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My colleague, who worked overtime until 8 p.m., was in the elevator rubbing his brow tiredly and telling me about his daughter. His daughter was three years old, and once she lost her temper and said, don't you just want to make money? You don't have to go to work, take me out once a day, and I'll always pick up a penny. If you don't give it to the police uncle, won't you have money? So you can still play with me.

Next, he talked about another thing, when buying a house, the money was not in hand, and the parking space was not bought. Now renting a temporary parking space in the community, I feel very sorry for my car when it is windy and rainy, and sometimes I will be scratched by someone with a key, or scratched by motorcycles and other cars, which is a headache. Now there is no parking space for sale in the community where he lives, and he talked at home about wanting to find a way to buy a parking space in other nearby communities, and if he can't buy it, he will find a way to buy another house.

His daughter interjected and said, "Dad, what kind of parking space do you want?" I'll build you one with Lego. Listening to the girl's funny words, he smiled and said that he wanted a very large parking space, which could fit the car. My daughter said, "Then you can buy me another Lego brick, and I can build a big, big one."

When his daughter said these words, he laughed for a long time, but then he was helpless for a long time. My daughter is still young and doesn't know the difficulties of life, so she can say such childish and cute words, but for adults, it would be nice if things were so simple.

Another colleague, whose son is five years old, wakes up very early every day, eats breakfast with her, helps her get slippers, sends her to the door, and asks, when will my mother get off work? She usually announces a time. At that time, the son looked at the door over and over again, waiting for her to come home. Once, I had to work overtime until late, and when I went back, I saw that my son had fallen asleep, but his clothes had not been taken off. She angrily asked the nanny aunt, why didn't she bathe the child and undress? The aunt said that he firmly believed that you would come back before going to bed, so he refused to sleep, and he fell asleep when he was sleepy. I didn't want to wake him up, so I didn't take off my clothes, I was afraid that I wouldn't sleep when I woke up, so I had to wait for my mother to come back.

The colleague felt sour when he heard this, and told his son the next day that he would not have to wait for his mother to go to bed early next time. The son muttered very aggrievedly, he couldn't wait anyway, so it was better to get up early and send his mother to work. Only then did she understand why the little one didn't have to bark at all in the morning and got up on his own early.

Two colleagues, who lived a very chic life before marriage, were unhappy at work or were under too much pressure, and would resign for a period of time to adjust. Since getting married, especially after giving birth to children, I have basically settled down in one or two units. At most, it is to take a period of time off during annual leave and take the family and children out to play.

Both colleagues had thought about the idea that the couple would work alone and stay at home full-time with the children, but eventually gave up on this idea. Although when you reach the age of 30, you will generally reach the middle level, and the salary is not low, and working alone is enough for the family's expenses, but it is just a little less. However, they still insist that two people make money and support their families together.

The main considerations are as follows: first, the fear of not going to work is out of touch with society, and there is gradually no common topic between husband and wife; Second, the cost of living in Shanghai is really high, and if you feel distressed that a person can make money to support her family, the pressure of life will be relatively great; Third, and most importantly, if there are no children, the couple's life may be able to "save some flowers", but when they have children, they refuse to save on their children.

For example, raising children nowadays pays attention to "reading thousands of books is better than traveling thousands of miles", and many children start to travel after the age of five. At first, it was a domestic trip, and when I was older, I traveled abroad. Many of my colleagues' children have traveled to more than 10 countries in Europe by the age of eight or nine. Let's not talk about my academic performance, at least I speak English well, and my personality is generous. Living in the same city, working in the same company, watching other people's children go out twice a year, and their own children can only spend winter and summer vacations at home, it will be very sad to think about it.

These are not comparisons, this is just the hearts of parents. Some people may say that sacrificing the time they usually spend with their children is not comparable to how many people travel abroad. If you can't play with your child on call, and you can't sleep with your child every day, will your colleagues have regrets? Of course there will be, but this regret is just a small thing compared to the child's future.

I once heard the story of another friend. When I was young, I vowed that I would only marry the person I loved in this life, and if I had children in the future, I would never force my children to attend various training classes. After getting married, I was financially constrained, and I couldn't breathe for many years. When the children are older, they squeeze the bus to send their children to various training classes during the winter and summer vacations every year, at least two to three training classes a day. Some training classes are very far away from home, and it takes two hours to take a one-way bus, sweating back and forth, and I can't wait to collapse on the bed and refuse to get up, but I still insist on cooking for the children and doing housework, which is very hard.

When asked again, she said that parents do not have great skills and cannot give their children a very good future, and the only thing they can do is to let their children master as many skills as possible to survive in this society, so that they can take fewer detours when they become adults.

Doesn't that sound cruel? Don't you think it's necessary? Do you think that children are pitiful? The most pitiful thing is the parental heart. These parents do not expect their children to get ahead, become a dragon and a phoenix, and the only hope is to be able to have more capital to survive in this sinister society in the future, and to become an ordinary person who is not so hard.

When they were children, they didn't know what was best, and they didn't know where their interests were. At this time, the only choice parents can make is to give their children what they think is the best, let the child be exposed to more new knowledge, and guide him to find his own interests and hobbies.

Even though, after working hard for a while, he still doesn't know what he likes, it doesn't matter, he's still young and can still try. Even until the end, he didn't have any hobbies, at least he would make one or two like-minded friends with a certain skill such as playing the piano or drawing, so that he would not be so lonely. Even if, in the future, he grows up and disdains what we do for him today, it is better than him accusing us of doing nothing for him. Even if he chooses an extremely difficult path in the future, it will be a matter of growing up, and we can only bless, not interfere, let alone inaction because he may be more difficult.

In fact, this is the same psychology as letting children go to college better, not having to engage in heavy physical labor in the future, not having to survive and surviving, and having their own time to develop hobbies.

Meng's mother chooses neighbors, but she is just a fist of her parents. Being a parent, where is it so easy.

The cheap young master is still breastfeeding, so I went to work. I was very tired, I couldn't wait to go to work for eight hours during the day, I often had to work overtime, and I had to sleep when I went home at night. Children don't sleep well at night, and they always wake up, so I have to wake up many times. I am often very sleepy during the day, and after being woken up at night, I can't help but want to lose my temper. Thinking that he didn't understand anything, and that the current life was my own choice, I endured it again.

Countless times on the verge of collapse, I told myself that I would not go to work, concentrate on taking care of the child at home, and it would not be too late to go to work when he went to kindergarten. Having said that, I still worked hard every day and didn't really want to quit. Even though I often complained to my husband about the hard work, he blurted out that I don't want to work, and I earned enough money to support the family, but I still refused to quit and still insisted on working.

It's not because after resigning, the economy can't continue. Rather, I was worried that my savings would not keep up if my children needed to spend a large sum of money. He is still young, and his daily expenses are only milk powder, complementary food, diapers, clothes and fruits, etc., but he will grow up sooner or later, he needs to have a good education, he needs to have a broad horizon, and he needs to have one or two skills that are harmless. In the long run, he also needs to have his own house, car, and children, and I have to plan for him.

If Mr. Zheng Banqiao was still alive, he would admonish me in the vernacular, "My children and grandchildren are not as good as me, what do you want money for; My children and grandchildren are stronger than me, what do you want money for", I completely agree with this, and my ability is limited to help him with everything in the future. And all my help to him is just to hope that he can become an ordinary person who is not so hard. The only thing I don't want is that one day all he needs help is money, and there's nothing I can do about it.

I don't want the day when I need to test my family with money, which will be more cruel than any other test in the world.

Some people may disdain to say that this is training children to gnaw on the old. But this world is so sinister, I'm really afraid that it will be too difficult for him to work alone. In this world, usually the end of the parents is the starting point of the child, and the city in which I settle down, the city in which my child will grow up in the future; The farther my vision goes, the more likely my child will go in the future.

I'm not rich, and I'm close to the age of establishment, and I can't make the cheap young master a rich second generation (or basically) in this life; I'm just an ordinary person living the most ordinary life. The only thing I hope is that he's better not to be a poor second generation. My colleagues and I, as well as most parents in the world, have just one thought: it doesn't matter if you work hard, I hope he doesn't work so hard now and in the future.

Some people may say that the poor will also have a golden phoenix in their families, and it is better for their children to be poor. It's a matter of probability, it's a paradox, and I believe that I really exist, and I admire these people, but I don't want my children to experience the hardships themselves.

In the final analysis, the root of this qiē is nothing more than money. In the words of my colleague's three-year-old daughter, aren't you just trying to make money? Generally speaking, people who can say such things are either too young to know the importance of money; Either really too rich. Many of my colleagues have reached the "middle class" in this city, and it is normal to have two apartments at home, and they generally ask their aunts to do housework and take care of the children, but they still dare not give up their jobs lightly. Because no matter what, I still feel that I don't have enough money to spend.

When we were young, we said this, isn't it money! Now we know that money does not determine the quality of life, but without money, it directly reflects the quality of life. In the real society, people who have no money still have to hesitate to buy a few books, and their spiritual life is not rich. And people who worry about what to eat every day have a heavy life that they don't have more energy to think about such a heavy proposition in life.

My colleagues, who work hard to buy a house and a car, are just trying to build a stronger nest for their families. Trying to save money is just so that the family can take it out immediately when they need it. All the efforts we make are just to make the family more resilient and make their lives more secure. We are just ordinary people, so the difference between more money and less is even more obvious. And for our next generation, all our hard work today is just for them to be less hard.

As for the childhood of the missed child. We try to spend as much time as possible with each other, we try to empathize with them, sooner or later they will grow up, and sooner or later they will understand.