After signing the contract and returning home, Wu Wei sighed, not to mention that the house is expensive, we have less money. The house must be a thing, and Wu Wei has the leisure to go to the meeting with Qi Xiansheng. He did a great job as the head of a department at a private university, and in his second year at this school, he was rated as one of the four famous teachers and promoted to associate professor.

Wu Wei talked to him about the Northeast people and asked, you have been here for so many years, how are the Northeast people here in the Southern Capital?

Qi Xiansheng laughed and said, rough, righteous, bold in eating and drinking, tall and strong, good-looking, engaged in art, academics, and body, leisurely, willing to endure hardships, able to fight, called the Siberian Tiger. This area is liberated by the four fields, the heart is rough and righteous, it is not good to do business, and the people in the northwest can be compared, easy to blow, big talk, easy to show, exaggerated, big and loose, nonsense, a real chapter can not stand up, find an excuse to smear the soles of the feet and walk. Such a temperament is suitable for physical lì, force, rough work, less effort, fine work can not be done, rough running, but also very conceited, there is no work that cannot be done, there is nothing that cannot be done. A company asked me to be a consultant, as soon as I went, oh, rented a luxury office, as soon as I saw the vanity shelf, I was busy saying that I was almost fifty years old and did not want to do business, from the securities company have been withdrawn, when I arrived at the dinner to look for the hotel is too cheap, and the luxury office is too incommensurate. It's been gone for a few years. The people here in Nandu are very cautious, they don't say anything, they can't talk about anything, and it's easy for people to count on it. Talking about Nandu, saying that it is neat and tidy, and the hot climate is easy to cause bacterial infection if it is unclean, so it is safe to prevent it. The people on our side are not practical and mentally intelligent.

Wu Song accompanied Wu Wei and Song Rou to Hong Kong to play, but Bai Xue did not go with him for other applications. Three people crossed the border. Wu Wei saw that the flow of people was crowded, zigzag back to the bar, and went around. It is almost discriminatory and humiliating, lamenting that it has returned, why not provide convenient and fast conditions. On the streets, the people of Hong Kong are highly civilized and self-disciplined, and vehicles can still drive fast in densely populated and narrow streets.

In the car, Song Rou and Wu Song chatted again. It's not good to say that you are tired and suffer from sin, but people say that you are willing to do it. I don't appreciate you doing that, and I'm mad at you. It's my pleasure to work, but I don't even have a word of understanding, let alone a word of distress. Don't think about it. I confessed it myself. Speaking of Bai Xue again, she bought so much food and drink in the car, and she didn't have a calculation, and how much money she earned was not enough to be so bad, besides, whose money did she spend?

Wu Song was happy at first, accompanied his parents out to relax, and was happy to visit Hong Kong for the first time. But seeing that my mother was counting herself and Bai Xue, her interest gradually disappeared.

Wu Wei persuaded Song Judo. Don't talk about it in public. Although Song Rou didn't say anything, she still looked annoyed, and everything in her heart was written on her face. As long as you sit down with your child, you still have to talk about it, and you don't have to say that you want to get sick. Wu Song was also helpless, but he didn't squeak, got out of the car and walked far ahead.

Seeing this, Song Rou said to Wu Wei, look, I don't listen to it. I walked a few places like this, and after lunch, I went home, and I didn't say anything until I got home.

At noon the next day, Lao Ma asked Wu Wei to eat, and Wu Song accompanied Bai Xue to Shenxia. The classmate said that he recently accompanied his father from the third brother's house in Nandu to the old brother's house in the northeast, and the grandson, aunt, and wife went from the girl's house in Nandu to the in-laws' house in Huangcheng, and the wife returned to the northeast, leaving the girl to stay in the southern capital, and the three places were busy shuttling back and forth. I went to a northeasterner shop on Yinguang North Road in Nandu, and there were jokes with plaques in the corridor leading to the bathroom, on the urinal, and on the wall, with hundreds of seven or eight lines, small fonts, and many problems. Wu Wei wondered how people were willing to stop and play with a place like a urinal. chatting during the banquet, the uncle of the old classmate has also endured hardships and used grain and oil cloth tickets, carried beet baskets, and knew that parents are now tired of their children and have no choice. It is impossible to flow, and the conditions for flow are at their own level; Tiannan, Nanhai, and North multipolar trend; According to the customs of Nandu, sixty or seventy-year-old old ladies and children who have not started a family can only be called aunts and grandparents.

After going home after the reunion with her classmates, Song Rou made dumplings at night and waited for the two children to come back to eat, and muttered while busy, life, angry and have to worry. In the evening, he urged Wu Wei to contact Wu Song where and when he could get home, saying that he had dumplings at home. Wu Song also said on the phone that the whole thing was clean. When I got home, I still looked indifferent. Wu Wei thought about it for a while when he saw this, and planned to send a text message to Wu Song.

Wu Song was alone in the southern capital, lonely, work intensively, without on-the-job training, natural pressure is also great, once to find Wang Wei to change units, saw Wu Wei Song Rou coming, I wanted to go out with my parents to have fun, but I met my parents This is not that nor is the firepower too fierce, sooner or later, a vigorous said, at home and outside the home, as if encountering bombing intervention, upset unbearable, and not good direct conflict, take indifference to each other, their own spirit was hurt, their eyes revealed helplessness and helplessness, The expression of unbearable pain was unexpected, unprecedented, and I couldn't adapt to it for a while, so I could only avoid it smartly. That time the three of them traveled to Hong Kong, but Wu Song deliberately distanced himself from his parents, and the always harmonious family atmosphere suddenly became tense.

Wu Wei realized that Wu Song had not encountered any difficulties and setbacks in his studies, job search, and life in the past, he did not know the hardships of the world, the coordinates of his life were shifting, and his character and humanity had not been tested by complex impacts, so he needed to be pressured to adapt and integrate, and he did not experience the loneliness of calling the heavens and the earth ineffective. He warned him that although the fundamentals of your character and personality are good, you need to grasp and stick to it all your life, and there is no such thing as a once and for all, don't pass the word before and after the person, even if the good word is passed on less, if you meet a lot of heart, you will think, why don't you just say it with you if you have good words, it seems that only you can say everything and use you to send favors.

Wu Song once said to Bai Xue, my mother said it, what advantage do you have?

Bai Xue replied, I will agree if you have good conditions, who can't find an excellent one?

Song Judao, our children are stupid, why do we say everything to others.

Wu Wei said to Wu Song, people should be like a wall, their mouths should be tight, don't pass on the word, otherwise people will not tell you the truth.

Wu Song said, you are right, but sometimes it is too subjective, it is not like that at all, and I don't know what is going on with others.

Wu Weidao. The relationship between men and women can best test a person's psychological determination, disorientation and low mind. Right and wrong are blurred, and people must have a rigid bottom line.

Song Rou complained that the child had little to say to herself.

Wu Wei persuaded, we are not like this when we deal with the object, I wish there were only two people who would be together forever, and I thought that others would get in the way when they were together, and no one was allowed to ride your bicycle at that time, your mother said to your sister. Your mother told me what she had told your sister again: her car doesn't even let your dad ride it, but lets you ride it, and she's better with you than with your dad. After I heard this, I said it to you, and you said it to your sister again. You forgot about your sister's anger.

Song Rou listened, how could she be such a mother.

Wu Weidao, we should learn a lesson from the old man.

On the issue of his own son. But he couldn't turn the corner for a while.

Song Rou and Wu Song were in a state of cold war for a while. The day after returning from Minato. After they went to work, Song Rou sat at the table and said in tears, I want to write to him, we buy tickets, I was so happy when I came, I didn't expect to be angry, and I will never come again. Sit there and figure out how to write. Yes, with longing and joy. came to his son to enjoy the joy of family, but now he is going to leave sadly.

She said with tears in her eyes. I just can't be ruthless, and if I want to be ruthless, I can't be cured, but it's hard to be ruthless. As he spoke, he put pen to paper, and hesitated as he wrote. Wu Wei took it over and looked at it, there is a lack of moving place in writing like this, the flow account, you must write, you must also put it away, think about it, you can't write it well, or I'll write it.

You've written it and shown it to me.

Wu Wei said after some thought, not for anything else, and I don't want to do anything, isn't the purpose to make the child good?

Song Rou was so angry that she glared with a pair of big eyes and said, what are you talking about, do you want to make the child suffer?

Wu Wei said again, if you can't write well, I'll write it.

Song Judo, you write yours and I write mine.

Wu Weidao, do you want to see that the child is not so well-behaved? In the past, he didn't always say, my mom doesn't care what I do, it's okay soon, it's still my mom.

Wu Wei sent a text message to Wu Song, and Song Rou read it, doesn't this mean admitting that we have something wrong with ourselves?

Wu Weidao, can not be said like that, to provide the conditions of happiness does not mean that there is a feeling of happiness, happiness is purely private, we and the child each need to establish a new life coordinates, the end of the past intimate, too close life, children are independent and self-reliant, including their own independent spiritual life, especially after having their own family feeling, their own activity world, their own work and life circle, and begin to build their own spiritual home. He told us that Bai Xue gave him all his youth, she has something bad, see how he does it, and he has to take his time, so that she can easily accept it. He also told me that since he knew that she lacked a tutor, he would have to make up for it. However, I told my children that if you have a lack of character, it is not good for others to talk to you in person, and if you see it, you just talk about it behind your back, or simply ignore it. When we are parents feel sorry for our children, can we not say anything wrong when we see it, and it is the most important life reference for you.

Song Rou said, I can do anything I want, my heart is poisonous.

Wu Wei said that we cannot leave the child in this state, and we must solve it on the spot.

When Wu Wei was brewing the text message, he sorted out the matter, and then wrote, we can live happily and we don't have to worry about it, we don't want you to be troubled every day, we have our opinions, you have your opinions, do not seek consistency, mutual respect and mutual understanding, but there is a problem of social standards, create a new and civilized family model, and establish a relationship between parents and children on a new basis; In the past, I just wanted to solve the financial difficulties for my children, ignoring the spiritual problems, and cultivating the ability of spiritual self-understanding and self-reflection can ensure that there are no major worries and troubles for the rest of my life; Wisdom is needed to solve economic problems, and wisdom is needed to solve spiritual entanglements. You show a way of thinking and a style of discourse that I am very familiar with, which I also criticize in books and in class, cooking can be done by yourself, and it is original and healthy; Renting a house doesn't have to be so expensive, you don't feel comfortable, but stressful; Buying a house is for yourself; You say that the house is too messy and dirty, I don't know how busy I am, how can I have time to clean up the house, have some time to exercise, and have a good rest; You say that spending money to buy snacks costs money, and then how much can you spend, spend an extra 200 yuan a month, the money is not saved but earned, you can't always want to save money, earn so much money to improve the quality of life; I spend money to be comfortable and feel good. My child used to run home every time I had my birthday, and the year before last, he went back and said that he wouldn't be able to come back because he was busy with work. When I went home for the Spring Festival to buy a soybean milk machine massager, and I had to bring hot water to wash our feet, your mother's tears flowed out. I can't stand your pro-nature, and I order a cake online for my birthday. Now, everything has changed, it's a bit like the Cold War, and as a result, the effectiveness of what we've done has been greatly reduced, and it's become indispensable. Even helped to add to the chaos.

What is Grinding? Focus on finding fault with others' weaknesses, shortcomings, sore spots, and scars, that is, exposing shortcomings as fast, and choking people for fun. Grinding is to turn around around a thing big or small or virtual or real, there is nothing to grind out something, grinding is the original meaning, grinding the meaning. It is easy to wear out the meaning, too. The best way to face the grinding is either to stay away from the grinding or you grinding your I will do mine, and the grinding will become boring, and the bad thing is to face the grinding together and go to the grinding together, and fall into the grinding and can't extricate yourself; Go to school and grind, find a job to grind, find a partner to grind. Buying a house grinding, doing housework grinding. How to spend money on grinding, what to eat and what to wear, there is no such thing as grinding; Don't grind on private matters in public, grinding is also a skill and habit, and it has become a custom.

How did the sketch come about? Sketches are the art of sublimation of daily grinding, through guò ugly grinding and entertaining people, grinding and grinding without anything, grinding out the meaning, but also easy to dissolve the meaning, grinding off people's ambition and spirit, making people decadent. For Wu Song, because of the addition of a white snow, although the family pays for rent, and the food is also used by the family to take money, but there is a feeling of going to your small home, and you have become the master; First of all, I don't care about the house, I don't know how to maintain and protect the cleanliness of the home, I say that I can be busy with that journey, and what I can do is a mess, and I bring this vice to the unit, which is sloppy and despised, and it is dirtier than the downstairs outside; After seeing the indiscriminate purchase of food and flowers, it was not a success; If you want to buy a house, you will say that you have no money and wait until you have the money to buy it; You buy it for yourself, so far away we will not live, the excitement and joy of seeing a house and buying a house are highly consistent The atmosphere disappears because of the grinding, and each other goes from speechless to indifferent; Some people find fault with the work, even as cold as ice, the lack of character and personality but few people find fault with you, people are afraid of hurting your self-esteem, from resentment to hatred, as long as people do not delay work, they can't offend you because of this, almost bad look at your lack of character and personality where you see jokes, and spread around, so that you can take it with yourself, and there are very few mentors and friends in life.

Wu Song saw the text message sent to him by Wu Wei, returned home, and said to Wu Wei, it is very important to be a father who has made a good start, and can communicate no matter what happens to him.

Wu Wei sent a text message to Wu Song again, a family like ours should not be in the current state.

Wu Song replied, I think so too.

Wu Wei sent a long text message, the mother is sad, the child is not natural, and he is injured, the two sides are aware of the common theme of the times, challenging the traditional family relationship model, both sides deeply feel that the traditional family relationship has a warm, cordial and peaceful side of enjoying the joy of family, and there is also the evil side of strangling the children's well-behaved and lively nature and the love of parents. At the same time, it also causes parents to interfere excessively and even brutally with their children's freedom of love and marriage, and it is naturally difficult to share the joy of family, sadly both parties are caught in a stupid and absurd predicament, only by rational consciousness and reflection can it be possible to achieve transcendence and promotion, save the traditional family relationship in a state of crisis, under the light of reason, based on mutual love and mutual respect, establish a new type of enlightened relationship between parents and children, parents respect the free choice of their children and provide reasonable and moderate supply, Only by respecting and understanding the painstaking efforts of parents can children share the joy of family, provide children with a warm home and the spiritual momentum of career struggle, and parents can also enjoy their old age and establish a harmonious family atmosphere; The theory of parental scourge put forward nowadays is an extreme negation of the traditional family model that the children of the post-80s and 90s generations have painstakingly managed by their parents, and it also prompts us as parents to calmly reflect on the disadvantages of paving the way for their children, and consciously promote their children to transform into a model of self-reliance, self-reliance, self-confidence, and pride. The theory of parental scourge shows that the expectation of parents' efforts will have the exact opposite consequences, not just to feed the opposite, but to the enemy and enemy, although it is a minority, but also makes people have to face the painful reality of the disintegration of the traditional model, if parents continue to blindly follow the behavior pattern of their children who do not hesitate to pay the hardships of the saddle horse, it is undoubtedly a reaction against the trend of history, and some children mock their parents' pathetic self-sacrificing behavior with an almost inflated evil desire, which requires both parents and children to carry out deep reflection on the painful experience. In order to effectively avoid tragedy and break the future nanny-style positioning. (To be continued......)