"After the divorce, custody is on your side, the child lives with you, and five years is still five years old now, she has been with you, your previous marriage lasted four years, the divorce is because he has a poor sense of responsibility for the child, saying that he spends all his energy on work, basically regardless of the child, he is not a fun-loving person, but you said such a sentence, but in his eyes, his work is more important than you and the child. ”

"There is another detail that he actually remarried with you, and his previous divorce was also based on the lack of responsibility of each pair and the family and children, who will have no children, no children, that is, the lack of responsibility for the ex-wife and family, his personality is not very gregarious, people are very selfish, it is not suitable for marriage at all, right, it is okay to divide one acre and two acres of land for one."

It's suitable for living alone, not for marriage, in fact, you can say that, you tell people that when you divorced, it was very unpleasant, so you didn't ask for anything, and now you still don't want the delivery fee. If I had been beside me at the time, I would have told you, why not, in the future you are going to raise children, you must at least have to get out of the school district, pay the money, you will not be subject to others now, why don't be impulsive, as long as you can leave at that time, I am willing to pay any price, many people have suffered this loss, many, many people, there are male compatriots, there are female compatriots, so marriage is a big deal, divorce is also a big deal, everyone should not be impulsive.

After being impulsive, you will regret it later, so my problem comes. You said he wanted custody of the child? You didn't show her the child, not him, I took the initiative to ask for it, and I communicated many times about this child, I said that you want to come to see the child, so that the child can continue to get the father's love in the case of our divorce, but his understanding is that you want to divorce, well, you don't want to look at this, the child asks me to give the child to me in time, I will not ask you to pay child support, and I will not ask you to watch the child for a while, so why does he want the custody of the child?

Because he thinks that my education level is very low, and then, he thinks that I may not be able to educate the child well, or rather, because he is also in his 40s, almost 50 years old, and there is only such a child, he may think that the child is also very important, and his importance is really our tradition, and now he is not busy with work. He's very busy on his work card, but she's a very, very enterprising person, which is especially commendable, he's still learning new things at a very old age, but like I said, he may just manage some of his own space, and then I once talked to her, I said that the education of children, if you want to be a little more attentive, is much more important than doing a lot of things yourself, you are a little bit of putting the cart before the horse, and I think this is my life.

In fact, what do you have different concepts, or what kind of person, just say that you don't have to boast, he doesn't need to flatten him, he doesn't need to praise, and he doesn't need to blow him up why? Because the two of you have different concepts, no matter how much you argue, there is no point at all, I just said, he is not suitable for the kind of person who is married, she is not suitable for marriage at all, let's talk about him being selfish, how is his life, why do I say he is selfish? Are you not a person who is not suitable for marriage, but you have been married twice, cheated two women, and cheated a child, I said that he was selfish because of the high live broadcast.

I know that it is not suitable for marriage, because his attention to himself, to his own life plan, and to himself is the first priority, that is, he is like you said, he can't treat you and the child like that, then if you think it's because he's old and wants custody of the child, let's put yourself in the shoes of your child and his father's narrow-mindedness. If he takes custody of the kids, he won't let me see the kids, right?

I'm really struggling with this matter, and I have a second question, I miss your brother, his brother is uneducated, may I ask him what kind of education he is not a postdoctoral supervisor. I'm ashamed to say it, I didn't graduate from high school, I am from the countryside at home, and I have been coming out, I should dig more and do things, forgive my gossip, I don't mean to be offended, but how could he marry you at that time, because you were not married, he was divorced, so he wanted to find a real self, and he didn't quite understand what he thought at the time, but although I didn't have Shuanglonghua, the overall quality of this place was okay.

You can wait until you say me, I'll talk to you, I think it's quite comfortable. And you speak elegantly, pay attention to proportion, take care of each other's emotions, I really think that although you may not have a high degree of education, but you are a more qualified person, because the quality and education he is not equal at all, I am not completely not equal, he said that can not be completely equated, is the most obvious example is between you and your husband, although he has a high education, but his sense of responsibility for the family is so poor, resulting in two wives left quickly, I think this can not be explained.

You have to think about how to be really good to your child, he has such a father, can this father love him in the right way? This is the first, what is the second? can be higher than the mother's company and love for the child, very entangled in this matter.

It is not good for children to study in case they go to the school district room. I don't want to have it all again, so isn't it that we lost my wife and broke the army, this sentence is a bit strange, but he will only think he is good, and then I will understate it, tell the lady, the child can't be given to her ex-husband, the child has to go back, and he doesn't have time to care, who cares about the child? You have to know that some men's ideas are really ridiculous, don't get divorced, divorce to have children, not because he loves children, but because she feels old, someone has to support the elderly, someone to pass on the ancestry.

There is also a friend named Tangtang, who said that such a father should not hand over the child to him, the female is a campus room, and it is not a necessary factor for the child's success, or take care of the child by himself, cultivate it well, the lady's child has little to do with the school district room, a good family atmosphere, the companionship of love, is the biggest motivation for the child to learn, let's not worry about the netizens in the school district room, just think about it, there is no boundary, are you a junior in the upper position?

Said that the lady who did not graduate from high school spoke in an orderly manner, polite, quick to respond, did not break up fees, cared about her dignity very much, this is a good woman, and she must be a good mother, I raised my hands to support him in raising children, a good mother is better than the school district house and the father of the education really, although his father is highly educated, but he is oblique, he is selfish, what do you think is good for the child, and then if the custody is really in hand, I never said that I will not let you watch it or I just said that you can watch it twice a month.

He is also fighting with me for custody, sometimes it's really ha, some people don't care about men and women, they don't care about their children when they are married, and they are more energetic than anyone else when they get divorced. The positioning of this child, but the wife is too sad, can't have children, we are willing to drop anything, and we can't be willing to ask for food, he said that I am a person without a mother, he said that kind of taste.

Said that I thought that the mother was very qualified, and she must take care of the child by herself, and the child brought out by your quality can't be wrong. Academic qualifications do not mean that everything can live and promote people, life can be a person is much more important than academic qualifications.

I occasionally look at my father, I want to be with my mother, this child answers so strictly, I go to live together, because I am alone, so I want my parents are gone, and then my brothers and sisters are not around, I look at him alone, so, it is because of this, this child has nothing else to rely on, so it is more severe to talk to me, because he may also delay my thoughts, for example, sometimes people ask, do you like this or like that, he usually says I like both, so I also think that if there is a grandparent around, he may have more love, Because I'm alone, he may have no hope when I talk about her, in fact, he is a bit sensitive, what does the child's grandfather say to you, if the child is required by his father, you can't let you see the child, and it's hard to call it.

There is a saying called what is the son of Mo Ruo's father, your ex-husband, his own father said so about you, if you say that the custody of the child is given to him, I estimate that you will lose the child's companionship, support for him, and what kind of love encourages him more, so that he is more grandparents take care of her, it must be grandparents to take care of, but the child is like this, and then there is an indifferent father next to him, maybe he doesn't often look at her, right, his mother is patterned outside his life, what is more important to him until now, well, right to now, see this on the Internet, no one likes it。

The two of you have been married for seven years, and the children are quite old, and I tell you that the relationship between the two of you is very good, and I don't know what to do about it now.

The two broke up because of a long-distance relationship, and they haven't been in touch since then, and they haven't been in touch for ten years. Oh, during this time, he added me on WeChat, I refused, and then he texted me. Broken up, can't we still be friends? That's what he thought, but I think. You can also answer him in the same way, just teach everyone, if your ex tells you why he didn't contact me to break up, can we just say that he broke up with reason, can't we be friends?

I didn't think much about it, but my husband didn't agree, I didn't want to do things he didn't like, so he just answered like this, I see who has such a thick skin, which ex has such a thick skin, say you listen to me, don't listen to your grandfather or listen to me, don't listen to your wife, if your ex has such a thick skin, what kind of intentions is this, is this still a good person? What kind of heart is An? What are you doing to destroy other people's families? What is this breakup, can't you be friends? In fact, sometimes some people still want to be friends after a breakup, and some people, it's out of how to say it, normal heart, but don't want to make the relationship so bad, after all, everyone has loved each other, but some people think more clearly, it is precisely because we have loved each other that we can't get along calmly like ordinary friends who haven't happened to anything, so the so-called ex should stop a little, stop a little, what kind of friends do you have to ask someone's wife, whether the wife agrees or not, everyone is a person with a family and children, isn't it？

So when he called you when this happened, you know who he was to pass this on him, isn't this also the standard answer, friends, I personally think the standard answer, you wait a minute, I'll ask me to say hello to my husband, because at noon, the two of us had an appointment to eat together, I guess he's coming to me soon, is it that I'll say hello to him first, if he agrees to eat us, you don't object. This standard answer, first put him if the other party, or can't see the level of eyebrows and eyes is hard to say, then you can say hello to him.