There was such a man who liked to get angry, and always thought that every anger was caused by someone else, and he decided to run away to the mountains and live in seclusion alone, so that no one would cause him to be angry.

One day, he went to the river with a clay pot to fetch water, and accidentally knocked over the jar full of water, and all the water flowed out. He had to fetch water again, but halfway through it, he spilled the water from the jug on the ground, three times in a row. He was so angry that he threw the jar on the ground at once.

Looking at the debris all over the ground, he blamed himself and said: "I used to be angry, thinking that it was all caused by others, but now I am the only one, and I still have such a big temper, it seems that it was born from my own heart." ”

We tend to blame others for our mistakes, and in the end we find ourselves at the root of the problem, return to our inner world and take care of ourselves again, and when our hearts are tamed, we will have true peace.

Those who are very impatient, once they encounter a little trouble, do not seek a solution, but first complain about the world, and put the responsibility on others, and then the temper is more serious than the problem, and the result is that the problem has not been solved, and the whole family has been restless.

Here's an example:

Once, Xiao Wang's refrigerator didn't know why it was broken, and it didn't stop after starting, which made Xiao Wang can't help but start a fire. He said that the refrigerator was original from Toshiba, Japan, and the quality assurance was no problem, and it must have been damaged when his wife defrosted and cleaned the refrigerator. At that time, his wife said to him: "Wouldn't it be solved by bringing in the home maintenance personnel?" At that time, Xiao Wang was worried that the cost of doing it would be too great, and second, he was afraid that the master was a "second knife", and the refrigerator was original, and he was afraid that he would destroy the original if he couldn't repair it.

When his wife saw him like this, it seemed that he couldn't get along with herself, so she picked up the phone and found his friend Xiao Li. After Xiao Li asked about the situation, he said to Xiao Wang: "Your refrigerator is almost ten years old, although it is Toshiba's original, but its capacity is only 150 liters, and it is an old model that has been eliminated." If the price of buying a new refrigerator is not more than 100 yuan, if the refrigerator is sold to a person who collects household appliances on three wheels, it may be worth 50 yuan. Just because of this old-fashioned household appliance, is it worth it for your brother to make such a big fire? Xiao Wang was happy after hearing what Xiao Li said.

Then, Xiao Li also said his thoughts. He said that his own Panasonic Prince refrigerator was also broken, and it was also non-stop when it was started. Later, he went to the maintenance department for consultation, and the master told him that if there was a fault like this, he would buy a multi-function controller for an electric freezer and connect it in series on the power socket to solve it. According to the season, the start interval is set, and it is very convenient, there is no need to disassemble the internal parts, only spend 10 yuan. Xiao Li said that he has been using it for two years and the effect is very good. Xiao Wang soon decided to buy an electric freezer multi-function controller as well.

After the matter was resolved, Xiao Li did not forget to persuade Xiao Wang. He asked Xiao Wang not to compete with himself when he encountered things in the future, and he could discuss it with his confidant if he couldn't figure it out.

Since then, I heard that Xiao Wang's temper is much smaller. Don't complain until you find the reason, many of us always lose our temper without asking questions.

Take a look at the following story to better understand that complaining is a harmful thing:

A half-paralyzed elderly man complained to the psychiatrist: My illness was caused by others, and it was not false at all. First of all, my old wife, who chatters and chatters all day long, but she doesn't have a good word, and she doesn't care about people, and if I have a sickness or something, she doesn't know how to take care of me; Speaking of children, they are even more angry, and they are finally pulled up, and they don't need to mention the word "filial piety" at all, it would be good if they could cause me less trouble and give me a little less look; The same is true of the unit, after working for so many years, the result is still "people go to tea and cool", and few leaders come to visit......

The old man was full of complaints, and he didn't like anything.

Through the guidance of the psychiatrist, this complaining old gentleman finally understood a truth: he should be responsible for his own actions. The disease is caused by too much bad psychology and behavior in oneself, and the more you complain, the worse the illness becomes. Later, after treatment, the old gentleman was able to take care of his own life and no longer complained all the time.

A person who complains a lot will feel dissatisfied everywhere, and even if someone cares about helping him, he will complain that others don't care enough; When he encounters failure, he complains about the unfairness of fate to himself and never examines himself. Resentment is a corrosive agent of the spirit, and complaining will not help us, but will only cause us to suffer in pain and trouble.

If you encounter something, you can solve it, and if you can't solve it, don't complain. The problems encountered may not be serious, but the resentment and quarrels of others caused by complaining about others are serious.