"Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance." A person's charm comes from presenting themselves authentically, and such people are the most popular. Everyone can't be perfect, and everyone can't win everyone's love, only by accepting yourself from the heart, liking yourself, and showing your true self calmly, can you have a successful life.

There are two such maxims in the West: "I hold on to my imperfection, which is the true essence of my life." ”

There is such a fable:

There was a king walking alone in the garden. He was amazed by the sight of the garden, for all the flowers and trees had withered and withered, and it was desolate. The king learned from the gardener that the oak tree had died because he was not as tall and straight as the pine tree. The pine tree also died, resentful that he did not bear as much fruit as the vine. The vine also lamented that he had to crawl on the shelf all day long, and could neither stand upright nor produce beautiful and lovely flowers like a peach tree, and died. Morning glory also fell ill because she lamented that she was not as fragrant as lilacs. The rest of the plants were there too, dejected and self-pitying.

The king suddenly noticed that the tiniest of Xin'an grasses was still growing luxuriantly. Then he asked, "Little Xin'an Cao, I really admire you." All plants are pessimistic and misanthropic, why is your little grass so brave and not depressed at all? ”

"O king," replied, "I have not been discouraged at all, nor have I been disappointed at all. I am nothing, but I understand: if you want an oak tree, or a pine tree, or a clump of vines, or a peach tree, or a morning glory, or a lilac, or whatever, you will tell the gardener to plant them. And I know you're just asking me to be a little peace of mind. So I'm content to be here to do my peace of mind. ”

If you can develop an attitude of cherishing your wings and loving yourself, you will be able to convey your charm to others. It's like peace of mind.

Do we have the following experience in our lives:

A vendor made a large basket of fresh grapes and sold them on the roadside. He shouted: "Sweet grapes, grapes are not sweet, no money!" But there was a pregnant woman who happened to buy sour grapes, and the buyer left. The peddler thought about it and hurriedly changed his words and shouted: "Sell sour grapes, grapes are not sour and don't need money!" But even if he shouted loudly, the couples, students, and old people who walked by him did not buy his grapes, and said that this person was not mentally ill, and who did the sour grapes sell them to! Later, the grape seller began to shout: "Sell grapes, grapes that are neither sour nor sweet!" ”

Many of us live like peddlers. Life should be lived to enrich oneself, not to cater to the will of others. People who don't have ego are always thinking about other people's opinions, which is living for others, so it's very tiring to live.

Not being able to keep yourself as you are, which is a problem that plagues many people. So why can't these people stay true to themselves? In the final analysis, it is their vanity that is at fault, because they care too much about what others think of them, in order to get more people's support, or to create harmonious interpersonal relationships, or for a certain purpose, they gradually lose themselves, and begin to blindly follow others, and look at problems and do things from other people's point of view. It can be said that they always live in the eyes of others and never live for themselves.

Lao Zhang wholeheartedly wanted to be promoted to become wealthy, but from youth to gray hair, he was still just a small civil servant. He was so unhappy about it that he cried every time he thought about it. One day after work, he was in a bad mood and didn't rush home, thinking about his unsuccessful life, he became more and more sad, and even cried in the office.

This made a colleague Xiao Li, who also did not go home from work, panicked, Xiao Li graduated from college and had just been transferred here to work, and he was very enthusiastic. When he saw Lao Zhang's sad appearance, he felt very strange, so he asked him why he was sad.

Lao Zhang said: "How can I not be sad? When I was young, my boss loved literature, so I learned to write poetry and articles. I quickly switched to mathematics and physics, but my boss thought I was too young and not old enough, so he still didn't use me. Later, I changed to the current boss, I think I have both civil and military skills, and I am old, who knows that the boss likes young talents, I ...... I am getting older, I am about to retire, and I can't achieve anything, how can I not be sad? ”

It can be seen that life without self is miserable, life without self is boring, and loss of self is sad. If you want to have a good life, you must be self-reliant and have a good ability to survive. People who have no ability to survive and lack self-confidence certainly have no ego. If a person loses himself, he will not have the dignity of being a human being, and he will not be able to gain the respect of others.

- Only when an individual fully shows the true side of his personality can he be a living person, a person who shines with the light of personality charm. Even if you make a mistake once in a while, it will only make your impression more vivid and wonderful in the minds of others.

A person's charm comes from presenting themselves authentically, and such people are the most popular. So you can let go of yourself when interacting with people. Treat your imperfections with an inclusive mindset and appreciate another beauty from them.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Accept yourself and don't try to hide your shortcomings or mistakes. A bad person is certainly not popular, but a good person is often unbearable, and a person who demands perfection at every turn not only makes it difficult for him, but also "suffocates" the people around him.