Don't be too extreme in everything, too much leisure will seem depraved, too busy and easy to make people feel hopeless. People who have been idle for too long will feel fulfilled at first glance, and people who have been busy for too long will feel how beautiful life is when they are idle at first glance......

After a busy month, I finally got a few days off, lying lazily at home, reading and writing at will, and watching videos and playing games when I was tired. In a random neighborhood in a video, the reporter grabbed a young lady who looked like a sign and asked her about her attitude towards marriage: If there is a boy who loves you very much, but the economic conditions are very average, will you choose to be with him? The young lady thought for a few seconds, and said with a smile on her face: "If it was a few years ago, I would definitely choose to do it without thinking." The young lady covered her mouth a little shyly and smiled, "But ......" her smile still did not fade, but she said a turning word, "However, when people get older, they will think about a lot of things, and they will not be so simple, only love may not be able to go far." The reporter interrupted her speech: "That boy loves you very much?" Don't you think about being together? The young lady stood for a while, organized the language and said, "What do you mean to love very much?" It has to be expressed to be able to manifest it, at this time it depends on his material conditions, after all, the material conditions he provides are also a manifestation of love, you know the metaphor of milk and bread, aside from the material pure love is too pale, having sufficient material security is the most important ......"

My wife sighed while holding her son next to me, I glanced at her secretly, and she said: "I have been in your hands for the rest of my life, I have no money, no house, and my salary is not high...... "I was silent. My wife was playing with her son, distracted and didn't notice my reaction, maybe she was waiting for me to make a long fallacy, but she didn't expect me to say a word.

"What's wrong? Am I not right? ”

I pressed the lock screen of my phone, and the voice on my phone stopped abruptly: "I don't know how to answer you, dear." Now this social trend is money worship, and only people who have reached a certain level of economic level can not pay much attention to these money issues. Everyone loves money, so blindly accusing women of being too materialistic and meaningless, to say that the unfair place is probably that when women have no money, they can shift all the responsibility to men, and when men have no money, they can only find ways to make money, money is a scarce resource, and people are flooded...... Women skip the question of making money, and go directly to choose people who have the ability to make money to give up the ability to make money for the time being, some opportunistic, even if you try to disguise this fact will always make people feel uncomfortable" I really can't think of how to describe the crux of the contradiction caused by the status quo. So the conversation changed: "Having said that, I also think that I have no money, no house, no car, and I am lazy...... There's nothing to boast about...... Well, it seems that you really love me, no way, no way. The wife exaggerated the vomiting motion and left with her son in her arms.

Any kind of social phenomenon is not improved because of how ugly or mean others say, or even when they hit the nail on the head. We can only passively accept the trend, and we can only use self-awareness to fight against it. It's also cool to be a keyboard warrior and calmly express your dissatisfaction and anger about things you don't like to watch. I feel that although men and women nowadays attach great importance to emotions and associate everything in the direction of affection and love, when it comes to marriage, people are more like businessmen than emotionally charged men and women, and marriage and emotions have little to do with it! are more like businessmen, and marriage is more like negotiating a deal. With this clear understanding, there will not be so much controversy when it comes to marriage. If you attach great importance to material things, you should clearly mark the price, don't have some illusions about those who have no financial ability, what potential stocks and high-performance stocks are just an investment, and emotions have a dime to do with it? When talking about business transactions, avoiding the price must be the more you talk about the atmosphere, the more you talk about the atmosphere is getting worse, the price is very high, and you wake up like a dream and remember that you still have emotional needs, and then put forward a lot of emotional requirements, and the buyer may not want to buy this part of the responsibility. The human heart is insufficient and hypocritical, obviously the fish and the bear's paw want it, but they have to use some high-sounding things as a cover to hide greed and vanity.

I've always believed that money and love are two different things, and it's great to treat them separately without any controversy. Mencius said, "I can fish as much as I want; Bear's paws, as well as I want. You can't have both, and he who gives up the fish and takes the bear's paw." If you love money, you can set a reasonable price for yourself from the perspective of a businessman, and let the customers who pay buy it, and the wish will be realized, which is a perfect ending; If you pay more attention to love, use the mentality of an innocent little girl to choose which man can give her love, which is also a perfect ending.