In the future, human beings will not be "love cleaners", nor will they be perfectionists. They think that love cleanliness is pathological, a manifestation of unhealthy and unconfident hearts; They think it's unrealistic and unscientific to pursue perfection too much.

In terms of emotion, "large-minded, open-minded, free and easy, and intelligent" are the common characteristics of women in the future era.

Although Xia Xue pays attention to hygiene, she is not a cleanliness fetish; Although she focuses on true love, she is not a love cleaner. Of course, she is not a nihilistic perfectionist, she is a very pragmatic person.

Xia Xue feels that love is an art, marriage is a kind of science, and it is also a science: "Marriage is like sand in your hand, if you don't grasp it, it will be round and complete, and it will not fall, the more you want to grasp it, the sand will fall from your fingers, and if you open it again, the sand will be gone." Indeed, the more you try to hold on to it, the more twisted your marriage becomes!

This is Xia Xue's husband and wife wisdom and self-confidence!

It is the wise woman who "pretends to be stupid" at the right time. The husband is like a kite in a woman's hand, loosen the line in his hand, he will fly higher and farther, and the appropriate tightening of the line in his hand is the appropriate constraint, which can be loose or tight, long or short, which depends on the woman's wisdom to accurately grasp.

In a good marriage, each other must be relaxed and free, and marriage is not a saving relationship, nor is it a belonging relationship, but an interpersonal relationship.

You don't have to put in a lot of effort to prove what really belongs to you, love doesn't raise people who are too possessive, and marriage is not a refuge for anyone. Holding on to what you are afraid of losing can only show that you are not confident. Therefore, the more you want to get something, the more you have to let go.

Rational, open-minded, free, confident, relaxed, and free, this is the love and marriage wisdom of women in the future era.

"Love is an emotion, an emotion that arises from the affection for someone; Love is a strong attachment, closeness, yearning, and an emotion that is selfless and all-encompassing. ”

"Love can be easier! Love can be happier! Love can be more inclusive! Love is actually more spiritual! "Only the wise and open-minded will find this.

Only those who are open-minded and wise can bear more pain, and only those who are open-minded and wise can get more happiness!

X is the last straw that crushes an unhappy marriage. In a happy marriage, the problem of "X" will not be so prominent, Xia Xue and Li Shimin's marriage is happy and happy, so Xia Xue doesn't care so much about "X". Even when Li Shimin was weak in his later years due to old age and frailty, Xia Xue still loved Li Shimin deeply, and the relationship with Li Shimin was still as deep as the sea, and the two were still like glue, and their love was abnormal.

Only when a man captures a woman's heart can he truly have all of this woman. And if you want to really capture a woman's heart, it is not by marital relationship, not by moral rules, not by passionate X, but by true love and true feelings.

Xia Xue's heart will always belong to her husband Li Shimin, and the man she loves the most will always be her husband Li Shimin, because her husband Li Shimin has already captured Xia Xue's heart through true love.

Husbands and wives are always prone to make too intimate mistakes, requiring each other to be "crystal hearts, glass people", no privacy and secrets at all, once the husband has something to do not "honestly explain" in time, he feels that he has been deceived, and even feels that the other party has a different heart, resentment, suspicion, and then make a big noise...... Husband and wife will change from "intimacy" to "respect each other like ice".

Maintain a certain degree of independence from each other mentally and behaviorally, and be intimate with each other. Give each other and yourself a little free time and space, and the relationship between husband and wife will go further and better.

Although she has a close relationship with her husband, Xia Xue still maintains her independence. There are still a lot of secrets that Xia Xue didn't tell her dearest husband Li Shimin, such as that she is actually a human being from the future high-tech era, such as her real hometown, such as the real situation of her parents and other relatives, such as her ambiguity with the beautiful boy Mu Zeer in the Mosuo "Xianle Cave" and so on. Smart people know that they will always keep "their own secrets", and smart people will always have a private space in their hearts, which can only be entered by themselves, and no one else, even the closest people.

Everything pays attention to a "degree". If it is excessive, it will be harmful and unhelpful, and the same is true of honesty and secrecy between husband and wife, lovers, and friends. Excessive honesty is not only detrimental to the feelings of husband and wife, lovers and friends, but will have the opposite effect of destruction. Of course, the secret should also be maintained to a certain degree, and most of the frankness and a small number of secrets should be maintained between husband and wife, but the necessary secrets must be retained, and 100% honesty cannot be achieved, so as to be conducive to the balance and stability of the feelings of both parties.

The school taught from an early age that "you must always be honest and never lie, otherwise you will be a bad child", that is just a ghost talk. In fact, everyone must learn to tell some "white lies" or "harmless lies" in their lives, otherwise they will be too honest and sometimes harm others and themselves. For example, a patient with terminal cancer, who is kept secret by doctors and family members, is not under much mental pressure, and may live for a few more months, or even years. But if you stupidly tell him the truth under the guise of "can't lie", then this cancer patient may soon be scared to death. Scientific studies have confirmed that at least one-third of cancer patients are scared to death. If these cancer patients don't know their true condition, they are expected to live longer and happier. For example, when you are on a business trip or traveling, you happen to find that the husband or wife of a neighbor or friend is making out with another person of the opposite sex, but you usually find that your neighbor or friend is loving and happy, and if you tell your neighbor or friend this secret with a sense of justice based on "honesty", it may destroy a harmonious family and harm the children of that family. The ancients said: "It is better to demolish ten temples than to destroy a marriage", you think you have done a righteous and good deed, but do you not know that "those who say right and wrong must be right and wrong", you have actually done a very evil thing.

Occasional "white lies" can boost the relationship between couples and lovers, such as: "You are the most beautiful woman in the world!" Or, "You're the most handsome man in the world!" "You're so charming, you're mesmerized! "You're awesome! ”…… These are all falsehoods, but they are beneficial and harmless.