Prologue: Who's chasing me

Life is a mirror, you smile at it, it smiles at you; You cry to it, and it cries to you. As I get older and more experienced, I feel really touched by this! What kind of mood you have when you look at things that exist objectively, the feedback from the outside world is often consistent with your inner emotions. When you are happy, you will feel that the surrounding environment is also relaxed and natural; When you are upset and irritable, the air outside is also tense, and the smiles and smiles of other people around you may make your heart fluctuate. At this time, don't bother to interpret other people's words or expressions, your own inner turmoil, and the conclusions from the analysis must be inaccurate.

When your brain feels tired, you don't think about things anymore, especially if you don't understand the problems you already understand, which is also a way to be kind to yourself. Only by jumping out of a certain puzzle and standing on a high place to look down on it can we grasp the ins and outs of the matter clearly, and even accurately predict its future. Thinking too much will eventually lead to the end of the world waking up and getting drunk alone. The end result is when to jump out and when the wine will wake up. Sometimes, if you can't meditate on something, you might as well stop and do something that has nothing to do with it, and the result may be better. Letting go is possession, which is a phrase often mentioned by Buddhists, and it is also the wisdom of Zhuangzi's life.

Mr. Feng Youlan wrote: Chinese philosophy believes that a person who completes the unity of theory and action is a saint, and he is both in the world and in the world. We are all ordinary people, and none of us can be completely born, without the slightest contact with the outside world, without contact with outsiders. It is often mentioned in martial arts novels that where there are people, there are rivers and lakes. Due to various differences in experience, knowledge, personality, etc., people often lead to friction and unhappiness in the process of communication. As a result, our mood will also change in joy, anger and sorrow, which can be as long as a lifetime and as short as a moment. First of all, we should know that this is normal; It would be even better if we could use the mentality of birth to do things to join the WTO.

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One has to say a lot before one remains silent. Oh, yes! It's called growth. You have become silent when you were once enthusiastic, which does not just mean numbness, because you understand that all living beings can do nothing, and instead of dwelling on other people's flaws, it is better to take a vacation for your own soul and let your heart be clear and stretched.

Teacher Mingyue's "Those Things in the Ming Dynasty", I read it very early on, and it was very wonderful. There are a few words that I still dare not forget, he said: survival is the best teacher. When I read these words, I couldn't help but shudder. Oh, yes! Wouldn't this sentence be more realistic than the fact that interest is the best teacher. In order to survive, we have tolerated too many things that we could not tolerate, and even turned ourselves into people we hated in the first place. In order to survive, you may become silent when you are talkative and laughing, but you who are quiet are always forced to laugh. We always think that one day when we are developed, we must stay away from this environment and go to all corners of the world.

I've rented a lot of places for work, and I've met a neighbor like this before. In big cities, people from all over the world are gathered, and if it is not long-term contact, everyone will not have any friendship. My neighbor is a young couple in their early thirties. Once, the man knocked on my door, and because I didn't know it, I didn't even open the door, and asked who it was. He said, "I'm your neighbor, can I do you a favor?" I replied coldly: No! He finally said thank you, without the slightest hint of displeasure, and went back to knocking on the other people's doors. I listened quietly in the house, and most of them turned out to be the same as me, and even when the door was opened, no one helped him.

When you are in a foreign country, more things are better than less things, everyone understands this. Later, by chance, we said two words. The man was still very polite, and he told me that he wanted to open a company and work in his own home, and that the place of work at home required the signatures of the neighbors around him as proof, and there was no malicious intent. When I saw him say this, he also told the truth, I said: I am just a tenant, not the owner of this place, it is useless to sign it, not to mention this kind of signing of my own name, we don't know each other, no one will help you. He smiled and said that he didn't need it now, and it had already been done.

The small couple also rented a house, but I rented a one-bedroom apartment by myself, and they were two-bedroom and one-bedroom. In order to make more money, I chose to start a business, renting a commercial house is too expensive, and I chose to work from home, but this approach is not easy. Starting a business is easier said than done! If you are not sure, what is the difference between losing your job and wasting money! At night, I often hear the two men arguing, the man throwing things in anger and the woman crying. Thirty-year-old people, in the metropolis, have no house or car, give up their jobs and choose to start a business, such pressure can be imagined. I often laugh and tell my girlfriend about the couple next door, but what I didn't expect was that I needed to go through this too.

I have been frivolous and angry, but in the end I have learned not to speak as much as possible, because if I say too much, I will lose, and I cannot guarantee that everyone is kind to me, and besides, there are some things that are completely unnecessary when I think about it now. Sometimes I will disturb myself, and I always feel that everyone around me is happy, why am I so kind-hearted and kind to others, but I am excluded by others everywhere, am I really a failure? I slowly realized that I was not doing it, and that what I had to do was just to be confident, because there were many things that were very pale in the face of so-called reality. If I still know where my path is, think I'm still young, know what it means to persevere, and be true to myself, then I just need to be myself. The handsome guys who wore sunshine in the past would also eat breakfast there because of unpleasant things, and we were all the same.

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I like to be quiet, and I feel that it is more comfortable to stay alone in the house after work, surf the Internet, watch movies, and listen to songs. If you get bored in the house, you can also go for a walk in the park. When you are tired of walking, lie on the guardrail, look at the lake, look at the distance, look at this changing city, half ancient and half modern, trying to follow the trend, fashionable on the outside but still simple on the inside, and there is also a different taste. My dream life is that there are only two people in my world, and we can stay at home, go shopping, or even visit the great rivers and mountains. With the people you like, everything becomes so warm and natural. No matter what happens in the future, I still believe in love from the bottom of my heart.

It's good to be quiet alone, but sometimes when you encounter troubles, you can't find someone to talk to, and it's also a very painful thing to hold in your heart. Later, the emperor paid off, I finally found a way, I put my troubles on the Internet with concise words, there are really netizens to answer similar questions, and the analysis is very objective, which makes me comfortable all of a sudden. Some enlightening words, I often say to myself, but the effect is far less than what is told to you through the mouth of others, maybe these truths are only a small part of what you need, the important thing is that others understand and resonate with you. Once, I overheard the complaints of two girls, the theme was why women are embarrassed by women, and I felt quite happy when I listened. If it is not enough, then I will compare.

A young man in his early 20s, walking in a hurry, completely oblivious to the passing scenery, was stopped by someone and asked him why he was in a hurry. The young man replied anxiously: I am looking for happiness! Twenty years have passed, and the young man has become middle-aged, and he is still galloping, telling those who stop him that he is looking for happiness. After another 20 years, he has become a faltering old man, and someone stopped him and asked: Are you still looking for happiness? The old man replied weakly: Yes! This passer-by asked the old man to raise his head, and the old man looked up and was shocked, it turned out that the person who asked him this question was the god of happiness! He has been looking for happiness all his life, but the god of happiness has always been by his side.

If you think about it, everything is actually a process, not a result, and blindly emphasizing the result often leads to the process being painful, and the painful process eventually leads to undesirable results. Happiness is a process that lies in discovering the bits and pieces of life and perceiving every grass and leaf in nature. The full journey of life increases its width and depth, how can such a life not be happy? Why should you set an ethereal happiness goal for yourself, and then ignore your family, ignore your true feelings in your heart, and have no time to take care of the scenery around you for this goal. In the end? Exhausting oneself and worrying all day long.

Happiness is a process, and health is also a process. I used to have a landlord, a lady in her seventies, and we talked to each other and got along very well. Once she complained: Now the conditions are good, but I can't enjoy the blessings, I broke my leg two days ago, and the osteoporosis is too serious! I knew more or less about osteoporosis, so I told her to take more calcium. She waved her hand: Hey! How many years have I made up, but I can't make it up. I thought about it, the old man is like this, and the exercise is not possible. I told her to spend more time in the sun, before half past nine in the morning in the summer, or after half past four in the afternoon, and at any time in other seasons, one hour in the morning and one hour in the afternoon every day.

After hearing this, the landlord said: Then I'll hurry up and dry it, it's almost ready, I'm worried to death! After listening to this, I smiled and said: health is a process, not the final result, and we must persevere. In the future, when the bones recover, you must also insist on basking in the sun and exercising properly, so that you can do it! In the sun, you should try to dry your back as much as possible, sit on the balcony by yourself, lift your clothes, expose your back, and have a king to dry your cover, in fact, this is very comfortable. When the landlord heard me say this, he laughed and promised me that he would do it!