A person's opinion often represents a person's personality, and a person who obliterates his own personality in order to cater to others is like a fuse in a light bulb that blows out, and never has a chance to shine again. In any case, you have to stick to your own opinions and stick to being yourself.

If a person asks for advice from others, there will be meticulous people who will criticize him for being careless and sloppy, and people who like to dress up will criticize him for being too simple and old-fashioned, people who think about things too simple will criticize him for being too simple, a modest person will criticize him for being proud, and a person who will be compromised will criticize him for being too strong and straightforward. Actually, you don't have to think about how to fit everyone, and you don't have to cater to others.

There was a man who brought some eggs to the market and wrote on a piece of paper: Fresh eggs are sold here.

A man came to him and said, "Man, aren't the eggs fresh?" "It makes sense for him to think about it, why bother adding the word 'fresh', could it be that yours just erased the word "fresh".

Soon they said to him, "Why do you add 'here'?" If you don't sell here, where else will you sell? He also felt that it made sense, so he erased the word "here" again.

After a while, an old lady came to him and said, "The word 'sales' is redundant, if you don't sell eggs, will it be given away for nothing?" He crossed out the word "sales" again.

At this time, a man came and said to him: "You are really doing this too much, everyone knows that it is an egg at a glance, why write the word 'egg'?" ”

As a result, he scribbled out all the words.

You don't have to think about whether the words written by the egg seller are reasonable, but you have to remember that you must know exactly what you are doing at any time, and the opinions of others can only be used as a reference, and you cannot blindly change your own opinions in order to cater to others.

Once upon a time there was a soldier who became an officer, and his heart was exceedingly happy. Whenever he marched, he always liked to walk at the back of the ranks.

Once, during the march, his enemies made fun of him, saying, "You see, he looks like an officer, but like a herd." ”

When the officer heard this, he walked in the middle of the procession, and his enemies mocked him, saying, "You see, he looks like an officer, and he is a complete coward, hiding in the middle of the group." ”

When the officer heard this, he went to the front of the line again, and his enemy sarcastically said: "You see, he is not ashamed to lead his troops to the front of the line without winning a single battle!" ”

When the officer heard this, he thought to himself: If you have to listen to others for everything, you won't even be able to walk.

Since then, he has walked as much as he wants.

If people don't have their own opinions and can't stand the opinions of others, then they will achieve nothing and end up not knowing what to do. If we want to live a life without getting tired, happy and chic, there is only one practical way, which is to change ourselves, dominate ourselves, and no longer believe that "human words are terrible".

It is impossible for each of us to live in isolation in this world, almost all knowledge and information have to come from the influence of other people's education and environment, but how you accept, understand, process, and combine is your personal matter, and all of this must be viewed and chosen independently. Who is the highest arbiter? Not someone else, but yourself!

We should live to enrich ourselves, not to cater to the will of others. People who don't have ego are always thinking about other people's opinions, which is living for others, so it's very tiring to live. If you get close to a new female colleague, some people will suspect you of bad intentions; If you go to a certain leader's office, it will cause this or that discussion; If you speak bluntly, people will inevitably feel that you are proud and complacent, and there is no one in your eyes; If you work first and don't care about anything else, people will say that you are either too stupid or have power and ambition...... All these short-term discussions and whispers can be said to be everywhere and pervasive. If your auditory vision has not yet failed, and you are involved in some kind of whirlpool, consciously or unconsciously, your brain will soon be filled with messy things, making you dizzy and confused, how can you not be tired?

Each of us lives in the empirical reality of our own perception, and most of the reflections of others on you have certain reasons and reasons, but it is impossible to fully reflect your true face and wishes, and we must respect our hearts.

Wang Liang used to be a staff member in the sales department of a company, and the sales work was very challenging, which was in line with his personality, and he also liked it very much, and his work performance has been good. After getting married, his wife didn't like him running around all day and wanted him to change to a more stable job. His father-in-law and mother-in-law often nagged and said: "It's hard to find a job after graduating from a bachelor's degree, but what kind of salesperson you want to be, and what kind of interest you have, let's find an opportunity to adjust." "He didn't want to change jobs, he wanted to do something in sales. But he couldn't stand the soft grinding and hard bubbles of his relatives, and he finally agreed to change jobs.

With the help of a friend, Wang Liang became an assistant general manager in a company, and his family was happy for him and couldn't stop praising him. But he began to become unhappy, he had no confidence in himself, and he felt that he was not up to the task of doing simple things. In particular, the cumbersomeness of work gave him a headache, and going to work every day was like a routine, he didn't know what the meaning of his work was, and he could no longer find the sense of accomplishment and pleasure of his original work. As a result, he began to dislike going to work, and he was not in a good mood after work, and his whole person changed.

Finally, one day, he figured out that he had to do a job that he really loved, or else he would fall into the quagmire of misery. He resolutely resigned from the position of assistant general manager of Anyi, returned to his original job, and immediately regained his original confidence and fighting spirit, and was soon promoted to sales manager, and he became high-spirited.

Have you ever wanted to live your own life and become your true master?

In your life, especially when you are growing up or at the beginning of your life, you may often encounter situations where your mother wants you to become a doctor in the future; Your father always wants you to take over his business like he did; Or, your sister thinks you should be a teacher like her; Your teacher may think you're better suited to be a manager...... What do you do when this happens? Maybe each of them has a point in what they say and there is no malice, but their attention does not reflect your heart, and we have to respect the needs of the heart.

Everyone should stick to the path they have carved out for themselves, and not be held back by the opinions of others. We can't change other people's opinions, we can only change ourselves.

Goethe said: "Everyone should stick to the path he has carved out for himself, not be intimidated by rumors, and not be held back by the opinions of others." "It's stupid and unnecessary to please everyone.