Interpersonal Responsibility**** Affection for the Development of Society(3)

5. Psychological microwave reflection from a negative perspective, that is, interpersonal responsibility and pain empathy reflection in psychology. Pen ~ fun ~ pavilion www.biquge.info

Depression is a reflection and is a predisposing affective disorder that appears among the influencing factors of the disability-adjusted life year in the world, and depression ranked 4th in 1999 and is expected to rank 2nd by 2020. The detection rate of depression among adolescent students in China remains high. Therefore, the study of depression in adolescent students deserves attention. The so-called susceptible personality to depression refers to the relatively stable psychological tendency within an individual that makes an individual susceptible to depression or causes depression to continue to grow. Obviously, this study mainly explores the personality factors that predispose to depression and their mechanisms from a negative perspective. The main characteristics include the willingness to passively acquire, the willingness to narcissism, and personal beliefs to be determined by constant external feedback. Individuals with high social dependency tend to put a lot of energy into establishing strong relationships with others, desire to be accepted, understood, and supported by others, are sensitive to criticism and rejection from others, and improve self-esteem by establishing safe interpersonal relationships, otherwise they will develop feelings of helplessness, weakness, and fear of abandonment, which makes them more likely to be irritable and depressed in interpersonal stress situations. For example, a female college student, who worked as a Chinese teacher in a foreign educational institution after graduation, followed her father when she was a child due to the divorce of her parents, and did not live with her mother until she became an adult, and her mother's work was very low, and she described her mother as a sex worker and had children with multiple men. Therefore, she is not her mother's only child, she has a higher education and has a very decent job, she thinks that her mother is not clean, very painful, and the inner pain is very complicated, so she does not talk to her mother at home, and her mother keeps asking her for money, she feels very disgusted, irritable, anxious, horrified, hateful, undignified, etc., her mother thinks that she has depression and other mental illnesses and forcibly sends her to the brain hospital, and the two fight in the brain hospital causing a large area of onlookers. After mediation to settle the matter, how to reconcile it? By being kind and inducing. to unravel and clear her mind.

Let's take a look at how the principles of interpersonal responsibility and pain empathy can be used to solve this medical emergency.

Q: What is your relationship?

Mother and daughter.

Q: Then why did you bring her here?

Her mother replied: She was sick and depressed.

Q: I think she's good, right? Doesn't it look like you're sick at all? (After observation, he adopts a respectful mentality to attract his daughter's attention and dispel her hostility)

His daughter: I am a college student, and now, I am engaged in Chinese education in another foreign educational institution, specializing in teaching foreign friends. (She opens the conversation and says what she's proud of her work and qualifications.)

Q: Wow! You have such a high education, so why did you beat your mother? (Praise and agree first, then introduce the topic, and mediate ideas)

Her daughter: She is not my mother, she gave birth to me and did not raise me, she is a prostitute. (Say the reason for the beginning, look down)

Q: Did you know? How difficult life is now! Who has the means to have a few willing to do this business, she is also to survive, in order to support you. (Interpersonal communication relieves knots and uses pain empathy)

His daughter: She didn't raise me, she was divorced a long time ago, I was raised by my father, and now I live together. Ask me for money all day. (Part 1)

Q: Then she is your mother, she gave you life. Don't ask who you want to ask.

Question: (Turning to his mother) You're not good, you know that life is not easy, isn't it good to give your children a little less pressure? Look what a wonderful daughter you have! Still a college student? Few of the children around you are college students! There aren't many people who have such a good job! (Improve the status of its home level, ease the atmosphere, and guide step by step)

Mother: Yes! Yes. (Pride arises)

His daughter: She is not my mother, she has been divorced a long time ago, and she has had a few children with other men. Why don't you ask other children to ask for it.

Crowd: Oh, that's harder, no wonder kid. (Long live the table of sympathy, i.e. empathy for pain.) (2)

Her daughter: She is not a human being, and she specializes in breaking up other families, including a small policeman's family. Calling people every day and talking nonsense. (Sense of justice, kindness, part 3)

Question: (Turning to his mother) That's your fault, you see what a good character you have a daughter, sensible, kind, righteous. (Raise her daughter's personality level again)

Question: (Turning to his daughter) You are very good at what you said, maybe your mother has a lot of things wrong, but she must be your mother, you see you just like that, your clothes are like this, so many people look at you, you are so educated, look at the way you just looked, and the way you look now, like a mentally ill person, doctors are also sick, doctors can also see the wrong disease, but, the original intention of doctors is to practice medicine to save people, there may be bad doctors, but most of them are good. Otherwise, how could so many people come to see the doctor, and aren't there many people who have also been cured? (Slow first, then advance.) Move with affection, know with reason. Relax their minds. understanding, docility, consensus, empathy, knowledge, zealousness, etc.)

Daughter: However, I'm about to get married, my husband is a foreigner, and I'm going abroad. What can we do now? Moreover, I am ready to have a child, and if he knows, what will I do, then will I never have a child? (Say the knot, which is why she had a nervous breakdown and was so nervous.) The main causes of anxiety, irritability, frustration, hostility, sensitivity, impulsivity, vulnerability, helplessness, and low mood. Fourth)

The above are the reasons for the occurrence of this doctor-patient cause. Here's how to fix it.

Question: (Turning to his mother) Look what a wonderful daughter you have! The child is your next life, she has changed your destiny for you, how happy and admirable it is to mention, you do this, this life is unfortunate enough. Do you want your daughter to be looked down upon as unfortunate as you are? Is it like you living this hard life? How many people can't imagine living. Even if your daughter doesn't support you, you are proud to tell others that my daughter is abroad and is an amazing teacher. Besides, how can your daughter leave you alone when she is well? Maybe they can take you abroad to live again, or send you living expenses often. First, don't tell anyone that you brought your daughter here. Second, when asked, just say that you are not good, and don't give people the opportunity to harm your daughter and make her unhappy. And, among your children, it may be that this is your only, the best child. The one who changed your destiny. (Love, Understanding, Empathy, Respect, Relationship Clarity, Forward-looking)

Q: (Turning to his daughter) You don't have to worry about not taking your medicine yet, do you? It's okay, your mom is good for you.

Daughter: Eat, what can I do?

Q: It doesn't matter, with the development of the times, the pace of life accelerates, and the pressure increases. There are many sick young people now, all of whom are mentally ill and mentally ill, and doctors also have them, and they deal with these people every day, can they be free from illness? This is called an occupational disease. If you plan to have children, you can stop taking the drug for more than half a year. Moreover, there are many reasons for infertility, as long as this mental illness is not congenital, it will be good if you figure it out the day after tomorrow, it will be fine, as long as you are emotionally stable, you can give birth to a healthy baby, if you are in a bad mood, it will be detrimental to the fetus. (Empathy, pain empathy, understanding and support, friendliness, warmth and care)

Daughter: Thank you!! I'm a little tired.

Mother: Oh, she just got an injection.

Crowd: Then you hurry up and take your daughter home.

Q: Yes, don't fall asleep on the road, that's a problem.

Crowd: Right

The above is a good example of using the principles of interpersonal responsibility and pain empathy to solve the problem. It can be seen that this depression can be solved through psychological principles of communication and counseling, and she needs to empathize with the principle of pain empathy in her heart.

The case further proves that the high-quality personality qualities generated and embodied in interpersonal responsibility and pain empathy are the sources of positive energy: love, kindness, tolerance, cooperation, respect, sympathy, pity, ambiguity and concern, so as to avoid the negative energy sources caused by misfortune: anxiety, frustration, hostility, impulsiveness, sensitivity, and vulnerability. It reflects the beautiful yearning of human beings, which can only be achieved and solved by positive energy. This is also a new level in the field of human re-understanding.

Although interpersonal self-reliance is related to social dependence, the negative predictive ability of interpersonal self-reliance on depression is not significantly affected by social dependence.

Interpersonal independence includes five interpersonal traits, among which interpersonal independence refers to the ability to engage in basic interpersonal activities on one's own; Interpersonal initiative refers to taking the initiative to interact with others; Interpersonal responsibility refers to loyalty, trustworthiness and sincerity to others; Interpersonal flexibility refers to not rigidly adhering to the principle of interpersonal communication, that is, being able to adapt to the changes and ways of interpersonal relationships in the surrounding environment, and being able to deal with interpersonal problems in a contingennial and realistic manner. to maintain the needs, interests and face of all parties; Interpersonal openness refers to being actively accommodating with others. Interpersonal self-reliance is associated with depression.

The combination of social dependence and interpersonal life events leads to depression. There are two points of view, (1) the susceptibility to depression personality can affect depression by causing stress to develop. (2) Susceptibility to depression personality can affect depression by leading to disordered interpersonal relationships.

That is, depression is caused by paying too much attention to one's own feelings in the eyes of others in the process of interpersonal communication, which hurts oneself and others. Interpersonal communication transmits external stimuli to the amygdala, and through their own original experience and knowledge, they have reached a certain understanding, hoping to be respected and recognized by others. And when you fail to achieve a certain level of satisfaction in interpersonal communication, you will close yourself off, and in the long run, it will become depressed. This is a reflection of the pain of the spiritual world. Therefore, depression is a kind of psychological etiology, for psychological disorders should be counseled by psychologists, or change their thinking, there is a philosophical saying: poor is to think, thinking is to change. Philosophy often guides a person's life. Chicken Soup for the Soul is still useful, and he's for everyone. No matter how strong a person is, there are times when he is vulnerable. Strength grows through experience again and again. Of course, he also has a certain relationship with the carriers of different genes in the human body. In short, you can see a rainbow without experiencing wind and rain.

Understanding and mastering empathy is very important for a manager, whether it is for a small manager or a large manager of a country and the world. This is the cognition of human beings, and it is an indispensable and revolutionary thing in the common cognition and development of mankind in the world. It plays a guiding role in transforming the world and changing the destiny of mankind, and plays a vital and indelible role in changing mankind and changing the world.