Xia Xue used to read some books about cleanliness when she was in college.

She knows that cleanliness is generally divided into physical cleanliness, behavioral cleanliness and mental and psychological cleanliness. The more serious cleanliness habit is a mental illness. For example, forced washing, repeated hand washing, knowing that it is excessive, but unable to control itself, and feeling very painful.

Psycho-psycho-cleaners will force their mental world to be absolutely clean and clean, and they must also be ready to clean up their mental world at any time, so that the psychological world is basically in a state of vacuum. The more obvious manifestation is in the social aspect, people with psychological cleanliness or such tendencies will be extremely concerned about their social circle, will be very strict to review the people they associate with, once they find that the person they are dating with anything is so-called "dirty", they will immediately be directly eliminated from their social range, even if they know each other, they will be strangers.

When a person with a psychological cleanliness habit does not like a person, everything about that person will be regarded as dirty by him (her), and even if he (she) touches it, he (she) will want to wash his or her hands or use other methods to erase the traces of that person, and even do not want to say a word to him (her) calmly.

In love marriage, there are many love cleaners in ancient and modern human beings, and they live a very heavy, depressed, and painful life.

Love cleaners lack tolerance for love, blindly pursue pure, flawless emotions, once they find that their love has a trace of stains, even if it can be insignificant to ignore, they must strive to the end, at the expense of burning jade.

People who suffer from love cleanliness are first and foremost loyal to love, but they are also often victims of love. Feelings need a certain degree of cleanliness, but there is a limit to everything, and if you go beyond too much, you can only produce a tragedy that harms others and yourself.

There are two sides to love cleanliness, there are disadvantages and advantages. Its advantages are manifested in the loyalty to feelings, non-betrayal, wholehearted dedication, and sincerity. The downside is that it can put too much pressure on the other person.

The girl Zheng Fan is simple and full of perfect ideals for love. When she learned that her boyfriend didn't have only one love experience, she felt as uncomfortable as eating a fly. Although the "truth" was found behind her boyfriend's accidental confession of "The girl I know, you are the best", she felt that her love had been diminished a lot. Next, she forced a confession from her boyfriend: "How many girlfriends have you had?" At the same time, she couldn't hold back her imagination of her boyfriend's intimacy with other women, and finally couldn't stand the feelings that were no longer clean in her eyes, and broke up with her boyfriend who was still in good feelings.

Zheng Fan suffers from love cleanliness disorder. Everyone looks forward to innocent and successful love, in a person's life, it is not easy to get a perfect and successful love, countless people are stumbling through the road of love, if you are too demanding, the pain can only be yourself.

Ms. Tian Jia has passed the age of standing and can be described as a severe love cleanliness disorder. No matter what a relationship is, even if both parties are in love and have feelings, she must inquire about each other's past like a detective. Any clue would alert her and doubt the purity of her love.

In the future, human beings will understand that the so-called pure love can only meet the needs of the mind, but cannot determine whether the love in reality is long-lasting and whether the marriage is happy. As long as the two love each other now, they can be happy, so why bother to ask each other too much about whether their love is flawless?

Many men in ancient and modern human beings have a serious feminine complex, but they are very sensitive to premarital sex. Behavior is not restricted, this is a kind of selfish love. They can't forgive their girlfriend's past, even if it's an ordinary love experience, it makes them feel like a fish in their throats and their hearts ache. A person's past has cracked a deep gap between the present and the future of two people, and they are deeply trapped in the network of love and hate, and the two hearts can no longer swim to the other side of love.

The chu female complex is an extreme manifestation of a man's love for cleanliness. Although many people love each other, they love in their own way. Love, like talking, should be a two-way communication. Speak so that the other person can understand; Love is also to be able to give each other warmth and make the other party accept. But some people's love is too selfish, and even has a "toy" mentality, treating love as a favorite toy in childhood, which cannot be shared with others. Maybe they didn't even notice it.

Some women get emotional, and there is a woman who goes to visit her husband who is studying in other places, and finds that her husband often likes to play with a child, so she suspects that her husband and the child's mother are having an affair, so they violently erupt and make a big noise, which eventually leads to the divorce of the two.

Some divorced people, they bring the cleanliness of love into the next marriage. But if they can't get out of the obstacles in their hearts for a day, they can't achieve true happiness for a day.

Lao Huang remarried. But soon, his wife couldn't stand his control. Lao Huang did not allow his wife to talk to other men, nor did he allow her to work in other cities. The wife was distressed by this. After an in-depth exchange, his wife learned that Lao Huang had a knot in his heart: the reason why he divorced his ex-wife was because his ex-wife cheated. After entering a new marriage, Lao Huang's insecurity in his heart did not disappear because of this, he was always worried that his wife would do something sorry for him like his ex-wife. When he used all kinds of harsh requirements to limit his wife, in fact, he was always in anxiety, how to talk about happiness.

In the eyes of love cleaners, love must not be flawed, and if there is a flaw, it is a smear, and all the past becomes worthless. Torture himself and his wife, and even he didn't realize that it was not the pain that stuck to him, but that he himself clung to the pain and enjoyed the pain. He is both masochistic and sadistic, with something neurotic.

Erotic cleanliness is related to perfectionism in concepts, and extremes in ideas can lead to excesses in behavior.

Lack of open-mindedness, lack of self-confidence, lack of sunshine, lack of independence, lack of open-mindedness, and lack of a comprehensive understanding of the value of life have caused the prevalence of this kind of mental illness.

"Pursue progress, not perfection!"

Don't be a perfectionist – just believe in hard work. There are no perfect people and things in the world, as long as you work hard, you will be the best for yourself. Patients with cleanliness should admit and accept that they may make mistakes, and should not be too harsh on life and lovers, and the pursuit of extreme perfection can only be counterproductive. At the same time, you should not be too absolute when looking at problems, learn to compare relatively, and maintain an optimistic attitude.

Think outside the box of thinking, try to enlarge the heart of love, make your life more fulfilling, reduce the overly heavy force attached to love, and give the other person more understanding, tolerance and trust. These are the remedies for love cleanliness.