Life is short, so don't get daunted by some trivial and trivial things in life, because it's not worth wasting your time and energy for these little things.

A passenger asked for a ticket for 1 yuan and 5 dimes, and when the conductor heard it, he immediately asked the passenger where to get off the train. When the passenger heard this, he was very annoyed and said, "Why are you asking so much!" I'll buy a ticket for 1 yuan and 5 dimes! "In fact, the conductor did this completely out of a habit of his profession, and wanted to verify the ticket price of the line; And the reason for the passenger's anger was obviously to misunderstand the conductor's meaning, and kept shouting: "You are afraid that I will give you less money!" Why are you so verbose! So they quarreled.

Think about it, how common this is. If both sides had been able to speak calmly at the time, a conflict like this would not have happened.

In daily life, we will inevitably encounter some bumpy entanglements in many experiences such as shopping, running errands, and taking a car, and sometimes we will argue endlessly because of some inadvertent trivial matters, and even draw fists against each other, and our heads will be bleeding.

On this point, the wise men of ancient times have long been soberly aware. More than 2,000 years ago, the Athenian statesman Pericles issued a deafening warning: "Attention, gentlemen, we dwell too much on the little things!" Later, the French writer Moroy pointed out even more profoundly: "We are often distracted and lose our minds by trivial things that should be quickly forgotten, we have only lived in this world for a few dozen years, and yet we have wasted many precious hours in vain to dwell on trivial matters." It can be seen that the problem of paying too much attention to trivial matters has seriously affected everyone's normal life and made life lose its luster. Obviously, this is a very stupid choice.

We're often doing stupid things that make small things bigger.

On Sunday, his wife, Xiao Zhang, and her husband were resting at home. My husband is very depressed because he has a little trouble at work these days. Xiao Zhang was busy cleaning her room and tidying up the furniture in the morning, while her husband leaned back on the sofa with a newspaper and read it over and over. Xiao Zhang knew that her husband had been unhappy recently, so she didn't ask him to help her with housework.

Just when Xiao Zhang was cleaning up the coffee table, he accidentally touched the teacup that her husband put on it and broke it on the ground. It just so happened that just yesterday, Xiao Zhang just broke a cup, but he didn't expect to break another one today. This set of tea sets was brought back from Japan by an old classmate of the husband's to give him, the workmanship is very exquisite, and the husband cherishes it very much, and often praises this set of tea sets as "indeed not ordinary and vulgar". Usually, my husband is almost reluctant to use it, just because he is afraid of being broken, but recently he took it out and enjoyed it because of his poor mood. Unexpectedly, the wife broke two in two days, and the husband was immediately angry, and his face immediately grew.

Xiao Zhang's anger also came up all of a sudden: "Aren't they just two cups for drinking water, look at your distress, it seems that I don't even worth two cups." Don't get angry outside, come back and show me all day long! What kind of hero is using his wife as a punching bag, no matter how majestic he is, he can't be majestic. ”

These few words of his wife stabbed the hornet's nest at once. In the eyes of the husband, because of his bad mood, the wife's benefits of accommodating him and comforting him everywhere disappeared all at once, and some were only angry and angry. The troubles at work made him feel very painful and frustrated, coupled with his wife's ridicule and sarcasm, he immediately felt that there was nothing to cherish in this family: "I don't think I'm capable, right, I just don't have the ability, you can watch it." There are so many capable men out there, but unfortunately you don't have that blessed life, so you have to find me, a man with no ability, to be your husband. ”

The wife did not show weakness: "That's not for sure, maybe one day I'll find a capable man to show you." ”

As the emotions of the two people get out of control, both parties have deviated from the normal conversation between husband and wife, and have also deviated from the principle of always talking about things.

At this time, the husband picked up the water bottle on the coffee table and threw it to the ground. Xiao Zhang felt that his heart was about to break, and he stomped his feet and cried and scolded irrationally: "Fall! Drop everything in the house! ”

Xiao Zhang's husband has completely lost control, and in the midst of his wife's scolding, he picked up a dumbbell and smashed the TV set that he had just bought less than a year ago, a large-screen TV imported from Japan, nearly 10,000 yuan.

If you develop the problem of being too concerned and calculating in life, over time, many small troubles will become big troubles.

Life really needs a little bit of "stupidity". Don't pay too much attention to the gains and losses of fame and fortune; Don't be in a hurry to get angry for a little thing, shouting and screaming at every turn, so that you regret it because of a small loss; Don't be so suspicious and sensitive, don't misinterpret what others mean; Don't exaggerate the facts and create imaginary enemies; Don't secretly hate the opposite sex who talks to your lover as a "third person"; Don't be like Lin Daiyu who cried when she saw flowers, listened to music sadly, was sentimental, and always looked at self-pity.

We must have the mentality of not caring about everything, that is, don't always treat some small things as big things, don't go to the tip of the horns, don't want to save face too much, and don't be careful in everything. Many people's troubles are not caused by big things, but precisely from excessive care, calculation and competition about some trivial things around them.

One of Carlson's golden rules is, "Don't let the little things lead you by the nose." "In real life, we are often very upset by some small things, some small things that should be dismissed, which is actually very worthless. Many of us are brave enough to face the big crises and sudden things in life, but sometimes we are discouraged by those small things.