Eighty Red Theory: Separation of Love

What causes people who are in love to separate?

This is a question worth considering, for example: personal differences, social pressures. Pen @ fun @ pavilion wWw. ｂｉｑUｇE。 infoLast year, one-third of the family in the country was separated from each other, and modern women are very independent and decisive, so if you remove the personal reasons for immaturity, men can't find a reason, then trust women's judgments.

In "Dream of Red Mansions", it is difficult for many lovers and dependents to succeed, because of the pressure of ancient society. Like Baoyu and Daiyu are destined to have affection, Baoyu Baochai has a share of husband and wife without love, and there are also like Yingchun, Xue Pan, Qingwen, Si Qi, Jin Chuan, Ling Guan and so on. Note that in ancient times, there was not no free love, like "Guan Sui" in the Book of Poetry, "My Fair Lady, Good Gentleman", "Qin Feng" "The so-called Yiren, on the water side", for people in love, love is not "leisurely and leisurely" but "tossing and turning". For people in love who cannot fall in love due to personal differences and social pressures, irrational states exist, losing part of themselves, suppressing part of themselves, and behaving in a bluff. This is not worth advocating, because in modern society no one lives for others, and people's tendency to become independent is increasing. Separated lovers may not be painful, because they will retain memories of each other's good side, like smelting life always leaves something shiny. The law of cause and effect is also applicable to the field of love, generally speaking, "gain and loss in things, love and hatred in the heart, love and affection in action", people interact in society, love and hate arise in the heart, and love is divided or combined between behaviors. There are many love stories of modern young men and women in movies, such as "Gardenia Blossom" is a little innocent, "Since Youth Can't Be Kept" is nonsensical, and "To Our Dying Youth" is full of true feelings, people are divided and combined but live the same life, but the colors are different.

Now look at how the American movie "Eternal Sunshine of a Beautiful Mind" looks at the separation of lovers, a romance film starring Jim Carrey. Although it is not as profound as "Truman's World", it also touches on some of the bottom lines of the separation of lovers. This somewhat sci-fi exploration movie is deliberately reversed in the design of the plot, and the audience must consciously smooth it out. The protagonist Joel discovers that his girlfriend Clementina doesn't know him anymore, and when he finds the doctor Dr. Howard, he learns that Clementina has washed away his memories, and in pain, Joel decides to also wash away the memories of Clementina in his heart. In the cleansing of his memory, with the memory of the beautiful content of the emotional experience, Joel, who could not move at all, regretted it, and his efforts with Clementina in the brain recall finally failed, and the memory was washed away, but the words in Clementina's ear in the memory made him return to the city train at the beginning and end of the film, and finally reacquainted with Clementina because of mutual attraction. At the end of the film, which was supposed to have a happy ending, Mary from the clinic sent the tape of the two because of the love change, and the two who felt their personal differences again were also separated, and what was left was a good memory of the two at the end of the movie as "the eternal sunshine of the beautiful mind".

Yes, there is always a good side to memories. The characters in the film all have emotional entanglements. The assistant is young and immature Patrick who is in love with the energetic Clementina, who falls in love with Clementina after washing away his memories, but breaks up because of cheating, which is the most common reason for personal differences. Stan the amnestic falls in love with Mary, but Mary falls in love with Dr. Howard, who has a family; Mary also washed away her memories because of the pain, and when she found it, she also recovered the truth of the incident; Stan and Mary, Mary and Howard are separated by social pressure, and this separation is frustrating for Howard, Stan and Mary.

The separation of Joel and Clementina is at the center of the film's story, and the differences between the two are the reason for the separation. The film actually emphasizes the differences between men and women, leading to the emergence of different worlds for men and women. Joel is a psychic explorer or writer who is accustomed to silence and becomes bored; Silence is a kind of temperament for women, a kind of luck for men, silent women will always be found on the beautiful side, and the chances of a silent man getting happiness depend on whether the number rolled by the "dice" is "six"; Joel does not return to the role of a broad-minded "father" in love, and Clementina does not belong to a gentle and graceful wife, she is a cheerful modern woman who pursues individuality, and her famous quote is "to seize every opportunity in life and make sure that every second of life is not wasted"; Joel's life tends to be simpler, while Clementina's life never stops, and if the two think about their future family, it is not so important that they love each other but love each other, and Clementina has no confidence in this; It is indeed not easy for Joel to find the "Ivy" women that are common in China in the United States, but the positive significance of the film in the end is that he still plans for Clementina's happiness and is also an infatuated man, which maintains the "eternal sunshine of a beautiful heart" at the end of the film.

2016.7.25