In ancient times, marriage was divided into six steps, which were called six rites, with profound meanings.

The first step is to Nacai, roughly similar to the later generations of the propose, but the ancients of the proposition than the later generations of solemn, so Nacai is also the first important step of marriage in ancient times, if Nacai is not successful, men and women will have no fate, this is not like the later generations, young men and women will not care about what steps are not steps, impulse to immediately step through that line of defense, first on the bus after the ticket is good, many times after the car after the girl slipped away.

The ancients paid great attention to etiquette and kept the rules, but unfortunately this traditional virtue has been rarely observed, and people can't help but sigh when they think about it.

After the lottery, it is to ask the name, what is the name? Don't men and women even know their names?

No!

Asking the name is the birth of the eight characters, abide by the traditional etiquette, if the two men and women are the eight characters together, will be exchanged by the elders of both sides of the Geng post, this is very well understood, similar to the later generations of the family, Geng post is very important in ancient times, once the exchange is basically not divorced, the hand of the son, and the son of the old, the birth of the eight characters has been exchanged, can be called an unmarried couple.

This is already a step protected by ancient laws.

For example, once a woman is asked by the man and changed her name, then she is already considered a member of the man's family, and the law will protect her marriage from interference, and this protection will be very strong......

For example, there was an allusion during the Tang Dynasty, there was a strong portal to force a peasant girl as a concubine, small farmers naturally could not resist the power of Haoqiang, in a hurry, the old man in the village came up with an idea, the girl and the childhood sweetheart man exchanged Geng posts overnight, the two sides determined the relationship between the fiancée, the Haoqiang was furious, and directly played a bully to rob the family.

The ending is very simple, things don't need the girl's family to go to the yamen to complain, one word, kill! That Haoqiang didn't even have a chance to give a gift, and was directly sentenced to a death sentence by the local county government, and rarely sentenced to death during the Zhenguan period, but he couldn't bear to rob the engaged daughter.

After asking the name, it is called Najib, which is very easy to understand from the literal meaning, and it is the man who tells the woman about the marriage of divination.

At this point, the six wedding ceremonies have been completed, and then the fourth step is almost the same......

What's it called?

It's called Na Zheng!

The word levy, there is the meaning of receiving, so the levy is to receive gifts, this time the gift can be different from the time of the lottery, when the lottery is sent two geese on the line, in addition to this is a symbolic gift of two silk cloth, but when it comes to the levy, the man must be riveted enough to send.

To put it bluntly, it is similar to the bride price of later generations.

Later generations are more practical, and the bride price is only staring at one thing, that is, money, 180,000 is no longer a problem, the more the better, the more the better (of course, there are also a large number of women's families who do not value this very much, so they will only ask the man to collect a little symbolic bride price, such as Linyi, Shandong in later generations, there is a street network writer called Yamaxia out of the water, when he gets married, he is poor, and he belongs to the kind of goods that have to be beaten if he is not careful, but this guy is talented, and he knows how to please his mother-in-law, so the bride price is very little, Only gave a symbolic 101 yuan, the name of the beautiful name is one in a hundred, and the wife of the landscape is still very proud, Xi Zizi feels that he is really a good girl in a hundred, but unfortunately the good times are not long, this girl later learned many terms, such as one in ten thousand, such as a million alone, so he was furious, and realized that he was blinded by a stinky and shameless liar, and since then he has been nagging and scolding every day, and has learned a trick to purchase durian keyboard supreme mastery...... ）

This is the acceptance of later generations, and their eyes are only focused on money, and the ancient people paid great attention to etiquette, so the bride price was also very tasteful.

Money will definitely not be given, because money smells of copper.

This is the complete opposite of later generations.

The bride price of ancient people generally gave the following items, each of which exudes a desire for a better life, for example, the poor send cloth, the rich send silk, the poor are too poor to give only one foot and two feet, and the rich have money, then a cart can be loaded with energy......

Whether it is the cloth sent by the poor or the silk sent by the rich, there will be a bride who sews clothes after putting them away, which is the etiquette of living a sincere life, which is much warmer than asking for money directly.

There is no need to worry about wasting cloth and silk when you send them out, because ancient women had to learn to knit female red from an early age, down to the common people of Limin, up to the dignitaries and nobles, even if they were princesses born to the emperor, they had to master this life skill. Sewing and mending is a traditional female virtue.

In addition to sending cloth and satin, there are many other items as a bride price, from pots and pans to pigs, horses, cattle and sheep, but all things that can be used at home can be given as a bride price.

I just don't send money!

To put it bluntly, it is for the happiness of marriage in the future, and the bride price is used in life, revealing the industrious and simple virtues of the Chinese nation.

The fifth step is called the invitation period.

What is the invitation period, the invitation period is to ask the woman if she agrees to meet her husband one day, this step is echoed by Najib before and after, and it also reveals the Ming etiquette of the Chinese people. The invitation period is the fifth step, Najib is the third step, and there is a fourth step in between.

In the third step, I came to Najib, that is, to tell you the good day of divination to welcome the marriage, and then, I did not ask you whether you agree or not, and directly started the fourth step of the bride price, and waited until the woman received the bride price, and then began to ask whether you agreed to the date of the wedding.

Can you disagree?

The bride price was received......

The third, fourth, and fifth steps are coherent, and after a little pondering, I feel a sense of polite respect. Tell the date first, and then give the bride price to make the woman happy, and then ask your family again if you agree, highlighting the gentleness and elegance of the Chinese nation.

At this point, the six wedding ceremonies have completed five steps.

Next, it's time to greet the kiss.

This step is the most important step of marriage, and both men and women finally have a lifetime.

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The first five steps of the wedding do not require the man to appear in person, and in the same way, the woman cannot easily show her head.

Everything is handled by the elders, and everywhere must pay attention to a word of etiquette. And there is no need to worry about no one to help in these five steps, because the Chinese people have special loyalty in their bones.

Even if it is an orphan without a father and mother in a farmer's family, he does not have to handle his own marriage in person, the neighbors will help, the elders in the village will intervene, the poor are not afraid, no one looks down on you poor, in the eyes of the ancients, marriage is a big deal, no matter how poor and bitter there is a warm hand to help.

Ordinary people still have someone to help, Li Yun, as a prince of the Tang Dynasty, naturally does not need to do it himself, as time goes by, his five steps of marriage have been completed.

Finally waited for the wedding......

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"Fan Yang Lu's family is full of loyalty, Lu Xiaoyin's girl is in love, although the Lu family is now in decline, but the dignity it should have must be there, Your Majesty, we still have to discuss, and the people who welcome the relatives will ponder and ponder again, and we must not deal with things in a so-so way."

It was night, the moon was bright in the sky, Empress Changsun and Li Shimin did not stay in the house, and the emperor and his family sat in the courtyard like an ordinary folk couple.

In addition to the emperor and queen, there are many people in the courtyard, looking at it, just take out a big man, the Manchu Dynasty civil and military, the royal family nobles, but all the officials who have reached the second grade are all gathered in this courtyard tonight.

The small courtyard was very crowded.

What was discussed was Li Yun's welcome.

To marry seven girls at a time, it can be called unprecedented and unprecedented, and the momentum is extremely big, but it also worries the elders who are in charge of this gang.

The handwriting of the kiss is a headache first.

Li Shimin pressed his eyebrows vigorously, and then followed the words of Empress Changsun just now, and said solemnly: "What the Empress just said is right, Fan Yang Lu must not give dignity, the manpower we agreed on earlier is not good, we have to choose another one from the heart......"

"Re-election?"

"Wouldn't that be a long day of arguing?"

The ministers in the courtyard looked at each other, and an official of the Ministry of Rites cautiously said: "Your Majesty, Niangniang, that girl from the Lu family is a concubine, it stands to reason that she doesn't need to be too beautiful, otherwise it will be rude and rude." ”

"Huh?"

Li Shimin's eyes slowly looked over, faintly with a taste of displeasure.

The emperor was just displeased, and some people in the crowd scolded his mother directly, but when he saw that the king of Hejian County stood up suddenly, he was angry and said angrily: "Shut your stinky mouth, why can't you be beautiful?" A woman only marries once in her life, so why should the king's wife and niece be weak? ”

The official of the Ministry of Rites is also a hard species, and when he heard this, he directly stood up to the king of Hejian County, and said angrily: "What if it's your niece, the identity of the wife and concubine is different, the wife is a wife, the concubine is a concubine, the wife can welcome the family, and the concubine only needs to be carried into the small door, if this tradition is also broken, then what can be left of the etiquette that my Han family has observed for thousands of years?" ”

"Let your mother's fart, believe it or not, this king will shoot you to death......"

"The duty of the official, the Ministry of Rites guards the word etiquette, if the king of Hejian County is unhappy, he can kill the official."

"Enough!"

Li Shimin had a splitting headache and suddenly shouted.

Li Xiaogong and the officials of the Ministry of Rites closed their mouths with cold faces at the same time.

The emperor looked helpless, obviously worried.

Empress Changsun stood up suddenly, a face as pure as jade was full of pity, the queen slowly stepped forward a few steps, and looked at the people in the courtyard: "This palace wants to ask for a favor for that child, a woman can only marry once in her life, Xiaoyin's girl, can't be harsh......"

Saying that, he looked at the people in the Ministry of Rites, and said quietly: "Although Xiao Yin is a concubine, she is the head of the concubines. Besides, she didn't just work hard, she really had merit, and most of the Fan Yang's trading loyalty made by the lord of the Bohai Sea was handled by a few girls, Xiao Yin was one of them, and she still served as the auctioneer of the trading center. ”

The queen begged in person, but the officials of the Ministry of Rites did not dare to stiffen the top, but there was still some prevarication, and they all acted as excuses: "But there are not enough people to welcome relatives, so you can't transfer the people who greet the other six wives to the Lu family." If this is the case, the other six families will definitely not want to. ”

"It's just a good look, and it's very easy to solve." Empress Eldest Sun smiled lightly and continued to work hard to persuade the group of dead brains in the Ministry of Rites.

The previous official was very hard-boned, and suddenly sneered: "The queen said it easily, but the minister wants to ask you how to solve it?" Since ancient times, the six ceremonies of the wedding, greeting relatives is the top priority, not only the man must come to the door in person, but also the accompanying concubine must also choose carefully, not the elders, not the younger generations, must be the same generation, but also must be the leader among the same generation......"

Speaking of this, he paused slightly, and said in a slightly softened tone: "If it is an ordinary person, it is just that, ordinary people can find a concubine who welcomes their relatives, but the lord of Bohai is a prince, and his concubine can not deal with it indiscriminately, queen, you should tell me, how to solve this matter, Weichen is not deliberately embarrassed, I really can't think of any manpower, not to mention anything else, just say that the peer is limited, the lord of Bohai is among the princes, who can compare with his peers, even if he can barely find some, But who of us in Datang dares to claim to be the leader of his generation in front of him? ”

Empress Eldest Sun seemed to have a plan, and when she heard this, she smiled lightly again, and said leisurely: "This palace still thinks it is very easy to solve. ”

The official of the Ministry of Rites was slightly stunned.

Not only this official of the Ministry of Rites, but also the officials present, even Li Shimin was curious, and couldn't help but ask in a low voice: "Guanyin, what are your plans?" ”

The queen turned around and glanced at the emperor, and suddenly burst out laughing, and under the smile, she seemed to deliberately enliven the atmosphere, and deliberately said in a narrow tone: "The concubine has been pondering these days, what is the concubine responsible for doing, thinking about it and thinking about it, but in the end she only thinks of a chore, what is it?" It's ...... to be beaten."

Li Shimin was stunned for a moment, and said with a slight surprise: "What does this have to do with the candidate?" ”

"It's a big deal!"

Empress Changsun smiled again, and suddenly said: "Since you are accompanying you to be beaten, then the concubines have too many people to choose from, right, there are at least hundreds of people in the third generation of our royal family." ”

Li Shimin frowned slightly, and subconsciously said: "But you need to be a leader of your peers." ”

The official of the Ministry of Rites just now followed closely and said, "At least it must be a talent who can be literate and martial......

This official is not deliberately finding fault, but as an official of the Ministry of Rites, he must abide by the rules, the so-called seeking his own government in his position, he obeys the rules and the queen will not be guilty of his words, on the contrary, if everything is submissive, then I am afraid that he will lose his official body.

The eldest grandson queen is so generous, naturally she will not be angry with the officials of the Ministry of Rites, the queen slowly glanced at everyone, and finally put her eyes on Li Shimin, and finally explained: "Your Majesty, the prince is available!" ”

Without waiting for Li Shimin to react, the queen turned her head to look at the official of the Ministry of Rites, and said: "The lord of the Bohai Kingdom welcomes his relatives and dispatches His Majesty's princes, they are cousins of the same generation, and there is no problem at all in terms of seniority, as for the leaders of the same generation...... Who dares to say that His Majesty's prince is not successful? ”

The official of the Ministry of Rites couldn't speak.

This time, even if you follow the rules, you won't dare to hard-top.

After all, several of His Majesty's princes are also the queen's princes, and all mothers in the world have the same bad temper, that is, no matter whether their son is good or bad, others are not allowed to criticize him, if he dares to say that the prince is not qualified now, I am afraid that the queen who has always been elegant and generous will immediately go crazy.

"Hahaha, good!"

Li Shimin slapped his thigh suddenly, and praised again and again: "Guanyin's proposal is good, just do it according to your wishes, this time the Bohai lord is married, I will give him the prince to match, in addition to the previously selected concubine, I will assign a few princes in each welcoming team, the prince from the side concubine and the concubine will be the auxiliary concubine, and the prince from the queen and the concubine will be the leader, so that the matter will be done!" ”

The emperor said so, and who dared to bare his teeth below, so the big thing was finally decided, and everyone present felt a sigh of relief.

Suddenly, the official of the Ministry of Rites raised the matter, and said with sorrow: "If the leader of the team needs the queen and the concubine to come out, then you have to send someone to inform you quickly, the time is already a little late, and I am afraid that the marriage will be delayed if it is late." ”

Li Shimin stood up suddenly, but seeing the emperor's solemn face, he said: "I have decided, for the sake of the royal private affairs, I will use my personal power, pass the decree, and order the army to dispatch Hongling urgently, and ride people for eight hundred miles without stopping, go to Fanyang, Shandong, and Shanxi, and call all those princes over, and let them be concubines for the arrival of the cousin......

Promise!

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It is the first time that Datang has not dispatched Hongling Urgent Envoy because of the war!

Riding 800 miles is not just for fun.

The wind is galloping, a thousand miles a day, the people on the road do not stop, and it only takes five or six days from Guanwai to the Central Plains.

The three princes who were notified set off without hesitation.

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On this day, it is finally time to welcome relatives.

In ancient times, marriage was at night, which was called dusk, hence the name marriage.

Although the wedding is in the evening, the wedding is in the afternoon, because there must be various etiquette when the wedding is welcomed, and it even takes two or three hours to complete a wedding, and when the person is brought back, it is likely to be the evening of sunset.

There is only one groom, and he has to marry seven at the same time, so at this time, the bridegroom must go to open the way first, and the woman's maiden family also receives the bridegroom.

In the Tang Dynasty, there was no saying that there was a hole in the house, but it does not mean that there is no need to make trouble when getting married.

Since you don't go to the cave room to make trouble, then the trouble must be the time to welcome your relatives.

And these people, who are the bridegroom's maids, are going to make a lot of trouble for the woman's mother's family......

Among the seven girls, the first to greet the Lu family was the Lu family.

In the afternoon of the same day, the first grand team came to the door, and if anyone who is familiar with the high-level of Datang takes a look, I am afraid that they will be surprised by the size of the team.

There are seven people alone.

The leader is a prince.

And the woman's Lu family's side has already been waiting for the sharpening of their knives.