After the Republic of China, civilized marriage gradually flourished, and it was not until after liberation that the old marriage system was abolished and freedom of marriage was implemented. Pen % fun % Pavilion www.biquge.info

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In the old days, marriage was mostly based on the words of the matchmaker, and the man asked the matchmaker to propose to the woman first, which was called "retribution". After the woman agreed, she handed over the red post with the eight characters of her daughter's birthday, that is, "Geng post", called "out of the post", commonly known as "out of the eight characters". After the man obtains the Geng post, he presses it under the incense burner in front of the ancestral tablet for three days, called "pressing Geng", and then asks the fortune teller to calculate whether the eight characters of the male and female birthdays are compatible, which is called "marriage". If the five elements clash with each other, return the woman's "Geng post" and send some gifts to apologize. The new society implements the autonomy of marriage, but in many rural areas, it is still popular to talk about marriage. Most of the young men and women in urban areas are free to fall in love, and some of them have been introduced to each other and have obtained the consent of the family to determine the marriage relationship, which is called "finding a partner".

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Jiaxing's engagement was formerly known as "peace of mind". After the marriage, if the marriage can be completed, the man's family will send a "peace of mind gift" to the woman's family. The rich family sent a "peace of mind gift", with a piece of gold Jue, engraved with auspicious patterns, and a gold ingot, a pair of gold Ruyi, and took the lip gloss of "Decide Ruyi". The woman is called "receiving tea" and reciprocating to the man, and then invites her relatives to eat peace of mind and announce the marriage contract. Gift-giving varies depending on the economic situation. During the Republic of China, there were people of status in the city, and there were also ceremonies for engagements, and there were also men and women who exchanged photos. In the old days, after the man and woman were engaged, the man should give gifts to the woman's house on holidays, such as brown seeds, moon cakes, chickens, fish, pig's trotters, cakes, etc., which were packed in bamboo baskets or wooden baskets, so they were called "gift baskets". This custom is still popular in urban and rural areas after the founding of the People's Republic of China, but the city is simple, and generally in the Mid-Autumn Festival and Spring Festival, men give some gifts to women.

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That is, the marriage date is determined by the man and the woman. According to the "Jiaxing Mansion Chronicle": "...... The date of the marriage petition will be on time". According to the "Ancient He Miscellaneous Knowledge", it is recorded: "...... Please say that the date is on time, then the men's house will be put into tea, and the women's house will be rewarded with cakes, and the cake will be returned to half of the house, which is said to be two ends high." During the Republic of China, this custom seemed to be popular, and wealthy men had to buy jewelry (2 to 4 pieces of gold rings, bracelets, etc.), fruit boxes (the box was divided into two frames, one for longan and one for tea) and dowry gifts of tens to hundreds of yuan, which were sent by the matchmaker to the woman's house. The women's family also prepared a cake box and a piece of Hehe (the legendary two immortals) (made of silk or paper in a glass box), and the red silk wrapped in Geng post under the seat was given back to the man's family. Before the date on time, the matchmaker must first "talk to the family", that is, the man asks the matchmaker to propose marriage to the woman's family, and the woman's family deliberately refuses to allow it, and only agrees to go back and forth at least three times. Rural etiquette is simpler, the man chooses the wedding date and notifies the woman's family half a year in advance, which is called "matching", also known as "Xingdapan". Gifts from matchmakers include silk, fabrics, jewelry and gift money, and the amount of gift money is also considerable. There are also women who bargain and make the man give posthumous gifts. After the founding of the People's Republic of China, this custom is still popular in rural areas, and sometimes in order to seek dowry, the man is unable to meet the woman's requirements due to poverty, resulting in marital disputes, and many men are in debt for the appointment.

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According to the record of "Gu He Miscellaneous Knowledge": "He customs are important to welcome the rich family of the wealthy family, and the gong is shouted, and the official is also." Although the bridegroom is dressed in white, he also wears a number of beads, and even surpasses those who wear red crowns. Relatives and friends are young, and the clothes are very good, and they are led in front of the public, which is called marrying. The bride rides the colorful public opinion, the light is reflected, and the maid follows, holding benzoin, and the air is hundreds of steps". This is the pomp and circumstance of the wealthy family in Jiaxing City in the Qing Dynasty to get married and welcome the new year. During the Republic of China, city residents got married, and the bride still rode a sedan chair or a colorful boat, and the groom wore a robe and a horse coat, and some wore suits. It is rare for the bride to wear a phoenix crown and a xia veil, and she generally wears a pink embroidered cheongsam, and some use a veil, which is pink. Marry to the man's house, and the bride holds a civilized marriage ceremony after leaving the sedan chair. There are witnesses, officiants, introducers, emceeers, and attendants, who only bow and do not kneel. On the day of the banquet, the number of tables to be set up depends on the economic situation, and the chef is invited to the home to do it. After the founding of the People's Republic of China, before the 70s, the city welcomed the bride and groom on foot or by bicycle to marry. The wedding is held at the man's home, with the groom accompanied by relatives and friends at noon having a wedding drink at the bride's house, and in the evening at the man's house for a banquet of relatives and friends. The marriage ceremony of cadres is simpler, and generally only candy is distributed to relatives, friends and colleagues to announce marriage. In the late '70s, weddings became more luxurious, and several tricycles (jokingly called "caravans") were used to attract attention. After the mid-80s, the wind of big operations and big things rose, all the cars were used to get married, some abused the bus, less one or two, more than seven or eight, the front glass window of the car was pasted with the word "double happiness", the bride and groom were accompanied by the bride and groom, firecrackers were fired when they were married, although the new house was close at hand or the new house was in the same place, they must take a car to travel along the street. Most brides wear white wedding dresses, while grooms wear black suits. In the evening, the parents and relatives and friends of both men and women go to the restaurant to go to the wedding banquet, the bride and groom are accompanied by the bride and groom, and greet the guests in front of the door of the restaurant, the groom toasts the guests one by one, and the bride holds the wallet and gives gifts to the juniors, generally dozens of yuan. The price of the banquet is several hundred yuan per table (generally 200 yuan to 250 yuan per table at the end of the 80s), and the two men and women jointly organize the cost, and the cost is borne by the man. After the banquet, the leftovers such as chicken, duck, fish trotters and other big dishes are taken home by both parties. At the end of the 80s, it was fashionable to shoot wedding videos.

During the Republic of China, most of the rural weddings followed the old customs, and the woman asked for gifts before greeting her relatives, such as "Xie Niang Basket", "Please Sit", "Uncle Robbery", etc., and even the woman's parents asked for "stomach ache money". It is commonly known as "the sedan chair also needs 100 yuan of silver, and the matchmaker sends five plates with the sedan chair". The man should choose a married young man to carry a sedan chair or a boat, such as a sedan chair to marry, and the two boys and men in front of the sedan chair should carry a lantern with both parents. When marrying or sending someone or the bridegroom to greet her, the woman must see the door before the woman opens the door. Before the woman gets on the sedan chair, the dowry is passed by the woman's relatives across the threshold, and the man waits for the dowry, and the dowry is generally less than the man's gift. However, in the area of Haiyan and Pupu, it has always paid attention to the abundance of dowry, and called her daughter "a money-losing goods". The toilet bowl in the dowry is necessary, commonly known as the "descendant bucket", red lacquer, a bag of peanuts inside, two red-dyed half-boiled eggs. When the bride gets on the sedan chair, the front of the sedan chair is spread with a reed mat (or rice bag), and the bride steps on the sedan chair, which means not to take away the soil of the mother's house, and there are also uncles or brothers who carry the sedan chair. The bride must cry when she gets on the sedan chair, which is called "crying and crying". Generally, the bride cries quietly, and the mother cries loudly. After the bride gets on the sedan chair, she is first fed by her mother, and then the brother supports the sedan pole, and the sedan chair turns three times before being carried to the man's house in the sound of drums. When you get married by boat, there are places where two green bamboos with mud are placed on the boat. After the bride gets on the boat, she drives rapidly, and the penny supports the shore, so that it is auspicious not to get wet. After the ship leaves the port, the young people of the village often first beg for money on the bridge that the boat must pass, calling it a "barrage port", and if they do not meet the requirements, they will obstruct and not let them go. When arriving in front of the man's house, five sacks are laid in turn, and the bride helps the bride to step on the sack into the door, passing the sack to pave the way, which is called "passing on from generation to generation". With five bags, trillion "five sons Dengke". After the bride and groom worship heaven and earth, ancestors, parents and worship each other, "eat longevity noodles", parents sit facing south (if one of them dies, they should also set up chopsticks), and the bride and groom kneel to toast. After the ceremony, the bridegroom holds a red ribbon and leads the bride, and two young men hold a pair of flower candles into the cave room. The cave room sits on the bed in the east and the woman in the west, and the legend says that the bride sits on the bed in a large area, and is afraid of his wife after marriage; If the bridegroom sits a lot, then the wife and husband after the marriage will not be humble to each other, and they will sit next to each other. After sitting on the bed, the groom picks up the red scarf of the bride's head with a weighing rod (allegorical wishfulness) or sugar cane (allegorical and sweet). The bride threw dates, peanuts, candies, etc. into the bed tent of the new house, called "withdrawal", and some scattered them in the four corners of the new house and in front of the guests. Haiyan has a "Song of Withdrawing Accounts": "Withdrawing the account from the east and withdrawing from the east, the husband and wife are more harmonious, the withdrawing from the south is from the south, and the people are prosperous and have ......many descendants." In the rural area of Pinghu, there was a custom of eating "small night dinner" in the old days, that is, after the wedding, the elders took out two bowls of cold rice from the bride's box, put a few pickles on it, and let the bride and groom sit side by side and eat the pickles and cold rice.

After the founding of the People's Republic of China, the rural wedding customs changed, and the wedding was not used in a sedan chair, but by a boat. The bride price is very heavy when the engagement, and the groom must still prepare a variety of gifts before the wedding. In the past ten years, there have been people who have married on bicycles, and after marriage, they have traveled for their honeymoon just like the city. Since the 80s, the joy of the countryside has been similar to that of the city, with the bride participating in the banquet and toasting the guests. The wedding banquet is also generally based on cold dishes and hot stir-frying, accompanied by whole chicken and duck dim sum. Replacing home-brewed rice wine with bottled wine costs about 200 yuan per table.

On the wedding day of the bride and groom in urban and rural areas, the parents and close relatives of the man and woman must send a "red paper bag" to the bride and groom, commonly known as "meeting tian".

The day after the wedding, the bride's brother went to visit, and the man's family held a banquet to entertain him, called "Wangchao". The area of Jiashan is commonly known as "through the stove chimney", and Jiaxing is commonly known as "hanging chimney". According to folk legend, in the past, there was a bride who was tricked by her in-laws and concubines, and blocked the chimney, and the bride was filled with smoke when she was cooking, and was blamed by her in-laws. When his brother came to visit, he found something strange, and used a long bamboo pole to open the chimney, the flue was cleared, the smoke disappeared, and the meal was cooked. This legend contains the meaning of the mother's brother to protect the bride's status in the husband's family, and this custom is still popular after the founding of the country.

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In the Qing Dynasty, it was called "to the moon" and "to the moon". That is, one month after the marriage, the husband and his wife go back to their parents' house to visit, and the groom brings a table of wine, commonly known as the "table gift", and the parents-in-law also give a meeting gift. After the founding of the People's Republic of China, this custom is still popular in the countryside, and the return to the door is not limited to a full month, and most of them return to the door in three days.

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Commonly known as "Xi Grandma", it is semi-professional in nature. In the old days, the bride went to the groom's house the day before the wedding to dress the groom's mother and receive guests. On the wedding day, the bride prepares items and utensils for the wedding boat, and then follows the boat to the bride's house to lead the bride to the sedan chair and into the boat. After arriving at the man's house, the bride leads the bride to the shore, gets off the sedan chair, and after the ceremony, leads the bride and groom into the cave room, makes a bed stall for the bride and groom, and accompanies the bride and groom to eat "champion flower candle rice". The next day, the bride arranges for the groom's parents to have a birthday dinner. The bride is generally articulate, and can casually make up a good "lip color" (smooth mouth) to please people at each ceremony.

After the Republic of China, civilized marriage gradually flourished, and it was not until after liberation that the old marriage system was abolished and freedom of marriage was implemented.

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In the old days, marriage was mostly based on the words of the matchmaker, and the man asked the matchmaker to propose to the woman first, which was called "retribution". After the woman agreed, she handed over the red post with the eight characters of her daughter's birthday, that is, "Geng post", called "out of the post", commonly known as "out of the eight characters". After the man obtains the Geng post, he presses it under the incense burner in front of the ancestral tablet for three days, called "pressing Geng", and then asks the fortune teller to calculate whether the eight characters of the male and female birthdays are compatible, which is called "marriage". If the five elements clash with each other, return the woman's "Geng post" and send some gifts to apologize. The new society implements the autonomy of marriage, but in many rural areas, it is still popular to talk about marriage. Most of the young men and women in urban areas are free to fall in love, and some of them have been introduced to each other and have obtained the consent of the family to determine the marriage relationship, which is called "finding a partner".

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Jiaxing's engagement was formerly known as "peace of mind". After the marriage, if the marriage can be completed, the man's family will send a "peace of mind gift" to the woman's family. The rich family sent a "peace of mind gift", with a piece of gold Jue, engraved with auspicious patterns, and a gold ingot, a pair of gold Ruyi, and took the lip gloss of "Decide Ruyi". The woman is called "receiving tea" and reciprocating to the man, and then invites her relatives to eat peace of mind and announce the marriage contract. Gift-giving varies depending on the economic situation. During the Republic of China, there were people of status in the city, and there were also ceremonies for engagements, and there were also men and women who exchanged photos. In the old days, after the man and woman were engaged, the man should give gifts to the woman's house on holidays, such as brown seeds, moon cakes, chickens, fish, pig's trotters, cakes, etc., which were packed in bamboo baskets or wooden baskets, so they were called "gift baskets". This custom is still popular in urban and rural areas after the founding of the People's Republic of China, but the city is simple, and generally in the Mid-Autumn Festival and Spring Festival, men give some gifts to women.

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That is, the marriage date is determined by the man and the woman. According to the "Jiaxing Mansion Chronicle": "...... The date of the marriage petition will be on time". According to the "Ancient He Miscellaneous Knowledge", it is recorded: "...... Please say that the date is on time, then the men's house will be put into tea, and the women's house will be rewarded with cakes, and the cake will be returned to half of the house, which is said to be two ends high." During the Republic of China, this custom seemed to be popular, and wealthy men had to buy jewelry (2 to 4 pieces of gold rings, bracelets, etc.), fruit boxes (the box was divided into two frames, one for longan and one for tea) and dowry gifts of tens to hundreds of yuan, which were sent by the matchmaker to the woman's house. The women's family also prepared a cake box and a piece of Hehe (the legendary two immortals) (made of silk or paper in a glass box), and the red silk wrapped in Geng post under the seat was given back to the man's family. Before the date on time, the matchmaker must first "talk to the family", that is, the man asks the matchmaker to propose marriage to the woman's family, and the woman's family deliberately refuses to allow it, and only agrees to go back and forth at least three times. Rural etiquette is simpler, the man chooses the wedding date and notifies the woman's family half a year in advance, which is called "matching", also known as "Xingdapan". Gifts from matchmakers include silk, fabrics, jewelry and gift money, and the amount of gift money is also considerable. There are also women who bargain and make the man give posthumous gifts. After the founding of the People's Republic of China, this custom is still popular in rural areas, and sometimes in order to seek dowry, the man is unable to meet the woman's requirements due to poverty, resulting in marital disputes, and many men are in debt for the appointment.

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According to the record of "Gu He Miscellaneous Knowledge": "He customs are important to welcome the rich family of the wealthy family, and the gong is shouted, and the official is also." Although the bridegroom is dressed in white, he also wears a number of beads, and even surpasses those who wear red crowns. Relatives and friends are young, and the clothes are very good, and they are led in front of the public, which is called marrying. The bride rides the colorful public opinion, the light is reflected, and the maid follows, holding benzoin, and the air is hundreds of steps". This is the pomp and circumstance of the wealthy family in Jiaxing City in the Qing Dynasty to get married and welcome the new year. During the Republic of China, city residents got married, and the bride still rode a sedan chair or a colorful boat, and the groom wore a robe and a horse coat, and some wore suits. It is rare for the bride to wear a phoenix crown and a xia veil, and she generally wears a pink embroidered cheongsam, and some use a veil, which is pink. Marry to the man's house, and the bride holds a civilized marriage ceremony after leaving the sedan chair. There are witnesses, officiants, introducers, emceeers, and attendants, who only bow and do not kneel. On the day of the banquet, the number of tables to be set up depends on the economic situation, and the chef is invited to the home to do it. After the founding of the People's Republic of China, before the 70s, the city welcomed the bride and groom on foot or by bicycle to marry. The wedding is held at the man's home, with the groom accompanied by relatives and friends at noon having a wedding drink at the bride's house, and in the evening at the man's house for a banquet of relatives and friends. The marriage ceremony of cadres is simpler, and generally only candy is distributed to relatives, friends and colleagues to announce marriage. In the late '70s, weddings became more luxurious, and several tricycles (jokingly called "caravans") were used to attract attention. After the mid-80s, the wind of big operations and big things rose, all the cars were used to get married, some abused the bus, less one or two, more than seven or eight, the front glass window of the car was pasted with the word "double happiness", the bride and groom were accompanied by the bride and groom, firecrackers were fired when they were married, although the new house was close at hand or the new house was in the same place, they must take a car to travel along the street. Most brides wear white wedding dresses, while grooms wear black suits. In the evening, the parents and relatives and friends of both men and women go to the restaurant to go to the wedding banquet, the bride and groom are accompanied by the bride and groom, and greet the guests in front of the door of the restaurant, the groom toasts the guests one by one, and the bride holds the wallet and gives gifts to the juniors, generally dozens of yuan. The price of the banquet is several hundred yuan per table (generally 200 yuan to 250 yuan per table at the end of the 80s), and the two men and women jointly organize the cost, and the cost is borne by the man. After the banquet, the leftovers such as chicken, duck, fish trotters and other big dishes are taken home by both parties. At the end of the 80s, it was fashionable to shoot wedding videos.

During the Republic of China, most of the rural weddings followed the old customs, and the woman asked for gifts before greeting her relatives, such as "Xie Niang Basket", "Please Sit", "Uncle Robbery", etc., and even the woman's parents asked for "stomach ache money". It is commonly known as "the sedan chair also needs 100 yuan of silver, and the matchmaker sends five plates with the sedan chair". The man should choose a married young man to carry a sedan chair or a boat, such as a sedan chair to marry, and the two boys and men in front of the sedan chair should carry a lantern with both parents. When marrying or sending someone or the bridegroom to greet her, the woman must see the door before the woman opens the door. Before the woman gets on the sedan chair, the dowry is passed by the woman's relatives across the threshold, and the man waits for the dowry, and the dowry is generally less than the man's gift. However, in the area of Haiyan and Pupu, it has always paid attention to the abundance of dowry, and called her daughter "a money-losing goods". The toilet bowl in the dowry is necessary, commonly known as the "descendant bucket", red lacquer, a bag of peanuts inside, two red-dyed half-boiled eggs. When the bride gets on the sedan chair, the front of the sedan chair is spread with a reed mat (or rice bag), and the bride steps on the sedan chair, which means not to take away the soil of the mother's house, and there are also uncles or brothers who carry the sedan chair. The bride must cry when she gets on the sedan chair, which is called "crying and crying". Generally, the bride cries quietly, and the mother cries loudly. After the bride gets on the sedan chair, she is first fed by her mother, and then the brother supports the sedan pole, and the sedan chair turns three times before being carried to the man's house in the sound of drums. When you get married by boat, there are places where two green bamboos with mud are placed on the boat. After the bride gets on the boat, she drives rapidly, and the penny supports the shore, so that it is auspicious not to get wet. After the ship leaves the port, the young people of the village often first beg for money on the bridge that the boat must pass, calling it a "barrage port", and if they do not meet the requirements, they will obstruct and not let them go. When arriving in front of the man's house, five sacks are laid in turn, and the bride helps the bride to step on the sack into the door, passing the sack to pave the way, which is called "passing on from generation to generation". With five bags, trillion "five sons Dengke". After the bride and groom worship heaven and earth, ancestors, parents and worship each other, "eat longevity noodles", parents sit facing south (if one of them dies, they should also set up chopsticks), and the bride and groom kneel to toast. After the ceremony, the bridegroom holds a red ribbon and leads the bride, and two young men hold a pair of flower candles into the cave room. The cave room sits on the bed in the east and the woman in the west, and the legend says that the bride sits on the bed in a large area, and is afraid of his wife after marriage; If the bridegroom sits a lot, then the wife and husband after the marriage will not be humble to each other, and they will sit next to each other. After sitting on the bed, the groom picks up the red scarf of the bride's head with a weighing rod (allegorical wishfulness) or sugar cane (allegorical and sweet). The bride threw dates, peanuts, candies, etc. into the bed tent of the new house, called "withdrawal", and some scattered them in the four corners of the new house and in front of the guests. Haiyan has a "Song of Withdrawing Accounts": "Withdrawing the account from the east and withdrawing from the east, the husband and wife are more harmonious, the withdrawing from the south is from the south, and the people are prosperous and have ......many descendants." In the rural area of Pinghu, there was a custom of eating "small night dinner" in the old days, that is, after the wedding, the elders took out two bowls of cold rice from the bride's box, put a few pickles on it, and let the bride and groom sit side by side and eat the pickles and cold rice.

After the founding of the People's Republic of China, the rural wedding customs changed, and the wedding was not used in a sedan chair, but by a boat. The bride price is very heavy when the engagement, and the groom must still prepare a variety of gifts before the wedding. In the past ten years, there have been people who have married on bicycles, and after marriage, they have traveled for their honeymoon just like the city. Since the 80s, the joy of the countryside has been similar to that of the city, with the bride participating in the banquet and toasting the guests. The wedding banquet is also generally based on cold dishes and hot stir-frying, accompanied by whole chicken and duck dim sum. Replacing home-brewed rice wine with bottled wine costs about 200 yuan per table.

On the wedding day of the bride and groom in urban and rural areas, the parents and close relatives of the man and woman must send a "red paper bag" to the bride and groom, commonly known as "meeting tian".

The day after the wedding, the bride's brother went to visit, and the man's family held a banquet to entertain him, called "Wangchao". The area of Jiashan is commonly known as "through the stove chimney", and Jiaxing is commonly known as "hanging chimney". According to folk legend, in the past, there was a bride who was tricked by her in-laws and concubines, and blocked the chimney, and the bride was filled with smoke when she was cooking, and was blamed by her in-laws. When his brother came to visit, he found something strange, and used a long bamboo pole to open the chimney, the flue was cleared, the smoke disappeared, and the meal was cooked. This legend contains the meaning of the mother's brother to protect the bride's status in the husband's family, and this custom is still popular after the founding of the country.

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In the Qing Dynasty, it was called "to the moon" and "to the moon". That is, one month after the marriage, the husband and his wife go back to their parents' house to visit, and the groom brings a table of wine, commonly known as the "table gift", and the parents-in-law also give a meeting gift. After the founding of the People's Republic of China, this custom is still popular in the countryside, and the return to the door is not limited to a full month, and most of them return to the door in three days.

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Commonly known as "Xi Grandma", it is semi-professional in nature. In the old days, the bride went to the groom's house the day before the wedding to dress the groom's mother and receive guests. On the wedding day, the bride prepares items and utensils for the wedding boat, and then follows the boat to the bride's house to lead the bride to the sedan chair and into the boat. After arriving at the man's house, the bride leads the bride to the shore, gets off the sedan chair, and after the ceremony, leads the bride and groom into the cave room, makes a bed stall for the bride and groom, and accompanies the bride and groom to eat "champion flower candle rice". The next day, the bride arranges for the groom's parents to have a birthday dinner. The bride is generally articulate, and can casually make up a good "lip color" (smooth mouth) to please people at each ceremony.

After the Republic of China, civilized marriage gradually flourished, and it was not until after liberation that the old marriage system was abolished and freedom of marriage was implemented.

Say pro

In the old days, marriage was mostly based on the words of the matchmaker, and the man asked the matchmaker to propose to the woman first, which was called "retribution". After the woman agreed, she handed over the red post with the eight characters of her daughter's birthday, that is, "Geng post", called "out of the post", commonly known as "out of the eight characters". After the man obtains the Geng post, he presses it under the incense burner in front of the ancestral tablet for three days, called "pressing Geng", and then asks the fortune teller to calculate whether the eight characters of the male and female birthdays are compatible, which is called "marriage". If the five elements clash with each other, return the woman's "Geng post" and send some gifts to apologize. The new society implements the autonomy of marriage, but in many rural areas, it is still popular to talk about marriage. Most of the young men and women in urban areas are free to fall in love, and some of them have been introduced to each other and have obtained the consent of the family to determine the marriage relationship, which is called "finding a partner".

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Jiaxing's engagement was formerly known as "peace of mind". After the marriage, if the marriage can be completed, the man's family will send a "peace of mind gift" to the woman's family. The rich family sent a "peace of mind gift", with a piece of gold Jue, engraved with auspicious patterns, and a gold ingot, a pair of gold Ruyi, and took the lip gloss of "Decide Ruyi". The woman is called "receiving tea" and reciprocating to the man, and then invites her relatives to eat peace of mind and announce the marriage contract. Gift-giving varies depending on the economic situation. During the Republic of China, there were people of status in the city, and there were also ceremonies for engagements, and there were also men and women who exchanged photos. In the old days, after the man and woman were engaged, the man should give gifts to the woman's house on holidays, such as brown seeds, moon cakes, chickens, fish, pig's trotters, cakes, etc., which were packed in bamboo baskets or wooden baskets, so they were called "gift baskets". This custom is still popular in urban and rural areas after the founding of the People's Republic of China, but the city is simple, and generally in the Mid-Autumn Festival and Spring Festival, men give some gifts to women.

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That is, the marriage date is determined by the man and the woman. According to the "Jiaxing Mansion Chronicle": "...... The date of the marriage petition will be on time". According to the "Ancient He Miscellaneous Knowledge", it is recorded: "...... Please say that the date is on time, then the men's house will be put into tea, and the women's house will be rewarded with cakes, and the cake will be returned to half of the house, which is said to be two ends high." During the Republic of China, this custom seemed to be popular, and wealthy men had to buy jewelry (2 to 4 pieces of gold rings, bracelets, etc.), fruit boxes (the box was divided into two frames, one for longan and one for tea) and dowry gifts of tens to hundreds of yuan, which were sent by the matchmaker to the woman's house. The women's family also prepared a cake box and a piece of Hehe (the legendary two immortals) (made of silk or paper in a glass box), and the red silk wrapped in Geng post under the seat was given back to the man's family. Before the date on time, the matchmaker must first "talk to the family", that is, the man asks the matchmaker to propose marriage to the woman's family, and the woman's family deliberately refuses to allow it, and only agrees to go back and forth at least three times. Rural etiquette is simpler, the man chooses the wedding date and notifies the woman's family half a year in advance, which is called "matching", also known as "Xingdapan". Gifts from matchmakers include silk, fabrics, jewelry and gift money, and the amount of gift money is also considerable. There are also women who bargain and make the man give posthumous gifts. After the founding of the People's Republic of China, this custom is still popular in rural areas, and sometimes in order to seek dowry, the man is unable to meet the woman's requirements due to poverty, resulting in marital disputes, and many men are in debt for the appointment.

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According to the record of "Gu He Miscellaneous Knowledge": "He customs are important to welcome the rich family of the wealthy family, and the gong is shouted, and the official is also." Although the bridegroom is dressed in white, he also wears a number of beads, and even surpasses those who wear red crowns. Relatives and friends are young, and the clothes are very good, and they are led in front of the public, which is called marrying. The bride rides the colorful public opinion, the light is reflected, and the maid follows, holding benzoin, and the air is hundreds of steps". This is the pomp and circumstance of the wealthy family in Jiaxing City in the Qing Dynasty to get married and welcome the new year. During the Republic of China, city residents got married, and the bride still rode a sedan chair or a colorful boat, and the groom wore a robe and a horse coat, and some wore suits. It is rare for the bride to wear a phoenix crown and a xia veil, and she generally wears a pink embroidered cheongsam, and some use a veil, which is pink. Marry to the man's house, and the bride holds a civilized marriage ceremony after leaving the sedan chair. There are witnesses, officiants, introducers, emceeers, and attendants, who only bow and do not kneel. On the day of the banquet, the number of tables to be set up depends on the economic situation, and the chef is invited to the home to do it. After the founding of the People's Republic of China, before the 70s, the city welcomed the bride and groom on foot or by bicycle to marry. The wedding is held at the man's home, with the groom accompanied by relatives and friends at noon having a wedding drink at the bride's house, and in the evening at the man's house for a banquet of relatives and friends. The marriage ceremony of cadres is simpler, and generally only candy is distributed to relatives, friends and colleagues to announce marriage. In the late '70s, weddings became more luxurious, and several tricycles (jokingly called "caravans") were used to attract attention. After the mid-80s, the wind of big operations and big things rose, all the cars were used to get married, some abused the bus, less one or two, more than seven or eight, the front glass window of the car was pasted with the word "double happiness", the bride and groom were accompanied by the bride and groom, firecrackers were fired when they were married, although the new house was close at hand or the new house was in the same place, they must take a car to travel along the street. Most brides wear white wedding dresses, while grooms wear black suits. In the evening, the parents and relatives and friends of both men and women go to the restaurant to go to the wedding banquet, the bride and groom are accompanied by the bride and groom, and greet the guests in front of the door of the restaurant, the groom toasts the guests one by one, and the bride holds the wallet and gives gifts to the juniors, generally dozens of yuan. The price of the banquet is several hundred yuan per table (generally 200 yuan to 250 yuan per table at the end of the 80s), and the two men and women jointly organize the cost, and the cost is borne by the man. After the banquet, the leftovers such as chicken, duck, fish trotters and other big dishes are taken home by both parties. At the end of the 80s, it was fashionable to shoot wedding videos.

During the Republic of China, most of the rural weddings followed the old customs, and the woman asked for gifts before greeting her relatives, such as "Xie Niang Basket", "Please Sit", "Uncle Robbery", etc., and even the woman's parents asked for "stomach ache money". It is commonly known as "the sedan chair also needs 100 yuan of silver, and the matchmaker sends five plates with the sedan chair". The man should choose a married young man to carry a sedan chair or a boat, such as a sedan chair to marry, and the two boys and men in front of the sedan chair should carry a lantern with both parents. When marrying or sending someone or the bridegroom to greet her, the woman must see the door before the woman opens the door. Before the woman gets on the sedan chair, the dowry is passed by the woman's relatives across the threshold, and the man waits for the dowry, and the dowry is generally less than the man's gift. However, in the area of Haiyan and Pupu, it has always paid attention to the abundance of dowry, and called her daughter "a money-losing goods". The toilet bowl in the dowry is necessary, commonly known as the "descendant bucket", red lacquer, a bag of peanuts inside, two red-dyed half-boiled eggs. When the bride gets on the sedan chair, the front of the sedan chair is spread with a reed mat (or rice bag), and the bride steps on the sedan chair, which means not to take away the soil of the mother's house, and there are also uncles or brothers who carry the sedan chair. The bride must cry when she gets on the sedan chair, which is called "crying and crying". Generally, the bride cries quietly, and the mother cries loudly. After the bride gets on the sedan chair, she is first fed by her mother, and then the brother supports the sedan pole, and the sedan chair turns three times before being carried to the man's house in the sound of drums. When you get married by boat, there are places where two green bamboos with mud are placed on the boat. After the bride gets on the boat, she drives rapidly, and the penny supports the shore, so that it is auspicious not to get wet. After the ship leaves the port, the young people of the village often first beg for money on the bridge that the boat must pass, calling it a "barrage port", and if they do not meet the requirements, they will obstruct and not let them go. When arriving in front of the man's house, five sacks are laid in turn, and the bride helps the bride to step on the sack into the door, passing the sack to pave the way, which is called "passing on from generation to generation". With five bags, trillion "five sons Dengke". After the bride and groom worship heaven and earth, ancestors, parents and worship each other, "eat longevity noodles", parents sit facing south (if one of them dies, they should also set up chopsticks), and the bride and groom kneel to toast. After the ceremony, the bridegroom holds a red ribbon and leads the bride, and two young men hold a pair of flower candles into the cave room. The cave room sits on the bed in the east and the woman in the west, and the legend says that the bride sits on the bed in a large area, and is afraid of his wife after marriage; If the bridegroom sits a lot, then the wife and husband after the marriage will not be humble to each other, and they will sit next to each other. After sitting on the bed, the groom picks up the red scarf of the bride's head with a weighing rod (allegorical wishfulness) or sugar cane (allegorical and sweet). The bride threw dates, peanuts, candies, etc. into the bed tent of the new house, called "withdrawal", and some scattered them in the four corners of the new house and in front of the guests. Haiyan has a "Song of Withdrawing Accounts": "Withdrawing the account from the east and withdrawing from the east, the husband and wife are more harmonious, the withdrawing from the south is from the south, and the people are prosperous and have ......many descendants." In the rural area of Pinghu, there was a custom of eating "small night dinner" in the old days, that is, after the wedding, the elders took out two bowls of cold rice from the bride's box, put a few pickles on it, and let the bride and groom sit side by side and eat the pickles and cold rice.

After the founding of the People's Republic of China, the rural wedding customs changed, and the wedding was not used in a sedan chair, but by a boat. The bride price is very heavy when the engagement, and the groom must still prepare a variety of gifts before the wedding. In the past ten years, there have been people who have married on bicycles, and after marriage, they have traveled for their honeymoon just like the city. Since the 80s, the joy of the countryside has been similar to that of the city, with the bride participating in the banquet and toasting the guests. The wedding banquet is also generally based on cold dishes and hot stir-frying, accompanied by whole chicken and duck dim sum. Replacing home-brewed rice wine with bottled wine costs about 200 yuan per table.

On the wedding day of the bride and groom in urban and rural areas, the parents and close relatives of the man and woman must send a "red paper bag" to the bride and groom, commonly known as "meeting tian".

The day after the wedding, the bride's brother went to visit, and the man's family held a banquet to entertain him, called "Wangchao". The area of Jiashan is commonly known as "through the stove chimney", and Jiaxing is commonly known as "hanging chimney". According to folk legend, in the past, there was a bride who was tricked by her in-laws and concubines, and blocked the chimney, and the bride was filled with smoke when she was cooking, and was blamed by her in-laws. When his brother came to visit, he found something strange, and used a long bamboo pole to open the chimney, the flue was cleared, the smoke disappeared, and the meal was cooked. This legend contains the meaning of the mother's brother to protect the bride's status in the husband's family, and this custom is still popular after the founding of the country.

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In the Qing Dynasty, it was called "to the moon" and "to the moon". That is, one month after the marriage, the husband and his wife go back to their parents' house to visit, and the groom brings a table of wine, commonly known as the "table gift", and the parents-in-law also give a meeting gift. After the founding of the People's Republic of China, this custom is still popular in the countryside, and the return to the door is not limited to a full month, and most of them return to the door in three days.

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Commonly known as "Xi Grandma", it is semi-professional in nature. In the old days, the bride went to the groom's house the day before the wedding to dress the groom's mother and receive guests. On the wedding day, the bride prepares items and utensils for the wedding boat, and then follows the boat to the bride's house to lead the bride to the sedan chair and into the boat. After arriving at the man's house, the bride leads the bride to the shore, gets off the sedan chair, and after the ceremony, leads the bride and groom into the cave room, makes a bed stall for the bride and groom, and accompanies the bride and groom to eat "champion flower candle rice". The next day, the bride arranges for the groom's parents to have a birthday dinner. The bride is generally articulate, and can casually make up a good "lip color" (smooth mouth) to please people at each ceremony.

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The Three Books and Six Rites are traditional Chinese marriage customs and etiquette. The "Three Books" refer to the documents used in the process of the "Six Rites", including the letter of appointment, the letter of ceremony and the letter of welcome. The "Six Rites" refer to the entire marriage process from the proposal to the completion of the marriage. "Six Rites" refers to the six rituals, which refer to Nacai, Asking for Names, Najib, Nazheng, Inviting and Greeting.

This ancient marriage process is a bit different from the modern meaning. The modern marriage process generally refers to the etiquette held on the wedding day, while the marriage process of the Three Books and Six Rites includes the documents and etiquette from the negotiation of marriage, engagement to marriage. Similar to modern times, the whole traditional marriage custom and etiquette notified relatives and neighbors in order to obtain social recognition and protection. In addition, traditional marriage customs and rituals enable married couples to obtain the approval of ancestral gods and undertake to fulfill their rights and obligations to their parents and relatives. Therefore, in some ancient times, if a man and a woman did not complete the process of the Three Books and Six Rites, the marriage was not recognized as a marriage of the Ming Family; The completeness of the wedding ceremony directly affects the auspiciousness of the marriage. However, in different Chinese dynasties, the etiquette of marriage also varied.

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The "Three Books" are the documents used in the process of marriage, which can be said to be an effective written record to protect marriage in ancient times. They refer to:

Letter of Appointment: A document of engagement. In Najib (a marriage contract between a man and a woman), the man gives the woman a letter of letters.

Book of Rites: That is, the documents used in the celebration of large gifts, listing the items and quantities of excessive gifts.

Wedding book: that is, the document of marrying the bride. It is a document given by the man to the woman when the bride passes through the door.

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The "Six Rites" are the six rituals of the marriage process, which refer to:

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When the children get married, the head of the male family asks the matchmaker to propose marriage to the woman who is looking for a good marriage. When the male family is collecting, about 30 kinds of auspicious gifts are given to the female family; The woman's family also asked the matchmaker about the man's situation at this time. Ancient Han marriage customs. It is endemic in many parts of the country. The first of the "Six Rites". The man wants to marry the woman, and the man sends the matchmaker to the woman's house to propose marriage and give gifts to propose. After receiving the promise, the matchmaker was asked to officially accept the "gift of choice" to the female family. After the initial discussion, if the woman is interested, the man will send a matchmaker to formally propose to the woman's family and bring a certain gift, so it is called. The gift of the Gunacei rite was made only with geese. Natsai is the beginning of the whole marriage process. In later generations, the ceremony was basically weekly, and the gifts were otherwise specified. "Rites and Rituals": "Rites and Rituals": "Rites, Downhacha." With geese. Zheng Xuan's note: "If you want to marry him, you must first make the matchmaker, pass through his words, and the woman will allow it, and then make people accept it." Its gift with geese. Descendants gradually added gifts. To the Ming Dynasty Chen Yan and gifts in the hall. In the Qing Dynasty, Chen Yiwu was married to the court, and the book was fatal, and the officiant received the book and sued the temple Libin. The common people are accepted, and the number of jewelry is limited to four. At the beginning of Yongzheng, customized, Han people accepted and married, more than four products, silk and jewelry are limited to eight, and food is limited to ten products. The five grades below are reduced by two, and the eight grades are reduced by two, and the military, civilian silk, and fruit boxes are also limited to four. On the wedding day of the official, the deacon of the official is used, and there are 12 people with 6 lamps and drum music, and those who do not meet the quality are 4 lamps and 8 people with drum music. It is forbidden to pay for money, and all officials and citizens are not allowed to use financial gifts.

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That is, after the woman's parents accept the proposal, the woman's family will bring the daughter's Nian Geng Bazi back to the man's house, so that the men and women will be in harmony with the Houbu Ji.

The second of the "Six Rites" of the Western Zhou Dynasty. The gift of "asking for a name" was first seen in "Etiquette": "There are six ceremonies for marriage, including Nacai, asking for a name, Najib, Nazheng, inviting a date, and welcoming in person." He also said: "Ask the name: The one who asks the name will be blamed for the good luck." "The Book of Rites: Fang's Note" also says: "Those who ask the name ask the name of the girl's mother." When asking for a name, use a goose as a gift for the visit. "White Tiger Pass" Volume 4 "Marrying" says: "Nacai, ask the name, Najib, invite, welcome, to the goose." Na Zheng said Xuanxuan, so there is no need for geese. After the man's family performs the ceremony, he asks the matchmaker to ask the woman's name, date of birth and time, so that the man's family can ask and decide whether to marry or not, and what the good luck is. Or they think that the man sends an envoy to ask the woman's birth mother's surname, so that they can distinguish the concubine. The scope of the post-questioning extended to many aspects, such as family name, position, property, appearance, health, etc. Gifts must also be brought when asking for names, usually with geese. Ethnic minorities in Guangdong, Hainan and southwest China often use betel nut as a gift to ask for their names. The woman's Geng post and the man's birthday were divined, and the Najib ceremony was performed after it was determined that they could get married. Marriage etiquette, the second of the six rites. That is, the man sent a matchmaker to the woman's house to ask the woman's name and birthday. After retrieving the Geng sticker, Bu Ji is eight characters. "Etiquette and Ceremony": "Bin Zhiyan, please ask the name; The host Xu and the guest are instructed. Zheng Xuan's note: "Those who ask the name will be blamed for their good fortune." Jia Gongyanshu: "Those who ask for the name will ask for the woman's surname."

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(also known as Guo Wending): When receiving the Geng post, the Geng post will be placed in front of the gods or on the ancestral case to ask for good luck, in order to affirm that the two sides of the year Geng eight characters do not clash with each other. When it was learned that there was no sign of opposition between the parties, the marriage was preliminarily agreed.

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(also known as the big gift): that is, the man's family sends the letter of appointment and the letter of gift to the woman's house. One month to two weeks before the wedding, the man's family will invite two or four female relatives (who must be the blessed person) to make an appointment with the matchmaker to bring the bride price, gift money and dowry to the woman's home. At this time, the woman needs to return the gift. Na Zheng: Ancient Han marriage customs. It is endemic in many parts of the country. The fourth of the "Six Rites". Also known as "Nacheng". That is, the man's family Najib sends a dowry gift to the woman's family. "The Book of Rites: The Rites of the Evening" Kong Yingda Shu: "Those who recruit will also be hired for money." Levy, success. Marry first, and then get married. "By this ceremonial marriage contract is fully established. Ancient Han marriage customs. It is endemic in many parts of the country. The fourth of the "Six Rites". Also known as "Nacheng". That is, the man's family Najib sends a dowry gift to the woman's family. "The Book of Rites: The Rites of the Evening" Kong Yingda Shu: "Those who recruit will also be hired for money." Levy, success. Marry first, and then get married. "By this ceremonial marriage contract is fully established. "Jin Shu Zhi 11": "In the eighth year of Taikang, there was a division: the wedding recruitment, the big wedding with Xuanqi bundle silk, Jiaqi, and Ma Ersi. The prince and the prince tied the silk, added the bi, and rode the horse. The doctor used Xuan Xuan to bind the silk and add sheep. "The gifts used in the Song Dynasty no longer follow the Zhou Zhi, gold, silver, and silk, each according to the rank. The Ming Dynasty dowry advocated frugality. "History of the Ming Dynasty: Zhi 31" official wedding: "Accept the levy as auspicious, add Xuanxuan, bundle silk, letters, and do not use geese." The ceremony was based on the Song system: "The guest speech said: A certain official is a husband and wife, and he favors a certain official, and follows the ceremony." If there is a coin that is not shy, dare to ask for it. The officiant said: "A certain official is a serious gift, and a certain dare not to accept it." The guest will give a letter to the officiant, and the officiant will also reply by letter. In modern times, there is no name of "Na Zheng", but there is a fact of gift-giving, or it is combined with Nacai, or it is called Na coin. In 1920, "Yingshan County Chronicle": "Weddings in ancient times had Nacai, asking for names, Najib, Nazheng, inviting the date, welcoming the six ceremonies, and now using Nacai and Na coins."

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(also known as begging day): that is, the male family chooses an auspicious day for marriage and asks for the consent of the female family.

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(or wedding): On the auspicious day of the wedding, the groom wearing a dress will go to the bride's house with a matchmaker, relatives and friends to marry the bride. Before arriving at the woman's house, the groom needs to pay homage to the ancestral temple of the woman's family, and then take the bride to the man's house in a sedan chair. After completing the ritual of worshipping heaven, earth, and ancestors in the man's house, he is sent to the cave house.

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The traditional wedding customs of the Three Books and Six Rites have a long history, dating back to the Western Zhou Dynasty. The "Six Rites of Marriage" in the Western Zhou Dynasty had an important impact on the form of marriage in subsequent dynasties.

The ancient Chinese books "The Book of Rites" and "Rites" both discuss this. "The Book of Rites" contains: "Those who faint will merge the two surnames,

On the temple of Shizong, and down to the future generations also, so the man is important, is to dusk ceremony, ask the name, Naji, Naji, Nazheng, please period, are the master of the door a few outside the door, into the let and rise, obey the temple orders, and greet outside the door, into the let and rise, obey the temple orders, so respect and prudence is also ...... Respect and prudence and then the father and son have relatives, father and son have relatives and then the monarch and ministers have integrity, so it is said that the faint ceremony, the foundation of the ceremony. According to the "Rites": "There are six rites in the dark, Nacai, asking for names, Najib, Nazheng, inviting dates, and welcoming in person." It can be seen that this traditional marriage custom was founded in the Western Zhou Dynasty. It is generally believed that this marriage custom was established in the Qin Dynasty and later used in the Han Dynasty.

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At the time of recruitment, the male family needs a bride price, a gift money and a dowry.

Among them, the main ones are: (even numbers - meaning "good things come in pairs")

A load of seafood (style and quantity according to economic conditions): fat cabbage (mandatory), abalone, oysters, scallops, mushrooms, dried shrimp, squid, sea cucumbers, shark fins and fish maw, etc. Three livestock chickens (two pairs), pork (3-5 catties): one piece is connected to open two, which means "from (happy) double flying", fish (big fish or dace): it means fishy (sound) two pairs of coconut: it means that there is coconut wine (four sticks) Sijing fruit: dried longan, dry branches, dried walnuts, shelled peanuts and fruits: that is, vigorous tea, sesame: I wish the unwavering son of planting, a metaphor for the unswerving marriage contract

Gift box (gift box): There are lotus seeds, lilies, green wisps, cypress, betel coconut two pairs, sesame, red beans, mung beans, red dates, dried walnuts, dried longan, as well as red bean rope, lai, dowry, gold, dragon and phoenix candles and a couplet

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At the time of recruitment, the female family needs to return the gift, which mainly includes:

Tea fruit lotus root, taro and pomegranate (one pair each) He Wei scarf trousers: that is, longevity and wealth shoes (a pair): It means that the same accompaniment to the old cypress, ginger, tea fried pile, and muffin cake return to the golden betel coconut (accept one, and the rest will all be returned to the man): It means that Ichiro to the end

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In ancient times, the age of marriage was different from dynasty to dynasty. In the Spring and Autumn Period, men were crowned at 20 and women were 16 and married; It is also said that "men marry at 30, and women marry at 20", which is to not lose time. It is clearly recorded in the "Hanshu Huidi Ji": "If a woman is over 15 to 30 years old and does not marry, five counts." The "five calculations" are to punish her to pay five times the tax. In fact, the phenomenon of early marriage in ancient China was also very serious, and the Song Dynasty had a provision that "all men are 15 years old, women are 13 years old, and they listen to marriage". It is recorded in the Book of the Later Han Dynasty that Ban Zhao is "four out of ten years old, and he holds the broom in the Cao family". There is even a record in "Hanshu - The Biography of Empress Shangguan" that "Yue Yu was established as a queen at the age of six". But it's usually around the age of 20. In ancient times, when a man's family went to a woman's house to greet his relatives, it was at night. "Rites and Rituals" says: "The ceremony is given." Zheng Xuan said: "The gift of marrying a wife is for a faint period, so it is famous." The yang goes and the yin comes, and the sun enters the three merchants for dusk. And, "the master is Ben, dress, and Tie, and the servant is Bi Xuanduan, taking the ink car, the second car from the car, and the horse before the candle." That is, the people who greet their relatives wear black clothes, and the chariots and horses are also black. This custom is very different from the marriage custom of later generations to greet relatives during the day and wear red clothes. Since the Tang Dynasty, the time of greeting relatives has been changed to morning. According to Tang Duan Chengshi's "Youyang Miscellaneous", it is recorded: "Ceremony, the wedding must be faint, and the yang will come and the yin will come." This is the day of the salute. "Dawn is dawn. Since then, it has been passed down to the present day. In ancient times, the posture of the newborn bride was also very particular. According to the record of "Lü's Spring and Autumn Period": "Huizi came out, and Bai Gui told people: 'People have new wives, and women are right, and they should be safe and flattering. The so-called "An Jin's smoke and flattery", Shang Binghe said: "An Jin's smoke and flattery, describing the state of the bride, can be described as subtle. However, it is difficult to explain. Peaceful, calm; Prudent, cautious; Those who are smoky do not have direct eye movements; Flatterer, stop shy and shy and soft and charming. It is the state of the bride who is just starting out, and on the contrary, she loses her identity. "When the Han Dynasty got married, they all used green cloth curtains to build tents to hold worship ceremonies. The chapter of "The New Language of the World: False Words" records: "When Wei Wu was young, he tried to be a ranger with Yuan Shaohao. Watching the newlyweds, because they sneaked into the master's garden, they cried out to the clouds at night: 'There are thieves!' 'Everyone in the green house is out to watch. Wei Wunai entered, drawing a knife to rob the bride. This custom of getting married in Qinglu continued until the Qing Dynasty, and Pu Songling's "Strange Tales from Liaozhai" mentioned it in many places. According to historical records, on the occasion of the two Han Dynasty, there was already the custom of congratulatory marriage and the custom of listening to the room on the wedding night. According to the record of "Hanshu Xuandi Ji": "The edict of the second year of Wufeng said: 'The gift of the husband's marriage is also the great one.'" The meeting of wine and food, so the ceremony is also happy. Now the county country 2,000 stone or unauthorized forbidden, forbidden people to marry and not have wine and food to congratulate each other, because it is the gift of the party in the abolition of the township, so that the people have no pleasure, so that the people are also guided. The purpose of Emperor Xuan of the Han Dynasty's edict was to encourage the common people to set up a banquet at the wedding to celebrate. According to the "Hanshu Biography of Yuan Kui's Wife", it is recorded that after Yuan Kui and his wife entered the cave room, the couple were whispering: Kui said: "The younger brother raised the first brother, and the world thought it was laughing." If the virgin sister is not suitable, can you go first?" He said: "The concubine sister is very good, she has not been a good match, she is not despicable, and she is just helpless." He also asked: "Nanjun Jun is poor in learning, and the text is the word sect, and the position is to lose goods and wealth, what is the evil?" said to him: "The great sage of Confucius will inevitably be destroyed by Uncle Wu; Zilu is the most virtuous, and there is still Boliao. Jiajun obtained this, and it was good for his ears. "Kui Mo was unyielding. Those who listen outside the tent are ashamed. It can be proved that the Han Dynasty had the custom of listening to the room. In addition, one custom that is different from later generations in ancient marriage customs is that ancient women were not taboo to remarry, and this has been the case from the Zhou Dynasty to the Northern Song Dynasty. According to the record of "Li Tan Gong": after the death of Confucius's son Boyu, "his wife married Yu Wei" and wrote: "Zisi's mother died in Wei, went to Zisi, and Zisi cried in the temple." The doorman said: 'The mother of the Shu family died, what is crying in the temple of the Kong family?' Zi Si said: "I'm too much! I'm over! He wept in his room. It can be seen that the sons and wives of the descendants of the saints are not exempt from remarriage. And the remarriage of the daughters of famous families in the Wei, Jin, Tang and Song dynasties is also not uncommon. "Romance of the Three Kingdoms, Wu Zhi, The Biography of Mrs. Bu" records: Mrs. Bu "gave birth to two daughters, the elder is called Luban, the word is Dahu, the front is Zhou Yuzi Xun, and the back is Quan Cong; The young is called Lu Yu, the word Xiaohu, with Zhu Zhu in the front and Liu Su in the back. Shang Binghe's "Examination of Social Customs and Things in the Past Dynasties" quoted "Suiyuan Essays" as saying: "In the Tang Dynasty, the princess remarried twenty-three, and the third married four." Moreover, at that time, whether the ex-husband saw the step-husband, or the step-husband saw the ex-husband, there was no need to avoid it. After the Song Dynasty poet Lu You divorced his ex-wife Tang Wan, he once visited Shen Yuan and met Tang Wan and his stephusband Zhao Shicheng. It can be seen that it was still normal for women to remarry in the Tang and Song dynasties. Until the Ming and Qing dynasties, women remarried was not allowed by etiquette, so there was a festival and a memorial arch.

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Until modern China's marriage customs and etiquette, especially in some rural areas, the form of marriage can still see obvious traces of the "six marriage rites". However, in modern Chinese wedding etiquette, the marriage customs and etiquette of the Three Books and Six Rites have been simplified, and generally follow certain etiquettes such as proposing, accepting the levy (i.e., over-the-topping) and welcoming (i.e., receiving the bride). In modern marriage customs and etiquette, the acceptance of the three books and six rites has been a traditional etiquette that has been preserved relatively completely and has received greater attention.