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In Yishu's pen, Hong Kong women have always been strong, independent, and capable representatives. Mainland women are scheming, and Taiwanese women are not modern female models, and they are not as free and easy as Hong Kong women.

A few years ago, when I went to Hong Kong, I saw a girl who looked like a white-collar worker in a suit. A simple suit, a clear water noodle hair, and a no-makeup face, there is nothing surprising anywhere, but it is a unique temperament, and it is unique, the temperament of a Hong Kong woman. Thinking of Yishu saying that such women are everywhere in Central, he is not only fascinated.

However, a few days ago, the video of "Hong Kong woman violently assaulting her boyfriend on the street, and the man kneeling on the ground and howling" was uploaded to the Internet, which really damaged the image of Hong Kong women in my mind.

The video was shot for 5 and a half minutes on the pavement opposite Cheung Lung Wan Plaza, New Pier Street, Ma Tau Kok, To Kwa Wan. Watching the content, it was probably because the woman suspected that her boyfriend was taking another woman home, and when there was a quarrel on the street, the more she talked, the more angry she became, ordered her boyfriend to kneel, pulled his hair and questioned him, and slapped her boyfriend no less than ten times, and her boyfriend knelt on the ground and cried and denied, saying that he was wronged. The woman's anger did not subside, and she hit her boyfriend with saliva and snot, and cried violently, attracting passers-by to watch.

The crowd of onlookers who are not afraid of big things when they see the excitement shouts for the man to hurry up, there are also those who coax the two to break up, and some people accuse the woman of being too rude. This qiē was recorded by someone with a mobile phone and put it on the Internet, and everyone watched it very hilariously.

The incident ended with the police arresting the woman on suspicion of assault, and it is said that this is not the first time that the girl has done something to her boyfriend, who has complained on Facebook that she was beaten for much the same reason.

Although the southern girl who has always been gentle and gentle also has a "fierce" side, it is actually normal. Wherever the sun is in the shadow, the entanglement of feelings may befall everyone, strife, noise, all kinds of gaffes.

I can understand the feeling of being so angry that I just want to vent my feelings regardless of a qiē. Especially in young love, competitiveness will prevail over reason, "love or not, I can't lose anyway", the mentality of winning is the majority, so the quarrel will be particularly violent.

Of course, this report will most likely win the effect of "this woman is too cruel, and the man is too cowardly", and then derive the conclusion that such a woman can't want. But in love, is such a strong and rough one really the strong party?

I've seen scenes like this on the streets a few times, in different cities. Once, a girl hit her boyfriend with a handbag, and at the same time burst into tears, knowing that she was beating someone, and not knowing that she thought she was the one who was beaten. Another time, the man was hysterical and shouted to his girlfriend in a hoarse voice, "Why are you doing this to me, why, where am I treating you badly, you say?!" The woman on the other side was silent, and he was the only one who had a head like a clown, and his image was completely gone.

If they could find a mirror and see what they are now, I'm sure they'd be even more devastated. It's not worth it to make yourself so rude, ugly, and embarrassed for the sake of a person, a relationship. This is not the original intention of starting a relationship either.

This seems to be the strong, noisy and noisy party, but it may be the weak person in the relationship. is like the Hong Kong couple, she can't break up, and she hates him for being ridiculous, and all kinds of feelings are forced to come up, and she makes a public gaffe; As for him, he seems to be beaten, weak and pitiful, but in fact he has been repeatedly disloyal, such a person who has no principles and no bottom line has the ability to drive others crazy, and then act innocently, "I didn't mean to hurt you."

The strong are not strong, and the weak are not weak. The sweets and sorrows in many relationships are known only to the parties themselves. We outsiders only see the opportunity for a volcanic eruption, but we don't really imagine the opportunity for the magma to brew and boil underground.

A girl consulted me and said that her boyfriend always had a lot of things to make her angry, and she could be good-tempered with other people, but she would always explode in an instant with him, and that a girl who used to not be able to swear now scolds people more harshly than village women. To learn more about it, it turned out that her boyfriend had split her legs, and she originally wanted to break up, but forgave him again considering reality and feelings. So she smashes pots and bowls all day long, seemingly fierce and strong, but in fact she is vulnerable. The really strong broke up early, and it was precisely because they couldn't be separated, broken, and reluctant that they lost their demeanor, demeanor, and patience, and became a person they didn't like.

This is the internal similarity of a lot of bad feelings. You complain that he is unfaithful, incompetent, lazy and greedy, but you go, you can't leave; You don't think she loves you enough, she doesn't respect you, why don't you choose another one, ah, you can't do it, so you hate your incompetence.

So, why do you want to be strong and fierce because you are wronged, unwilling, and realize that you have lost, but you can't get rid of this ending, so you have to find a balance in momentum.

I've seen another kind of strong girl. Their grievances do not come from their boyfriend's splitting of their legs, but "I have better conditions than him". This gap in appearance, education or net worth background, they automatically use inequality in status to smooth it out. She has to prevail everywhere, she scolds him like a slave, drives him, so that she can relieve a little of the grievances in her heart. As for the man, he knows that he has taken advantage, or this girlfriend has been low and small in exchange for being small at the beginning, or he really loves her, so he can only endure it.

In the end, they couldn't bear it anymore and proposed to break up, but they felt particularly hit and tried to beg him back.

When I counseled such a girl, I said, "You must know that the reason why you are so unscrupulous is because his love is supporting you, and if you take away this love, you will be like being sucked away from your backbone, and you will not be able to prostrate yourself." So your strength is hollow, illusory power. ”

In the relationship, women are more fake and strong, and men are really weak. Women like to pretend to be strong because they are so weak; Men are used to pretending to be weak because they are really strong.

In general, regardless of men and women, love should make people beautiful and soft. Whatever the reason, if a person makes you feel the urge to go crazy, if a relationship makes you more and more aggressive, rude, and unhappy, then no matter how painful it is, you should also consider letting go, or adjusting your mentality. Otherwise, you will become someone you don't know, and they will give you a chance to get worse and worse.

Because it won't be like that with the right people. It is the realm of love in the heart and a smile on the corner of the mouth.

Love should not be divided into the strong and the weak, if you have to distinguish it, the party who dares to break up is really strong. The person who doesn't leave, and relies on his hands to denounce "why can't you love me a little more" is a complete Luther.

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The feeling essence part should be the last sentence! The one who dares to let go is really strong.

Of course, people like Youzi, who have never experienced a single love, naturally don't know the point of view of this article, which is right and wrong.