Only by facing the problems we encounter with a tolerant heart and knowing how to adapt appropriately can we better solve the problems. If there is a lack of flexibility and compromise between each other, the conflict is often more likely to intensify.

Some people say that rational compromise and flexibility is a healthy state of mind to eliminate the "stress response" and adapt to the social environment, and it is also a good cooperative behavior in interpersonal relationships, just like finding a common divisor between two different numbers. This is very philosophical.

In the face of these unfair, unpleasant, unclear, or unfavorable embarrassments and adversities, we should understand the importance of compromise in order not to have too many bad emotions and ultimately damage our physical and mental health, and in order to maintain a better and more precious joy and happiness in our lives.

Know that making the right compromises in the right environment and conditions has only advantages and no disadvantages. Only by facing the problems we encounter with a tolerant heart and knowing how to adapt appropriately can we better solve the problems. If there is a lack of flexibility and compromise with each other, conflicts are often more likely to intensify.

Indeed, the mysteries of life are endless, not a pool of stagnant water, and there will inevitably be bumps and bumps, contradictions and disputes. For example, the wife is happy to socialize, and the husband is quiet and introverted; The wife loves literature, and the husband is a fan; One party is obsessed with their career, while the other party is more concerned about the small family...... These are all very natural. If there is a lack of understanding between each other, each going its own way, it will inevitably hurt the feelings, intensify the contradictions, and part ways for this reason.

Sometimes, the correction of self-consciousness and the adjustment of self-mentality are also rational compromises in life. For example, to make a more objective evaluation of one's own ability and knowledge level, and appropriately lower expectations, so that oneself can get rid of heavy loss, insoluble resentment, nameless melancholy, and tug at one's heartstrings without trouble, is this not the best choice for the way of life?

"Knock out your front teeth and swallow it in your stomach" is to hide your grievances and pain and not reveal them on the surface. This practice is similar to the strategy of Taoguang to maintain obscurity and seek perfection, and has the function of resisting external harm and protecting oneself.

Some people can't listen to the slightest "contrary words" in cooperation with others, as long as other people's words are slightly disrespectful, either angry or try to justify, in fact, it is not wise to do so, which not only can not win the respect of others, but will make others feel that you are not easy to get along with. Don't show your dissatisfaction easily, and adopt an open-minded and easy-going attitude will make your cooperation with others more enjoyable.

Former U.S. President Franklin D. Roosevelt was not as physically strong as others when he was young.

Once, he went out into the field with men to cut down trees.

When it was time to rest in the evening, their leader asked them about their achievements in cutting down trees during the day, and one of their companions replied. "Tal cut down 53, I cut down 49, and Roosevelt bit off 17." It wasn't a pleasant thing for Roosevelt, but he couldn't help but laugh at the thought that when he cut down trees, he was like a mouse.

When getting along with leaders, you must not only be able to accept various assignments from leaders, but also be able to bear the pain of being misunderstood, wronged, and reprimanded for no reason. You can't contradict him, you can't argue, and you can't fight against him. Only in this way can you keep your position with the bitter water in your heart, so that your boss will not dislike you or reject you.

Yuan Ziyang is the deputy head of the security department of a garment company. He works hard and dedicatedly, and has a good reputation in the company.

One morning. As soon as he walked through the company's door, he was called to the office by his boss.

"Section Chief Yuan, what are you doing in the Security Section. How many people were on duty last night? What are you doing on duty? The boss scolded him with a slap in the face: "You also have an unshirkable responsibility." Your winnings for the month will be deducted in full. ”

Yuan Ziyang didn't understand what was going on? Then again, even if something happens, you can't blame yourself. He was on vacation last night, and he was led by Section Chief Chen!

It was only afterwards that he figured out the cause of the incident. It turned out that several thieves had infiltrated the company's finance department last night. A purchase price was stolen. The boss was angry about it. Despite this, the blame is not on oneself. Why do you want to reprimand me and deduct the bonus of the month?

Yuan Ziyang thought about it and couldn't figure it out. He was arrogant, and he was so aggrieved that he wanted to cry.

I thought to myself, I usually work so seriously, what a lot of effort I have put into the safety of the company! Why should the boss punish himself for no reason?

He wanted to reason with the boss and ask for an explanation. Then I thought: "How can people not bow their heads when they are under the eaves?" It's not cost-effective to destroy your previous image for this little thing. Knock out your front teeth and swallow your stomach, and be a scapegoat for once! ”

After this incident, Yuan Ziyang did not bring his emotions into his work, he was still conscientious, still hard-working, and still polite when he saw the boss, as if nothing had happened.

Later, the Public Security Bureau cracked the theft case that night, and the head of the security section, Chen, was arrested in accordance with the law on suspicion of the case.

Soon, the company adjusted the personnel of the security section and enriched the force. Yuan Ziyang was appointed as the head of the security section and was responsible for the company's safety and security work.

Just imagine, if Yuan Ziyang couldn't hold his breath after being criticized and went to the boss to argue and reason, the boss would definitely have an opinion on him, then the position of the head of the security section might not be able to let him sit down. It is inevitable to get along with the boss, be misunderstood by the boss, and even reprimand. The boss is generally very concerned about the maintenance of his prestige, even if he blames you, you have to bear it. Once you go to him to theorize, you can only suffer from it.

Of course, rational compromise does not mean laziness, numbness, pedantic, and worldliness, nor does it mean abandoning yesterday without thinking, avoiding tomorrow without thinking, dealing with today without worry, and without any sense of distress and crisis. On some major issues, such as correctly educating children, providing for the elderly, and overcoming bad habits that are harmful to physical and mental health, it is impossible to make accommodations and concessions to the unreasonable party.

Compromise is not an easy task. Far from being cowardly, incompetent, insensitive, or worldly, it requires extraordinary courage and perseverance. It is the embodiment of measurement and courage, but also a reflection of wisdom and strength.

Compromise is a path, flexibility is a realm, compromise and flexibility are another kind of inclusive wisdom. When you know how to compromise and be flexible, when you understand life, you will have gains.

There will always be some inexplicable truths in the world, and there are some unsatisfactory places, but for the sake of a smile in life, in order to alleviate the feelings of resistance, and in order to "desilt" the voyage of life, you might as well learn to compromise rationally.