"When you say you can't get along with yourself, do you mean self-harm?" Fang Yuan remembered that when the students went to the Public Security Bureau to inquire before, they had mentioned that Duan Feiyu had a lot of scars cut by knives on his body, saying that he had once self-harmed, but after all, it was all hearsay, Fang Yuan didn't dare to directly accept it all, there was still a little bit of uniformity, but now that he heard this, he already understood.

Duan Feiyu's father nodded, his expression was a little painful, it seemed that this kind of thing had been bothering him, or that it had been bothering their family for a long time, and there was a feeling that he was secretive because he couldn't do anything.

"Can you elaborate on that? Since when did this type of situation occur? Dai Xu asked.

"It's been since he was in elementary school," Duan Feiyu's father still looked sad when he talked about it, "There was a time when he didn't do well in the final exam, and it was because he was very willful, saying that he didn't like the teacher who taught him that class, so he didn't want to take the test well, and deliberately put two application questions and didn't do it, at that time my mother and I felt very angry, how can there be a child like this, learning is to learn for yourself, right, it's not for the teacher, how can you not like other teachers because of something, It's not good for the exam! So that time I was really angry, and reprimanded him a few words, but I didn't expect the child to go to my heart, and I went back to the room without a sound, closed the door, and didn't say anything, and didn't come out all night, and I didn't take his mother too seriously, and I felt that the child was not a child who lost his temper once or twice, and he was spoiled by his grandparents before. It's not a bad thing to have a temper back now. The next day, his mother nervously told me that she had seen a blood-stained knife in the child's room. It's the one in the middle of the iron, the kind that elementary school students buy to sharpen pencils. ”

Duan Feiyu's father compared the size of the knife to Dai Xu and Fang Yuan, and then continued: "That kind of small iron knife, it's actually not very fast, I thought his mother was making a fuss, thinking that it should be nothing, at most, she accidentally cut her finger when sharpening a pencil." Boys, don't be so squeamish, don't take small injuries and pains too seriously. So he didn't take it to heart, but when he came back from school in the evening, his mother was not at ease and called Feiyu over to ask. Ask him if he has accidentally cut his hand by sharpening a pencil. He said no, and asked him why there was blood on the knife, and he said that because I said about him, he was not happy and cut himself with the knife. His mother was startled at the time, and quickly pulled up his sleeve, and when she saw it, it was really. I cut it several times, and one time it was really cut. There were blood scabs, and some of the others had broken skin, and some were red and swollen. His mother told me about it, and when I heard it, it was okay, this child is so young, it can't be said? I beat him up and told him that next time he dared to threaten his parents with such a thing, I would beat him. ”

"What happened after that? Has Duan Feiyu's behavior been restrained? Fang Yuan asked.

Duan Feiyu's father shook his head in frustration: "If he can restrain himself, won't I be worried." He glared at me and said, I hit him once, he cut harder next time, I said good boy, you dare to yell at me, and then he gave him a few more blows on the buttocks, and then asked him to go back to the house to do his homework. After a while, he came out again, with a lot of blood on the sleeves of his clothes, and a fruit knife in his hand, and I don't know when he stole it into the house, and when he saw me, he threw the knife on the ground, and stretched out his arm to show me, and there were several new cuts on it, and this time the cut was so heavy that every cut was bleeding. At that time, his mother was so frightened that his face changed color, and he quickly pulled him over to check, I also looked at it, it was not a big deal, it was all shallow, don't care, it won't take ten minutes to stop the bleeding, so I did what I said, and beat him again, what I thought at the time was that he dared to call me out, that is, to challenge his authority at home, if he was so young, he couldn't manage it, and it would be even worse when he was older! So I have to take him back. ”

"Does it work this time?"

Duan Feiyu's father shook his head again: "After beating him, I took away the knife in his room and asked him to go back to the room to reflect, and then he went back, nothing happened all night, and got up to school as usual the next morning, his mother and I also went to work as usual, our two units were far away from home, so we didn't come back to eat at noon, and we always kept the meal, Feiyu came back from school at noon, and ate it with a small electric pot to heat it up, and went to school by himself after eating, but the two of us came back from work that night, Seeing that the food left was warmed and eaten, but the others had not come home yet, normally he got out of school earlier than we got off work. We didn't take it too seriously, thinking that eighty percent of the teachers were left in the classroom, or forgetting the time to do homework at school, or maybe they were going out to play with children, but we didn't expect that we waited until seven or eight o'clock in the evening and didn't see anyone, so we both started to call and inquire from house to house, and we couldn't inquire, and then I found that his own clothes were missing two or three pieces at home, and the family's money was less than three hundred, you don't underestimate more than three hundred, Feiyu was only ten years old at that time, almost ten years ago, At that time, more than 300 yuan was almost a month's worth of food for our family. ”

"This is the first time Duan Feiyu has run away from home, right? So where did you get him back? When Dai Xu heard this, he didn't make any comments on Duan Feiyu's actions, but continued to ask very indifferently.

"I didn't find it back," Duan Feiyu's father shook his head dejectedly, "We have searched everywhere we can think of, and the relatives of the whole family have mobilized and searched for him, but I can't find it, and I don't know where he is hiding, his mother cried at home every day for a while, and her eyes were about to cry blind, or she scolded me, saying that I shouldn't be so cruel to the child, he cut himself by himself, and I beat him, so I beat him away, I also have a fire in my heart, you said that I was also a little boy year after year, I grew up like a year old, how could I not be so difficult to discipline when I was a child! But the child did run away after being beaten by me, you said that I'm a father, if I don't worry, don't worry, don't be sad. That's not realistic, anyway, at that time, our family's life was a mess. Every day, I read the newspaper for news of missing children. ”

"Then who found Duan Feiyu later?" Fang Yuan asked, she was quite surprised when she heard Duan Feiyu's father say this, although she was a girl, and her personality was a very well-behaved type for her parents since she was a child, but even if it was a male classmate or relative around her. I've never seen anyone so weird.

"No one was found, he came back on his own." Duan Feiyu's father sighed heavily, "I can probably run for half a month." When he came back, more than 300 yuan had not been spent, and there were more than 100 left, and he returned it to his mother when he came home. Say you're in a good mood. I'll come back, and if I'm in a bad mood at home, I'll leave. I was actually relieved on the one hand, but angry on the other, wasn't that threatening me? I said then I'll hide all the money in the house, and I'll see how you live when you go out! This kid told me at the time that if he has money, he will spend money, and if he has no money, he will think of other ways. This frightened his mother and forbade me to speak of him. Coaxed for a long time, I'm actually angry, and I really don't dare to say that it's serious, it's lucky, it's nothing, what if he really runs again one day, and the luck isn't so good? We're just such kids, we can't afford to take that risk. ”

"So, this is Duan Feiyu's first runaway from home, and after that, I mean apart from this time, has he ever had similar self-harm or running away from home?" Dai Xu asked.

Duan Feiyu's father nodded: "Yes, there was one time when I ran away from home, when I was just in junior high school, but that time was relatively short, I don't remember anything, originally the child was thirteen or fourteen years old, he was particularly rebellious, not to mention that our family was not easy to manage, anyway, he was unhappy because of something, it seemed that it had nothing to do with our family, so he ran away from home, since he ran away from home for the first time, our family cash is basically not less than three or five hundred, His mother was afraid that he would run away again, and the family had no money, so he was abducted or something in order to find a way to eat, so he also took the money that time, but the time was very short, it seemed to be only three or four days, and he came back, and asked him why he came back, and he said that because he was going to have a final exam, he couldn't affect the exam. Alas, this kid, I don't know what to say, it's really hard to discipline, but in addition to not getting along with himself, and running away from home, he didn't learn badly, he didn't smoke or drink, he didn't drink those little hooligans, he studied very well, and we were very helpless. ”

Fang Yuan didn't know how to evaluate the way Duan Feiyu's parents educated their children, compared to her own age, she was still a long time away from being a parent, especially disciplining such a big child, but this kind of behavior of trying to coax her because she was afraid that the child would run away from home, and deliberately left a "runaway fund" at home, always made her feel a little awkward and thought it was not so correct.

"Duan Feiyu's self-harming behavior, the most serious, what level can it reach?" After Dai Xu learned about the part of the situation about Duan Feiyu's running away from home, his attention turned to self-harm.

Duan Feiyu's father thought for a while and said: "It's probably the same as before, cutting himself with a razor blade, occasionally I have seen him burn himself with a cigarette, and I stopped him, but then I saw that he still had a cigarette scar on his body, and it is estimated that in a place where I can't see, I still have to do how to get it, this kind of thing, I can't stop it." ”

Duan Feiyu's father talked about how Duan Feiyu had harmed himself later, and there was only a thick helplessness in his tone, and there was no more worry and sadness, which made Fang Yuan feel a little strange, so she couldn't help but ask: "Duan Feiyu's behavior has never been interrupted, aren't you worried?" ”

"At first, I was worried, I was very worried, but then I wasn't so worried." Duan Feiyu's father answered this question very frankly, "At first, I was worried that he would make something particularly extraordinary, what danger there were, and it would be easy to have an accident or lose his life, but later I found out that he was still relatively measured, and he got some skin injuries or something for himself, which can really affect his body and delay his studies, he will definitely not do it." ”

This answer was honest enough, but it also sounded like it made Fang Yuan's heart jump and he was dumbfounded: "Then do you think that a person's frequent self-harm for no reason is not enough?" ”

"It's overqualified, this must be out of line, but we really can't control him, as soon as he is under pressure to study, he will be like that, or if there is any disagreement with the family, it's like that. This kid is like I said, he doesn't let the family worry about these aspects, but the study has never let the family worry about it, and a little self-esteem is too strong, always thinking about making a splash, getting ahead or something, we say that in fact, as long as you are steady, take a good university, find a stable job in the future, start a family and live, it's good, people can't force themselves so much, but he can't listen to it, sometimes the pressure is high, and he can't sleep well all night long, and we look uncomfortable. Duan Feiyu's father said with a bitter face, "If I can control it, can I not care about it, which parent would be willing to watch his child do this kind of thing, but I have managed it before, and you have seen the result, the more I manage him because of this kind of thing, the more serious the self-harm will be, so I can only endure it, he will find a way to enlighten a few words when he is stressed, and he doesn't like to listen to it very much." ”

"In addition to being unable to get along with his body, has Duan Feiyu ever had any other behaviors of this kind?" After listening to Duan Feiyu's father, Dai Xu asked further tentatively, "For example, if you have a violent tendency towards small animals such as cats, dogs, or birds, and want to beat them or kill them?" ”

Duan Feiyu's father shook his head without hesitation on this issue: "No, this is absolutely none, I can guarantee it, whether you believe it or not, although I am just a worker, I stopped studying in high school at the beginning, and my education level is not high, but I still have this awareness, the problem of our family Feiyu, I know, but it is really for himself, he will never be like that to others, I can swear to God, if he does this to other small animals or people, Then even if I beat him to death, it is impossible to let him out and cause chaos in society, if you don't believe this, you can ask others again to see if I lied. (To be continued......)