After Guo Ping went home, she saw her parents' concerned and anxious looks, and felt very guilty, she abandoned her parents and relatives for so many years to accompany that ruthless man, it was really regretful. So she wanted to find a job to help her family earn some money, so she went to the government's doctor and nurse recruitment point to apply, but she was worried that her medicine had been abandoned for more than eight years, and the recruitment agency didn't want her, so she has been hesitant.

Fortunately, she met the enthusiastic Xia Xue and was successfully admitted, she was very happy, and she also confided in Xia Xue the grievances, hurts and resentments that she had been suppressing in her heart, and felt much more comfortable after talking.

Xia Xue was silent after listening, "Alas, the story of another infatuated woman, Bo Qinglang!" There are countless stories of this kind since ancient times, these poor silly girls! Xia Xue sighed in her heart, why are women in ancient and modern times so stupid? Women in their future generations will not be like this at all. Women in the future era put career, hobbies, ideals, and pursuits in the first place, and they feel that bad love is better than no love, and they don't take love or anything seriously, and of course they won't get hurt.

Women in the future era know that happiness is never "found", and they can only create happiness by themselves.

They know that a person's strongest, most complete, and most secure state is that her happiness only needs to be completed by herself, and she no longer needs to be pinned on another person or many people besides herself.

Women in the future era will understand: "My card, swipe it casually", "I am responsible for making money to support my family, you only need to be beautiful as a flower" This kind of plot only exists in idol dramas. In reality, I take the pocket money given by my husband to take care of my children, serve my in-laws, serve my husband, and sometimes even buy myself a better dress. Even so, they may be "spurned" by some husbands: "I won't do anything but spend money a day." "If you don't go to work, you can't even watch your children well at home."

No man would want to stay with a woman who would only ask himself for money for the rest of his life. The waist is hard when the economy is independent, especially to reduce economic quarrels.

Being a full-time wife who relies on a man to live seems to be very easy, but in fact: mopping the floor, laundry, cooking and housework, and taking care of children, seven days a week, no vacation throughout the year, no overtime pay, 24-hour standby, and cutting seeds. The palace gives birth to a man, and it does not get the care and respect of the man; You can't survive without a man, you live without a sense of security and pride all day long, and you live with grievances and depression all day long. No salary, no income, dare not buy things, no socialization, do not pay attention to dressing, and gradually become a "yellow-faced woman"; The focus of life is on the family, but it is not respected as expected. Not being understood or respected, and having to endure all kinds of cold words, what a chilling and desperate life it is.

Women of the future era know: "When love becomes the whole of a woman's life, that is the beginning of her tragedy!" This is simply a wise saying! Why do women in ancient and modern times keep making such stupid mistakes?

Women in the future era believe that good love and healthy love should have at least the following four qualities:

1. Become a better version of yourself;

2. Maintain boundaries and personal space with each other;

3. Mutual benefit and reciprocity;

Fourth, it is very comfortable and happy to be together.

First, "It's better for each other!" ”

A good love will make people more beautiful from the inside out, and it will also become better. Good love will make both parties better in this relationship. And the idea of wanting to be better is not out of external pressure, or utilitarian to please your lover, but spontaneously driven by the heart.

In fact, everyone has an ideal self, and a good relationship provides such an opportunity and atmosphere, which makes people spontaneously want to replenish fresh blood, so that the current poor self can change, become better, and get closer to the ideal self.

Second, "respect each other's borders." ”

Ancient and modern people did not establish boundaries with their lovers in advance when they fell in love, resulting in the fact that after getting along for a long time, the lives of the two became one, and it became difficult to establish boundaries.

Guo Ping is the person who lost the boundary in love, for the sake of the original promise, she completely lost her life and became an "old mother" who took care of her lover's life and daily life, derailed from society. In the end, he faced the fate of being abandoned.

Feelings are not a two-way bundle game, blindly pursuing "zero distance" feelings, that will make life boring. You are an independent individual, you will have different interests and hobbies from each other, and you also have your own circle of friends.

When you lose yourself, you will also lose love sooner or later.

By the time you find that your life has become one with each other, and you are still trying to control each other, you have fallen into an unhealthy relationship. Everyone is territorial, and it is very tiresome and uncomfortable to be constantly violated by others, even if it is the closest person.

Women in the future are looking for partners who go hand in hand, not another self, and will always remember to keep their boundaries when they are in love.

I will not lose myself for love, I will not lose my career, pursuits and hobbies for love, and I will not lose my parents and relatives for love.

Third, "the pay and the return are basically balanced. ”

At first, Guo Ping and Zhang Zhichao had an equal relationship, they both liked opera, but Guo Ping gave up her work, hobbies, life and even broke away from basic social activities for the so-called "lover". She has given a lot, and the reward she wants to get is to be accompanied by her children, and she has never even thought about being a wife.

Obviously, in this relationship, Guo Ping's efforts and rewards have become inversely proportional.

In fact, in any kind of relationship, we are all pursuing a kind of psychological balance, and so is love. If there is an extreme imbalance between giving and taking, it will be full of pressure and contradictions. The giver is in pain because of the suppressed inner need, and even complains inwardly waiting for the "settlement". Coupled with too many sunk costs, it is reluctant to break up, so that it is impossible to tell whether it is to love each other or because it is reluctant to pay for it.

In such a relationship, no one can get happiness, how can it last long?

Love is wonderful, but not all love is beneficial, and love is actually divided into good love and bad love.

Women in the future era know that good love and marriage must be mutually beneficial, must be win-win, must be mutually beneficial, and must be mutually reinforcing. For example, the love between Emperor Wen of Sui Emperor Yang Jian and Empress Dugu Jialuo created the rich and powerful Great Sui Empire together; For example, the love between Robert Browning and Elizabeth Barrett made Elizabeth Barrett, who had been paralyzed in bed, miraculously stand up, and traveled the world to write popular love poems.

Bad love, on the other hand, will hurt each other, suffer each other, and wear each other down, making people fall into the abyss. For example, the love between Anna Karenina and Vronsky led to Anna Karenina finally committing suicide by lying on the rails; For example, many young people who were martyred lost their young lives early because of love; For example, there are many criminal incidents of hurting lovers out of love and hate,...... Since ancient times, there have been countless examples of such love tragedies, and these loves are bad love.

A good love and marriage must help each other, take care of each other, and go through ups and downs together. If it is just one party who keeps making sacrifices, such love and marriage will inevitably not last long, will inevitably be unhappy, and will inevitably perish.

Fourth, "It's comfortable and fun to be together." ”

This person is easy for everyone to understand, if two people are uncomfortable and unhappy together, it is better than one person! The worst state in the world is not "single dog" and "single rabbit", but being with a person who makes him unhappy and unhappy all day long, and he can't get rid of it.

Women in the future know that the real strong are not the physically strong, but the inner strong. Even if they are smart, they will have a good life, they are very happy and happy, and they will never feel lonely and empty.

Women in the future have never asked a man if he loves him or if he will love her forever and forever like women in ancient and modern times. They will intelligently observe the man and watch his words and deeds. Through a man's words and deeds, you can know whether he really loves himself, and if you have to make a verbal promise, it is just a manifestation of a woman's lack of confidence and insecurity.

Neither dependent nor dragging, if there is fate, you will go together, and if you are fate, you will see you again, which is the best state of a person.

Women of the future era know that a good love and a happy marriage require not only passion and sincere feelings, but also superb love wisdom.

Although Xia Xue is a little angry with the infatuated and stupid women in ancient and modern times, she is indisputable and saddens her misfortune! But looking at the tearful and pitiful Guo Ping, she still felt sympathy and couldn't help but patiently explain. Persuade her to forget about that bad man, shift her attention and energy to work, and be optimistic, believing that she will definitely meet a man who truly loves her in the future.

Guo Ping is worried that she has lost her body to the negative man Zhang Zhichao, lost the most important chastity of ancient women, and now she is abandoned by the negative man, worried that she will not be able to marry in the future.

Xia Xue had no choice but to continue to explain her, enlightening her that female chastity is not important, if a man cares about your chastity very much, then he doesn't really love you. Even if you reluctantly marry such a man, you won't be happy after marriage. Because a man who cares about chastity is called a "love cleaner" in later generations, which is a kind of pathological psychology, a man with a sick psychology, it is conceivable that how can he be happy after marriage.

She also gave an example: There is a girl named Ruan Mei in the Angel Army's nurse class, who had a boyfriend named Chen Hao before she became a nurse. They are childhood sweethearts, have a good relationship, and are ready to get married immediately. But one day before the wedding, Ruan Mei was unfortunately forcibly raped by a local evil boy named Liu Xi. Dirty. Afterwards, Ruan Mei was in pain, feeling that she had lost the most precious chastity of a woman, and she no longer had the face to fall in love with her boyfriend Chen Hao and marry, she felt that the whole world had collapsed, and it was no longer interesting to live, so she committed suicide by jumping into the river. happened to meet a black-clothed guard who happened to pass by on a mission, and was rescued by Li Kang, who led the team.

Li Kang is as pale as gold, tall, burly, strong, energetic, and a lively young man. He saw that Ruan Mei, who was so sad and desperate with pear blossoms and rain, and saw her so kind and beautiful, and Li Kang, who was sympathetic, couldn't help but fall in love with her.

Li Kang is a relatively generous man, although he fell in love with Ruan Mei, he still found Ruan Mei's childhood sweetheart boyfriend Chen Hao, explaining that Ruan Mei's loss was forced, and asked Chen Hao not to care about chastity, and should comfort and enlighten poor Ruan Mei.

But Chen Hao, a childhood sweetheart, is a stubborn "love cleaner", and he heard that Ruan Mei was raped. Dirty, he was no longer a virgin, so he immediately changed his face and ruthlessly canceled the marriage contract with Ruan Mei, let alone comfort Ruan Mei.

Li Kang saw that Chen Hao turned out to be a ruthless man with a narrow heart, he was very angry, scolded him, and then went back to comfort and accompany Ruan Mei, and secretly taught the traitor a lesson for Ruan Mei. Liu Xi, the evil young man who defiled her.

At this moment, to make matters worse, Ruan Mei unexpectedly found out that she was pregnant, and the child was undoubtedly the evil seed. Ruan Mei felt that the future was dark, and once this bastard seed was born, her life would be completely ruined.

At a critical time, Li Kang boldly confessed to Ruan Mei, saying that he liked her, hoped to take care of her, and hoped to fall in love and marry her. If Ruan Mei wants to give birth to the child, the child is innocent, and he will definitely raise him as if he were his own child.

There is such a generous and good man in the world, Ruan Mei was deeply moved. But she didn't want to bury hidden dangers, and she didn't want her child to grow up to be talked about, so in the end she insisted on aborting the child. Li Kang saw that Ruan Mei was very resolute, so he accompanied her to do the abortion.

Later, under Li Kang's sincere care and care, Ruan Mei finally walked out of the shadow of her previous love, and she and Li Kang fell in love and got married happily, and they lived a very loving life after marriage. Ruan Mei later studied the nursing profession and became a nurse in the nursing class, with a job and career, her life was more fulfilling, her vision was broader, and her mood became more cheerful, and they later gave birth to two lovely children and lived happily.

Xia Xue enlightened and said: As long as you hold it in the palm of your hand and feel happy, why should it be the flower and the person back then? Learn to let go of the past. In love and married life, it is often that the East does not shine and the West shines; It is often "lost in the east, harvested in mulberry elm". Where there is no grass at the end of the world, why bother to love a flower! In fact, there are still many good men in the world, as long as you maintain an optimistic, positive and open-minded attitude, sooner or later you will meet a new true love. As the saying goes: "When God closes one door for you, He also opens another window for you."

Guo Ping's mood was already much more comfortable after talking, and after hearing Xia Xue's patient and slow enlightenment, she finally figured it out, so her sadness decreased a lot.

Later, she finished her training with excellent grades and soon became a full-fledged nurse.

A year later, when she was nursing a wounded angel sergeant officer, the non-commissioned officer who looked ordinary, but was very sincere, fell in love with her, this non-commissioned officer was three years younger than Guo Ping, but he still fell in love with Guo Ping sincerely, and finally Guo Ping was moved, and the two tied the knot.

After the wounded Angel Sergeant recovered, he fell into a small disability due to a leg injury, and walked with a little lameness, but it was not obvious, and he was transferred to the government department as a civil servant. Guo Ping married the angel sergeant and gave birth to a son, a daughter and two children, although the life is dull, but it is still relatively happy.

Guo Ping learned a lesson this time, no matter how much she loves, she can't lose her job, career and hobbies. She enjoyed working in medicine and nursing, and her continued hard work, coupled with her diligence, led to the promotion of head nurse a few years later. Many of the soldiers she treated and nursed praised her as an "angel in white", and she also gained the friendship of many friends of the opposite sex. Her new husband is a broad-hearted man who never restricts her from laughing with men, Guo Ping has since become a woman full of happiness and self-confidence, and likes to laugh, and her life has been full of laughter since then.