what he is today! He is today's professor of Cheung Kong Graduate School of Business and chair professor of finance at the University of Hong Kong Chinese University, and is respected by the media as "Lang Supervision", an economist who has devoted his life to protecting the legitimate rights and interests of small and medium-sized shareholders - Lang Xianping.

This big man, a world-famous professor, didn't help Lang Xianping anything, he only gave Lang Xianping a sentence, and even this sentence was just a lie, but he gave Lang Xianping a lot of encouragement. Just because he's a big guy! His words are authoritative and inspiring.

So, even if you don't get help from the big guys, getting to know the big guys is a positive act and the best way to dig into yourself. You'll want to re-examine your network and add a little bit of brilliance to yourself. As long as you're not a rock, then meet those influential people and you'll turn into glowing gold. Now that we have entered the "post-Bole era", everyone needs to be their own Bole, see themselves as "Maxima", and at the same time be able to find and appreciate their own "Bole", even with external forces, we must exert subjective initiative to find nobles who can achieve themselves, which is a typical feature of the "post-Bole era".

Etsuko Okajima said in the book "Human Connections": Many people grow up quickly because they are lucky enough to get the opportunity to be promoted, but this promotion is not accidental, but inevitable. Etsuko Okashima said, "The common factor for those who are promoted is that they carry out 'strategic' competence development and network building in order to be promoted. ”

Without the sincere action of "three visits to the thatched house", how could Liu Bei get Zhuge Liang's full help just by relying on the shallow relationship of "knowing Zhuge Liang"? There are more people who know Zhuge Daxia, and not all of them have got the opportunity to improve themselves from Zhuge Liang.

Although it is often said that "who you know" determines "who you are", in fact, this "knowing" requires your subjective efforts. In other words, even with the help of other forces (the power of others), you have to rely on your own power (your own power) to obtain it. Of course, "understanding" is not a simple act, it is not something that can be completed only by the perseverance of "three visits to the thatched house" and "three pick-ups in Fengqiao", which requires a lot of skills and is a complex construction process. That's what this book is all about, and it needs to be patient.

Here is just a reminder that in order for you to succeed, you need to accomplish two things: First, strengthen your self-reliance. You have to know who you are and what you want to become. Second, look for other forces. Find someone who can change your destiny. To sum it up in one sentence: first, you have to do it; Second, someone has to say you can; Again, he who says you can do it.

What needs to be emphasized here is that taking the initiative to find other forces is not "going through the back door", "building a backstage", or "using celebrities to play a background light" in the sense of thick black studies, but to improve oneself through the guidance of masters. (To be continued......)