If we are walking down the street and suddenly there is a typhoon and a rainstorm, it is enough to spread the umbrella we are carrying, and we can't say, "Damn, it's raining again!" "It's not good to say that, it just makes you feel bad. If we put it another way: what a rain! Saying this is good for us and it also allows us to pass on happiness to others.

"It's really unlucky, it's a traffic jam again" "The hateful supervisor, knowing that I'm not good at communicating, even sent me to the business group"...... We often hear complaints that they never seem to have a good time, no matter when you are with them, you will hear him complaining incessantly.

There are many such people around us, and he forgets the happy things behind, and he always talks about the things that do not go well, turning them over and over, making himself very irritated and others very upset. Actually, what they are complaining about is not a big deal. There are small things that happen often in everyday life, and other people will encounter them, but wise people will laugh it off.

And the mentality of the waiter in the following story is something we should learn.

The guest asked the waiter, "What is the weather forecast for tomorrow?" ”

The waiter affirmed, "It's going to be the weather I like." ”

Puzzled, the guest asked, "How do you know it's the weather you like?" ”

The waiter replied, "I found that the environment was not always as I wanted it to be, so I learned to face everything I encountered with joy." So tomorrow the weather must be my favorite. ”

Your attitude determines your mood and even changes your opportunities today and changes your destiny. To know. Unsatisfactory things often happen in life, we can't guarantee that everything will go well, we must face it calmly, don't always pile up some garbage in our hearts, and complain about it.

Complaining is a strong poison of the spirit, which prevents happiness from being produced, and gradually depletes the power of success, and finally forms a vicious circle. People who don't have much skill and often complain about others are almost impossible to get along well with others.

Finding someone to talk about and complain is a natural way to vent emotions, but complaining excessively not only does not relieve the troubles, but instead magnifies the original pain, falling into a vicious circle of complaining and complaining, which is useless. If you feel comfortable and can find a solution to the problem after complaining, it is an effective venting; If you only complain and don't want to solve the problem, it is excessive, and you need to be wary of falling into negative emotions.

Some people often talk about unfortunate things. In the face of adversity, they always stubbornly believe that fate is here to get along with them. Their complaints always overemphasize external factors, and fail to find the cause of mistakes from their own subjective factors, and the more they complain about their unfortunate fate, the more painful they feel.

There was one man who was extremely dissatisfied with his job.

Once, he angrily said to a friend: "My boss doesn't take me seriously at all, I'm going to slap the table with him another day, and then quit!" "Have you completely figured out the trading company? Have they all figured out the tricks of international trade? My friend asked rhetorically. No! "The ancients said, 'It is not too late for a gentleman to take revenge for three years.'" I suggest that you get all the trade skills, business paperwork, and corporate organization done well, and even learn how to fix minor glitches in the photocopier, and then quit your job. Said a friend.

The man felt that his friend's "suggestion" made sense - using the company as a free learning place, and after everything was passed, he walked away, wasn't he angry and had a lot of gains? Since then, he has memorized stealing from school, and even after work, he has stayed in his office to study how to write business documents. A year has passed. One day, the man and his friend met again. A friend asked, "You've probably learned everything about the company now, so you're ready to shoot the table and quit, right?" However, the man blushed and said: "But I found that in the past six months, the boss has been impressed with me, and recently I have always been entrusted with important tasks, and I have been promoted and raised, and I have become a celebrity in the company!" ”

Complaining people rarely reflect on their own responsibility when they encounter unsatisfactory things, and most of the time blame the outside or others for the cause. When the complaint is severe, it is possible to fall into a state of illness. In addition, people who like to complain are also plagued by more adverse physical symptoms, such as anxiety, insomnia, etc.

Whining won't help, have a positive attitude. Psychiatrists pointed out that complaining is a kind of emotional venting, and it is not good to be too depressed to have dissatisfaction, but it is also not good to vent excessively and complain endlessly, not only can not solve any practical problems, but also cannot achieve the purpose of catharsis and happiness, but will make people fall into negative emotions.

Complaining is the norm in many people's lives – work, family, relationships, weather, transportation, ...... These are the objects of complaints. The person who complains is unhappy, he will always be in the same place as the starting point of unhappiness, and he will not realize the changes he needs in his thinking and behavior. The biggest effect of complaining is to make yourself angry, and it is not good to be angry.