With the recovery and improvement of my child's desire to express myself, I am ready to try to help him recover his extreme emotions and behaviors for drinking milk under the condition of supplementation...

Drinking milk is a normal thing for modern children. But many people may not expect that, especially in the process of drinking milk for autistic children, there are also many clues to the problem and the solution to the problem...

When we are faced with an imbalance in the child's milk drinking state, for many parents, even if there is some imbalance, it is often easy to think that it is just a bad habit of the child.

However, this is not entirely the case, especially for autistic children, who need to pay more attention to the so-called bad lifestyle habits when drinking milk.

Because, for a normal child, even if his milk drinking state is a bit extreme, it will be easy for him to adjust himself with his normal development, so it is often difficult for his physical and mental development. Unless there are extreme cases or other triggers...

However, in autistic children, the radical breastfeeding state is often the outward manifestation of internal psychological problems. The first is the lack of love and attention caused by environmental problems, resulting in the transfer and replacement of love and warmth or security. Secondly, the main reason is the child's own physiological problems, resulting in dependence and acuity, induced psychological and emotional problems, and then the problem of milk itself...

The problem of children drinking milk once made it difficult to do anything, and in the midst of incomprehension, I thought more than once of the story of the wolf child and the queen bee. I don't know how many times I have been thinking about it, and I have always felt that the child's stubborn reaction to milk may be mainly due to the lack of maternal love experience, which leads to the transfer of maternal love experience. The second should be the problem of milk itself, or the coexistence of both at the same time that strengthens his extremism...

Therefore, later I found out in my recollection that the number and state of the child's milk drinking as soon as he returned to the countryside were relatively normal. Sometimes, at most, I wake up occasionally at night and ask for another drink. In addition, the number of fever sickness will suddenly increase, but the sick state can be completely exceptional.

But when I returned to Anqing later, I accidentally found that I don't know when the child's demand for milk became stronger and stronger, and he became more and more persistent and dependent! Sometimes the number of times you drink milk is so serious that you have to drink milk day and night, before and after meals, and even just peeing! And what's worse is that once he is not satisfied, his eyes will immediately become anxious. If it continues, he will cry and even roll on the ground, no matter how much he teases, he will either want this or that. But in the end, it's always a matter of what you want and what you don't want. On the contrary, it is difficult to give, but he keeps making trouble. In short, in that situation, there is really a bit of a state of drug addiction...

The child's moment may seem normal to others, his mother and grandmother. How many children are not like this?

But his situation seemed to make my heart bleed. Because I know that if the child's emotional behavior cannot be effectively corrected, then it will form his inner psychological consciousness, which will lead to various obstacles on his future life path...

But when we didn't beat or scold, and didn't know how to solve it, we almost always satisfied him without exception...

Whenever we hand the bottle to the child, he is like a seedling that is about to wither, and suddenly in the nectar of joy, he immediately grabs the bottle tightly like a vampire, sucking it with all his strength...

After that, he finally quieted down slowly, and seemed to be more well-behaved, and his eyes didn't know when he was like a surprise rabbit, and began to be naughty with a smile in the pleasure of satisfaction!

I think judging from his eyes and other behaviors, this reaction to drinking milk should belong to the psychological problems caused by his grandmother in the countryside. Because, if it is a physiological problem, there will be a hunger satisfaction response. There shouldn't be such a gap between before and after drinking milk...

In helpless thinking, I think that if this situation is a psychological problem, it should be the paranoid personality of the grandmother, coupled with the lack of maternal love experience, and the closed environment, which leads to the child's unconsciousness transferred to drinking milk in order to obtain maternal love and satisfaction, and repression release, so as to obtain subconscious satisfaction.

Because the reason is very simple, "milk" subconsciously represents the mother, and the happiness and satisfaction of drinking milk subconsciously represents the experience of maternal love. The essence of attachment is relativism is rebellion, and the essence of rebellion is repression!

Therefore, healthy maternal love is the source of his growth, and it is his paradise for the child.

Because, a healthy mother's love is like a spring breeze for a child, which can caress his soul all the time. It is like a beam of sunshine that can make his world as warm as spring. It's like a pool of sweet springs, which can nourish everything in his life every second...

Yes, there are too many good words, a mother's love that has been praised for thousands of years, it is even greater than the greatness of heaven and earth, because it can be like the sun, soaring thousands of miles into the sky and nourishing all things...

However, this does not represent the greatness of the mother, because only the mother who is permeated with maternal love can be like the sun in the clear sky, without the cover of dark clouds, and illuminate the world to generate greatness...

The child's mother, because of the obscuration of dark clouds, went through the rainy season in her young soul...

The child's mother, because of the obscuration of dark clouds, was alone in the sky above the clouds, like a jade girl in Yaochi and forgot the world...

In those years...

It's in heaven...

In the world of mixed tastes...

Maybe at that moment...

Looking at the past and the past...

It's hard to be swayed...

As the poem...

In the end, the heart is ethereal,

Everything in the world is flawed.

Drink the sunset outside the mountains,

Ancient and modern, who is free from lingering feelings...

I don't know who wrote this most remarkable psalm, but I do know that since I am unknown, I am destined to be a master of the world...

I didn't know he was an ancient sage. Or modern Gaoyin. But I know that over the years, this poem has accompanied me through many springs and autumns, how many nights, how many bitterness, tears, struggles, helplessness, and shouts in my heart...

But today, when the shouts finally subsided and the helplessness rose again, the expected child seemed to have been prepared, like a proud naughty boy of the strange and strange saints, and finally returned to the world that belonged to him again under the arrangement of fate!

So, no matter what happened in the past, what I want to do now is to re-give the child's lost mother's love and father's love and all-round care according to his situation...

And with this as the center, replace and restore his subconscious, the warmth, security, and the need for satisfaction generated by the actual maternal love, so as to achieve a rehabilitation program for the purpose of natural milk abstinence and return to normal living habits!

So, in line with the development of the child's mental health, the child was ready to sleep with me at first. Because after all, it is a boy who is almost four years old, and if he sleeps with his mother, it is easy to affect his psychological development.

But I didn't expect that although the child was willing to sleep with me, I found that almost every night he was like an adult with a heart in mind, and often tossed and turned in bed all night and slept very unsteadily...

In the face of this situation, in order for the child to cross the autism disorder earlier, I thought about it and felt that the best way at present was still to sleep with the mother. Although the mother has to take care of the younger brother, this helpless move is also in line with the basic principle of mother's love in the milk abstinence program!

Because, since the child was one year old, he has been accompanied by his grandmother in the countryside. Because of the individual differences of children, the negative factors across the era, as well as the paranoia of my grandmother's own quality, and the indifference of conscious perception caused by her own family of origin, today's children's demand for maternal love is more like a sweet spring in the desert, although it seems to be just ordinary water, but in fact, for him, the representative is the future of life and hope...

Yes, when a desert meets an oasis, it can multiply quickly...

Therefore, in later days, whenever the child is by the mother's side, he is always like a lamb on the spring grassland, like the coquettishness and happiness of the spring breeze. However, I was not happy about it. On the contrary, it feels even heavier...

Because, his reaction to his mother is enough to prove that the child needs the nourishment and companionship of maternal love too much, because of his grandmother's paranoia and indifference, and his grandfather can't see the benefits of our marriage to him, and he has ulterior motives to monopolize the opportunity for parents to raise children, resulting in the loss of healthy growth space for children, and inducing acquired autism.

Because of too much time, because of the lack of maternal love and the oppression of the environment, he finally stepped into her mother's past.

In later days, I think that even careless parents are easy to find out, whether it is before going to bed or after waking up, as long as he finds his mother by his side, that kind of happiness, that kind of satisfaction, and at the same time a little worried about his mother's departure eyes, always makes people feel sad and heartbroken...

Time passed...

The child seems to be more active and relaxed in the company of his mother. But the state of drinking milk is still the same. Especially when I found out that the stereotypical behavior of the child in the incident of drinking milk and going to bed has appeared at any time, I am even more worried...

If we don't observe carefully, if he hasn't been diagnosed with autism, maybe we will ignore it, and we won't easily find that every time he goes to bed, he has to be on the fixed side. He was forced to pick him up from somewhere else, but he still came down and went back to bed in the same way.

Especially when he was drinking milk, he had to close the protective cap of the bottle almost every time, and he had to take it off himself before he was willing to drink it. If he didn't have the protective cover, or even if we helped him take it off in front of him, he would still resist immediately and ask for the lid to be closed. Otherwise, he will be in a state of revealing the srides, crying and resisting milk until the lid is closed again and handed to him...

In order to meet this stereotyped condition, he takes off the lid in a highly coercive situation, even if he is occasionally willing to drink milk in desperation, he will take the lid off again virtually...

In this case, excluding the variation of the five senses, it is obvious that the habitual tension caused by improper parenting, the environmental restrictions on the development of autonomous ability, and the lack of sense of security caused by insufficient benign stimulation lead to psychological problems caused by the satisfaction of repeated experiences in the experience of autonomous happiness and relaxation. This kind of psychology in children, which is reflected in adults, is very similar to obsessive-compulsive disorder. The formation of obsessive-compulsive disorder is essentially due to lack of security, which leads to the lack and transfer of security, resulting in repetitive consciousness induced by habitual conscious behaviors...

This kind of repetitive conscious experience will allow the individual to think consciously and consciously in order to obtain the satisfaction of a sense of groundedness. Because of the weak thinking consciousness, children are mainly guided by explicit behaviors, and it is difficult for them to experience the conflict between the subconscious and the thinking consciousness. As a result, it leads to the formation of linear thinking and a lack of cognitive weakness, which leads him to ignore other environments, resulting in such rigid habits.

This phenomenon also existed in her mother and grandmother. For example, when her mother was an intern at the Second Hospital of Hefei, she was worried about making mistakes due to the fear caused by her childhood, and gradually developed an overly serious attitude in adulthood, hoping to gain the approval of others and longing for a sense of security. So the teacher's evaluation of her at that time was serious and rigid.

This phenomenon is due to the lack of conscious benign experience, and the supporting thinking consciousness and subconscious are only under the action of the conscious channel, and the thinking consciousness and the subconscious mind are formed as a result of the split between the conscious consciousness and the conscious consciousness.

This phenomenon of potential splitting and splitting will recur under stress, leading to subconscious or unconscious behavior, and it is difficult to be recognized by the cognitive function of the conscious mind with the support of the conscious consciousness. This phenomenon has led to tension in our husband and wife relationship for some time. Later, I found out that she didn't know it, so after I got to know her, I tried to protect her while avoiding pressure on her, so that she always kept her stable, and gradually re-established and integrated her mind in the recovery!

However, because of the arrival of the child, because of the paranoia of her mother and father, and the involvement in our lives, her parents, in order to control me through her, often induced her latent negative consciousness, which is unavoidable, causing her to project the negative consciousness passively directly on me and indirectly on the child under the control of her parents, and show unconscious behavior, but often difficult to know.

This external division of the inner psyche leads to her puppet-like self-consciousness, which alternates between positive and negative poles with the environment. In order to aspire to obtain the correct value results, in the extreme, because of the lack of sensitivity, she lives in the world of others without knowing what she wants, and because it is difficult to realize her self-worth, she continues to aggravate the experience of self-conscious self-reflection in inferiority and depression, and involuntarily copies the thinking of others to face her own life. It is always difficult to have a benign self-consciousness at the level of the conscious mind. And it makes her easy to experience the negative pain of conscious consciousness, causing depression and evasion and blind behavior!

Therefore, from the cases of his mother and grandmother, I think that the child can neither beat nor scold or force and reason for the rehabilitation of the child on the issue of milk withdrawal. Otherwise, even if the child's problem is effectively solved in external behavior, it is easy to cause potential psychological problems and outweigh the losses.

Therefore, the only safe way is to find his weak link from the subconscious, and use the conscious experience to experience the surprise and win, and disrupt the information that governs stereotyped behavior in his subconscious. At the same time, the conscious consciousness is used as the starting point to implant the corresponding benign information to replace the original information of the subconscious.

Therefore, since the stereotypical behavior is a mutated behavior caused by the lack of maternal love experience and repression, then I should take the satisfaction of maternal love as the premise, and at the same time carry out subconscious information replacement, in order to help the child cross the natural danger again as soon as possible and safely...

Inspired by the Zen Buddhism method of epiphany, he thought that using the surprise might temporarily keep his mind in a state of stagnation and blankness, and implant new information to interfere with his subconscious information. So that night, at the moment when the child got the bottle again,

The moment you find that there is no lid

I want to resist and ask for the moment when the bottle cap is closed

I suddenly turned off the lights in my room

Instantly it was pitch black in the house...

Then I immediately turned on the lights again

Just when he was stunned and didn't react

I immediately ran over, with a provocative attitude, like the reincarnation of a mad monk, and said to him with a grin: "Obedient, this is the last time, there will be no such opportunity in the future, because drinking milk is not good for the body, you see that Mom and Dad don't drink, come!" Give Daddy a sip. ”

When the child heard this, not only did he not give it to drink, but when he was afraid that I would snatch it, he saw him grasp the bottle and drink it vigorously, while his eyes were a little dull and looked up at me. I'm afraid I'll really deprive him of his milk, his happiness, his satisfaction, and his subconscious maternal love!

I think that his rigid desire to ask for a lid at this time may have long been thrown out of the clouds. And the lid that turned out to be very important to him was actually to preserve the happiness of mother's love, and to show the persistent behavior of the need for perfection. The purpose is to have that mere joy and happiness. Even a little bit of it may be a great joy and satisfaction for him.

This phenomenon is like a homeless poor man, and like people who have come to this day before the 80s, because of the fear of poverty and scarcity, when they want to have satisfaction and happiness, even if it is something that has no practical effect, they are reluctant to throw it away, and they will try to keep it as well as possible!

In fact, it preserves sorrow, poverty and fear. What is preserved is memory, what is preserved is hope, happiness, and contentment...

Perhaps because of this, the language I just said can enter his subconscious by interfering with his past, and then achieve a positive psychological radiation effect under the premise of real maternal love, so as to directly replace his subconscious information of drinking milk...

Because, the original consciousness of his mind has been disrupted by the program just now. At this time, in the joy and satisfaction of drinking milk, his subconscious mind is opened to the maximum extent at the moment when the lights are turned off and empty, so that the new information skips the thinking consciousness and the explicit consciousness and directly enters the subconscious...

The main purpose of this program is to disrupt the original milk information in his subconscious, so as to enter the new predetermined information in time, implant it and completely drive away and replace his original subconscious information!

Unexpectedly, this method was very effective, and after only two such interventions, his previous milk drinking reaction disappeared...

However, I didn't expect that pressing the gourd scoop up, when drinking milk stereotyped behavior is effectively solved. The state and frequency of milk drinking also began to change. But at the same time, new problems arise ...

After a few days, the child's attitude towards going out on the road suddenly became persistent, stubborn and even more blind. Even if I went out for a morning shopping, I had already promised to go home for dinner, but as soon as I entered the house, I immediately wanted to go out. If you don't let it out, you either want to drink milk or candy, or you want to lie on the ground and play tricks, in short, there is a kind of courage to not achieve your goal...

In desperation, it was another day, and finally let him get ready to eat at the table for a long time. But I'm afraid that there are ghosts, and the worrying thing has appeared again, and before he can pick up the rice spoon, he suddenly wants to drink milk again...

When his grandmother saw this, she habitually prepared to make milk for him to drink, but I was firmly against it. But her grandmother still ignored me like a parenting expert. So in my frustration, I lost my temper again...

The child may be more sensible than we think, because in this situation, the child is already sitting there, and although he does not want to eat, he is no longer noisy and drinking!

When I sat beside him helplessly, I saw that he seemed to be angry and well-behaved silently, and suddenly I couldn't bear it, and I took the bottle and handed it to him and said: "After drinking, you have to eat well, this is the last time, this time it is Dad who gives you a face, and there will be no such treatment in the future..."

But I thought that he would drink it as usual, but I didn't expect that when he took the bottle, I saw that he suddenly looked like a mature old man, as if he had premeditated, put the pacifier into his mouth, and then put it on the table decisively, and then ate happily with a satisfied god...

Unexpectedly, at that moment, my brain seemed to have a feeling of clear sky in an instant, and it seemed that I could see the bottomless heart of the child without any obstruction. Then I was pleasantly surprised and said to his mother: "You see, you think he is not sensible, he is like an adult now, he knows the problem of face..."

It turned out that his unexpected performance made me seem more certain that the child's reaction to milk is at the root of the result of the lack of maternal love and the poor environment, which makes it difficult to feel self-worth recognized, accepted, understood, and satisfied! Because of this, I understand more about the formation of his mother's character.

It turned out that the main reason for his irregular milk drinking was that he wanted to get recognition and love from it. But unknowingly, it led to his drug-like attachment to milk. Therefore, in such a long-term process, the meaning of milk is not only the mother's love, but also a telescope-like exploration tool for him, and the child hopes to see the family's love and recognition for him. At that moment, I felt as if he was no longer a child, he seemed to have the mentality of an adult...

Because, at the moment when I lost my temper, he understood the stakes and no longer forced to drink milk. Because, symbolically, he put the milk in his mouth and immediately put down the bottle. This kind of performance is enough to prove that he can understand the feelings of others, understand the existence of self-esteem, the existence of value, the existence of his need to be understood, accepted, and recognized, etc.

Because, my behavior made him understand and realize that my father gave me milk this time to hope that I would be happy. Therefore, he realized: "I am valuable in my father's heart, it turns out that I am accepted, respected, understood, and my father is willing to satisfy me and love me..."

Therefore, it is enough to prove that the family is his paradise for the child and his whole world. Therefore, in turn, in the child's psychological consciousness, the home represents himself, so the attitude of the family towards him is the beginning of his self-knowledge and self-understanding...

However, before eating the next day, he was going to drink milk again. But in order to prevent him from drinking milk, his grandmother deliberately pretended not to know. However, it didn't occur to my grandmother that the more she did this, the more the child would think that the grandmother might not know that I wanted to drink milk, or that she would not like to let me drink, and would continue to express her needs in a body tone language...

Indeed, the more my grandmother pretended not to know, the more he gnawed and chirped in front of my grandmother to express that he wanted milk to drink...

So, when I walked over, in order to let him experience self-esteem and equal value, I squatted down and said to him: "You are a sensible child, grandma and dad don't give you milk because it's about to eat, if you drink milk again, you won't be hungry, then you won't want to eat, if you don't eat, then you can't grow taller..."

Sure enough, as soon as the child heard this, he immediately stopped asking for milk. After all, there is still a milk addiction, and I feel quite pitiful when I look at it. However, in this way, he finally got a little reluctant, walked out of the kitchen and started playing again...

Since then, he has noticeably improved, and the number of milk drinks has plummeted over the next two days. Every time I gave him milk, I said to him the same way, "This is the last time I drank milk, this is really the last time I drank milk..."

In this way, with mother's love as the center, and subconscious information implantation, coupled with verbal cues, I didn't expect that on the third day, he didn't want to drink milk for a day. In the evening, the milk was drunk at our reminder.

In later days, he often appeared and needed to be reminded to have even a milk at night. Originally, I suspected that there was something wrong with the milk, and I was ready to quit it completely. But considering his reaction, it is certain that the milk should be safe. Therefore, in order for him to grow up better and healthily, he still maintains the habit of milking once a day!