Eighty Red Treatises: Grace and Precepts to Welcome Spring (3)

In ancient times, women's "husband and child" was their own pursuit, and people who entered the marriage siege were equal to a lifetime. Pen & Fun & Pavilion www.biquge.info ancient people did not have the same troubles as "besieged castles, people outside the city want to rush in, people in the city want to escape", if there is no economic prosperity is true. For example, in remote mountain villages, people often have a simple and pure beauty, a simple life, no economic differences, and a happy scene of Datong and a well-off society. But there is no such thing as a one-sided beautiful society, and "Dream of Red Mansions" depicts such a life. The scene of wealth shows that most of the happiness in the city is bought, and one's life tends to be shorter. How the castle was besieged is reflected in Yingchun.

In addition to Jia Yu and his wife, people in Jia Mansion are opposed to Yingchun's marriage, and it should not be without reason with the knowledge of Jia Mu and Jia Zheng. Jia Zheng should have seen Sun Shaozu, but the result was the impression that "the Tao is different and does not conspire with each other". Sun Shaozu is a military attaché, "born with a burly appearance, a strong physique, and a skillful bow and horse", which is an advantage, but the basic quality of everyday people, "social change", is not necessarily a beautiful word here. The reason for this sentence "I worship under the door when there is something that cannot be resolved" is that Sun Shaozu later said, "You Lao Tzu made me 5,000 silver", which is simply an enemy for a person like Jia Zheng. Jia Zheng should not hate the "entertainment change" in officialdom, otherwise he will not like Jia Yucun, what he hates is that it is vulgar like this. Judging from the description in the book, Yingchun is a cultural lady in the Grand View Garden, so this husband and wife belong to two different types of people and are twisted together in the future.

Yingchun married and had her own family, which is equivalent to having her own management scope like Sister Feng in Jiafu, but she has no concept of taking care of her own marriage and family. For marriage, it is the basic pattern for husband and wife to partner with each other and cooperate with each other, and if one party is strong, there will be a question of who will prevail over whom. This is also a common phenomenon in social life. Marx did not say that "in a society of even two people, there must be obedience", this is the result of a contradictory movement in society. Mrs. Wang also said: "However, young couples are idle and fighting, which is also a common thing for tens of thousands of people." Yingchun Xiangxiang's husband and children are congenitally one point worse, her husband's family is not good and her own talent is limited, and she does not know how to tolerate between husband and wife, it is easy to form a tragedy. There is no such thing as complete perfection in society, and it is understandable for women to hope for the perfection of men or to change men, but there are often limits in society. Like You's to Jia Zhen and Mrs. Xing's to Jia Yu, it is because of the wealth of Jiafu that they are relatively conservative, but it is a pity that Yingchun is close at hand and has not learned this way of husband and child. If a man who is too strong and a woman who is too strong does not have an attitude of adapting to the method in marriage, then it is rare for the husband and wife to have a long-term relationship. Yingchun and her husband's family went from quarrels to extreme conflict and abuse, which was caused by her failure to find her own position. When people go to a new environment, a new collective, they can always help others, and when they arrive at Sun's house in the spring, they fall into various contradictions without finding their starting point. In Jiafu, good things such as the Poetry Society, and evil things such as copying and inspecting the Grand View Garden, are all caused by the spring. The husband's house in Yingchun saw the ending from the beginning, which may be due to her fate.

In life, ideals and lack of people's hearts are two different things. Yingchun has its own ideals or dreams, but they are quickly shattered after getting married. A tough woman like Yingchun who doesn't belong to a tenacious woman who can survive anywhere, and can't give up her rigid principles and choose to integrate society to benefit others, so where is their way out? Therefore, the perfect society is a theoretical result, and when realistic novels describe similar scenes and characters, readers must be prepared to abandon one-sided ideals.

2016.9.19