Cui Mama didn't dodge, solemnly returned the salute, and said: "The concubine is willing to listen to Lord Wei's advice, please just say it, the reason will only become clearer and clearer." ”

The posture is very good. Wei Yan silently showed a smile, the white dangling teeth were so big and piercing eyes, the smile was called a kindness, that was called a brilliant one, even the most picky person, seeing such a smile, could not help but put on a straight face.

That Cui Mama was obviously ready to be scolded by Wei Yan, and when she was suddenly given such a smile, she couldn't help but be startled, and couldn't help but take a step back, her face full of confusion. Wei Yan smiled evilly in his heart, met the disapproving eyes of Empress Eldest Sun, straightened his face, and stopped teasing Mama Cui.

Wei Yan Zhengse said: "First, I want to ask Mama Cui a question, and by the way, I also ask the queen mother to listen to it." ”

Empress Eldest Sun smiled slightly and said, "Ziyue, please speak." ”

Even Empress Changsun was so polite to Wei Yan, and Mama Cui was naturally polite, not to mention that she was originally a teacher of etiquette, so she was particular about this, and said to Wei Yan: "Lord Wei, please say, but whatever the concubine can do, she must know everything and say everything." ”

Wei Yan said with a smile: "It's not that serious, it's just a very simple problem." I want to ask Niangniang and Mr. Cui, what kind of person do you want to teach Princess Son to be? ”

"This ......"

Empress Eldest Sun obviously understood what Wei Yan meant, and fell into deep thought. Cui Mama said proudly: "Niangniang, Master Wei, the direction of the concubine's efforts." I want to teach the princess to be a good woman who is knowledgeable, gentle and dignified, smart and virtuous, and in the future, everyone will admire the princess's demeanor and fall for the princess's demeanor. ”

Wei Yan resisted the urge to roll his eyes, grinned, and couldn't even show the most basic smile, just lazily, but very sharply threw out a sentence: "And then after teaching, it's like Mr. Cui?" ”

"You're ......!"

Mama Cui's face turned red, then yellow. Then one white, then one blue, like a traffic light, no, it's one more color than a traffic light. Empress Eldest Sun paused for a moment: "Ziyue, Mr. Cui is the etiquette instructor of the Cui family of the famous family, and he must not be unreasonable to her." ”

"Yes, Niangniang, then Weichen should change his words."

Wei Yan obediently responded, and the eldest grandson queen opened her mouth to plead. He doesn't want to bully people too much. Wei Yan said loudly: "Niangniang, Mr. Cui, I think that to teach children, we must pay attention to ways and means, let's first make it clear, what kind of person we want to teach children to become, is a person who only knows how to do things according to the rules in every word and deed, is rigid, stupid, and can't even laugh comfortably, or a beautiful, wise, and confident, even if he is alone." People who can also live well in the world. Mr. Cui is well-informed, and to take a sentence that my father-in-law often said, that is, we eat more salt than we eat, and a junior like me can't catch up with it, and I can't compare. Has Mr. Cui ever seen a cat raising a cub? ”

Cui Mama said: "I have seen the land, what does this have to do with the topic of Lord Wei?" ”

Wei Yan said: "I remember when I was a child. Not far from her home lives a pregnant female cat. Every day I worked hard to find food, avoiding the bullying of other cats, and finally gave birth to a litter of kittens, and then it was hard work, until the kittens opened their eyes, learned to walk and crawl, and the cat mothers led the kittens to play together after they came back from predation every day. Afterward. The kittens have grown up, and it's time for independence. However, the kittens were reluctant to leave the mother cat, and kept wailing and begging, just wanting the mother not to leave, but the mother cat still did not hesitate to drive each kitten away and let them survive independently. This world is very big, not every kitten can live safely all the time, some may starve to death, some will die in the fight with other wild cats, but the mother cat is still determined to drive the kittens away and let them be independent, because this is survival. ”

Empress Eldest Sun was silent when she heard this, lowered her head, held the teacup but did not drink it, and was obviously lost in thought. Cui Mama said: "The concubine is stupid, I don't understand the meaning of Lord Wei's story!" ”

Wei Yan said: "My meaning is very simple, that is, to discuss with Mr. Cui about the education of children, what kind of children do you want to teach." I am also a father, I don't ask my child to do anything knowledgeable, literate and meaningful, I just hope that he will grow up in the future, know to love the young, know to respect the elders, know to sympathize with the weak, know to respect the strong, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-improvement, even if there are no parents, do not rely on parents, have the courage and ability to survive independently, have the ability to live happily. I don't know if in Mr. Cui's imagination, such a person is vulgar and unspeakable? Can Mr. Cui say that such a person is not an elegant, confident, and polite person? ”

Cui Mama said calmly: "No, in the eyes of the concubine, such a person is a knowledgeable person, this is also the goal that the concubine wants to achieve, Princess Jinyang will definitely become such a person in the future." ”

Said very confidently. Wei Yan looked at her and smiled, and asked rhetorically, "Is Mr. Cui such a person now?" Happy? Are you at ease? ”

obviously asked very indifferently, but Mama Cui seemed to be forced to ask, and suddenly choked on saliva, coughed violently, and coughed so much that her face was bloody. The little son and Li Zhi on the side have been obediently listening to Wei Yan and Cui Mama arguing, and the son seems to be clear when he hears it, but Li Zhi, the little guy who is a big ghost, nodded straight when he heard it, and looked at Wei Yan with admiration on his face.

Seeing that Mama Cui was choked, the little son hurriedly came over and asked with concern: "Mama Cui, don't worry, Master Wei didn't bully you, he just spoke loudly, Master Wei is a good person, very good, very good!" ”

is very innocent and cute in words and tone, and also intimate actions, and even called the palace maid next to her to help Mama Cui smooth her breath and pour water for her. Wei Yan looked at it with a smile on the side, obviously very satisfied, this is everyone's favorite little son, the gentle and considerate, cute little fool who is willing to wronged himself for the sake of others.

Wei Yan smiled and apologized: "Mr. Cui." It's Ziyue's fault, Ziyue is too anxious, I hope Mr. forgive me. ”

Mama Cui shook her head, and finally stopped coughing with the help of the palace maid, but her face was still red, and she looked at the little son with complicated eyes, and said, "Thank you, Princess Guan."

"No thanks, Master Wei once taught me when others are sad. We can't be sad together, but we can try to not make others sad and help them at the right time. ”

The little son smiled sweetly, and the tears on his face that he had just cried to Wei Yan had not been wiped away, and it looked very cute and pitiful. Mama Cui looked complicated, seemed to be stunned, and didn't know what to say for a while.

Seeing this, Wei Yan continued: "Mr. Cui, Shu Ziyue is presumptuous. There's a sentence I don't know whether to say or not, but I really want to say it. ”

Cui Mama said with a straight face: "Please Lord Wei just say it." ”

Wei Yan nodded and said: "When I was a child in school, I made a mistake and was slapped by my husband, this is a normal thing, I have experienced it, King Jin, Princess Jinyang, Mama Cui, and even the queen's mother, I think everyone has experienced it, right?" ”

The crowd nodded. Li Zhi seemed to think of the stern masters in the palace, and subconsciously hid his little hands. Wei Yan couldn't help but be happy, and said with a smile: "Since everyone has experienced it, I guess there must be some impressions of what it was like at that time, right?" Think about what we thought and felt at the time, and then consider how the children feel today. Everyone went through that time. Think twice. ”

As soon as Wei Yan finished speaking, Cui Mama fell into contemplation with a sluggish face, and the eldest grandson Empress was also stunned, and immediately glanced at Wei Yan with a sudden understanding, and said to Wei Yan: "Zi Yue's words are reasonable, today, this palace has been taught again." ”

Wei Yan hurriedly returned the salute: "Niangniang is too famous, Weichen just likes to think crankily." Think a little more. Don't hide it. When I was a child, I didn't know that I was slapped by my husband once, and I swore every time. If I grow up in the future and never hit my children until I have to, it will be too uncomfortable, not only physically, but also mentally. When I was a child, I was a very naughty child, and I was beaten a lot, which made me wonder if I was born stupider than others, and I was born much worse than others, whether I was useless, and I didn't have half an advantage to be proud of, and I have always had low self-esteem, and my life almost ended because of this. Fortunately, I met a good gentleman later, she praised me in front of all the students for the first time, praised me to my parents, said that I did a good job, affirmed me, encouraged me, and then I slowly built up my self-confidence, and understood that I can also be such a good person, and I can also get recognition and praise from adults, I am also very good! Huh"

Thinking of the sad past in his childhood, Wei Yan couldn't help but smirk and sigh. Mama Cui lost her mind and said: "The concubine is also treated harshly for the good of the princess, not ......"

Wei Yan smiled: "Sir doesn't need to explain, we all understand that Sir is out of good intentions, out of a responsible attitude towards his duties, we all understand." It's just that not every child is suitable for such a method, Princess Jinyang's temperament, Mr. has taught for many days, haven't you seen it? She is a child who will seriously fulfill her promises, a child who is so serious that she would rather grieve herself and strive to meet the expectations of adults. Blindly adopting a model, is there something that needs to be considered? ”

Mama Cui fell into contemplation again, a little out of state, unable to answer. However, the eldest grandson queen sighed with emotion, looked at Wei Yan and said with a smile: "Ziyue said well, this palace has been taught, and I have benefited a lot today, thank you Ziyue." ”

Wei Yan hurriedly said: "Niangniang is right, son...... Ah, no......"

Empress Eldest Sun smiled: "Ziyue doesn't need to be formal, just call your son's name directly, you are also an elder of your son." ”

"Yes, Xie Niangniang." Wei Yan continued: "Princess Jinyang is very close to her subordinates, it can be said that she has watched her grow so big since she was a child, and I hope she can grow up healthy and happy, and don't have anything bad to do." The princess's temperament is easy to wronged herself, I am afraid that she is young and does not know how to relieve it, and her liver qi is stagnant in her chest, which is not good for her health, hehe, so she said a few more words, and asked the mother to forgive her sins. ”

Empress Eldest Sun said: "No, what Ziyue said is exactly what I am worried about, this child is too similar to me, I am not easy to teach her, so I have to invite other gentlemen to teach, but now it seems that Ziyue is the most suitable." ”

Wei Yan said with a smile: "Niangniang, you are wrong, I am not suitable, the knowledge is too bad, let's be a playmate, whose children are not like this all the way to play, like to play, love to play is the nature of children, so why don't we take advantage of the situation, so that children can learn some things that should be learned at this age while having fun." Niangniang, in fact, there are a lot of truths, there is no need to keep saying it, in the process of growing up, children can slowly experience and understand by themselves. Rules and etiquette are to be learned, but should different people adopt different methods? Hitting will only increase the child's fear, and will not have a good effect, teaching students according to their aptitude, and the minister has always been a supporter of this view. ”

Empress Eldest Sun nodded frequently when she heard this, glanced at the embroidery pictures that Wei Yan drew for her son, and said: "Learning embroidery in this way, Ziyue's method is not clever, and it is very innovative. ”

was praised, Wei Yan smirked: "Children like cute things, some small animals and the like can arouse children's interest the most, anyway, they all want to learn embroidery, they are all embroidery, let's find a child who is interested in teaching, and when she gets older, the things she is interested in will naturally change slowly, girls, in the future, she will always like flowers and other things, when the time comes, she will be willing to embroider without Mr. supervision, why should we force children?" It's just a beginner to embroider such a complex thing, and it hits your self-esteem a lot, and if you hit it too carefully, it will leave a psychological shadow and affect the child's future, right? ”

Empress Eldest Sun nodded when she heard this, but still asked, "What is a psychological shadow?" ”

Wei Yan explained, and after Empress Eldest Sun understood, she pondered for a moment and muttered in a low voice: "Now it seems that the experience of this palace when I was young is the main reason for my current personality, which has affected my temperament. I also hope that my son-in-law will be happy and cheerful in the future, not like me. ”

Wei Yan didn't know how to answer this, only knew that he was smiling. After the eldest grandson queen finished speaking, she was speechless, smiled, said no more, and changed the topic.