A short excerpt on the issue of "lover's single-mindedness" (although this may seem ridiculous to outsiders): Suspicion is also staged, and feelings are different in ambiguous periods and in periods of relationship certainty.

The company we have worked together is like a beautiful woman, and the married L may be surrounded by less mm than the diamond king Lao Wu S, but the quantity and quality are definitely superior. But the inducement of affection is not only that the other party is pretty, first of all, you have to be interesting, the two of you have to talk, you have to be up to his lever; Secondly, you have to like him, too. So L won't take a fancy to the front desk hottie who is courteous to him, and I always refuse to be polite to S. Although I am L's direct subordinate and close to the water, during the period when the relationship is not clear, I noticed that there are two other people who are closer to L: one is the beauty A of our department, and the other is the beauty B of the S department.

A is a relational household, authentic Bai Fumei, a classic beauty in Lin Daiyu's style, tall and tall, with a super good temperament, and several single boys in the department regard her as a goddess. L takes care of her because of her special status, and she is separated from all the hard work, and sometimes helps to block the wine at dinners. A can be coquettish, but I know that in her heart she looks down on a man like L who is both poor (relative to her family background) and machismo. At that time, L occasionally gave me verbal hints, and I would choke him: "Why don't you go to A?" "He was very helpful to my "jealousy".

B is even more unintentional about L, L often jokes with B, and takes the initiative to spread scandals and others don't believe it, because they know that this is just a means of communication with the department under the jurisdiction of the boss celebrity. There was a time when I had a cold war with L during the ambiguous period, and he deliberately told me a colored joke with B in front of me, and I was unmoved.

Because I haven't paid my feelings and trust yet, and I don't expect his promises, so at this stage, he loves to go with whomever he likes, and I still wish he would empathize and don't fall in love with me.

However, the suspicions that arise after the two sides have complained to each other are devastating.

Do you remember that after the first time I had a conversation with L, little M found a post written by mm? The actor is very similar to L, which makes my heart cold.

At the time, I thought it was written by a mm in L's field company. I have a lot of admiration for that mm, she is mature, sensible, talented, and incredibly gentle. So only a woman who can even like herself can become her fierce rival. You have to trust your own vision. If you can see it, you may be able to like someone who likes it.

But L later turned out that all this was a false idea.

The premise is that L is very busy.

In the previous company, S mixed better than him, but the culture and needs of each company are different. A man who is working hard in the rising period of his career, has no backer and no background, and speaks entirely on management ability and performance. At the beginning, even he himself said: "How can I have the leisure to fall in love, if I get together, I will break up." The nature of L's work makes it impossible for him to escape the loneliness of living away from home, and he is also used to finding a bed mate (I can tell that he has a lot of experience picking flowers and grass before marriage, although I never ask). At first, he was subconsciously casting a wide net, and after discovering that I had foolishly fallen into his hook, he wanted to find a simple woman to be a life concoctor for a period of time according to his past experience. At that time, in order to convince me to accept this kind of lover, he said something that made me angry, and I felt that I was simply regarded as a cheap commodity by him: "I can accompany you to the market and watch a movie, but the risk factor is too high." So I think the safest place is the hotel. "I immediately wanted to call him stupid.

I also wanted to pretend to be a gold girl to despise her, but I couldn't pretend to be able to do so for a long time.

Until I met L again four months later, I didn't really believe in how genuinely he treated me. I believe that I was wishful thinking and stupid, and then self-mutilated and broke my thoughts: if it was just my unrequited love, or I found out that the other party had deceived me, it was actually easier to cut off the fate of the dust with a ruthless heart.

My relationship with L is tangled, I am always passively waiting for him to give up, and he can't let go of me later. L's dewy affair experience is invalid with me, and once extramarital sex becomes an extramarital affair, things are complicated.

I've always maintained a mentality: once you've decided something, you have to do it well; Either don't do it. After I defaulted to being a lover with L, I really managed to be in a really good state. From the beginning of going to bed and not asking about the world, to later giving advice and helping him for his future. After dealing with each other, it is like a hedgehog removing its anti-counterfeiting armor, and at this time, a soft thorn can make your head bleed. We should expect future entanglements to be more painful, but that's another story.

To get back to the point, it is said that it depends on whether a man is sincere, either whether he is willing to spend time for you, or whether he is willing to spend money for you. Both are willing to give for me, and since we have been together, I can see that there is no other woman in his eyes (I can clearly feel that he has become like when I first got with him, he feels that he is "famous", and treats the opposite sex differently and in a different way). Of course, I am more considerate of him, and I will not make any excessive demands on time or money (such as not asking for calls and texts every day like a little girl). When he offered to give me an LV bag, I just felt more at ease. In fact, the function of expensive gifts is not to satisfy a woman's vanity, but to make a woman confirm the true feelings of a man. Although in the eyes of the rich bosses mentioned by D, giving luxury goods is not necessarily a manifestation of single-mindedness; But for L, it was enough to remember trying to fulfill my wishes to make me happy when I was busy – not forgetting that he had a home to take care of. I believe that he has no energy to find a second lover at the moment, isn't that sick?